On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk the intersections between love and money. Would you date someone with significant credit card debt? What if they were in bankruptcy? Are you planning to take out a loan to cover the cost of your wedding? Should you have a joint bank account with your partner? Questions about love and money plague al ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk intimate, money-spending details. A quick Target run here, a must-have candle there, a Venmo request from a friend at brunch—it’s not difficult to lose track of where and how we spend our money. Listen as we share the personal details of our money diaries and estimate how we spend during any given w ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk the guidelines that define friendships. All female relationships have a girl code—rules, spoken and unspoken norms, that guide how we are expected to behave and what behaviors we should expect in return. When the rules are followed, women’s relationships with one another can exist in near-perfect ha ...…

On this week’s episode, we talk the power of the side gig. Back porch hair braiders, 5-star Uber drivers, Mary Kay beauty consultants, Avon representatives—Black women are the QUEEN's of the side gig. The Pew Research Center reports that 14 percent of Black people are a part of the gig economy or free market system, using the extra income to ma ...…

On this week’s episode Ashley and Marcy talk racism, sex and reproductive health. Black women are disproportionately affected by multiple sexual and reproductive health conditions compared with women of other races/ethnicities. In fact, HIV and pregnancy-related complications remain within the top 10 leading causes of death for African American ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk the life-changing magic of tidying up. Piles of unopened mail, overflowing junk drawers, and shelves full of textbooks that haven’t been opened since undergrad actually bring us stress and distraction. Let’s face it; our homes, offices, and cars are cluttered. This clutter doesn’t just exist in our ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk failure. It feels odd to start off the year talking about failure, but acknowledging and learning from your losses are important parts of realizing your wins. Listen as we talk life, love, and libation mistakes from the past year, what we’ve learned, and why it’s important to fail fast and move on. ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk managing anxiety. Your heart is racing, your palms are sweaty, knees are weak, mom’s sweaty...(shoutout to you if you get the reference.) All of a sudden you’re feeling completely distressed and while you know it's all in your head, you can’t seem to move past these overwhelming feelings of dread. I ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk passions, following your dreams and identifying your talents. Skill, Happiness, Opportunity, Passion, Service to Others and Value?these are the cornerstones of defining your purpose. Without determining these, you’ll continually feel stuck, not making the money or having the impact you hope to in li ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk compromise and deal breakers. Every relationship requires both parties to compromise. “Give a little, get a little,” as the saying goes. But what are the deals that you’re not willing to make? Listen as we outline our top five deal breakers in dating and marriage, where we’re willing to bend the rul ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk getting too comfortable, taking risks, and stepping out of comfort zones. There is nothing like the familiar?the safe, warm place where everyone knows you, and you move through the motions without a second thought. But what happens when you get booted out of that comfort zone? You’re asked to take o ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk managing professional work evaluations, year-end reviews, and navigating challenging feedback. As the year winds down, annual professional reviews wind up. A certain amount of stress is normal as you recall your losses and missteps, and take inventory of what hasn’t gone your way. Listen to this wee ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk about sacrifice and suffering and the strong Black women trope that we take on relationships. The Christian internets have been ablaze with this trope since Pastor John Gray’s interview with Sister Circle Live where he disclosed his wife’s suffering throughout their marriage and that she had experie ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk being natural. From hair and makeup to deodorant and lotions, products over the last 10 years have represented a constant campaign encouraging women to go natural. With promises of longer, stronger hair to holistic health and wellness, naturalistas run online communities and brands while serving as ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk awkward conversations. “So when are you going to give me a grandbaby?” “Looks like you’re picking up a little weight, huh?” “Where did your last boyfriend go?” “You still haven’t graduated?” Is it just us or are you also overwhelmed by people trying to engage you in the most uncomfortable of small t ...…

On this week’s episode, Ashley and Marcy talk sexuality. Sexuality is defined as one’s capacity for sexual feels toward another; basically your sexuality defines who you’re attracted to sexually and romantically. These days it’s a cute quip to say “sexuality is fluid,” but what does that mean for two self-identified straight women. How do the w ...…

On this week’s episode Marcy and Ashley talk preconceived notions, judging a book by its cover, and fair warnings. People say that when you first meet someone, you’re not meeting them but you’re meeting their “representative.” Very few of us really put our genuine selves out there for the world to see. Instead we slowly expose our real selves, ...…

On this week’s episode Marcy and Ashley talk upgrading. Self improvement is a way of life for many of us as we constantly strive to advance, level up, and grow personally and professionally. But is this culture full of motivational quotes, self help resources, and quips becoming more overwhelming than actually inspiring? Surrounding ourselves w ...…

On this week's episode Marcy and Ashley talk mentorship. Personal and professional development don’t usually occur in isolation. They require resources, feedback, and instruction, which is why having a mentor is critical. But finding someone you can connect with, who has the necessary expertise, and most importantly, has the time to mentor, is ...…

On this week's episode Marcy and Ashley talk bougie behavior. Both of us have been accused of being a little bougie; maybe it's the Ph.D.'s, or maybe the Pink and Green, or it could be the confidence we exude when we walk into a room. Regardless of the reasons, on this week’s episode we explore our behaviors, what they say about our views on cl ...…

On this week's episode Ashley and and substitutes Kisha and Dani talk implicit bias. We all have a tendency to allow stereotype-confirming thoughts to pass spontaneously through our minds, and doing so is called implicit bias. It’s what tells us to run when we’re being chased or to swallow when we have something in our mouth. In harmless situat ...…

On this week's episode Ashley and Marcy talk birth control. The time came when I knew I wanted to have sex. I also knew I couldn't tell my momma. So at the age of fifteen, I had to figure out how to prepare, all on my own. Like any naturally-curious child pre-internet, I asked my big cousin and she told me to go to Planned Parenthood. Before I ...…

On this week’s episode Marcy and Ashley discuss life’s turning points, what they’ve learned and if hindsight is really 20/20. We all have those moments in our lives. Those critical, pivotal moments that seemingly define how we move forward. Maybe it’s that motivating teacher that showed us extra attention, told us we were smart and really cause ...…

On this bonus episode Ashley and Keila Hill-Trawick of Little Fish Accounting, talk online dating, faith, and winning while being yourself. At the prompting of a friend in 2016, Keila downloaded Tinder despite her apprehensions that it wouldn't be right for her. That same friend was her wedding officiant one year later when she married Jamal, w ...…

On this week's episode we talk falling in love. Whether you experience butterflies in your stomach, sweaty palms, and tugs of the heart strings - or you process rationally-balanced decisions about choosing another, falling in love means different things to different people. It can be hard to distinguish the difference between like, lust, and lo ...…

On this episode we talk patience, waiting and being at peace while standing still. There is no rap lyric that more closely aligns with my life right now than I got no patience And I hate waitin' from Jigga Man's (Jay-Z) 1993 track, “Big Pimpin’. (The title of the song, however, does not match my love life, but I digress.) I loathe waiting. I'm ...…

On this week's episode we talk love and compatibility. Whether it's zodiac sign alignment, your best friend's approval, or how he offers you his last chicken wing, in relationships we often look for signs of compatibility with the other. Everyone wants to find someone who 'completes' them, adding value to their life and filling their voids; but ...…

On this week’s episode we talk self-image, cosmetic enhancements and loving yourself beyond your looks. Teeth whitening, tummy tucks and a trip to Columbia can have you looking and feeling like a whole new person. While major cosmetic enhancements might not be in scope for most of us, we all know someone who’s coloring their hair, considering b ...…

On this week’s episode we talk grief, loss, and why things don’t always get better with time. Over the weekend, (while headed to a date, no less) Ashley was overcome by grief after having a fleeting thought of her mom who died 8 years ago. She tried to process it quickly and gain some composure, as not to mess up her flawless makeup. But the mo ...…

On this week's episode we talk being bossed, being bosses and creating a relationship with your boss that works for you. Horrible Bosses: it's not just a movie but it’s some folks’ everyday-lived experience. Micromanaging, domineering, and bullying bosses are all too common in the workplace, and when you throw racism, sexism, and gender politic ...…

On this week's episode we talk ghetto girls. We've all met her (or been her) the gum smacking, lip poppin, trash talking, beeper wearing, blond wig having ghetto girl. Black "ghetto" women are a hallmark of the black community and are a sterotype that many in the black community have shunned, until now because it's profitable. Wanna of "Wanna's ...…

On this week's episode we talk risks, being scared and pushing past our fears. We talk about our philosophy on risk taking, the biggest risks we've taken (spoiler:they include love and work) and the advice we have for listeners who are risk adverse. We share risk everyone should take and disagree on the idea that "every risk leads to something ...…

On this week's episode we talk relationships, titles and how to level up your ___'ship. "Talking", "Dating" "Boo'd Up" "FWB" "Married" "Separated" ... When it comes to relationships titles matter or do they? What is the difference between Dating and Friends with Benefits, and does the definition of marriage change if it's a Same Sex Couple or a ...…

On this weeks episode we tell the truth about money and relationships, and how to avoid conflicts with friends, partners and parents over dollar bills. Money and Relationships... two things that should never marry, but people do. In fact if you're arguing with your partner about money your not alone. According to a study by TD Bank, 63% of coup ...…

On this week's episode we talk flaws and come clean about a few of our insecurities and share why it's important for you to do the same. We all have flaws, but our ability to know ourselves well enough to know them, articulate them, do something about them or practice some self acceptance is the hard part. Let's talk about how to do just that. ...…

Influence is defined as "the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something, or the effect itself", but in 2018 we have influencers on social media who are changing the way we use and engage with products and even our selfs. From "subscribe below" to brand deals we talk our favorite influencers, ho ...…

On this episode Marcy and Ashley, two millennials discuss who we are, who we're not and the events that define our generation. Agh. Millennials. We are are blamed for everything from a failing economy to a surplus in the diamond industry. We are said to be lazy and ambitious, global citizens and unaware of he global economy, the most diverse ge ...…

On this week's episode we talk flirting, dating and intimate interactions and how the heightened awareness of sexual misconduct impacts our relationships with men. We frame our conversation in celebrating the founder of the #metoo movement Tarana Burke and her development of a global anti-sexual harassment, assault and abuse campaign has felled ...…

On this weeks episode we talk code switching, when we've done it, why and what "the switch" has meant for us throughout our lives. We've all done it, one minute your talking to your girl friends about your weekend plans and the next your boss calls and you switch up. Code Switching is defined as the practice of alternating between two or more l ...…

On this week's episode we talk milestones, and the markers of adulthood that we all should have..., or should we. With social pressure mounting it's hard not to want to "keep up with the Joneses", but are there something that are just "must have's by certain ages? Listen as Marcy and Ashley discuss age appropriate milestones and how we manage t ...…

On this weeks episode we discuss interracial dating and how who you date/ marry impacts who you are. We discuss our own experiences with dating outside our race and celebs who've done the same. We also talk how who you date impacts your work, life and how you experience the world. Very Smart Brothers: Black Life, White Wife and the Art Caught i ...…

On this week's episode, Marcy, Ashley & substitute Hey Aprill talk major moves and discuss all the places we've called home throughout our lives. We discuss what we've moved for, how we've built community in places where we were "the only one" and what we've learned about ourselves through relocating, and in staying still. Learn more about Apri ...…

On this week's episode we talk rules, boundaries and guidepost that tell us when we've gone too far or when we stretched our morals, values and norms to the limit. We discuss the absurd rules from our childhood, and those that we abide by now that guide our relationships, our work and our everyday lives. We close by encouraging you to break a f ...…

On this week's episode we talk phrases like "Well actually", "Let me explain" "The data shows"...all phrase we use when trying to explain something to someone..and ask ourselves if we should stop explaining. Ashley recently had a conversation with a friend who had all kinds of push back for her about a recent #schoolinlifepod episode where she ...…

On this week's episode we discuss fashion from the brunch to the boardroom and everywhere in between. As Yves Saint Laurent said "Fashions fade, style is eternal.", so we discuss our style from high school to high stakes meetings throughout our career and why what you wear matters. We share who our style icons are who we seek inspiration from a ...…

On this week's episode we're talking orgasms and how the center of women's pleasure is often seen as a mystery, for their partners and for themselves. According to researchers, women's have a wide range of preferences when it come to helping them climax, from oral pleasure to penetration but women's attitudes, behaviors & experiences with sex o ...…

On this week's episode we talk setbacks, cause everyone has them and they seem to be everywhere work, in relationships and just in life in general. Often people say that a setback is a setup for something much better, can teach you great lessons or might help you appreciate life that much more. Marcy and I discuss setbacks that we've experience ...…

On this week's episode we talk relationships and age gaps, and how age impacts life and love in relationships. So-called May-December relationships, in which there's a big age gap between the partners seem to be all around us from Naomi and Skepta to Black Chyna and whoever that lil boy who's following her around is. Listen to us unpack our con ...…

On this week's episode we talk thrifting, bargain shopping and finding love in our frugal finds. Listen for tips on getting the most out of your thrift store experience, how thrifting can be a great way to give back, and how shopping can be an helpful and harmful activity in self care Substitute: Ashley Dominique of Eat Thrift Love I digress: S ...…

On this week's episode we talk the parentals. Both who they were before they became out parents and how their lives and decisions have long standing impacts on ours. Also we ask the important question, who are our parents outside of being "our parents"? At what point do we realize that our parent are people? It Aint None of My Business: 7 Ways ...…