19. Part 2 "Dallas, Texas! & How to Overcome Victim Mentality"

Deep Thoughts W/The Dixons

Welcome back guys! Today Nina & Brian dive deep into overcoming the victimhood mentality along with tactical steps to help you release the past, focus on the present and create the future. They also share some personal stories around their recent trip to Dallas, Texas. Be on the lookout for Brian's new workout that he has finally gave into with the help of Nina. It's a game changer!

We discussed childhood trauma in depth last week and touched on some of the negative long lasting effects it can have on an individual and one of them was victimhood mentality.

Today is going to be all about HOW TO OVERCOME THIS VICTIMHOOD MENTALITY:

At some point in life, everyone has had to do something against their will. Everyone has experienced a difficult time when she/he felt humiliated or betrayed in some way. Many of us have experienced the loss of a loved one, or even of our own health. Some of us have been victims of violence – at home, in school, or in life…

But while some manage to cope with pain, self-pity, anger and guilt, others come to see themselves as victims. The victim mentality is formed not only as a result of sustained violence or humiliation but also by the environment. Often people do not recognize and do not even realize that they are acting the victim.

Seeing yourself as a victim does not necessarily mean that you have been subjected to physical or psychological abuse. A victim is a person, who believes that something or someone is externally controlling her/his life. Victims see themselves as impotent. They believe that external factors control their life, and see life as a wall of insurmountable circumstances.

They feel compelled to do things against their will. They might complain, but they will still do what they do not want to do, thinking that there is no alternative. It seems like that the whole world is against them. Victims always feel dependent on the mercy of external forces and blame them for everything that happens in their world.

The victim mentality can be seen in all areas of our lives: relationships, friendships, career, family relationships, health, body image, self confidence etc.

But, today we are focused today on overcoming victimhood mentality from childhood trauma

1. Release the pain of the past
   
2. Take responsibility for your life
   
3. You always have a choice
   
4. Change your vocabulary
   
5. Learn to say No
   
6. Change Your attitude
   
7. Taking small steps out of your comfort zone

Quote: "You have power over your mind —​ not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength."