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Likely of interest ONLY to the members of the Collegiate School For Boys class of 1983 (or those who were briefly a part of that class) as we get ready for our 40th reunion in May of 2023.

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Likely of interest ONLY to the members of the Collegiate School For Boys class of 1983 (or those who were briefly a part of that class) as we get ready for our 40th reunion in May of 2023.

34 episodes

#Podcasting Education #Taylor Mali

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RANDY WEINER: Breaking Rules Big & Small 39:02

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Randy Weiner gave very few hints during his time at The Collegiate School for Boys that he would go on to become an award-winning playwright and producer, much less the owner of an exclusive nightclub! His classmates just figured he would go to medical school and become a doctor. Because even he thought that's what he was going to do! Host Taylor Mali talks with Randy about his journey, the influence of his father, his 43-year relationship with his wife Diane Paulus, his memorable older brother Scott, and more! Cue this up and go walk your dog because this one is a good one! Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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RAY FLORES: Release the Power 48:35

48 weeks ago48:35

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Chances are Ray Flores would have taken a different path in life if things had been different. But chances are that's true for everyone. I had a wonderful talk with the guy who should have won "Most Likely to End Up in HR." Collegiate School's official reunion is this Friday, May 3rd, 2024, which means our epic reunion was almost one year ago! To RSVP to the school's festivities, click here . I will send out the Zoom link for our reunion (aka "Nightcap with The Capper") next week via email. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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JAMIE WATTS: Teetering on the Cusp 28:20

1 year ago28:20

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For this first episode of the second season of '83 Dutchmen, host Taylor Mali speaks to commercial photographer Jamie Watts about being the absolute youngest member of the class of 1983 and the affect that had on how actively he participated in his own life at school. Would it have been better for Jamie to have been the oldest member of the class of 1984? The jury is out. Taylor and Jamie talk about Terror's Group, a small, informal, and short-lived club born out of a general sense of not feeling that you fit in. They discuss whether the term "outsider" is really the right word for those internal feelings of not belonging to a group that you otherwise appear outwardly to be a part of. Together they sift through the detritus of memory to decide what is not worth saving (because it's not important) and what is (because it is)! Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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TAYLOR MALI: Today I will have outlived my parents (if I am still alive when this posts). 1:02:54

2 years ago1:02:54

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August 6th of this year (2023) is the exact day that '83 Dutchmen host Taylor Mali will have outlived his mother by one day and his father by 30. He is on vacation right now, likely without reliable wifi, but he scheduled this podcast to post automatically. Mali says "This is a collection of audio postcards I recorded over the course of seven months and containing the artful observations and poignant—if sometimes lugubrious —musings of a poet. Because I am also a poet, in case you were not aware of that." —updated Wednesday, July 26, 2023. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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THADDEUS BEREDAY: 200 Federal Agents Busting Down the Door 53:17

2 years ago53:17

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In this final episode of the series before the fiscal year of Collegiate ends on Friday, June 30th, Taylor talks with Thaddeus Bereday , who left after 7th grade but says we did a much better job of celebrating our 40th reunion then the school he actually graduated from (suck it, Groton Academy)! Thad speaks eloquently about his successes, struggles, failures, and the importance of mercy, second chances, compassion, and reform. Please be sure to check out his podcast, Redemption Radio , wherever you get your podcasts. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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VOICE MEMO-ries from the CLASS OF 1983 45:36

2 years ago45:36

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After the 40th reunion, which was spectacularly held on May 5th, class agent Taylor Mali asked everyone in the class—whether they made it to the reunion or not—to send him a voice memo about their experience of the reunion, their experience with the podcast series, or just . . . their experience of their life. This episode is all those voice memos stitched together, including some cameo appearances by surprise guests. The format is completely different, and it might be the best episode yet. The fiscal year ends on June 30th. Please make a gift if you'd like to be a part of what is already a record-breaking year. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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KARL SLOVIN: With High Honors 22:07

2 years ago22:07

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I stayed for my friends and then hid from them. Karl Slovin recounts the stigma of being "held back" by Collegiate and asked to join the class of 1984. And how his parents—on the verge of divorcing themselves—gave him the choice of staying and repeating fourth grade or starting over at a new school (when he wishes that they'd just made the decision for him). In theory he stayed to be with his friends, but in practice the embarrassment of suddenly being a member of the class "behind" meant that he didn't want any of us to see him in the hallways so he avoided us. And he carried that shame for years. Later in the episode, Taylor excavates his generational relationship with Judaism. This episode was put together using voice memos; the next episode will be ALL voice memos. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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ADAM MANSKY: Mess No More 1:08:21

2 years ago1:08:21

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In this final episode of the series—at least before our 40th reunion, which is tomorrow, Friday, May 5th—Taylor speaks with Adam Mansky who has gone on to do great things despite a self-described lonely, unhappy, and underwhelming experience at Collegiate in high school. For reasons you will discover, we met online and recorded our interview twice, and even that was not enough. There will be one Mystery Episode of this series which will appear on August 6th with absolutely no fanfare whatsoever. You will have to be subscribed to the series in order to receive any sort of notification that it has posted. Thank you for listening. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Remembering MICHAEL CHALFIN 6:28

2 years ago6:28

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I've had a wonderful time over the last couple weeks trading memories of Michael Chalfin with his widow Sharon Jacobs. Mike was so quiet and so decent, and yet so fearless in goal for The Warriors, our gym hockey team (two-time winners of The Mink Cup)! Peter Allan was with him at Middlebury College, but they didn't run in the same circles. Sharon says Tim White was the only Collegiate classmate she thinks she met. She shared a few minutes of news about Mike's life with me, and I am happy to pass it on. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Remembering MARK TOMPKINS 42:18

2 years ago42:18

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Taylor spoke with Mark's older sister Lynette Tompkins Engel (Brearley 1980) over Zoom last week, and if you have the chance you should watch this 40-minute video here . If audio is more convenient, proceed knowing that you’ll miss some slides, some clarifying captions, and about 90 seconds of amazing high school basketball highlights at the end. Mark, we will miss you when we gather for our 40th reunion on May 5th! Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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ANDREW KIMBALL: The LeBron James of Economic Development 53:09

2 years ago53:09

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Although Andrew Kimball is one of the youngest of the Baby Boomer generation (born in 1964), he was one of the oldest in our class. And he says that may have been the beginning of not knowing where he fit in. A self-described "late bloomer," he has nevertheless done pretty well for himself, rising to be the President and CEO of the New York City Economic Development Corporation, traveling all over the world shilling for New York City business opportunities. Andrew talks eloquently about coping with dyslexia and all manner of successes and failures. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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ANTONIO ROMERO: The Ultimate Outlier 52:48

2 years ago52:48

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On the page in the yearbook called "Sanctioned Insults," which was supposed to be filled with light-hearted jibes about the graduating seniors, the Dream/Reality written for Antonio Romero was DREAM: systems analyst REALITY: systems analyst. That may seem prophetic for a guy who wrote his first line of code when Gerald Ford was President and has spent more of his life in the tech industry than he ever intended, but Taylor Mali's conversation with Antonio will reveal just how piercing it actually was. IMPORTANT FACT: Antonio accepted an offer to attend MIT, but then reneged and went to Princeton instead at the urging of Bruce Breimer, the college guidance councilor (who would have then had to explain himself to MIT)! That was one of many interventions that tried (in vain?) to offer Antonio the option to pursue ANY of his myriad other passions. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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PETER ALLAN: Dancing on the Lip of the Volcano 1:04:05

2 years ago1:04:05

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No one in our class was more impacted by the popularity of Studio 54 in the early 1980s than Peter Allan , who says he partied all night and came to school for his 8:30 class "more than once, but less than 10 times." It's a miracle he survived (if, in fact, he did)! Again and again, he seems to have taken away the completely wrong message from certain events and experiences—sometimes actively seeking them out!—and yet he has managed to live a pretty successful—some might say charmed —life. He's a great example of a guy who started to blossom into his adult self after he left Collegiate. Consequently, Taylor Mali is almost startled at the level of humility, honesty, reflection, and humor that Peter brings to this amazing interview. Alternate titles for this episode included "Buffalo Cookies," "Shimmy-Shimmy," and "PETER ALLAN: Unrealistically Confident." Click here to see Peter speaking in 2007 at the memorial service of his stepfather, Arthur Schlesinger Jr. (go to 57:55, right before Bill Clinton)! Listen all the way to the end of this episode to learn why it is being uploaded two days early! Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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NICK GLASS: Smile & Bounce 56:38

2 years ago56:38

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NICK GLASS wants to know if a 7th or 8th grader would be allowed to go to Florida with a friend and no adults to stay in a hotel and go to Spring Training games? Nick seems to think he and David Goldberg did just that in the late 1970s when they were middle schoolers at The Collegiate School. And he’s got other questions, too. Did Tony Marr fall through a sidewalk grate next to the red door in first grade? Did Mr. Ataliadas (spelling??) drag students by their ear? Was our 7th or 8th grade baseball coach really David Duchovny? Nick Glass is one of those guys who didn’t graduate with the rest of us in 1983, but I love talking to guys like that who left. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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RON VASSALLO: Miracle 48:27

2 years ago48:27

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He worked in bunkers on war games about Presidential succession for the national security side of FEMA; he ran global marketing programs for multinational corporations; he's been on both sides of the table; but Ron Vassallo took all the lessons he learned and now does . . . something else (I'll let him tell you because I'm not really sure). The story of how Ron got to Collegiate and what he has done after is the story of the difference individuals can make in the lives of others , most of the times without even knowing it. This episode is a rocket ship, and you should take it for a ride. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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ADAM GUETTEL: Making Way for Death 1:01:59

2 years ago1:01:59

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The host of our December gathering, TONY-award winner Adam Guettel , sits down with Taylor to talk about composition, acquisition, personal growth, how to buy cigarettes at age SEVEN, and what is required to "make way for song." Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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JASON STELL: A Boo-Fucking-Hoo Self Congratulatory Screed 50:21

2 years ago50:21

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Taylor talks to Jason Stell about being a bullied ballet boy, Russians with wooden sticks, what it means to be elite, a muscle clad teen, the guy whose mom teaches music at the same school you go to, Ashtanga yoga, Tai Chi, psychotherapy, Mama Say Mama Sa Mama Coosa, sins of commission and omission, Fathers & Sons, things that are "chunkular," how to win friends and influence people, and apologies for transgressions that happened decades ago. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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HANK BAER: Fellatio & the Most Boring Lawyer in the World! 41:58

2 years ago41:58

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The story of how HANK BAER left Collegiate in the middle of his freshman year—skipping out on his last two exams!—and went on to have a wonderful time at his next school is a good one, even if it's not one "everyone knows" as he thought they did. The journey of his life has had many twists and turns as well as triumphs and failures. Hank speaks of the ones he remembers, and Taylor reminds him of a few he had forgotten. We have until Friday, May 5, 2023 , to get him to come in person to the reunion! Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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DAVID DISHY: Kindness, Decency, and Dickishness 57:16

2 years ago57:16

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With his good looks, athleticism, talent, intellect, and confidence, David Dishy was almost universally considered to be the most popular kid in the New York City private school system in the early 1980s, at least among those who were unscathed by vice . Host Taylor Mali goes back and forth with his old friend, alternately reminding him what a great guy he was in one breath, and then reveling in the complete lack of self-awareness that made The Dish so deliciously entertaining. This interview is the last of 2022, and it feel more like a dance. Have happy holidays and look for a new episode of '83 Dutchmen in early January. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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ADAM ERNSTER: Am I Better? 46:34

2 years ago46:34

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Adam Ernster says he's on his 6th career, but the only one any of us knows about is the one-on-one celebrity fitness training in LA getting movie stars ready for their nude scenes. For reasons Taylor never pushes Adam to fully explain, that career is all gone now, and he's living in rural Pennsylvania, studying psychotherapy on his own, assembling models, and taking care of his father, a Holocaust survivor and quadriplegic. Adam Ernster currently has no idea where his life is going but he feels like he's in the right place. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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CHIP BRAINERD: My Best Friend's Girlfriend 52:45

2 years ago52:45

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Taylor Mali's oldest friend, Charles "Chip" Brainerd , talks about how he generally dislikes kids (except his own), what he's learned from them, homophobia, being painfully shy, what it's like to come from a family of "poor communicators," and the joys of marrying UP, "in a big way." Chip once flew to Switzerland just so he could break up with a girlfriend face-to-face; he says it was the right thing to do. Taylor has another theory. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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RON CAPORALE: I Wish I Had Known Back Then 50:39

2 years ago50:39

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The new subtitle for this episode is PS: WKRWG? That will make sense after you listen to Ron talk about his life, where he was BEFORE Collegiate, his father Nicola Caporale's inspiring story and the litany of allies who all had his back. Taylor Mali thought he had a couple of zinger questions planned, but in the end he is the one who ends up sputtering and speechless. It's a perfect episode to debut on Thanksgiving. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Yale Fergang: BILLIONS 43:05

2 years ago43:05

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In this episode, class agent Taylor Mali talks to Yale Fergang about his journeys in the world of finance, the loss of his younger sister, having "skin in the game," being on the Board of Trustees as the school moved to its current location, and the teachers and friends who helped shaped him. When Fergang talks about money stuff, he gets deep in the weeds , but Taylor has cut out very little because "just because I don't understand what you're saying doesn't mean I DON'T find it fascinating." Yale Fergang comes from the future and looks as if he speaks the local language wherever he is. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Lucas Tanner ('84 Dutchman?!) and the snowball fight in July 51:07

2 years ago51:07

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Lucas Tanner spent 7 years with Collegiate's class of 1983, and then went to Italy for a few years. When he returned, he was "bloomed" (his word) and was suddenly a member of the class of 1984. He is therefore "a hybrid member" (also his words) like Karl Slovin , who has been mentioned on this podcast before. Two apologies are given during this episode—both over 40 years late—and at least one is accepted. Lucas Tanner is "fantastic indeed." Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Allan Freedman on Reawakenings and Bumping the Stars 46:05

2 years ago46:05

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Taylor Mali speaks with Allan Freedman about an incident in Kabul that served as a turning point in his almost cut-short life, what brought him back home, and the joy that won him second place in a dance contest behind Kerry Cheesboro . Nick Hays, Matt Saal, and Ron Caporale may take issue with Freedman's recollection of Issues . Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Ashish Gattegno takes some nice shots and gets out of the backseat of his own life. 50:10

2 years ago50:10

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Some of us made life pretty miserable for Ashish, and although he doesn't actually offer blanket forgiveness to all bullies in this episode, it's clear he has moved on with wisdom and aplomb. Collegiate was to be his refuge, but it became a new arena of indignity and petty humiliations. Hear some pretty startling confessions and learn the secret of how he "flipped a switch" and became a different person. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Jim Solomon on legacies, symbols, entitlement, and how Joe Patterson doesn't remember him at all. 52:36

2 years ago52:36

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Taylor and "Jimmy" talk a lot about some things and not a word about others. About how we are all zigzags at this point in our lives, about the WORST headmaster in Collegiate's history and the worst class agent for the class of 1983. Reach out to Taylor if you can think you can make the gathering at Guettel's loft in early December! Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Dr. Michael Ormont, a self-described hoarder of motorcycles, talks about the challenges of being a single parent, his undistinguished academic career at Collegiate, and how Taylor politely asked if… 40:34

2 years ago40:34

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Michael and Taylor compare widower notes, talk about high school theater as a way to meet girls, the pernicious effect of comparisons, how he thought he was 100% guaranteed to be the next to "meet with Mark and Michael," Reverend Houghtlin's stammer, and whether his children consider him "the coolest Dad ever." We also attempt (and mostly fail!) to do something that's never been done on this podcast! Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Paul Weitz has no one to blame, and he talks about clubbing with Robert De Niro (and Peter Allan!) and writing lines for Woody Allen and Gene Hackman. 44:01

2 years ago44:01

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Paul came to Collegiate in 10th grade and managed to find a home for himself under the watchful eye of his father's ubiquitous fashion ads, which seemed to be on every passing bus in the early 80s. He and Taylor talk soccer (David Dishy's massive boot), theater, favorite teachers, and how Nick Hays managed to turn the old school shop into his office. Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to the school here: https://www.givecampus.com/campaigns/25715/donations/new…

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Odette Cabrera, "The First Dutch Woman," talks about first loves, John Ehrenkranz's kissing prowess, and the life (and death) of the most popular girl in New York City. 54:32

3 years ago54:32