Come Out Podcast #04 - Abby

Come Out Podcast

In this episode of the Coming Out Podcast, Stefan chats with his good friend Abby as they discuss her coming out journey. Growing up in Carlisle, UK, Abby and Stefan met in 2016 when Abby visited Stefan’s roommates at the time in Vancouver. Abby shares her experiences growing up as a tomboy, playing football and even rocking a short ‘curtains’ haircut in the 90s. She shares some funny stories and some more challenging times along the way.

Abby works as a bartender and is planning to relocate to Vancouver later this year once travel restrictions are lifted.

Listen in to hear the story of her journey to becoming a proud out woman.

Episode Highlights:

· [0:40] Intro

· [1:07] How is she coping with Covid-19

· [1:23] More about Abby and where she is from.

· [2:13] What Abby’s first memory of being gay? She talks about growing up as a tomboy and hating wearing dresses as a child.

· [3:30] Abby talks about wanting to cut her hair short when she was young.

· [4:15] Abby talks about her confusion about her gender and going by the name Jamie.

· [4:30] Abby talks about her first crush growing up.

· [5:13] They talk about connecting the dots between being different and being gay

· [5:31] Stefan and Abby talk about gay representation in the media, and how gay women are sexualized by straight men.

· [6:25] Abby talks about the experimental times in school.

· [6:50] Abby talks about when she started to open up more about her confusion with her friends.

· [7:36] She talks about talking to her friend Michelle on a weekend away.

· [8:33] Abby throws shade about being from Birmingham.

· [8:50] Abby talks about moving on to Sixth Form and the opportunities that brought.

· [10:11] Abby recalls the exact date that she came out, when she was 17.

· [10:57] Abby shares the moment she told her friends.

· [11:24] They talk about the reactions of some friends that were not positive straight away.

· [11:46] Abby shares the reaction of one of her close girlfriends.

· [12:27] Stefan asks about any negative reactions. Dealing with insults at sixth form.

· [13:17] Why was it the right time for Abby.

· [13:30] Abby talks about telling her family and the unusual way her family found out the news. A varied reaction from her parents and sister.

· [15:33] Abby talks about her dad’s reaction.

· [16:31] They talk about what life was like after everyone found out.

· [16:56] Would she do anything differently?

· [17:15] Abby shares some advice for people who have not come out yet. And

· [17:50] Thanks you and wrap up.

· [18:02] Shout outs and comments.

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