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Unintentional Hater Mindset?
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Are you an unintentional hater? Chances are, if you've gone thru the tragic situation of alienation, you probably also had your "fair" share of heartbreaking experiences before the custody battle even began.
It would make perfect sense if you picked up a few protective/coping mechanisms without even noticing. Here are just a couple of reasons why this might be happening:
- If you came from any degree of narcissistic abuse, you might've unconsciously learned to question the intentions of those with whom you interact. This is simply because relationships w/ a narc are transactional, by nature.
- 😲"Fun" Fact: during extended periods of isolation, the human brain secretes a neuropeptide called tachykinin (or TAC2) . This peptide activates the amygdala, causing heightened paranoia, anger, aggression, and fear. 👀
(Now ,👆🏼 are just the two I forgot to mention while recording. I provide many more in the episode 😉)
Here's the thing: we need isolation like we need gaping holes in our heads. If anyone deserves a cheering section & community, it's an alienated parent. Can I get a "Hell yeah!"? But!.... If we wanna to keep people around, we need to learn how to give and receive love again -- without allowing our coping mechanisms crash the party.
Join the BTHR Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/HighRoadPrivate
Website: https://www.beyondthehighroad.com
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondthehighroadcoach
--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beyondthehighroad/support112 episodes
Manage episode 396023587 series 3415638
Are you an unintentional hater? Chances are, if you've gone thru the tragic situation of alienation, you probably also had your "fair" share of heartbreaking experiences before the custody battle even began.
It would make perfect sense if you picked up a few protective/coping mechanisms without even noticing. Here are just a couple of reasons why this might be happening:
- If you came from any degree of narcissistic abuse, you might've unconsciously learned to question the intentions of those with whom you interact. This is simply because relationships w/ a narc are transactional, by nature.
- 😲"Fun" Fact: during extended periods of isolation, the human brain secretes a neuropeptide called tachykinin (or TAC2) . This peptide activates the amygdala, causing heightened paranoia, anger, aggression, and fear. 👀
(Now ,👆🏼 are just the two I forgot to mention while recording. I provide many more in the episode 😉)
Here's the thing: we need isolation like we need gaping holes in our heads. If anyone deserves a cheering section & community, it's an alienated parent. Can I get a "Hell yeah!"? But!.... If we wanna to keep people around, we need to learn how to give and receive love again -- without allowing our coping mechanisms crash the party.
Join the BTHR Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/HighRoadPrivate
Website: https://www.beyondthehighroad.com
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondthehighroadcoach
--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beyondthehighroad/support112 episodes
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