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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of wha ...
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There is so much great and life-changing information about sex and intimacy, but let’s face it, it can be dry as hell! Intimacy expert and sexologist Shan Boodram takes a deep dive into anything and everything about sex, relationships, and the science of attachment every week with expert guests and friends who will tell all. It’s everything The Talk should be.
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What if we worked as hard to listen to someone else’s truth as we did to share our own? Each week author Dave Hollis brings radical candor straight to your headphones via breathtakingly real conversations with authors, activists, and anyone with a story to tell. The results are poignant, hysterical, and heartbreaking - sometimes all inside the same episode. Catch new content every Thursday.
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Episode 161: We’re In Couples Therapy - Ask Us Anything!
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Today we’re getting ULTRA personal, and answering all your questions about our recent experience in couples therapy. Do we think therapy sometimes digs up stuff that wasn’t a problem? Do we ever hope our therapist takes our side? And of course, the big question that everyone wanted to know… WHY are we in couples therapy in the first place? (We got …
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Episode 160: These 4 Communication Mistakes Cause Breakups
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Are these four communication mistakes ruining your relationship? In today’s episode we’re revealing the Four Horsemen. Researcher John Gottman discovered that these specific communication pitfalls could predict divorce with over 90% accuracy! We’re breaking down what they are, how to know if you’re doing them, and what to do to have better communic…
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Episode 159: “Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior Part 2
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Xander’s back in the hot seat answering all your burning questions about male behavior! Why do guys mansplain? Why do they struggle to find things that are right in front of their faces? Why are men always initiating when we’re right in the middle of something like doing the dishes? Why can’t they ever be vulnerable? And what’s with the obsession o…
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When the spark dies off in a relationship, it’s really easy to blame it on libido. But is libido actually the problem? In this episode, we reveal the truth about sex drive and ask a big question, “does libido even matter?” Links & Resources: Ultimate Foreplay Guides Next Level Intercourse Art of Initiation Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Z…
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Episode 157: Come on a Double Date with Us! (“Know Ya Boo” Part 2)
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Welcome to our 2nd round of “Know Ya Boo” (bonus points if you get the Parks and Rec reference). Grab your partner, pull up a chair, pour your favorite cocktail or mocktail, and come on a double date with us! You guys gave us 50 questions, and our job was to guess each other’s answers. The results had us in stitches from start to finish. Make sure …
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Episode 156: What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)
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What do you do when it’s been a while… When you don’t remember the last time you had sex. When the idea of initiating feels even more awkward than usual. When you’re not sure if your partner is missing it the same way you are. In this episode, we’re breaking down why dry spells happen in the first place and telling you exactly how to get back on th…
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Episode 155: Am I The Asshole? In-Laws Edition
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We’re back again with another edition of Am I The Asshole. This time around we’re talking about your trickiest in-law related situations. We’re covering stories about dietary preferences, back-handed compliments, dinner table mishaps, and so much more. If you’ve ever wondered if you’re the asshole when it comes to your in-laws, our unfiltered takes…
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Episode 154: How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship
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A few weeks ago we asked our community if they felt resentment in their relationship and only 29% said no! Resentment doesn’t feel good for either partner, and it can lead to things like more stress, less sex, and lots of other serious consequences in your relationship. We decided it was time to create an episode breaking down what resentment is, w…
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Episode 153: The Secret Foreplay Technique You Don’t Even Know About
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Imagine this… you’re crawling into bed at the end of the night, thinking, “Hmmm sex sounds nice.” We hate to break it to you, but you’re too late! You needed to have been planning for this much earlier in the day. You needed to be using our unique approach to foreplay. Most of us think of foreplay as the stuff we do for 30 seconds before we move on…
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You’ve had a fight over text message with your partner, right? Most of us have! Maybe you sent a text to your partner that was a little too snarky, or maybe you read too much into a message. Odds are your text fight did not end well… Today we’re breaking down a real text fight one of our followers sent in. It started off as a fight over facial hair…
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Episode 151: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up About Sex (Even If They’re Resistant)
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If you’re a Pillow Talks listener, you’re probably on board with the idea of talking about sex openly. But what do you do if your partner is a lot more hesitant? In this episode, we’re going over why your partner might be feeling resistant, and how you can encourage them to open up. You’ll learn our secret to intimacy-building conversation, plus to…
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Episode 150: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Volume 3)
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We really went there… It’s time for another round of Smash or Pass! The series where we find the internet’s weirdest sex tips, try them out, and report back to you with all the details. We dug deep to find the craziest ideas for us to try, and what we found was well… interesting. We’re even taking you into our bedroom during one of the tips so you …
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Episode 149: Partner Having Penis Performance Problems? Here’s What To Do - And What Not To Do
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“This, uh, isn’t working…” Most of us have experienced a partner having some performance issues in the bedroom, and feeling wildly confused about what to do. How do you react? What do you say? And let’s be honest, most of us women take these moments personally. We get into our heads thinking things like, “Am I not attractive enough? Am I bad at sex…
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Episode 148: “Help Me See Where My Partner Is Coming From!” (Advice Episode)
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“I just don’t understand where you’re coming from.” Have you ever been in the heat of an argument with your partner, and felt totally unable see their perspective on the issue? We put up a question box on Instagram and asked people to tell us about a conflict where they’re experiencing that kind of genuine confusion. Now, we’re breaking down the tr…
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Episode 147: Your Sexual Fantasies Revealed
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Have you ever wondered what everyone secretly fantasizes about? We anonymously polled our audience, and we’re spilling all the secrets today! We’re also doing a deep dive on all your fantasy questions. Where do they come from? What do they mean? Is there something wrong with you if you don’t have any? Links & Resources: Guide: Sexual Bucket List (h…
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Episode 146: Are You Nagging? Or Is Your Partner Being Childish?
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75% of people say that nagging is an issue in their relationship. So we thought it was time we gave our take on this controversial topic. We’re talking about the differences between nagging, reminding, and micromanaging. When is it nagging versus your partner not carrying their share of the mental load? What do you do when you can’t trust your part…
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Episode 145: What Your Partner Secretly Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom
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Have you ever wondered what your partner REALLY thinks about your performance in the bedroom? Well, it turns out there are a few things they secretly wish you’d stop doing… We turned to Instagram and asked people to anonymously share all of their bedroom pet peeves and red flags. The responses were fascinating. We’re breaking down the most common a…
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105: Kelly Rowland on Sex, Kink, Divorce and Repressed Desires
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Kelly Rowland, you read right. This is a CAN NOT MISS, special release Lovers and Friends episode with Shan Boodram AND it is best experienced after you watch Mea Culpa now streaming worldwide on Netflix. In this intimate, first-of-its-kind conversation Kelly Rowland shares how she went from a sexually repressed upbringing to living up to her pleas…
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Episode 144: We’re In Couples Therapy
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Surprise! We’re in couples therapy. We sat down and recorded one of our most vulnerable episodes yet all about why we’re in therapy and how it’s going. We talked about what to look for in a potential therapist (and where to look) and gave some tips on how to ask your partner to go to therapy with you. We also got surprisingly deep about the resista…
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Episode 143: The Body Confidence Episode - How To Feel Good In Your Skin During Sex
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Today, we’re tackling a huge issue that so many people can relate to… feeling uncomfortable in your own skin during sex. We’re diving into the specific things that make you the most self-conscious, and how these thoughts can impact your sex life. Xander clues us in on what most men are really thinking about bodies during sex and we get into a fasci…
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Episode 142: Are You Lazy In Bed? Here’s What Your Partner Says…
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Today we’re asking a tough question… Are you lazy in bed? And an even harder one… Would your partner say you’re lazy during sex? In this episode, we’re breaking down the specific things you’re doing that your partner thinks are lazy, the consequences of bedroom laziness, and the surprising reasons why you’re not putting in more effort. Most importa…
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Episode 141: How To Get Your Partner To Be More Romantic
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79% of our community members want their partners to be more romantic. Romance seems to come so easy at the beginning of a relationship, but feels so much harder to sustain long-term! In this episode, we’ll walk you through specific steps to get your partner to be more romantic. You’ll discover your toxic beliefs about romance, the ways you’re actua…
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Episode 140: What Your Sex Personality Type Says About You In The Bedroom
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You might already know that you’re a 3 on the Enneagram, a generator in human design, or an ENTJ in Myers–Briggs. But do you know your personality type in the bedroom? Today we’re breaking down our Sex Personality Types model. Our 11 types help you understand what great sex means to you, and what you’re really looking to experience. We’ll help you …
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Episode 139: Xander’s Vasectomy Part 2: Answering Your Questions About Pain, Performance, And Masculinity
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Snip snap! We’re back with part 2 of Xander’s vasectomy journey. (Start with part 1 if you want to hear his story.) This time we’re answering all your questions about the process from start to finish (literally, all 30 “finishes”). Did Xander have any pain during sex after the procedure? Did his sex drive change? Do his balls hang lower? Is his sem…
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Episode 138: Your Funniest Foreplay Fails
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We asked you to share your funniest foreplay fails, and you REALLY delivered! Today we’re sharing the dangers of jalapeños, why you shouldn’t chew gum during oral, and some bad Cosmo advice about armpits! But we couldn’t leave it at just your stories; we had to include some of our funniest fails as well. Trust us, you definitely want to hear what h…
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Episode 137: Xander Got A Vasectomy!
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Xander got a vasectomy! By popular demand, we’re walking you through the entire process - how and why we decided to go this route, finding the right doctor, the procedure itself (including the truth about how painful it really was…), aftercare, and so much more. We also share some hilarious details about preparing for the procedure (including some …
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