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Transcrpt for Ep22: Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story - I learned forgiveness from my marriage. The topic I want to share with you today may be a bit heavy for some people. However, if you are willing to see that behind forgiveness is a gift of love and inspiration of life, I believe you will feel relieved. What is forgiveness? Many people have misconception a great distortion in the meaning interpretation of the word forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean accepting conceding defeat, nor does it mean that the other party has won, nor does it mean that it is a concession, it is none of the above. neither is it. It was the same for me once. As long as I don't forgive the other person for a moment, the other person will be as painful as me. I thought that this method was punishing the other party, but it was actually punishing myself. Later, I discovered that forgiving this incident has nothing to do with the other party. Before the start of the story, suppose you are facing betrayal in a relationship, will you choose to forgive or give up? Perhaps, spend a lifetime with anger, resentment and "related incidents." Yes, I was talking about "related incidents", not the other party. I have experienced a relationship betrayal, betrayed by friends, betrayed by marriage. The trauma I suffered at that time was extreme and I was always emotional. Even, it once made me doubt the meaning of life. I am innocent, aren’t I? I am a victim, am I not? It’s not me who made the mistake, why should I forgive? Why? ! For so many nights, tears rolled down and I was in pain. When an incident happens, we always put ourselves in the role of the victim and then indulge in it. In fact, we all know that as long as you choose "I" as the victim, the "other" is the culprit perpetrator, and (use this #44 00:18 1:59pm) "I" can naturally develop according to the plot, suffering, collapse, hatred, rupture, etc. and let it be staged. . The reason is that many people fall into this trap: "Since you have betrayed me, I won't let you be in peace". I don't know am I am not sure if you, who are listening to the Podcast, are like me. Holding grudges to some issues and feeling that you are the victim. As I have been through this loop for many times, so gradually I found the reason behind it. Although, the whole process was full of countless struggles and pains, so many tears. Now that I have passed this path, I hope that with my experience, everyone can get out of this self-programming drama as soon as possible. After spending a lot of days, I finally walked out of the victim role, and the power that allowed me to walk out of this role was forgiveness. When I put myself in the role of a victim, I always live in fear, without power, without love. I only concentrate my strength on others. I really don't like this feeling. I feel powerless and helpless. I feel like a life without self-control. I don't want to surrender my destiny to others, I want to be the master of my own life. After waking up from the drama in my mind, I knew that as long as I was alive, I could make choices for myself. I chose not to be a victim anymore, and chose to forgive this incident. I told myself that I was brave enough to face what happened and I was willing to take this responsibility with my partner. When two people are together, no matter what happened, both is responsible. The red light of marriage is not one person's fault. Through the occurrence of this incident, I can see if there are some missing parts and room for mutual improvement. I began to understand the true meaning of forgiveness. Forgiveness is not for the other party, but for us. What is forgiveness? Allow me to give you an understanding of forgiveness. Forgiveness is actually a gift. After precipitation and learning, I began to realize that God loves me, and I think it’s really great to be able to forgive. Forgiveness is a gift. Forgiveness is a choice. Forgiveness is an opportunity to regenerate yourself. Forgiving made me feel loved and light again. Forgiving gave me the power to be my own master. Because I chose to complete this marriage and forgiveness homework, I moved towards a happy marriage, and later I also began to help other people how to start from forgiveness to a happy marriage. 1. A good friend once told me: "If you can overcome this challenge, there will be no more difficulties in your life. You can't pass it." I used this sentence as a motivation, I told myself, although I am very pain, although I am at a downturn in my life now, I believe that God loves me and everything happens for a reason. 2. Remember that this incident has nothing to do with the other party. Go back to your inner heart and return to your original intention. You will understand that if there is love in your heart, you will choose to forgive someone you love. You forgive and accept imperfections, because people always make mistakes. 3. Yes, the process is really not easy. Therefore, when I am emotional, I will try to avoid conflict with the other party. Because I don't want to hurt each other because of my emotions. So, I will choose to take a hot shower, or scream to the pillow to vent. (cut out the wrong part) I didn't evade or suppress my emotions. I bravely faced my own emotions. After the emotion is over, I will then communicate with the other party. 4. Forgiving does not mean forgetting, forgiving does not mean you agree, but you can forgive. I heard this sentence from my friends, and this sentence gave me strength. Let me understand the power of forgiveness and feel the gift behind forgiveness. I did not give up this marriage, but chose love and forgiveness. When the idea of divorce kept coming to my mind, I asked myself if I still love this person. Of course, he is also very sincere as he admit his mistakes and beg for forgiveness. In the process of repairing this marriage relationship, we all relearn, rebuild trust, and reorganize our family. It is easy to give up, but giving each other, giving this marriage and family a chance, learning again, and rebuilding happiness is truly commendable. I hope that through my story sharing, you can get more inspiration, gifts of life, and start create your own happiness life. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself ! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me /…

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21: Learn to yield to life and everything will come your way 9:17

4 years ago9:17

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Transcript for Ep21: Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story and the Power of Surrender What is Surrender? Does surrender means giving up or that you are a failure? For a long time, many successful people and stories have emphasized that we must persist and hold on to our beliefs. Today, let me share with all of you about how everything comes by our way when we learn to yield to life. Perhaps for most people, surrendering is equivalent to giving up. That they are incapable and therefore surrender. And that only the weak will give up. There is a book called "The Power of Surrender". The author explains that surrender was once, I was full of confidence perhaps arrogant. I always think that everything can be solved with money, life have always been under my control. For instance: Until 28 days after my eldest son was born, he was sent to the emergency ward because of cramps that could not even be explained by science. So, he had to take morphine for 3 months. This affected him, leading him to have learning disabilities. On the way to seek medical treatment, I asked myself countless times: Why me? Another instance is that: My parents have been very loving couples since I was born. Until a few years ago, they had a breakdown in their relationship due to an incident. Eventually, my father left home and my mother fell into depression. This was a heavy blow for me, and I blamed myself and had guilt as I have no way to save or do anything to change the relationship between my parents. This originally happy family left an irreparable gap. For countless nights, I felt very helpless and asked myself: Why can't I do anything? Next, is my marriage relationship. Because of my husband’s affair, I fell into the bottomless pit of emotions. My life was full of doubts. During that time, I seemed to have given up, I surrendered but in fact, I was fighting internally. I continuously asked myself: What did I do wrong? Why me? Surrender means accepting the arrangements of life from the heart and trusting all these arrangements, without doubts, worries, and attachments. Embrace every moment of the present and believe that all unhappiness and sorrow will be transformed into a light that illuminates life. In the process of learning to surrender, we can continue to learn through the following three things: 1. Acceptance Many times when we are facing problems, we will evade, resist, and attack, clenching our fists and trying to regain control of the out-of-control situation. The first step in accepting is to let go. Let go of your perfectionism, let go of fear, let go of doubts, let go of control, and accept everything no matter good and bad. 2. Trust Remove the label that others put on you. Surrendering is having trust in life and believing in yourself. When we are facing problems, we will have doubt in life, why me?Why is this happening? Even with fear, with anger and unwillingness to question all these encounters. However, learn to let go of your fears, let go of the wounds that the past brought you, and forgive them. Those results that you cannot control, do not judge, do not have too much interpretation and worry. Believe in everything that happens in life, as they are the best arrangements. 3. Embrace the present. Open your hands and hearts to experience every possibility. When we can accept it, we can fully embrace the present and feel them. The experience that life wants to bring to us. Be grateful for every process that life brings us, and enjoy every moment life bring to you. When you do not crave for it you will easily reach the goal. (use the last part) There will be many unexpected things in life. When we accept and embrace it we will eventually return to ourselves with the power in the past and become the master of our own life. I admire a world spiritual teacher Byron Katie, who is also the author “一念之转、loving what is", She once said: “Everything happens for me, not to me ". Because of this quote / sentence, I found the most precious gift in my life after going through three difficult stages in my life: and that is “surrender” I hope that by sharing my story, it will inspire you to have the courage to change and create an abundant life. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/ I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself!…

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20: How to Become your partner's best friend 10:49

4 years ago10:49

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Transcript for Ep20: Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you on How to Become your partner's best friend Many people said that marriage is the tomb of love. As when we become closer to each other, we tend to show our true self. The relationship between the couple will slowly transform into family. So is it good or bad? Of course it is good, but we are most likely to speak more rudely, and our attitude and tone towards each other changes. Let us think for awhile, what was the reason that caused the last argument between you and your husband? Well, you don’t have to tell me now, just continue listening to my podcast. We are not only partners, but also family members and each other's best friends. We should share our feelings and emotions. To improve the relationship and be each other’s guardian angel. The theme I want to share with you today is "Become Your Partner's Best Friend" I had married my husband for 20 years, and the intimacy that I have truly realized over the years is not just the contact between the body, but the closeness between the heart. Like most couples, I can feel my husband, Marcus when he is unhappy. Perhaps it's because women are more delicate (or sensitive)! Most men tend to keep their emotions to themselves. However, I am a person who gets to the point when I’m talking. So I hope my husband is the same too. When I sense that he has something hiding from me, I will be really eager to get to the bottom of it. What I didn’t know is that he is trying to act strong and bold so I don’t worry about him. However, this action makes me feel disappointed, as if I have been cheated, leading to anger and sadness. I remember that Marcus had to go out to drink because of business meetings, and ended up going home drunk. Sometimes it was unavoidable that he was drunk. When I tried talking to him, he shouted at me which always irritated upset me. He can fall asleep but I will be staying up all night, and I get more annoyed when I see him sleeping soundly. After waking up in the morning, I told him what had happened last night. He will sincerely apologize and say that he has no idea what happened. Thinking about it, I'm really silly! He was drunk at the time, even if I wanted to communicate with him, I would have to wait for him to wake up tomorrow. After then we can talk to each other about this matter. I mean why bother talking to him when he is drunk, getting angry and punishing yourself? We often want our other half to be what we want but when it did not come out as expected, contradictions and entanglements occurs. After all, everyone’s native family, and growing environment are different, so how could he be me and how could I be him? I have seen my friend’s relationship with her husband drifting away. The reason is that she always gave so much expectations on him, hoping that his life will follow her expectations. However, when it didn’t happen she will feel frustrated and even begin to have emotional attacks and so on. Actually, it was all because of her insecurities which leads her to find safety and comfort in her husband. As a result, the relationship worsen. Both are in pain it was such a pity as they used to love each other so much in the past. During the early days of me and Marcus mode of getting along and after seeing the marriage relationship of my friend, I found that everything comes from us, we always want to prove that we are right, you should listen to me, etc... .... But in fact, what we really needs to be learned in a relationship is to let go of “I" only so we will have "We." Later, I learned the DISC personality trait analysis during a course. I only understand that everyone’s thinking patterns are different, so I have to learn to shift gears and communicate in a mode that the other party can understand and accept in order to be effective. Mutual understanding. Of course, I also took a lot of courses related to art of communication such as the 5 love languages. Through continuous learning, I was later promoted to be the team leader, assisting the instructor to provide guidance for other students. The following points are for you to refer to. How to make the other half willing to open their heart like a friend, to talk to you. To tell and share his happiness and all moments. 1. Say what he wants to hear: What is the most important thing in communication ? It’s Not just what you want to say, but what the other person understands. 2. Play with what he wants to play: Men are always gentlemen in-front of their wives and children. But every man has inner children in them. Acceptance is the key. 3. Allow him to be himself: he is neither you nor who anyone else, accept him as he is. 4. Create or chat with him about a topic in common: you can talk about a topic that you all have together, if not, then cultivate a common interest in each other! For me, a truly effective communication is without expectations. When you have expectations for the answer, it will inevitably be accompanied by disappointment. In fact, we always want to fix the other half, thinking it’s the other party’s problem, but what we really need to do is to reflect ourselves, adjust our inner sense of insecurity and lack of confidence. When the consistent thinking pattern within the ego changes, you will find that the relationship between each other will become closer. The heart is closely connected. We will become best friends slowly we are willing to share our thoughts with each other, no matter sad or happy. The reason is because the other party will no longer judge, but listen and understand like a good friend. This is acceptance and love, no matter what who you are, I still love you. I hope that through my story sharing, you can get more inspiration, gifts of life, and start to create your happy and healthy relationship Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself ! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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19: A business without a blueprint will not last 8:21

4 years ago8:21

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Transcript for Ep19: Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you how to build our successful business blueprint using my 3P system. First of all, let me ask all of you here. Is there a place you want to go? Before you go to that place, will you check the map first or at least look for the route. Well with our advanced technology nowadays finding a location is a piece of cake. So, what is a successful career blueprint? It is the GPS that can lead you and your team to achieve success. When I was 21 years old, I owned 3 beauty salons. At the time, I didn't know anything about business blueprints. After starting one beauty salon after another, what should I do? What else can I do? I only know that as long as there is profit it is the right thing to do. As a result, after running my beauty salon for about 6 years, I ended it because of many factors as I mentioned in the previous Podcast. Through guidance of corporate courses and instructors, I later discovered the importance of blueprint for a company. During my journey as an entrepreneur, I realised even if the company has good revenue,there will still be an outflow of talent (人才流失). I believe that this is also a problem that many companies will face. Why do talents leave? One of the factor is because the company does not have a clear blueprint. So why is a business blueprint important? Because it is like a GPS in a journey. We must clearly know the destination, the way to go to the next station and how long it will take to reach the destination. Our employee are like crew members. When everyone is on the boat, they will follow the direction of the captain's helm. If, as the captain, you don’t know the destination, the route, or when you will arrive, I am sure all of them will jump off the ship. Therefore, what I want to share with you is how to draw a business blueprint, and how can it be applied to your business. Without a map, how can everyone go to a destination quickly and without error? Although there is no shortcut to success, but planning a good corporate blueprint can save everyone from going wrong! A basic blueprint needs to contain the following three Ps: 1. Purpose: Know the value of the enterprise clearly, what kind of value do you want to create for this society, and what kind of vision do you have? 2. Passion: Do you have an enthusiasm for this company? Is it your professional, something you love? If you do not like it or have passion for it, how can you lead it to success? 3.Profit Plan: Of course, doing business is to make money, so how can you achieve revenue? It must be planned, otherwise you are just doing it blindly, and in the end you will be left with nothing. In the Profit Plan, you must do the following four things: 1. Risk estimation 2. Source of income 3. Market research 4. Cost calculation of marketing plan In fact, doing the above four tasks in the Profit Plan is mainly to minimize risks and maximize benefits. In addition, in our corporate blueprint planning, there must be short-term goals and long-term goals. For example, set a goal for every season and estimate the budgets and plan marketing strategies, as short-term goals can be changed with the market or any external factors. As for the long-term goal, it can be a five-year plan. For example, in five years, what kind of vision and goal should the company achieve? And then how to gradually realize it through the marketing strategy of each quarter. I am very grateful of myself, as I realized the importance of blueprints because I went to classes and learnt about it. In fact, when starting up a business it is just like being a human being. How we treat life will determine how we deal with business. Therefore, we must plan the blueprint in order to have a clear and complete direction. There is a saying that all things appear in real life because they have appeared once in our minds. Therefore, whether you want to succeed in life, career, or business, you need to plan a blueprint for yourself. I hope that by sharing my story, will inspire you have the courage to start your business with a successful blueprint. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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18: The two most important women in my life. 11:27

4 years ago11:27

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Transcript for Ep18: Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story. There is a saying, behind every successful man there is a strong woman. Well, I am not a man. I am a female entrepreneur who pays equal attention to career and family. However, I have a important person in my life too. In fact it’s two ! What I want to share with you in this podcast today is the two most important women in my life. I believe that all of you who have been watching me since beginning probably know that I am the eldest granddaughter of my family. I grew up in a mansion where I lived with several families since I was a child, and after my grandfather passed away, my grandmother became responsible on making decisions on important issues. As the eldest granddaughter, I naturally took on the responsibility of taking care of the younger generations, so somehow I always felt that I am really close to my grandma. When I was a child, I slept with my her, so I always had the opportunity to hear her sharing her love story with my grandpa. It is often said that a Hakka woman has a hardworking, frugal, strong and straightforward character. I have to say my grandma is the representative. All the virtues of a Hakka woman can be found in her. Every day before dawn, she will be in the kitchen preparing breakfast for her sons, daughters and grandchildren. Whether it was the hot plain porridge, the fragrant of rice or noodles that fill the room, the delicious nasi lemak, these aroma and the view of her silently preparing breakfast for us will always hold a special place in my heart. My grandmother also sold snacks (junk food) and ice cream nearby schools to earn extra income. So she can help to lessen the burden of the family. I remember once, when I was playing with my brother, I fell and had a big bruise. It was red and swollen. She then made hot rice balls and rubbed it on my bruises. She was rubbing and scolding angrily. However, I knew she was hard on the outside and soft on the inside. I know she loved me deeply. Later, in her late days, she suffered from kidney disease and needed to go to the hospital for dialysis frequently. Because I'm still young, I didnt really understand what the adults say about this disease. I only know that my grandmother’s body had many holes. Doctors poked it to insert something to the body. However, when a wound is inflamed, she needs to poke another hole. The dialysis lasted for two to three years, but she never complained nor cried. I know that she was actually holding on because she didn't want to worry her children. She was strong and never gave up on her life. I think that is because she knows that as the spiritual pillar of the family, she needs to stay strong and continue to guard the family. Even though she has passed away for many years now whenever there are celebrations, I always think of her. Her reflection, who was always busy at home back then, the woman who gave her youth and love for the family. The second most important woman in my life is my mother of course. She was born in a poor family, so she did not have the opportunity to go to school. Because of this, she feels really insecure when it comes to wealth. However, she is lucky to have a husband who loves her and treated her like a princess. My mother had a difficult life. She would always complain and rant, but I often understood as she really sacrificed a lot for the family. Once, I told myself, when I grow up I do not want to be like my mother. But I regretted saying this as when I needed help later in life, my mother became the bravest and strongest person to protect me. She also gave me the greatest support and strength. She had also fall into depression once. I witnessed how she overcome the demons, and how she had gone through physical transformations and lose control of her emotions. I am very fortunate that I have been by her side. During that time, I deeply felt that being a woman is really tough but she was my role model. My mother was strong. Even though she was facing problems in her marriage, she still faced it bravely. From being a princess, she broke down but she stand up again and turned into a new leaf. This is just like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon. Although she is illiterate, she learns to sing songs with friends, started up micro business, and participate in different activities. The transformation of my mom really made me very pleased and proud at the same time. From my grandmother and mother, I saw that a woman's strength comes from the love for her children. As all they ever want is for their family to live in harmony and peace. A master of body, mind and soul once said that there is no sacrifices and conditions in love. In my opinion, both my mom and grandma had transformed from a “victim” role to living splendidly. They have nourished my life and made me a better me. From the two most important women in my life, I think what I have learned is: 1. Love is the answer to everything. It is often said that motherhood is strong. This sentence is so accurate as because of love, all the impossible becomes possible. 2. Life is so precious. Please cherish every day spent with your parents and elders. I hope my grandmother can live for one more day. Remember, filial piety will not wait for us. 3. Happiness is when you no longer compare and care about others. As I said before, there is no sacrifice in love. 4. A woman’s strength and persistence are the most beautiful and precious things in the world. If you are also strong in life, please remind yourself you are worthy of being loved too. 5. A person’s wealth does not determine the quality of life As long as you are willing to learn and diligently face the challenges of life, you will be the best version of yourself. All in all, the most important person in your life may be anyone. Maybe it may be your mother-in law. If there is any unhappiness or mis understanding moments between you and your mother in law, remember what I shared earlier every mother just hope that their child can live in harmony. Maybe It’s just that they have different ways of expressing it but all love are equal. All of their philosophy of life is worthy for us to learn from. Thank you to all the mothers in the world, the changes , the sacrifices and improvements you have made. I hope that by sharing my story, will inspire you have the courage get a change and create abundance life. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/ I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself!…

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17: How should women choose between their family and career? 9:40

4 years ago9:40

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Transcript for Ep17: Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story. Does choosing career means sacrificing your family? Or is it the other way round? I believe this is a problem for many professional women. Can you achieve a balance between career and family? Whenever you encounter multiple-choice questions like this, it is like "If your mom and your other half fall into the water. Who will you save? Today, I want to share with you how I balanced both sides through my recent experience. I hope I can give a new inspiration to women entrepreneurs, especially those with children. In July 2020, I had to make decisions to choose between work and my family. As my second daughter Miyumi, had been feverish for a week. When my husband and I were about to attend a very important business gathering, Miyumi started to have a high fever that day. Since it was impossible to cancel the pre-booked meeting, my eldest daughter Miyaki was later responsible for taking her sister into the hospital for examination. My husband and I went to the appointment with a heavy heart to complete our business. After an examination, Miyaki told us that Miyumi must stay in the hospital for observation to determine if she has dengue. When I was talking on the phone with Miyaki, I was really emotional. I was stuck because of work, and my child is still in the hospital without knowing the status of the test. These words started to pop into my mind: "Why am I a useless and irresponsible mother?" Self condemnation and guilt filled my mind. After my husband and I finished our work, we rushed to the hospital to visit our daughter. When we reached, our girls were looking at us and gave us sweet smiles. They have taken care of everything handled by themselves. They even cared about how our meeting went if it was smooth. Finally, as an older sister,Miyaki asked to stay with her younger sister, and insisted us to go home and rest after a busy day. Their maturity and sensibility made me very pleased and moved. I believe that many women, especially those who are outstanding in their careers, tend to be blamed when family issues occur and you can’t handle it due to your work. This incident,reminded me of a sentence that a friend once shared with me. This friend often goes abroad to help children from poor families. Once she was fortunate enough to ask the Dalai Lama: "If I am taking care of other people's children, who will take care of my children?" Then Dalai Lama replied: "If you help others take care of their children, then God will definitely send someone to take care of your children." I told myself, I believe that God has given me so much talent to help more people, more families, and make my life unique. Therefore, I believe that God will send angels to take care of my children. In this matter, what I learned deeply is that when things happen, the result will become depends entirely on our thoughts. When all we see are demons, we live in hell; but if all we choose to see are angels, we live in heaven. We can learn how to transform from entanglement, guilt and self-blame mentality into gratitude and powerful blessings. Secondly, when something happens, there must be a reason for it, and we must learn to accept it. It may not necessarily be a bad thing, but depends on how we label it. Thirdly, learn how to see perfections from imperfections. In fact, business women and corporate women are just an identity. It is just a title, without any particularity. As long as you are the same as other women, you have a sense of peace, learn to find balance, and don't have to pretend to be anything. Learning to accept ourselves is also a beginning. When facing imperfections, we don't need to blame ourselves, see imperfections, and learn from our mistakes. This will allow us to grow into better leaders, mothers and wives. Children always learn from how their parents treat others. I always believe that my children are so sensible and mature. I believe that they understand we do our best in careers to bring happiness and prosperity to our family. When faced with an incident, we don’t have to be victims. Since we have chosen to be a entrepreneur, we can arrange our time and achieve a balance between career and family. Even if the process cannot be perfect, we can learn from it and improve ourselves. I hope that by sharing my story, will inspire you to have the courage to change and create an abundant life. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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16: Your beliefs and thoughts will determine your destiny 9:45

4 years ago9:45

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Transcript for Ep 16: Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story and the power of leader mindset. Do you believe in destiny? I believe you have also heard such words ： "This is my destiny, I have to accept my fate..." and so on. But does destiny really determine our life? Or can we change our destiny and decide what kind of life we want to live in? In fact, it is not difficult to change your destiny. Firstly change your belief and thinking. The theme I want to share with you today is how our beliefs can change our destiny. In fact, our belief thinking is cultivated before everyone knows it from an invisible belief thinking to a mentality, and finally forming our habits, and then creating our destiny. All of this is an automatic model, formed unconsciously. For example, when I was young, I encountered criticism and it traumatised me as I grew up: "I felt that I was useless and that nobody loved or respected me." Well, as we grow up, when we encounter problems we will naturally recall the past memories , and then our minds will remind us of the trauma we suffered. This will become a cycle. If we are not aware of it and do not change this habit in time, we will be encountering such incidents repeatedly, and living in the role of a victim unconsciously. Let me give you another example. When we were young, elders and our parents will often say that : “It’s difficult to earn money. It is really hard to make a living and that you have to work harder to have a better life.” Slowly these words will be in our minds. When we think of growing up, we will feel we have to work hard so that we can be successful. As money never comes easily. Faith creates thinking and thinking creates reality. As a result, many people try harder and harder yet nothing is changing. However, when you discover that all this while you were living under the trauma, you will soon crave to change. Perhaps when we are starting to change, the trauma is still there. However as we adapt to the changes we made, it will turn into a habit. We no longer put ourselves in a victimized situation, and start to determine our fate by ourselves. After going through the process of rewriting fate, you will find that we are happy. Because we have the opportunity to learn and be aware, and not living in the opinions of others. From then on, we know how to accept our true self. To be the master of our life, and be responsible towards ourselves. In addition, don’t blame your parents or elders for influencing such belief and thinking on you. After all, they were not as fortunate as us to have an opportunity to learn like what we are learning at the moment. They are just trying their best to share with us what they have learned from the previous generation and also with their experiences. We cannot choose to be born, but we can choose how to live. To rewrite our destiny has nothing to do with others. It all depends on your wish. For now, I bet most of you are lost as you do not know where to start. Am I right? Well, You can start from the following three steps. 1. Observe your own consistent thinking pattern. Every time the same incident occurs, try to observe your own thinking, try and recall why this thinking constantly appears. When did this start? 2. Think differently. When you are aware of your usual thinking mode Firstly, You can try to give different reactions to your thinking or You can try to transform your usual thinking mode. Don't be afraid of change and let yourself embrace the endless possibilities. 3. Practise makes perfect It takes at least 21 days to develop a new habit. Remember that when you start to transform your belief, you will be very uncomfortable, and you will also have self-doubt and contradictions. However, you need constant practice to develop a new belief and thinking. So, a new life will begin. Belief changes thinking, thinking changes mentality, mentality changes action, action changes habit, habit changes character, and character changes destiny. To change destiny, first establish faith! I have also experienced a change from a habitual belief thinking mode. I have learned through a lot of studies, such as courses or books, why I have developed such belief thinking unconsciously, and realized that it was all due to the influence from my native family. I hope that by sharing my story, will inspire you have the courage get a change and create abundance life. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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15: The power of Gratitude 10:15

4 years ago10:15

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Transcript for Ep 15 Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story and the power of Gratitude. The word gratitude often appears in our daily conversations, but do we really understand the meaning of this term? The theme I want to share with you today is related to the word gratitude. Have you heard of the power of gratitude? I remember once, I went to a very special physical and mental healing course. Halfway through the 2 days and 1 night course, the teacher told us that there was good news to share with us. What was the good news? We are all going to fast. Frankly speaking, when the teacher said this, I thought he was joking. However, we really had no dinner. I remember, I felt like I was starving to death. We didn’t had breakfast the other day but I didn’t feel much as my body is slowly adapting it . Then, For lunch, we were only given a small portion of salad. I remember there were two slices of lettuce, half an egg, two slices of cucumber and cherry tomatoes. By the way, there are only 3 to 5 drops of sesame sauce. The teacher made a request that we must finish the salad at 45 minutes. We should not eat it lesser or more than 45 minutes. I was curious, why? Later, I discovered that the teacher wanted to use a fasting and eating mode to let us realize what it means to be living at the moment. Taste and feel every ingredient in the salad, the nourishment that it brings to us. Through the Hegen activity, the teacher's intention is profound. He makes us understand that every bit of life seems to be taken for granted, but it is actually a blessing. Regardless of the feelings in the body or in the heart, we have experienced many times that we are living with our minds and not feeling life with our hearts. At that moment, I deeply realized that being grateful for every present experience is a very happy and abundant process. In addition, when I was travelling in Nepal. My husband and I went hiking on a mountain. Throughout the journey I saw many locals. Although they may be living a simple life but they are genuine. All of them have pure and compassionate smiles on their faces, which made me felt life is beautiful if you cherish it. Even though it consumes a lot of energy during the journey, our diet is very simple. There weren’t any excess thoughts about food. We ate to gain energy so we can continue the journey. We had faced many difficulties and challenges. For me, as I had no experience in mountaineering at all, the journey of climbing is very difficult, but every time I encountered a difficulty, when I overcome it, it reminds me of me encountering difficulties in life. Passing through the mountain is difficult as every section of the road is rugged and difficult, there will always be an exit, and the only way to reach the exit is to persist. After the ten-days and nine-nights climbing journey, when I returned to the hotel, I thought a bit and found out from the bottom of my heart that there are many things in life that we are grateful for. And because of the power of gratitude, I succeeded in bringing myself down the mountain. Edit the first sentence These were just two of the things that made me deeply appreciate the meaning of gratitude. When facing life with gratitude, we will find that things will be different. Next, everyone can try to follow my approach and learn to be a person who knows how to live a grateful life and become a master of the power of gratitude. 1. Learn to be grateful for everything in life: I am grateful for my body, I am grateful for the love that God has given me, I am grateful for everything I say, smell, and hear, and I am grateful for everything that comes to me. 2. Develop gratitude into a habit: I think gratitude is a habit. When you slowly train yourself to develop this habit, everything you see will start from this "grateful" habit. 3. Learn to cherish every moment: Thanksgiving not only makes our lives more happy, but also allows us to cherish every moment, and happiness becomes much simpler. Whether things are good or bad, when things happen to us, there must be a reason for it. Try to be grateful for the incident, because this is an opportunity for us to see the truth of life and make us a better version of ourselves. Have you discovered that as we grew up, we only looked at the "black spots" of our life? Seeing only what we did not have, and only what we were missing. In fact, we are not that bad, but we never really cherish what we have. When you learn to be grateful, you will naturally get the wisdom and power of gratitude. Try it, you will be surprised that this does not require any magic or power, all you have to do is start to learn how to be grateful. I hope that by sharing my story, will inspire you have the courage get a change and create abundance life. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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14: How to have a balanced life? 12:05

4 years ago12:05

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Transcript for Ep14 Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story. Let me ask you a question. Do you think it is easy to be a woman? From learning the duties of a woman (three obediences and five virtues ) and assisting our husband to bring up our children. Moreover, we still need to bear children and juggle both our careers and family. It’s really not easy to even thinking about it. Am I right? Today, what I want to share with you is "How to be a woman who can balance both family and career.” A woman who can achieve balance and harmony in her life, career, family, body and mind. I am a female entrepreneur. Apart from being an investor in an education center, I am also engaged in real estate business. At the same time, I am also the mother of four children, and I work hard to have a happy family and to succeed in my career too. At this moment, you may think that I must be extremely lucky to excel in life. Actually, I also had an Unbalanced life. I used to juggle in between my career, family, physical and mental conditions. I also spent a lot of time learning how to balance myself in life, and so I concluded that in order to balance in life, we must first know how to love ourselves. I am the only daughter in my family, I have an older brother and two younger brothers. When I was young, I often heard my father telling his friends “I have three sons and a daughter. My daughter is smart, independent, and strong. It's a pity that she is a female." Although it was my father’s innermost feelings, for me I often felt that : "Just because I am not a son, so no matter how good I am, I can’t make my father proud. This led me to become very masculine since young, and I constantly want to prove that women are as powerful as men. For example, girls can also be leaders, and girls can also be bosses! Because I want my father to see that although I am a girl, I can be excellent, and I want his approval. Gradually as I was growing up, such desire formed my later personality and style of behavior. As long as it can make me improve, whether it was English courses, women's business courses, etc., I will go there. Because to become a leader, you must have the traits / characteristics that a leader should have! This is what I think. Even as a woman, if we have the ability to satisfy our own desires and meet the needs and wishes of our family, I will feel very proud and happy for this. The fact is, I didn't know that I was slowly developing the habit of competing with my peers in private, always wanting to be the champion and this habit made me suffer a lot. I think life is really amazing. It will always let us go through different events to test whether we really want to be who we think we should be. For example, I wanted to be a leader since I was young, but when I become a very good leader, I will become overconfident and arrogant. Later, I discover that this is an unbalanced phase of life! With the experience in society and the guidance of the physical and mental healing courses, I finally understand the wisdom of balance. When I am at work, I will show my masculine side more and give full play to my charisma. But when I return home, I will put down my masculine side and show my feminine side. For me, a woman is born to know how to balance yin and yang so that her life, career, family, and health can be harmonious, and she can play the role of a leader and mother. In the past, due to the preference for sons, women became stronger and more independent. The concept of the past has become outdated, and it has also led to many marriage failures or life imbalances, and even single-parent families. However, what I want to share with you is that the era of valuing the male child only, has passed, and it is now an era of equality between men and women. Nowadays, society can understand better about the responsibilities that women bear, and starts to respect them more. Women have also learned to be independent, and have a stand for who they are. Here are 3 three main points I want to share with you: 1. Learn more ! Learn how to know and understand yourself, understand what you love, and stop grieving yourself to live happily in order to fulfill others, and stop trying to please others blindly. We must understand that we can never satisfy everyone. Only a woman who knows how to love herself can know how to love others, and can also feel how to accept and embrace the love from others. 2. Secondly, you must learn to control your emotions. Women are born to be particularly emotional. often because of our emotions we tend to waste our time and walk the wrong paths. So, I always advise my female friends around me to be an Emotional manager. Only by managing your emotions can you manage your life well. Especially women who are starting a business, don't take their emotions home, because our husband and children are not our subordinates- staff , they are our family. We should take up the role as a wife and mother but not the CEO. Corporate women have different identities, so they must learn how to manage their emotions and make good use of them. This is the ability of a successful business woman. 3. A woman’s greatest wealth is to invest in herself. Constantly investing in yourself and making yourself more outstanding. The purpose is to influence and help more people around you. Don’t just pay out for your family and the company blindly, you must know how to add value to yourself. Allowing you to face every aspect of life with strength. Investing in yourself will definitely give you the most abundant return. In this era, we should learn to be a woman who is all-round, not only able to talk, but also to do things and create value. Starting today, learn how to balance family affection, friendship, love, and money, enjoy this perfect and harmonious life state, and be a happy and loving woman. I hope that by sharing my story will inspire you to have the courage to change and create an abundant life. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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13: The power of change 9:41

4 years ago9:41

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Transcript for Ep13 Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story and the power of change Speaking of change, what come to your mind? To change is not to use the old methods; to change is to jump out of the comfort zone; to change is to reach unpredictable results... etc. Some people are afraid of change. Do you know why? I think there are three main reasons, because we think: 1- To change is to admit that the current situation is not good 2- To change is to abandon the old way 3- To change is to face unpredictable results Therefore, most people think that change is uncomfortable and painful. A lot of people wants good results after the change, but do not want to experience the process of change, or even take the first step. If so, you will never change. Today, the theme I want to share with you is "The Power of Change: From Your Choice" There is a saying like this, the world's richest man, Microsoft co-founder Bill Gates said: "IF YOU WERE BORN POOR, IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. BUT IF YOU DIE POOR, IT'S YOUR FAULT." If you were born in poverty, it is not your fault; but if you die in poverty, it is your fault. " Actually, what does this show? We cannot choose to be born or change which family we are born in, but we can change our destiny and fate. Try to look at the people you know, the surrounding people, or celebrities, and see those who reversed their fate. What have they actually done? They choose to change, they are not afraid of changing, they want to change! Speaking of myself, my education is not high, and I am not born in a wealthy family, but I am willing to change. I am willing to endure the discomfort, unknown and challenges brought about by the change process, because I choose to live a better life, so I have everything now. I used to be a very stubborn and persistent person, and also I care about my face a lot. So, often when someone gives me a tells me something is wrong, feedback, my first reaction is why these people want me to change? Do you think I am not doing well enough? Do you think I did something wrong? To me, it was never my fault, it was always about other. So but I calmed down and observe his my emotions. Is it because others want me to change, or is it because I don’t want to change? Aha! Later, I discovered this problem myself. In fact, the people who came to tell me what was bad and where we I could improve, were great reminders for me and my guidance. If you are unwilling to change, no matter how many people tell us, we will not get better, and it will also cause these guidance. nobles to gradually become lesser and slowly leave us. Change starts from the moment you see it, and then you choose the result you want. I used to be a direct person. I didn't know how to be flexible. This was very bad, because as an entrepreneur, good personal connections are very important. Later, I decided to change, put "I" aside, listen and appropriately accept other people's opinions, and see my blind spots. Because I am willing to change, I choose to have different results, so in a short period of time, my interpersonal relationship and performance have been better, and because of such changes, I have accumulated a lot on my way to success, and guardian partners who helped me throughout the way. After listening to the sharing above, I believe that you at this moment want to change, to see a new and better you, right! Let me share with you the following 3 powers to help you change: 1. See, accept, believe: First of all, you must allow yourself to accept who you are now. Then think of the person you admire and picture yourself as it. Remember that it is the you you want to be, not the you that others expect. 2. Breakthrough Be brave to jump out of your comfort zone, overcome your fear of change and encounter the unknown, and do what you have not done before. 3. Keep practicing Psychologists have said that if we repeat the same thing for more than 21 days, we will develop a habit. Start with the small changes around you, let yourself be used to change, no longer be afraid of change, and feel the good experience after the change. Maybe you only go to the same restaurant for dinner, change to another restaurant, maybe you always walk the same way home, change another way then, and usually people give you something, you say no, try saying thank you. You will find that in your life, the power of change has begun to happen! Remember, life is a choice, and change is also a choice. Focus on the results you will get after the change, not the pain in the process of our change. So tell me do you want to change? I hope that by sharing my story, will inspire you have the courage get a change and create abundance life. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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12: Lead by example 9:40

4 years ago9:40

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Transcript for Ep12 Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you about parenting Don’t just tell your children not to play with mobile phones. There goes a Japanese saying, “Children grow up looking at their parents’ reflection.” In fact, this sentence expresses the true meaning of education. As a business woman, I am always busy with work and career. When I come home, I am usually busy with house work. As a result, I leave my child’s education to their teachers or nanny. However, one must know that schoolwork, knowledge and skills can be handed over to others. However, it is the responsibility of parents to cultivate our child’s thinking and beliefs. Your words and deeds are an example for children to learn from. How can a mother who likes to slide her mobile phone brings up a child who loves to read? The theme topic I want to share with you today is, "Example is better than precept: Don't just tell children not to play mobile phones". Lead by example There was one night when my husband, two daughters and I were chatting together. While chatting, we asked our daughters what kind of boyfriends they want when they grow up. My eldest daughter’s answer shocked us, "Well~ he has to be good at singing and also loves to play sports," she told us. "Also ! He has to be a smoker." After hearing this sentence, my husband and I were really frightened! We immediately said, “Girl, why do you want a boyfriend who smokes?!" "Because I want to find a boyfriend like my daddy, he can sing, love sports, and smoke." My husband and I looked at each other unanimously, and deeply understood that children will treat their parents as idols and learning example. Whether it is good or bad, they will accept everything. Let me share a short story about me and my second daughter, Miyumi. I do not remember exactly when but I found that children learn all kinds of life skills and communication methods through their parents. I remember once, Miyumi told me that her school is about to have a performance, and the students had disagreements during the rehearsal practice. What surprised me was that she actually knew how to coordinate and integrate the students, and finally everyone worked together as a team to complete the rehearsal and performance. I am curious where did Miyumi learn it? "I see how you and daddy leads your team and I learned it too. I applied the method on my friends ! I asked everyone to rehearse with the same goal, and they performed perfectly on stage." I discovered that children look up to the way we deal with people, whether in life or work, and they will learned apply it to their own lives. Another time, Miyumi went to practice as a tuition teacher. I was surprised as I saw my reflection in her. Whether it was her patience and concern for children, or the principle of time concept, the attitude of being serious about work and enjoying it , are all reflecting me. It was really surprising and I felt so proud. From children's behavior, I discovered that leading by example is surely better than setting rules. As they have a pure mind just like a sponge. Whatever is given will be absorbed and they will start to act the same way. For educating our children in life, I think the following three are the key factors which are very important: 1. Do as you promised，promise only if you can do. For example, my eldest daughter told me she wants a boyfriend who smokes because my husband is a smoker. If we don’t want our daughter to have a boyfriend who smokes, my husband have to quit smoking. If we ask her to read more books and avoid playing with mobile phones all the time, we as parents should start picking up books and read them too. Consistency of words and deeds is the most basic example of teaching. 2. Giving children the correct mindset. Knowledge can be taught by teachers, but children’s behaviour depends on their parents teaching. Therefore, it is necessary to in still the correct thinking and life philosophy in children frequently. When they are found to have deviations in their mind, they must be guided immediately. As the saying goes, “Stamp out the root of trouble.” It applies to the education of children too. To teach them and apply the right mindset since young. 3. One must be a dragon for their child to be one. Many parents hope that their children will become a successful wealthy person in the future. To become a leader, millionaire and etc. While we have high hopes on our children, reflect ourselves. Are we improving and still learning to become a better person? Remember, you are the idol and learning example of your children. When we realise our children’s behavioral traits, whether it was their strengths or weaknesses, they are actually reflecting the traits of their parents. Children are mirror of their parents, which is why children are known to be the teachers of their parents. If you want to cultivate and bring up a good child, please excel harder in life. As we will always be someone they look up to I hope that by sharing my story, will inspire you have happy and healthy parenting. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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11: My children are the best teachers in my life. 11:08

4 years ago11:08

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Transcript for Ep11 Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you about parenting and what did I learned from my children. Perhaps, you have heard the saying "Children are the best teachers for their parents"? How could it be possible? Shouldn’t it be "Parents are the best teachers for children.”? We changed their diapers, look after them since they were born and woke up at midnight everyday to breastfeed. We even are their drivers as, we had to send them to schools, tutions and etc. Moreover, we also accompanied them to practice dictation do school work and satisfy their wishes. How can they be our teachers? Today, I want to share with all of you why, "Children are the best teacher in my life.” I am a mother of four, two daughters and two son. The eldest daughter is 17 years old, the second daughter is 16 years old, the eldest son is 15 years old, and the youngest son is 6 years old. My eldest daughter’s name is Miyaki, a very cute japanese name right? Im sure all of you think this way too: As the eldest sister, Miyaki should help to take care of the other three younger siblings. Well, I used to think like this so too. There was one time when Miyaki was about 10 years old! She told me that she had been depressed for a long time. She said, "Mummy, I actually hated when you tell me: You are the eldest sister, you should look after your siblings... Or: You are the eldest sister, you should be like this or that...... In this case, If I am not the eldest sister, that would be so great. At the beginning, I didn’t quite understand what Miyaki meant. As she is the eldest shouldn’t she take care and show by example for her younger siblings? What’s the problem? Later, when I think back about Miyaki’s heartfelt thoughts, I understood her feelings and felt the feelings I once had. I still remember till this day, as Miyaki once said to me grievedly: sadly: "Mommy, do you know actually I don't want to be the eldest sister, but I was born as the eldest sister, I have no choice. Well, I am the eldest sister, but it is also my first time to approach different things in life. When I have to face it first, I am afraid and sometimes I don’t dare to try it. However, just because I am the "big sister", I "should" do it, "should" understand, "should" " be brave. She asked me: Mommy, why did you make me to become the eldest sister? When Miyaki finished saying this sentence, I realised something. How can I use the education methods of the previous generation on my children? Since I was a child, I have been the eldest granddaughter of my family, so I was also burdened with the "should" and "expectations" of the my family since I were was a child. When I was young, I had the same feelings as her. However, I did not realize that I subconsciously placed the expectations of my parents and elders on my eldest daughter. Just as I was thinking about the mistakes I made, Miyaki told me “Mommy, I know I am the eldest sister, but I am also just a 10-year-old child. Just because I am the eldest sister, I have to devote more and work harder so I satisfy your expectations and receive love from daddy and mommy. So sometimes I really don’t like being the big sister." After listening to these words, I looked at Miyaki’s innocent aggrieved face and gave her a teddy hug. Baby I'm sorry. During my eldest daughter's sincere confession, I deeply realized as parents we must think twice before we say to our child. We must use wisdom to teach our children, rather than teach them based on our past "experiences." child. In educating children, there is neither a no “should" nor or "should not". What we want to give our children is confidence and the ability for them to be completely themselves, rather than asking them to do as we expected. It's not about using "identity" to make them bear heavy shackles responsibilities since they were young, so that they will also carry them when they grow up. Soon, they will know how to differentiate tell good or bad and are able to think wisely. Through Miyaki , I think there are three things that parents should learn: 1.Learn from your children If it wasn’t my eldest daughter, I would not have seen myself subconsciously burdened with these thinking patterns in my career and family: Because I am a leader, I should do more to be recognized and be a responsible person. I have always felt that I am not good enough and I subconsciously requested my eldest daughter to reach my expectations too. Miyaki expresses her feelings bravely and sincerely, without her I wouldn’t notice my problem and started to be aware. I discovered that, most of my actions were based on my childhood self-disidentification experiences and inner emotions. 2.Learn to listen attentively For people like me who are always busy with work and etc may fail to listen to their children. Sometimes, if the child is speaking from his heart, and his parents are listening carefully, maybe their future will be different. When your children comes to talk to you, do not slide your phone or look at the computer screen and just respond to them with "hmm okay.” If you are buried with work at that moment, tell your child that you want to listen to them attentively, and will meet them in a while.” I believe that your child will be very happy to share it with you. 3. Let them be themselves. As we are parents and are already adults, we may accidentally let our children to learn and live according to our demand. Children are still children. Why should we make them look like adults? We should learn to look at things from the vision of children, and you will find that it is not that they aren’t Are behaving badly or ignorant, but that we are looking at them in and adult’s vision and forcing them to grow up faster. Well goes on an English proverb, As the saying goes, “Live and learn.” This is not only applied in gaining new knowledge, but also applies to how to be a parent and a leader. As parents, we should be extremely fortunate to have children in our lives as teachers for us, so that we can see the world with a purer perspective and face life with a completely different vision. The purity and simplicity of a child is definitely a mirror for parents. So, mommies let’s learn from our children! I hope that by sharing my story, will inspire you to have happy and healthy parenting. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself ! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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10: I have a child with learning disability. 11:29

4 years ago11:29

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Transcript for Ep10 Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you how I manage with my child with learning disability In our lives, there are always people and things that happen or come unexpectedly, some will leave us in pain, some will leave us with love, but in the end they will make us become who we are today. I always think that it's a gift from God. Today, the topic I want to share with you is "I have a child with learning disabilities". Do you remember the last topic I shared with you? In my previous episode, I shared the story of Marco’s birth. Marco was a child with a learning disability since young. The reason was when he was born, he had seizures and doctors were unable to find out the reason why. He had to use morphine for three months as treatment. As a mother, I have made the worst plans for my child’s growth, but I have tried my best to minimize it. I have given my patience and focus to accompany him through this journey. I never thought about being a housewife. In order for Marco to grow up and learn just as other children, I do my best to learn. Whether it is children’s physical and mental growth, brain development, education, etc., I learn. When he was learning to crawl, I crawled with him. Through games, he crawled more than ordinary children. I also learned massage for children and so on. I tried to do this to reflexively stimulate his brain development. When Marco was three years old, I let him learn ballet. Because, in the part of body control, ballet will help stimulate and develop his brain power. He was the only boy in the class. Faced with the puzzled eyes of other mothers, I chose to ignore it, because everything is based on Marco's needs as the priority. Therefore, from 1 to 6 years old, Marco is basically as healthy and lively as other children, but he has problems with language delay and slow learning. No one knows my son's situation better than me, so I often observe his daily language and study about child development. For example, blowing candles to exercise his oral strength, repeat the pronunciation of words to strengthen his memory of related words, and so on. When he started going to kindergarten at the age of five, I also faced a great challenge. One is to appease Marco's discomfort, and the other is that the teachers at the time did not understand his learning disabilities. Although, I have tried my best to let the teacher understand his situation. However, Marco is always inevitably being compared to his two excellent sisters by the teacher. In addition, Marco is also lack of communication skills. I am also worried about Marco's self-confidence and mental health. "YUKI, take your son to have some eye tests, to test his tongue, to test..." It felt like my son was treated as a special child. At that moment, I was very sad and unwilling. Actually after Marco study, he can understand but then he can't remember it. He once told me, “Mummy, I tried to read and recite very hard, I really did but then I just can’t remember it." I can understand his pain and I am sad to hear this. If I was a mother who was inconsiderate and did not understand her son's situation, or perhaps even scolded him, he would only become even less confident. In fact, I have always train Marco not on the problem of learning disabilities, but to cultivate his self-confidence. Until I found a learning center for brainpower and reading development, Marco made progress in just two months. He also changed from crying saying I don’t want to go to class to I am happy to study attitude. At that time I had to send my children to the learning center while working, and so I decided to stepped go into the field of education. In the beginning we only had one learning centre that time but more than a dozen were developed in just half a year. I hope I have the opportunity to share with you next time. Now Marco has grown up healthily, and he is also attending classes and studying like everyone. I am very grateful that I devoted 100% of my concentration to take care of him and accompany him wholeheartedly. For our children, we will discover the patience and learning attitude that we have never had before. For children with learning disabilities, their mother's understanding and companionship are the greatest encouragement and confidence in their growth stages. You will find that in the process of learning with them, we actually grow with them. If you are a mother who is working and you have children who need special care at home, perhaps the following three views I share can give you some inspiration: 1. Be patient In fact, patience does not just mean staying with your child while studying. The so-called patience is that no one knows how long this journey will take, but is willing to wait patiently and fully believe that the child will do his best to work hard and time will prove it to you. Trust me, it will definitely be the best answer. 2. Contribute This journey is definitely not going to be easy. For the sake of children, we are willing to let go of our career ideals, future plans, time, thoughts, and even youth. However, all of this is done willingly, without any grievances or complaints. Just like I never thought about being a full-time mother, but in order for my son to grow up happily, I chose to focus on my family and his growth, all of which are because of love. 3. Learn When raising children with learning disabilities, we must cut off all previous educational cognitions perception. Even the opinions given by doctors and experts may not be the most appropriate. Because they can only give diagnosis and advice based on their first time meeting your child. However, it is us who get along with our children day and night, and we will know which way is most suitable for our children. Keep learning to understand your children's situation, and learn how to be their parents, playmates, and teachers. In the end, you will find that we grow up together with them In fact, as I said in the previous topic, everything that happens in our life is the best arrangement. Because I accept that my son may be different from other children in his growth, I plan the worst for him, but at the same time I make the best arrangements. I am very grateful that I have seen my unprecedented unleashed potential as I grow up with Marco. Although it was difficult, but the most important thing is that now he is growing up healthily and safely, and all of this is worth it. I hope that by sharing my story, will inspire you be a strong mommy and have happy ,healthy parenting. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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9: Money is not everything 12:16

4 years ago12:16

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Transcript for Ep 9 Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story and why money is not everything From starting up my very first beauty salon, to getting married and having children, in the eyes of others, I have a triumphant Successful life. Before this incident happened, I always felt that as long as I was rich, everything will be under my control. I have a happy family with two daughters and two sons. Marco is my third child. It was not until Marco was born that changed my view on money and life. The theme I want to share with you today is: "Money is not everything.” I will always remember that day, the 28th day after my third birth, when I was still in confinement. The aunty who helped babysit my child showed me my son and said, "Yuki, look, I don’t know what happened to your son..." I saw that Marco's whole body turned purple and black, and his tiny body was constantly twitching intensely. Apart from anything else, I immediately took Marco to the emergency room of the specialist hospital, but the doctor was afraid to accept him. Then, I (hurried ) to another specialist hospital, and several specialist doctors surrounded my son for first aid. Seeing his tiny body, slowly turning purple and then blue, and then returning to normal, my heart calmed down. For the first time, I realised that having money may not solve the problem, even at the juncture cross roads of life. The next day, the doctor said that Marco should be transferred to the ICU, and I asked, "Why does he need to enter ICU? Isn't that for severely serious ly ill people who need to be admitted?Isn't my son all right now?" The doctor told me, "You child may seem alright without problems now but he is in danger. Generally, the cause of the child’s convulsions is high fever, but your son does not have these symptoms. We need to check on him with various examinations. To find out why as if this continues, it will affect his subsequent brain development." In addition to worrying, I still worry about my son’s health and money, because I don’t know how long this battle will take. It costs RM1000 to stay in the ICU for one night. When family members and relatives around me heard about it, there were many opinions. Some asked me to transfer my son to another hospital, some were concerned if I ate something wrong during pregnancy and etc. I didn’t care much as I knew I would not transfer my son to other hospitals or change doctors. My son nearly died. was rescued from the jaws of death. I will never let him take any risks unless I am near to bankruptcy. Marco stayed in the ICU for a total of two weeks before transferring to the Pre ICU. During this period, he had almost done all the physical examinations, even the extraction of bone marrow. However, the reason was still unable to detect. In order to let Marco recover as soon as possible, I started praying to God and worship Buddha even when I’m not religious. I just wanted him to recover... This was the second time I felt that money wasn’t everything. As even if I spend all my savings, Marco still might not be saved. In order to avoid him from convulsing, the doctor injected morphine to his brain. From hospitalization to discharge, Marco took morphine for 3 months. The side effect of morphine is that it may lead him to become a demented child. I felt pain seeing him undergoing all of this, so I decided to stop the drug. Such a decision wasn’t made suddenly. I have consulted an expert in pediatric brain expert in Malaysia, and her answer to me is that after Marco has done all the checks, everything is normal and healthy. The only reason for his convulsions is that any current advanced medical technology cannot be verified yet. She said: If you believe in Jesus, you should pray to Jesus, and if you believe in Guanyin, you should pray to her. This is also the only thing you can do. After some people have seizures, they may have (intermittent) seizures. However, after some people have seizures, they will never have a seizure in their life. I hope Marco is the latter. After listening to her, I really felt helpless. In other words, there is no cure for my son because no one can find the cause. This was the third time, I totally believed that money is not everything, and life is so fragile. I really believe that this is a gift from God, even though I almost lost my son. However, because of this, I saw that money is not everything and life is so fragile. Nevertheless, we must believe in all the best arrangements in life, as long as we accept and try, we will always see the light and hope of life. If This it is for mothers and facing my past experience, here are three suggestions that you may refer to: 1. Accept it！ Yes, accept the arrangement given by life, face the reality, do the greatest mental building, and tide over this difficulty with your child. If at that time, I choose to blame myself and be depressed, it will not change any facts. When you accept it, you will naturally have the courage to face it. 2. Don't give up Don't, don't, don't give up. Every time I see other children and mothers in the hospital, my heart really hurts. I don't want my children to be in this path in the future. When I asked all the doctors, specialties, the most advanced scientist, there was still no answer given. I almost broke down. I questioned myself constantly about what can I do for my son? As a mother, I will definitely make the most suitable decisions and arrangements for him. I appreciate the persistence I had in the past. Although life is fragile, it can be so tough and beautiful. 3. Take care of yourself. If a child is sick at home, this will be a long-term physical and mental battle. As a mother, you must take care of your physical and mental health. At that time, I ran around the hospital, temple, and home. I was really exhausted but I could only continue doing it. Moms, children need your continuous company in the future, so taking care of yourself is giving your children the greatest support and wealth. Today, Marco is very healthy and everything is fine. It was only at the beginning that he was slow in learning and had learning disabilities because of the convulsions in his childhood and the side effect of morphine. Afterwards, with much effort from Marco and I, this problem had overcome finally. We overcame this problem. In the following topic, I will share with you stories about children with learning disabilities. I hope that through my story sharing, you can get more inspiration and gifts of life. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn and the links will be in the show notes. I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself ! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yukimiyaki.me/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yukimiyaki.me/…

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8: How to build better relationships 9:36

4 years ago9:36