Chances are Ray Flores would have taken a different path in life if things had been different. But chances are that's true for everyone. I had a wonderful talk with the guy who should have won "Most Likely to End Up in HR." Collegiate School's official reunion is this Friday, May 3rd, 2024, which means our epic reunion was almost one year ago! To R…

For this first episode of the second season of '83 Dutchmen, host Taylor Mali speaks to commercial photographer Jamie Watts about being the absolute youngest member of the class of 1983 and the affect that had on how actively he participated in his own life at school. Would it have been better for Jamie to have been the oldest member of the class o…

August 6th of this year (2023) is the exact day that '83 Dutchmen host Taylor Mali will have outlived his mother by one day and his father by 30. He is on vacation right now, likely without reliable wifi, but he scheduled this podcast to post automatically. Mali says "This is a collection of audio postcards I recorded over the course of seven month…

In this final episode of the series before the fiscal year of Collegiate ends on Friday, June 30th, Taylor talks with Thaddeus Bereday, who left after 7th grade but says we did a much better job of celebrating our 40th reunion then the school he actually graduated from (suck it, Groton Academy)! Thad speaks eloquently about his successes, struggles…

After the 40th reunion, which was spectacularly held on May 5th, class agent Taylor Mali asked everyone in the class—whether they made it to the reunion or not—to send him a voice memo about their experience of the reunion, their experience with the podcast series, or just . . . their experience of their life. This episode is all those voice memos …

I stayed for my friends and then hid from them. Karl Slovin recounts the stigma of being "held back" by Collegiate and asked to join the class of 1984. And how his parents—on the verge of divorcing themselves—gave him the choice of staying and repeating fourth grade or starting over at a new school (when he wishes that they'd just made the decision…

In this final episode of the series—at least before our 40th reunion, which is tomorrow, Friday, May 5th—Taylor speaks with Adam Mansky who has gone on to do great things despite a self-described lonely, unhappy, and underwhelming experience at Collegiate in high school. For reasons you will discover, we met online and recorded our interview twice,…

I've had a wonderful time over the last couple weeks trading memories of Michael Chalfin with his widow Sharon Jacobs. Mike was so quiet and so decent, and yet so fearless in goal for The Warriors, our gym hockey team (two-time winners of The Mink Cup)! Peter Allan was with him at Middlebury College, but they didn't run in the same circles. Sharon …

Taylor spoke with Mark's older sister Lynette Tompkins Engel (Brearley 1980) over Zoom last week, and if you have the chance you should watch this 40-minute video here. If audio is more convenient, proceed knowing that you’ll miss some slides, some clarifying captions, and about 90 seconds of amazing high school basketball highlights at the end. Ma…

Although Andrew Kimball is one of the youngest of the Baby Boomer generation (born in 1964), he was one of the oldest in our class. And he says that may have been the beginning of not knowing where he fit in. A self-described "late bloomer," he has nevertheless done pretty well for himself, rising to be the President and CEO of the New York City Ec…

On the page in the yearbook called "Sanctioned Insults," which was supposed to be filled with light-hearted jibes about the graduating seniors, the Dream/Reality written for Antonio Romero was DREAM: systems analyst REALITY: systems analyst. That may seem prophetic for a guy who wrote his first line of code when Gerald Ford was President and has sp…

No one in our class was more impacted by the popularity of Studio 54 in the early 1980s than Peter Allan, who says he partied all night and came to school for his 8:30 class "more than once, but less than 10 times." It's a miracle he survived (if, in fact, he did)! Again and again, he seems to have taken away the completely wrong message from certa…

NICK GLASS wants to know if a 7th or 8th grader would be allowed to go to Florida with a friend and no adults to stay in a hotel and go to Spring Training games? Nick seems to think he and David Goldberg did just that in the late 1970s when they were middle schoolers at The Collegiate School. And he’s got other questions, too. Did Tony Marr fall th…

He worked in bunkers on war games about Presidential succession for the national security side of FEMA; he ran global marketing programs for multinational corporations; he's been on both sides of the table; but Ron Vassallo took all the lessons he learned and now does . . . something else (I'll let him tell you because I'm not really sure). The sto…

The host of our December gathering, TONY-award winner Adam Guettel, sits down with Taylor to talk about composition, acquisition, personal growth, how to buy cigarettes at age SEVEN, and what is required to "make way for song." Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a donation to th…

Taylor talks to Jason Stell about being a bullied ballet boy, Russians with wooden sticks, what it means to be elite, a muscle clad teen, the guy whose mom teaches music at the same school you go to, Ashtanga yoga, Tai Chi, psychotherapy, Mama Say Mama Sa Mama Coosa, sins of commission and omission, Fathers & Sons, things that are "chunkular," how …

The story of how HANK BAER left Collegiate in the middle of his freshman year—skipping out on his last two exams!—and went on to have a wonderful time at his next school is a good one, even if it's not one "everyone knows" as he thought they did. The journey of his life has had many twists and turns as well as triumphs and failures. Hank speaks of …

With his good looks, athleticism, talent, intellect, and confidence, David Dishy was almost universally considered to be the most popular kid in the New York City private school system in the early 1980s, at least among those who were unscathed by vice. Host Taylor Mali goes back and forth with his old friend, alternately reminding him what a great…

Adam Ernster says he's on his 6th career, but the only one any of us knows about is the one-on-one celebrity fitness training in LA getting movie stars ready for their nude scenes. For reasons Taylor never pushes Adam to fully explain, that career is all gone now, and he's living in rural Pennsylvania, studying psychotherapy on his own, assembling …

Taylor Mali's oldest friend, Charles "Chip" Brainerd, talks about how he generally dislikes kids (except his own), what he's learned from them, homophobia, being painfully shy, what it's like to come from a family of "poor communicators," and the joys of marrying UP, "in a big way." Chip once flew to Switzerland just so he could break up with a gir…

The new subtitle for this episode is PS: WKRWG? That will make sense after you listen to Ron talk about his life, where he was BEFORE Collegiate, his father Nicola Caporale's inspiring story and the litany of allies who all had his back. Taylor Mali thought he had a couple of zinger questions planned, but in the end he is the one who ends up sputte…

In this episode, class agent Taylor Mali talks to Yale Fergang about his journeys in the world of finance, the loss of his younger sister, having "skin in the game," being on the Board of Trustees as the school moved to its current location, and the teachers and friends who helped shaped him. When Fergang talks about money stuff, he gets deep in th…

Lucas Tanner spent 7 years with Collegiate's class of 1983, and then went to Italy for a few years. When he returned, he was "bloomed" (his word) and was suddenly a member of the class of 1984. He is therefore "a hybrid member" (also his words) like Karl Slovin, who has been mentioned on this podcast before. Two apologies are given during this epis…

Taylor Mali speaks with Allan Freedman about an incident in Kabul that served as a turning point in his almost cut-short life, what brought him back home, and the joy that won him second place in a dance contest behind Kerry Cheesboro. Nick Hays, Matt Saal, and Ron Caporale may take issue with Freedman's recollection of Issues. Although you must be…

Some of us made life pretty miserable for Ashish, and although he doesn't actually offer blanket forgiveness to all bullies in this episode, it's clear he has moved on with wisdom and aplomb. Collegiate was to be his refuge, but it became a new arena of indignity and petty humiliations. Hear some pretty startling confessions and learn the secret of…

Taylor and "Jimmy" talk a lot about some things and not a word about others. About how we are all zigzags at this point in our lives, about the WORST headmaster in Collegiate's history and the worst class agent for the class of 1983. Reach out to Taylor if you can think you can make the gathering at Guettel's loft in early December! Although you mu…

Michael and Taylor compare widower notes, talk about high school theater as a way to meet girls, the pernicious effect of comparisons, how he thought he was 100% guaranteed to be the next to "meet with Mark and Michael," Reverend Houghtlin's stammer, and whether his children consider him "the coolest Dad ever." We also attempt (and mostly fail!) to…

Paul came to Collegiate in 10th grade and managed to find a home for himself under the watchful eye of his father's ubiquitous fashion ads, which seemed to be on every passing bus in the early 80s. He and Taylor talk soccer (David Dishy's massive boot), theater, favorite teachers, and how Nick Hays managed to turn the old school shop into his offic…

The first guest on the podcast who is NOT a member of Collegiate's class of 1983 (yet), Odette and Taylor talk about code-switching, the challenges of being a "brown mom" in a private school, and whether Taylor can call himself a "descendant of of immigrants" if his ancestors arrived on these shores with nothing 402 years ago (spoiler alert: no)! A…

"Joey" Patterson might not have been as lost as Taylor Mali makes him out to be. Or maybe he was even more lost. We talk about who he remembers, who does the screaming in a restaurant's kitchen, the act of sharpening knives, all the lessons Collegiate taught him that he had to unlearn later, his complete domination of every Field Day he competed in…

He and Taylor talk about "things I have never not been," going deeper, the Widowers Club, descended testicles, Hootie and the Blowfish, and the joyful work of uncovering, undoing, and unlearning life's lessons, accidents, and humiliations Although you must be a member of the Collegiate class of 1983 to join our WhatsApp group, anyone can make a don…

Tony breaks down Hank Baer's comment about Collegiate boys and how they either go to Ivy League schools or rehab; his temper; how he might have ruined his father's professional golf career; a secret his mother kept from her children until after her death; a pencil-stabbing incident with Steven Polikoff; and friends who have died. Then, as only two …

For the first episode of '83 Dutchmen, I had to have as my guest the man whose idea it was to start a podcast in the lead to our 40th reunion next year (May of 2023). We talk about much more than memories of The Collegiate School so even if you're not one of the former members of the class of 1983, you MAY find it interesting as well. Although you …

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