Hey what’s up hello! For this week’s very exciting 300th episode we’re chatting with Ash McCullough about their advocacy work with the Australian government. Follow Ash: @ash.slingshott Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book…

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about the concept of gold star asexuality and the harm and confusion caused by a community of "actual asexuals" Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/gold-star-asexuality-and-actual-asexuals Kayla Kaszyca P.O. Box 410021 Cambridge, MA 02141 Sarah Costello P.O. Box 16453 North Hollywood, CA 9161…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about the mainstreamification of smutty books, our desire for a rating system in books, and how we feel about the rise of smut as aspecs. Content Notice: slavery, violence against black people, murder, discussions of sex (at Wimbledon), and mention of the phrase "quivering member." Episode Transcript: ww…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about the very stupid concept of a body count AKA how many people you've had sex with and the dangers of using body count as a stand-in for the value someone puts on sex Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/body-count Content Notice: Harmful stereotypes about mental illness, general disc…

Hey what's up hello! You know what time it is — it's time to prowl the depths of Reddit to figure out what on Earth is going on out there. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/am-i-the-asshole-pt-9 Books with acespec and arospec characters: https://bookshop.org/lists/books-with-acespec-and-arospec-characters? Donate: patreon.com/so…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about the evil that is couple privilege and how it disadvantages single people AND couples alike. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/couple-privilege Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.sounds…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're taking the time to answer your questions about everything from aspec activism to our favorite places to travel. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/qa-aspec-activism-friendship-the-allos-more Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfak…

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking about how artificial intelligence has invaded the world of dating from AI dating coaches to AI dating profile assistants. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/can-ai-help-you-date Vote for Dear, Luke Love, Me: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YWQLHHH No sex, no romance playlist: https://open.s…

Hey what's up hello! As Aro Week 2024 comes to an end, we talk about the way aromanticism is often linked with asexuality and how that can ultimately harm the aromantic community. Content Warning: Light descriptions of sexual activities Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/separating-aromanticism-from-asexuality Shop our Bookshop.o…

Hey what's up hello! We're back reading r/AmITheAsshole. Some of them may be fake but oh boy are they full of assholes! Content Warning: Mentions of child abuse, domestic violence, death, miscarriage, incest Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/am-i-the-asshole-pt-8-asshole-edition Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsf…

Hey what's up hello! Just in time for Valentine's Day, this week we're talking abou the phenomenon of straight people hating their partners! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/hating-your-partner Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.sound…

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking to author Rhaina Cohen about her book, The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. It's a real platonic delight. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/the-other-significant-others-feat-rhaina-cohen Get the book: https://bookshop.org/a/101336/9781250280916 Fol…

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking about compersion. What is it? Where did the term come from? Is only for poly folx? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/compersion Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book…

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking about the pop culture phenomenon that is speculating about celebrity's sexualities, demanding that celebrities come out, and accusing celebrities of queer baiting. Yikes! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/celebrity-sexuality-speculation Our friend's article about BTS and queerness: https:…

Hey what's up hello! We're back from our long winter's nap and ready to judge some assholes!!! This time, we're reading some aspec specific stories. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/am-i-the-asshole-pt-7-aspec-edition Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com…

Hey what's up hello! To wrap up another year of the podcast, we're back recording the fourth edition of "same podcast, one year apart" a la Billie Eilish x Vanity Fair. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/same-podcast-one-year-apart-the-fourth-year Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W…

Hey what's up hello! This week we manage to talk about everything and nothing at the same time. Toxic old men named Gerry, wedding presents, butch orcs, chilis. You name it, we covered it. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/this-author-loves-butch-orcs Legends & Lattes: https://bookshop.org/a/101336/9781250886088 Donate: patreon.…

Hey what's up hello! We finally have an audiobook! Read in our own voices!!! As a special treat, today we give to you a sneak preview of chapter one. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/sfbo-the-audiobook-sneak-peek Buy the audiobook: www.soundsfakepod.com/book Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https:/…

Hey what's up hello! We're back with another fan favorite Am I The Asshole but this time it's all about weddings. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/am-i-the-asshole-pt-6-wedding-edition Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.soundsfakepod.…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're chatting with Madeline Dyer about her new anthology Being Ace: An Anthology of Queer, Trans, Femme, and Disabled Stories of Asexual Love and Connection. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/being-ace-feat-madeline-dyer Buy Being Ace: https://bookshop.org/a/101336/9781645679561 Follow Madeline: @…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about romanticization - why we do it, the pros and cons of romanticizing relationships, and what we should romanticize other than romance. You know it's about to get silly. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/romanticizing Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: h…

Hey what's up hello! It's silly little aspec quiz hours. What kind of aspec are we? Will a random internet user simp for us? This week we ask all the most important questions. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/aspec-quizzes Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepo…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about "the ick." What is it? Is it real? And what gives us the ick?? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/the-ick Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book…

Hey what's up hello! The weather is getting colder and it's time to cuddle up with your boo thang! Or so the allos say. Today we learn about cuffing season strategies and science. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/cuffing-season Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsf…

Hey what's up hello! This week, inspired by the first episode of The Golden Bachelor, we're discussing dating later in life (i.e. when you're 60+). Why do people date when they're older? Why is there societal pressure to "get back out there"? And why are nursing home so horny??? Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https:/…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about dating coaches. Are they a scam? What do they actually do? What does this say about late stage capitalism in the year of our Lord 2023? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/dating-coaches Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.…

Hey what's up hello! We are back with our third (and final??) installation of the aspec microlabels series. Also, something about plantains. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/microlabels-pt-3 Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Support the show Buy our b…

Hey what's up hello! Would you even believe that we're back with an r/AmITheAsshole episode??? Sarah's been saving up the best AITA the internet has the offer and it made for the most shocking installment of the series yet. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/am-i-the-asshole-pt-5 Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsf…

Hey what's up hello! In what might be our most chaotic episode yet, this week we bring you aspec Shark Tank. Sarah has come up with 11 of the best(?) aspec business ideas and Kayla is here to invest. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/aspec-shark-tank Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about a fear that so many aspecs share - flirting with someone without realizing that's what you're supposedly doing. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/accidental-flirting Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com B…

Hey what's up hello! We're back from summer break which means it's FINALLY time to talk about the Barbie movie and the fact that Barbie is absolutely aromantic asexual. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/the-barbie-movie Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.co…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're diving into a discussion on compulsory heterosexuality, the lesbian master doc, and how comp het, comp allo, and amatanormativity are related. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/compulsory-heterosexuality Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're doing sex and romance trivia. Will we finally learn how long sex is supposed to last???? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/sex-and-romance-trivia Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Support the show Buy our book: www.…

Hey what's up hello! Supposedly we haven't done a full ep before about the love languages? Sounds fake. So we're doing it today! Episode Transcript: https://www.soundsfakepod.com/love-languages Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Support the show Buy our book: www.soundsfak…

Hey what's up hello! Today we're going back to Reddit once again to try to help people with their relationship problems as a couple of aspec girlies. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/2023/7/2/ep-266-rrelationshipproblems Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.…

Hey what's up hello! Today we have the absolute honor of talking to Aline Laurent-Mayard about their Tribeca Film Festival 2023 Audio Nonfiction Award-Winning podcast "Free From Desire: Asexual in the City of Love." TW: Brief mentions of sexual violence Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/free-from-desire-with-aline-laurent-mayard…

Hey what's up hello! Today we're doing a little Q&A! We answer questions about how the podcast has changed, the book, QPRs, and so much more! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/just-a-silly-little-qa Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.s…

Gender detachment! What is it? Does Sarah experience it? Why is Kayla holding a betting pool on Sarah's gender and why is she refusing to allow Sarah to dictate the currency of said pool on account of "insider trading"? Much to discuss. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/gender-detachment Read Canton Winer’s Substack post on Gend…

Hey what's up hello! Happy pride! Today we talk about pride month and give you some unique ways to celebrate. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/celebrating-pride Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book…

Hey what's up hello! Today we're chatting with Michael Klein, the first ever (out) ace racecar driver!! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/aces-in-racing-feat-michael-klein Follow Michael: @michaelklein10a / @michaelkleinracing Support Michael Klein Racing: https://openfender.com/drivers/michael-klein Donate: patreon.com/soundsfa…

Hey what's up hello! We're back for part 2 of our aspec microlabels series with an added bonus of would you rather! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/microlabels-pt-2 Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book…

Hey what's up hello! This week we ask ChatGPT some questions about asexuality and aromanticism. The responses were of... varying quality. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/asking-chatgpt-about-asexuality-and-aromanticism Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.c…

Hey what's up hello! We're back with yet another reading of r/AmITheAsshole. This might be the most assholey one of them all. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/am-i-the-asshole-pt-4 Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/…

Hey what's up hello! This week, we're talking about the friendship recession. Is it real? What could be causing it? Let's talk about it! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/the-friendship-recession The friendship recession | Richard Reeves: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VpOan0hqdNA Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soun…

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about everything and nothing. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/i-have-beef-with-the-moon Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book…

Hey what's up hello! Today we're joined by Kelly Weber to talk about their new asexual poetry book "We Are Changed to Deer at the Broken Place"! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/we-are-changed-to-deer-at-the-broken-place-with-kelly-weber Buy We Are Changed to Deer: https://bookshop.org/a/101336/9781946482808 Follow Kelly: @kell…

Hey what's up hello! Today we're chatting with Michele Kirichanskaya about her new book Ace Notes: Tips and Tricks on Existing in an Allo World. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/ace-notes-with-michele-kirichanskaya Buy Ace Notes: https://bookshop.org/a/101336/9781839975226 Follow Michele: @MicheleKiricha1 Donate: patreon.com/so…

Hey what's up hello! Spring is here, a new season has begun, and so it's time to decide what's in and what's out! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/whats-in-and-whats-out Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod Follow: @soundsfakepod Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt www.soundsfakepod.com Buy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're doing sex and romance-based mad libs, because that's basically what allos sound like sometimes anyway. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/sex-and-romance-mad-libs Come to our book event in DC! www.eventbrite.com/e/sounds-fake-but-okay-a-busboys-and-poets-books-presentation-tickets-575031965087…

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about the trans rights violations currently on the rise in America. TW: Discussions of transphobia and brief mention of rape Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/trans-rights Come to our book event in DC! www.eventbrite.com/e/sounds-fake-but-okay-a-busboys-and-poets-books-presentation-ti…