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Licensed Clinical therapist with 10+ years of experience treating individuals, families and couples navigating through the challenges of relationships, identity and life changes. Helping humans do relationships better with boundary setting and improved communication.
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Today we are talking about experiencing the world through our emotional perspective. Giving yourself grace and patience while you are having your emotions. Getting through tough experiences. #trustyourself #emotionalawareness #emotioalperspective #mentalhealth Get your copy of Best Intentions: The things we do for love https://bookstore.dorrancepub…
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Today we are talking about when helping is not helpful. There are times we think we are helping and it makes things worse. It can be disempowering the person we are trying support. #nothelpful #resentment #needs #rescuing #helping #bestintentionsthethingswedoforlove https://bookstore.dorrancepublishing.com/products/best-intentions-the-things-we-do-…
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Today we are talking about relationship communication. I go over a tool I use often to help clients build helpful communication skills. I use the 6 Steps to Great Communication by Cynthia Hansen https://lifeandbeautyweekly.com/2010/10/communication_skills/ #communication #relationships #skillbuilding #connection #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast…
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Today we are talking about being able to access and process our own emotions. Emotional intelligence is about being aware of what we are feeling, authentically showing up, and have compassion for our emotional selves. #emotionalvulnerability #feelyourfeelings #emotionalawareness #newbook #bestintentions #greece #somaticemotions…
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Today we are talking about denial and the things we refuse to look at. Often we avoid addressing things head on because we don't know what to do to change them. We don't know where to start. We start by acknowledging they exist. #denial #makingchanges #smallsteps #mentalhealth #elephantintheroomBy S Aschenbrenner
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Today we are talking about distraction vs detachment. Often, when we are feeling tough emotions we want to distract ourselves in order not to feel. Whereas detachment might be a better move. Unattached from the outcomes but working through the feelings. #emotions #detachment #distractions #dothework #mentalhealth #lx2codependencypodcast…
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Today we are talking about forgiveness, bridges, and napalm. We get to determine the relationships that warrant forgiveness as it relates to our peace and access to our resources. Boundaries and bridges help keep us safe and maintain connection. #maintainpeace #forgiveness #burnorbuild #bridges #connection #lx2codependencypodcast…
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Today we are talking about using routines and rituals to help us regulate our anxiety. Our brains strive for order. When we can consciously create routine, things we do in a habitual way, we make our brain feels better. The meaning and intentions behind the routine can make it a ritual. #routines #habits #anxiety #mentalhealth…
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Today we are talking about shift perspective from a zero sum absolutes mindset. It is not all or nothing, win or lose, love or hate, but something in between. When we can shift perspective and find a middle ground we are less likely to experience such distress or discomfort. #zerosumgame #detachment #5yearanniversary #x2thexennial #classof 91…
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Today we are talking about the idea "righteous" indignation. The idea of getting angry or frustrated on behalf of someone else. When we are frustrated or irritated about someone else's choices it is an opportunity to recognize what we can control. We can consider the idea that we disrupt our own peace by taking away someone else's ability to manage…
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Today we are talking raising sheep or wolves. Thinking about using the opportunity to teach our precious children how to exist the world that can be dangerous. It is our job to teach our kids skills to be safe and secure on the planet where they can get their needs met without sacrificing themselves. #parenting #raisedbywolves #otherpeopleskids #pu…
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Today we are talking about the importance of meaningful relationships to our longevity and quality of our lives. Our human experience is motivated by connection. We connect with people all the time, creating meaningful connection helps us live well. #meaningfulreltaionships #friendships #buildingcommunity #lx2codependencycoachingpodcast #daringgrat…
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Today we are talking about the blessings and lessons we experience when we create the perspective of receiving. When we can start to be receiving of good things happening to us rather than waiting for negative things to happen. #blessingshappen #growthmindset #opportunity #lessons #whathappenedtoyou #trauma #mentalhealth #lx2codependencycoachingpod…
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Today we are talking about the default setting and shifting our perspective from our trauma to our growth setting. When we are learning new skills, we will default back to old skills. There are times when we are healing our old behaviors, its helpful to recognize old coping still exists. Integrating new skills takes time and it can be existing. We …
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Trust is something people struggle with. Where trust issues come from is feeling confident in who you are and secure in your ability to be vulnerable with others. We have to see who people are and whether they can hold space for you. If they are consistent in showing up with kindness, grace, and compassion. Not everyone is trust worthy but when you…
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When we do not feel safe sharing our emotional self we can shape shift to different version of ourself contributing to the delusion. We become different versions to keep the status quo. Being our whole authentic self takes work. We have to embrace who we are, all of our parts at the same time. #authenticself #healing #shapeshifting #secrets…
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Today we are talking about changing how we process emotions by learning new tool and updating how we were originally programmed. We get to choose how we process emotions once we have more tools to manage the situations we are facing. #emotionalprogramming #doingthingsbetter #mentalhealth #lovingbetter #whatnowpodcast #lovingallofyourversions #chang…
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Today we are talking about not feeling like you are enough and how that can lead to you doing too much. We can feel like we need to validate our worth by doing so much more, we get angry, tired, and overwhelmed. It is helpful to pay attention to what we actually have capacity for. #lovingbetter #doingtoomuch #youarerenough #mentalhealth #codependen…
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In relationships we often feel like we need to fix problems for other people to keep them in our lives. A helpful thing to start to recognize is IF it is a you problem or a them problem. Then we can allow space for people to address their own problems or for them to acquire tools to fix things for themselves. #notayouproblem #skillbuilding #mentalh…
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Today we are talking about the end of the year. Looking back not just at 2023 but relistening to the popular episode of Anxiety Loneliness and Depression originally posted 7/25/2019 https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-krijt-b92c2f We are all doing the best we can. You have made it through the best we you can. Proud of you! #endoftheyear #growth #mentalhe…
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How we trust ourselves and show up fully we have to be aware of what our authentic self is. Being your most authentic self takes a level of knowing and appreciating who we are, all of our parts, at the same time. We have core values that stay static. Trusting yourself and being securely attached to you is being attached to those core values. #authe…
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What emotions are we holding on to that are keeping us stuck. When we have hard things happen we assign meaning to certain feelings. Especially this time of year we have traditions and we get to assign meaning to those traditions. The meaning we place on those traditions is up to us. We get to change the meaning and the feeling associated to those …
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