You Can’t Change Them

As Told by Kole

I’m going to tell you something interesting. God has all power. Literally. God literally has all of the power that can and will ever exist. But do you know what is even more interesting? God is not going to just strike you with a lightning rod and change you. You have to desire to be changed, and you have to work towards that change. You can lay in the bed and say “God, please remove these twenty pounds.” But what God is going to do is open up an opportunity for you to get in the gym, in your neighborhood or whatever, and WORK those twenty pounds off of you. Whether it’s walking, running, making tea or whatever it is, there is something you must do. How many times have you been in a situation and realized that the situation wasn't gonna change until you made a change? How many times have you been dealing with something and realized that even if the situation didn’t change, you needed to change the way you looked at the situation? So. Let me ask you something. If all of the above is true about your life, and you are with you every day and every night, and you can’t change you until you change you… Why would you then turn around and think you could change someone else? You cannot change people. Let me say it again: You cannot change people. Why do you think Jesus asked “Will thou be made whole” before He touched people? Because for one, He wanted to make sure that healing is really what they wanted. And secondly, He wanted to remind us of our own power to get free or stay bound based on our choices. In my city, on the side of the bypass, there is a man who lives in a tent. One of my FB friends posted about this man, and people began to comment and say things like “Well I offered to help him and he declined.” “I offered to put him up in a hotel and he got snappy with me and declined my offer.” “He doesn’t want any help.” “The police offered to help him and he turned them down.” Now I could go out there with thousands of dollars, buy this man a car and a house - but if he doesn’t want to change his lifestyle, I will have wasted my efforts. The same is true with people in your life. We spend so much of our time trying to change people. “Well if I do this, maybe she’ll change.” “If I give him this, maybe he will act right.” But the fact of the matter is that you do not have the power to change anyone but you. Period. You can’t change your parents. You can’t change your kids. You can’t change your spouse. You can’t change folks. So. When you are in a situation that requires change, I’m not telling you to be discouraged. I’m just telling you to be realistic and understand that you can only change what you can change. And what is that? You can change yourself, you can change your presence/position in the situation, and you can change the way you think about the situation. That’s it. Don’t get yourself all worked up trying to change someone else. It’s not going to happen. Like the little girl said on the Facebook video: “Worry about yasself.” That’s all you can do. Evaluate the situations in your life and see what you can change about you. That’ll keep you living in peace. Have an amazing day today. Show love to yourself AND others. Be GREAT! I speak life to you and everyone and everything connected to you! Catch me tomorrow! XOXO, Na'Kole ?