Unconscious Hate

As Told by Kole

It is so amazing how people can hate you (and I mean really hate you) and not even know why. It is even more amazing how people can hate you and not even realize how much they hate you. They will treat you like a junkyard dog and when you ask them why they hate you, they’ll say, “What are you talking about? I don’t hate you.” And some of them will even be bold enough to say, “You know I love you.” Let me help everybody though. The Bible says in Matthew 12:33 (New International Version): “Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit.” This means that there is a choice. The tree can be made to be either good or bad. It also means that good fruit isn’t going to come from a bad tree, and bad fruit isn’t gonna come from a good tree. Now can a good tree produce good fruit that turns bad because of other elements? Absolutely. But when it comes FROM the tree, it’s good. The tree can’t control what happens after the fruit leaves it. The only thing the tree can do is produce fruit that lets you know what kind of tree it is. Now. Is it possible for someone to love you and still mistreat you? Absolutely. Is it possible for a person to hate you but really love you? Absolutely not. It seems like a complicated juxtaposition of circumstances, but it’s really not. When someone really loves you but their actions (although done with good intent) are a little misguided, that’s like a good fruit that fell from the tree and got bruised because it fell on a hard place on the ground. Or the fruit that wasn’t all the way ripe and the wind knocked it off the tree too soon. The person who hates you is like the fruit that is bad on the tree and falls off and it’s still bad. See the difference? It is possible for people to be so accustomed to their bad fruit that they don’t even realize what’s coming off their tree. It is very possible for someone to hate themselves so much that they hate you by default. It is possible for someone to be aware of their bad fruit but not think they can change their tree so they resent you for having good fruit and they don’t even realize it. All of this is possible. In your lifetime, you will encounter people who hate you for no reason. Some will be aware of it, and some will not. However, what you have to remember is that any time someone hates you without a cause, what they really hate is something within themselves. Don’t ever allow yourself to get bent out of shape about that. Remember, a tree is known by the fruit IT BEARS, not the grass around it, the bushes next to it or the people who come to pick it. The tree isn’t even known for the fruit coming from the trees that are around it. You are not responsible for how others feel about you. You’re responsible for you. Keep yourself together, love yourself, and just pray that those “bad trees” will be pruned or replanted or whatever it takes to make them good again. It’s possible, and if you believe it can happen, it will happen as long as that person is open to change and growth. Your focus, though, is making sure that your tree is good. That’s it. Does that excuse what others do? No. Does it mean you have to put up with it? Absolutely not. Because remember - one bad apple spoils the bunch. If a good tree gets tangled up with a bad tree, it’s more likely that the bad tree will corrupt the good tree than it is that the good tree will overtake the bad tree. Why? Because everything about the bad tree is bad, so the good tree would have to literally deplete itself to keep itself good and make a whole separate tree good too. As you will learn in tomorrow’s podcast, that is not our job at all. You have one job: keep your tree good. Have an amazing day today. Show love to yourself AND others. Be GREAT! I speak life to you and everyone and everything connected to you! Catch me tomorrow! XOXO, Na'Kole ?