238 - Live Parts Work Session Using Jill as the Client with Sarah Failla

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Jill is happy to welcome listeners back for the second part of her conversation with trauma-informed master coach Sarah Failla! (If you missed last week’s episode, you can still go ahead and listen to this one now and go back and listen to part 1 later.) In the first part, Jill and Sarah had a fascinating conversation filled with twists and surprises, and they talked about topics such as faith, personal growth, and why Sarah ultimately left organized religion.

Sarah and Jill also discussed internal family systems, also known as parts work, which they continue to talk about in this part. They explore parts work in depth and even explore Jill’s own parts as an example of what Sarah’s process looks like.

Their conversation highlights how understanding these inner parts can lead to profound personal growth and healing, with Sarah and Jill engaging in a revealing exploration of Jill's own parts, including a protective "monster" and a vulnerable inner child, uncovering how these aspects have influenced her choices and self-perception. They discuss the importance of acknowledging and integrating these parts to move beyond past traumas and current challenges.

Listen in to gain a deeper understanding of how parts work can offer new perspectives on personal development and emotional healing. Whether you're new to parts work or looking to deepen your practice, this discussion offers valuable insights and practical examples!

Show Notes:

[03:25] - What is parts work? [04:54] - Jill identifies some of her own parts. [07:18] - Hear how Sarah recognized that past experiences, like feeling controlled as a child, can influence present behavior. [09:39] - At 45, Sarah feels her age by connecting with her inner child and integrating past experiences into her present self. [11:15] - Sarah highlights the importance of understanding and healing the parts of ourselves that may be causing current issues. [14:22] - Jill reflects on the sadness of always being the one to invite others and connects it to her childhood desire to escape her unsafe and embarrassing home. [17:55] - Jill feels anger and protectiveness toward her younger self and struggles with the intense emotions that surface when she tries to connect with her past. [19:31] - Jill felt a powerful, protective part of herself emerge as an almost monstrous presence when reflecting on her anger. [21:35] - Recognizing the development of her "mama bear" instinct, Jill understands it as a protective force that formed after childhood trauma. [25:10] - In reflecting on past relationships, Jill identifies that she sought out unhealthy partners unknowingly searching for a sense of protection she felt she lacked. [28:35] - Jill's protective part emerged after a traumatic experience in college which helped her leave an abusive relationship and empowered her to recognize her worth. [30:43] - Jill acknowledges that her protective part is no longer needed in the same way and envisions it as a friendly, supportive presence. [33:25] - Jill finds this experience powerful, despite her tendency to second-guess her reactions and insights. [34:42] - Sarah emphasizes interconnectedness, helping clients recognize their parts. [37:06] - Sarah has calmed her own parts, highlighting the complexity and impulse-driven nature of parts work. [39:51] - Sarah makes note of Jill balancing hosting with inward reflection, relating to her own over-explaining tendencies. [42:50] - Everything is interconnected; parts work blends with inner child work. [44:05] - Sarah recommends Mary Magdalene Revealed and No Bad Parts as key books for self-discovery.

Links and Resources:

Sarah’s Instagram Page Mary Magdalene Revealed: The First Apostle, Her Feminist Gospel & the Christianity We Haven’t Tried Yet by Meggan Watterson No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz

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