005 The Origins of Play Schemas

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We’ve turned intuition into a buzzword—flattened it into a slogan, a gut feeling, or a vague whisper we don’t always know how to hear. But what if intuition is so much more? What if it's one of the most powerful tools we have—and we’ve just forgotten how to use it? In this episode, I’m joined by Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir , Icelandic thought leader, filmmaker, and author of InnSæi: Icelandic Wisdom for Turbulent Times . Hrund has spent over 20 years studying and teaching the science and art of intuition through her TED Talk, Netflix documentary (InnSæi: The Power of Intuition), and global work on leadership, innovation, and inner knowing. Together, we explore what intuition really is (hint: not woo-woo), how to cultivate it in a culture obsessed with logic and overthinking, and why your ability to listen to yourself might be the most essential skill you can develop. In This Episode, We Cover: ✅ Why we’ve misunderstood intuition—and how to reclaim it ✅ Practical ways to strengthen your intuitive muscle ✅ What Icelandic wisdom teaches us about inner knowing ✅ How to use intuition during uncertainty and decision-making ✅ Why trusting yourself is an act of rebellion (and power) Intuition isn’t magic—it’s a deep, internal guidance system that already exists inside you. The question is: are you listening? Connect with Hrund: Website: www.hrundgunnsteinsdottir.com TedTalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/hrund_gunnsteinsdottir_listen_to_your_intuition_it_can_help_you_navigate_the_future?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare Newsletter: https://hrundgunnsteinsdottir.com/blog/ LI: www.linkedin.com/in/hrundgunnsteinsdottir IG: https://www.instagram.com/hrundgunnsteinsdottir/ Book: InnSæi: Icelandic Wisdom for Turbulent Times Related Podcast Episodes: How To Breathe: Breathwork, Intuition and Flow State with Francesca Sipma | 267 VI4P - Know Who You Are (Chapter 4) Gentleness: Cultivating Compassion for Yourself and Others with Courtney Carver | 282 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…

about a year ago 10:28

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Unlock the Secrets Behind Your Child’s Play: The Origins of Play Schemas

Ever wondered why your little one loves to spin wheels, drop toys, or line up blocks over and over again? Those seemingly simple actions aren’t just random—they’re part of something much bigger: play schemas. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we’re diving deep into the fascinating origins of these repeated behaviours and uncovering why they are essential for your child’s cognitive and emotional growth.

As a parent, you might feel overwhelmed trying to understand your child’s play habits. Are they learning? Is their behaviour normal? This episode will help you see the brilliance behind their play and give you confidence in how to support it.

We’ll explore the roots of play schemas, tracing them back to pioneering research by Frederick Bartlett and Jean Piaget, two of the most influential minds in child development. Plus, we’ll break down the science into bite-sized, relatable insights that will leave you in awe of what your child is achieving every time they play.

🎙️ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

What Are Play Schemas?
Discover the simple yet powerful patterns of behaviour that help children make sense of their world. Whether your child loves spinning, throwing, or hiding objects, these actions are building their understanding of how things work.
The Science Behind Play Schemas:
Learn about schema theory, a concept that’s been shaping our understanding of learning since the 1930s. From Bartlett’s original ideas to Piaget’s groundbreaking work on cognitive development, we’ll explain why play schemas are vital for your child’s brain development.
The Magic of Early Development:
Explore the Sensorimotor Stage, where babies learn through their senses, and the Preoperational Stage, where imagination takes flight. We’ll share real-life examples of how these stages connect to the play schemas you see every day.

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Understanding play schemas isn’t just about decoding your child’s actions—it’s about unlocking the window into their growing mind. By supporting these behaviours, you’re fostering their creativity, curiosity, and love of learning. And here’s the best part: you don’t need to overhaul your parenting approach. With just a few small adjustments, you can make playtime even more enriching and enjoyable—for both of you.

📌 Take Action Today:
Notice your child’s play patterns this week. Is there a schema you can recognise? Whether it’s transporting toys in bags or dropping blocks from a height, think of one simple way to support their learning through this behaviour.

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If you’re ready to dive deeper into play schemas, visit playschemas.com/005 for show notes, resources, and a free cheat sheet on the top 10 play schemas. Follow us on Instagram @play_schemas to share your playtime wins and mysteries!

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005 The Origins of Play Schemas

Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas

published about a year ago

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Unlock the Secrets Behind Your Child’s Play: The Origins of Play Schemas

🎙️ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

What Are Play Schemas?
Discover the simple yet powerful patterns of behaviour that help children make sense of their world. Whether your child loves spinning, throwing, or hiding objects, these actions are building their understanding of how things work.
The Science Behind Play Schemas:
Learn about schema theory, a concept that’s been shaping our understanding of learning since the 1930s. From Bartlett’s original ideas to Piaget’s groundbreaking work on cognitive development, we’ll explain why play schemas are vital for your child’s brain development.
The Magic of Early Development:
Explore the Sensorimotor Stage, where babies learn through their senses, and the Preoperational Stage, where imagination takes flight. We’ll share real-life examples of how these stages connect to the play schemas you see every day.

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Support the show

If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review!

and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

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027 Why I Still Say “Be Careful” Even Though I Love Risky Play 13:27

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Send us a text Do you ever catch yourself saying, “Be careful!” — even when you’re trying to let your child take healthy risks? You’re not alone, and you’re not doing it wrong. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we unpack one of the biggest tensions many parents face: wanting to support our children confidence and independence, while still keeping them safe. If you’ve ever felt unsure about how much risk is “too much” when your toddler is climbing high, jumping off furniture, or running full speed down a hill, this episode is for you. We’re diving into the world of risky play — what it is, why it’s developmentally important, and how it links to the play schemas that drive your child’s behaviour. You’ll hear honest reflections from a fellow mum (that’s me!) who still says “be careful” sometimes — and why I’m okay with that. In This Episode, We’ll Explore: What risky play actually means — and why it’s vital for building resilience, body awareness, and confidence The difference between dangerous play and developmentally appropriate risk Why the play schemas behind risky play matter (think trajectory, rotation, orientation…) How to respond with calm, connection, and trust instead of fear or control Simple scripts you can use to coach your child through risk, like: “Do your hands feel steady?” or “What’s your plan?” Whether your child is 1 or 5, understanding their drive for risky play through the lens of schemas can transform your parenting — helping you say “yes” more often, and feel good about it. You’ll also learn: The 10 most common play schemas and how they show up in risky play Why letting your child test their limits doesn’t make you reckless — it makes you responsive How saying “be careful” with intention can still build connection and emotional literacy Ways to support schema-led exploration safely at home, on the playground, and in nature Because parenting is full of moments where we just want to keep them safe — but when we understand what’s driving their behaviour, we can support growth and confidence without shutting down their curiosity. So pop this episode on while you’re making a cuppa, folding the washing, or out for a walk with the pram — and let’s make sense of the messy, marvellous world of toddler play together. Press play and feel more confident supporting your child's exploration — even when it feels a little bit scary. Listen now and don’t forget to: Subscribe to the podcast Leave a comment or review — it means the world Share this episode with another parent who’s navigating risk & play For more schema-aligned tips and free printables, visit: https://playschemas.com Follow us on Instagram: @Play_Schemas And remember... today is a GREAT day to play! #PlaySchemas #RiskyPlay #ParentingPodcastNZ #ToddlerDevelopment #PositiveParenting #ChildDevelopment #SchemaPlay #ParentingTipsNZ #UnderstandingYourChildsPlay #PlayBasedLearning #ConsciousParenting #PlayTherapyTools Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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026 Why Imperfection Matters in Parenting - with Sophie Moskowitz 23:13

9 days ago23:13

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Send us a text Ever feel like you’re the only one dropping the ball as a parent? Spoiler alert: you’re not, you're not alone in feeling this... and this episode might just be the breath of fresh air you didn’t know you needed. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas , we’re joined by Sophie Moskowitz from Imperfect Parents, who brings a powerful message every parent deserves to hear: you don’t have to be perfect to be enough . Together, we unpack the unspoken pressures of parenting in a world that often tells us we should “do it all” – and do it flawlessly. If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re doing a “good enough” job, wrestled with guilt, or felt isolated in your struggles, this honest, hopeful conversation will remind you that you’re not alone . Sophie shares how her own parenting journey – filled with both heart and hardship – led her to create a community that celebrates the real, raw, and often messy experiences of raising kids. In this episode, we cover: The myth of the “perfect parent” and why it’s time to let it go How unrealistic societal expectations are making parenting harder – especially for mums The emotional toll of comparison culture (and what to do instead) Practical mindset shifts to move from guilt to connection The magic of play – and how understanding your child’s play schemas can help you reconnect, even on tough days Why naming your struggles is the first step to finding freedom in them You’ll come away with: Reassurance that you’re not failing – you’re simply human Tools to reframe your parenting expectations in a way that actually feels good Real-life stories that make you nod, laugh, and maybe cry a little Encouragement to embrace the imperfect, ordinary moments that truly matter A reminder that being “good enough” is not settling – it’s powerful Sophie’s down-to-earth, no-judgement approach will speak straight to your heart – whether you’re parenting a toddler through tantrums, juggling multiple roles, or simply wondering if everyone else is doing it better than you. This episode is a love letter to you , the parent showing up every day and doing your best – even when it doesn’t feel like enough. Tune in now and give yourself the same compassion you so easily offer your kids. Don’t forget to subscribe , share , or leave a review if this episode resonates – it helps us reach more amazing parents just like you. More for you: Read the blog for more parenting insights: playschemas.com/026 Join the email list for weekly play-based parenting tips: playschemas.com Connect with us on Instagram: @play_schemas Follow Sophie’s work: @imperfect_parents or imperfectparents.co.nz You don’t need to have it all together. You just need to be there – with lo Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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025 Parenting Hacks: Master ‘When’ & ‘Then’ Magic! 8:40

16 days ago8:40

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Send us a text The Two Words That Will Transform Your Parenting — “When” and “Then” Are you tired of endless toddler negotiations, meltdowns during transitions, or repeating yourself a hundred times a day? You’re not alone — and there is a gentle, effective way forward. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , Ruth Vercoe introduces two simple, yet powerful words that can make all the difference: “when” and “then.” Whether you're trying to get your child out the door, clean up after play, or move from one activity to the next — these words offer a calm, respectful way to guide your child through their day without constant power struggles. What’s this episode all about? This isn’t just another parenting hack — it’s a mindset shift grounded in how young children actually understand the world. When used consistently, “when” and “then” give toddlers and preschoolers a sense of structure, predictability, and emotional safety. You’ll hear real-life examples from Ruth’s own parenting journey, as well as practical phrases you can start using today. And here’s where it gets even more powerful: this episode also explores how “when-then” language aligns beautifully with your child’s play schemas — those fascinating, repetitive behaviours that form the foundation of how they learn and grow. You’ll walk away with: A clear understanding of what “when-then” language is and how to use it Real examples for everyday scenarios — from snack time to messy play Insight into how play schemas shape your child’s behaviour Tips to identify and support your child’s dominant play schema Confidence to redirect behaviour gently without saying “no” all the time A calmer, more cooperative home where play and parenting flow together Why it works “When” and “then” create cause and effect that young children can understand. Instead of vague instructions like “soon” or “later” (which mean nothing to a toddler), you’re offering a safe and predictable roadmap for what’s happening next. And when you match this simple structure with your child’s natural learning patterns — like the trajectory schema (throwing), transportation schema (carrying), or rotation schema (spinning) — you’re not just managing behaviour. You’re nurturing your child’s development in a deeply respectful way. Ruth explains how to spot these patterns and work with them instead of against them. You’ll be amazed how a tiny shift in language can create massive changes in your everyday routines. This episode is perfect for you if: You’ve got children aged 1–5 years You’re curious about play-based learning and positive parenting You want to feel more confident and less frustrated You’re after realistic, gentle parenting tools that actually work ✨ So take a breath, pop your headphones on — whether you're folding laundry, making lunch, or out for a walk — and let’s dive in together. Because when you understand your child’s play, then parenting gets a whole lot easier. Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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024 Part 1 - Self Care through the Schemas with Hannah Sadlier 17:13

23 days ago17:13

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Send us a text Part 1 of 2 In this episode, we’re flipping the script on self-care. Instead of waiting for naptime or feeling guilty for needing a break, we’re inviting you to see the magic already happening in your everyday parenting life — through play schemas. Parenting young children can be exhausting, joyful, overwhelming, and deeply meaningful — often all in the same hour. Between messy floors, toddler meltdowns, and managing your own mental load, it’s no wonder so many parents feel like they’re running on empty. But here’s the good news: you don’t need to overhaul your routine or carve out hours of alone time to nurture yourself. You just need to notice what’s already happening. In this warm and relatable conversation, host Ruth Vercoe is joined by guest Hannah (a fellow mum and lover of play and self care). Join us as we explore how play schemas — those quirky, repeated play behaviours like throwing toys, hiding under blankets, or lining up blocks — can be used as a practical, joyful framework to support both your child’s development and your emotional wellbeing. Together, we share real-life examples, lightbulb moments, and surprisingly simple ideas that can transform the way you see playtime — not just as a way for your child to learn, but as a tool for you to reset, recharge and reconnect. You’ll hear: What play schemas actually are — and why your child keeps doing that one thing over and over again How common schemas like trajectory, transportation, enveloping, and connection support your child’s early learning How to pair each play schema with gentle, achievable self-care moments for yourself (yes, even when you're touched out and running on coffee!) Why “playing alongside” your child is a powerful act of connection, and how it models emotional regulation and resilience Encouragement to let go of guilt and embrace the beautifully imperfect rhythm of parenting Whether you’re stomping on crunchy leaves, spinning in circles in the kitchen, or wrapping up toys in a blanket fort — these everyday moments can be a form of self-care. This episode is perfect for you if: You’re parenting toddlers or preschoolers and want to understand their behaviour more deeply You’re craving ways to care for yourself without needing hours alone or a spa day You want to feel more present, connected, and emotionally balanced as a parent You’re curious about how child development and parent wellbeing can go hand in hand Ruth and Hannah speak with the understanding of mums who’ve been there — no judgement, just gentle guidance and grounded tips that actually work in the chaos of real life. ✨ Loved this episode? Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a dose of play-based insight. 💬 Leave a comment or share with a friend who needs a parenting pep-talk today. 📲 Follow us on Instagram @Play_Schemas for more relatable parenting tips and play inspiration. 📧 Sign up at www.playschemas.com for our newsletter packed with helpful ideas straight to your inbox. You’re not alone — and you’re doing a great job. Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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024 Part 2 - Self Care through the Schemas with Hannah Sadlier 19:17

23 days ago19:17

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Send us a text Part 2 of 2 In this episode, we’re flipping the script on self-care. Instead of waiting for naptime or feeling guilty for needing a break, we’re inviting you to see the magic already happening in your everyday parenting life — through play schemas. Parenting young children can be exhausting, joyful, overwhelming, and deeply meaningful — often all in the same hour. Between messy floors, toddler meltdowns, and managing your own mental load, it’s no wonder so many parents feel like they’re running on empty. But here’s the good news: you don’t need to overhaul your routine or carve out hours of alone time to nurture yourself. You just need to notice what’s already happening. In this warm and relatable conversation, host Ruth Vercoe is joined by guest Hannah (a fellow mum and lover of play and self care). Join us as we explore how play schemas — those quirky, repeated play behaviours like throwing toys, hiding under blankets, or lining up blocks — can be used as a practical, joyful framework to support both your child’s development and your emotional wellbeing. Together, we share real-life examples, lightbulb moments, and surprisingly simple ideas that can transform the way you see playtime — not just as a way for your child to learn, but as a tool for you to reset, recharge and reconnect. You’ll hear: What play schemas actually are — and why your child keeps doing that one thing over and over again How common schemas like trajectory, transportation, enveloping, and connection support your child’s early learning How to pair each play schema with gentle, achievable self-care moments for yourself (yes, even when you're touched out and running on coffee!) Why “playing alongside” your child is a powerful act of connection, and how it models emotional regulation and resilience Encouragement to let go of guilt and embrace the beautifully imperfect rhythm of parenting Whether you’re stomping on crunchy leaves, spinning in circles in the kitchen, or wrapping up toys in a blanket fort — these everyday moments can be a form of self-care. This episode is perfect for you if: You’re parenting toddlers or preschoolers and want to understand their behaviour more deeply You’re craving ways to care for yourself without needing hours alone or a spa day You want to feel more present, connected, and emotionally balanced as a parent You’re curious about how child development and parent wellbeing can go hand in hand Ruth and Hannah speak with the understanding of mums who’ve been there — no judgement, just gentle guidance and grounded tips that actually work in the chaos of real life. ✨ Loved this episode? Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a dose of play-based insight. 💬 Leave a comment or share with a friend who needs a parenting pep-talk today. 📲 Follow us on Instagram @Play_Schemas for more relatable parenting tips and play inspiration. 📧 Sign up at www.playschemas.com for our newsletter packed with helpful ideas straight to your inbox. You’re not alone — and you’re doing a great job Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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023 Why Your Toddler Isn’t Listening — And What to Do About It with Heather Schalk 34:59

30 days ago34:59

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Send us a text Ever feel like your toddler is just ignoring you on purpose? You’ve asked nicely (three times), tried raising your voice, or even taken a toy away — and still, they won’t listen. Before you start second-guessing yourself or wondering if it’s just your child, take a deep breath. You are not alone — and there’s a powerful reason behind this common toddler behaviour. In this episode, Ruth sits down with parenting and behaviour specialist Heather Schalk to uncover why toddlers really don’t listen — and it’s not what you might think. Connect with Heather https://heatherschalkparentingblog.com/ @HeatherSchalkParenting This conversation dives into what’s going on beneath the surface of toddler behaviour. We explore how so-called “defiance” is often a sign of underdeveloped emotional, communication, or social skills — not a problem with your parenting. Together, Ruth and Heather unpack: Why toddlers ignore instructions (spoiler: it's not always intentional!) The Toddler Reactivity Loop — what it is, how to spot it, and how to break the cycle The role of play schemas in behaviour — and how to work with them, not against them How to tell if your toddler is actually regulated and ready to listen Why “connect before correct” leads to calmer, more confident parenting Practical Tips You Can Use Right Away This isn’t just theory — it’s full of real-world strategies for real-life parents. You’ll learn how to: Tune in to your child’s cues before giving instructions Use transition items and visual cues to support smoother routines Respond to big emotions with empathy — while still holding boundaries Teach self-advocacy phrases like “My turn next” or “I’m not done yet” Praise natural moments of waiting or cooperation to build emotional resilience Reframe common challenges (like spilling milk or toy-throwing) into learning moments You’ll hear relatable examples from Heather’s own life with twins and Ruth’s practical insights into how play schemas shape your child’s behaviour — even when it seems challenging. You’re Doing Better Than You Think! Parenting toddlers is exhausting. It’s full of curveballs, chaos, and so many questions. But with just a little shift in perspective, you can turn everyday frustrations into meaningful opportunities for growth — for both you and your child. This episode will leave you feeling supported, seen, and more confident in your role as your child’s first teacher. Whether you’re folding laundry, walking the pram, or hiding in the pantry for five minutes’ peace, this one’s for you. Want More Support? For more on play schemas, child development, and daily ideas to support your little one’s learning journey, head to our Freebies page : www.playschemas.com/free You’ll find free downloads, activity ideas, and inspiration to make play more purposeful — and parenting a little less stressful. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going Loved this episode? 👍 Subscribe to the podcast so you never m Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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022 Growing Curiosity: How Gardening Supports Play Schemas & Child Development 21:17

5 weeks ago21:17

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Send us a text What if your toddler’s obsession with mud, watering cans, or hauling carrots isn’t just play—but a window into how they learn best? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we take you into the garden—yes, dirt and all—to uncover how vegetable gardening can reveal powerful insights about your child’s development. Whether your little one is digging, transporting soil, or burying seeds, these actions aren’t random. They’re part of play schemas —the natural, repetitive behaviours that show us how young children are making sense of the world. As a parent, it can feel tricky to know what’s “just play” and what’s meaningful learning. This episode helps you connect the dots. We break down what’s happening beneath the surface when your child is knee-deep in garden soil, and how to support their growth without needing fancy toys, Pinterest-perfect setups, or rigid routines. In this episode you'll discover: What Play Schemas are—and why they matter so much in the early years How simple garden activities like watering, digging, and harvesting relate to specific schemas like trajectory, transporting, enveloping, and positioning Why repetition is not a sign of boredom, but a signal your child is deep in learning How to identify and nurture your child’s unique play preferences Easy ways to support schema play in everyday garden moments (even with limited space!) You’ll also get practical tips like: How to set up a toddler-friendly garden area (without needing a full backyard) What to say (or not say) to encourage schema-rich exploration How to gently support your child’s independence without hovering Ideas for turning daily gardening into purposeful, brain-building fun Whether you're a parent with a veggie patch, a few potted herbs, or no garden at all—this episode will shift how you see your child's play. It's about meeting them where they are and celebrating the little moments that are soaked in learning (and sometimes water too!). You’re not just raising a child—you’re raising a curious learner. Let this episode inspire you to view everyday messes, garden tasks, and muddy hands as essential parts of their developmental journey. You don’t need to do more—just see more. And that starts with understanding the magic of play schemas. Listen now and dig into the hidden learning happening in your garden. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode full of insight, encouragement, and schema-savvy parenting support. 🌱 Want even more Play Schema ideas and inspiration? Head over to our Freebies page for practical tools, cheat sheets, and fresh ideas to support your child’s play journey: playschemas.com/free 💬 Loved this episode? Share it with a fellow parent, leave a review, or tag us @play_schemas on Instagram—we’d love to hear how your child’s garden play is growing! Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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021 Easter Play Ideas for Toddlers that Support Play Schemas 13:35

6 weeks ago13:35

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Send us a text Free download available! Grab your free Easter Play Ideas PDF with all 10 schema-based activities, family-friendly versions, and our go-to oaty pancake recipe at playschemas.com/free Feeling overwhelmed by all the Easter hype—and wondering how to make it meaningful for your toddler? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we’re diving into how you can use this Easter season to truly support your child’s development —without extra stress or sugar overload. We’ll show you how to harness the power of play schemas—the natural, repetitive play behaviours all children engage in—to create fun, intentional Easter activities that meet your child right where they are developmentally. Whether they’re throwing, stacking, wrapping, or endlessly transporting things from one place to another, this episode will help you understand why they play this way—and how to build on it. This isn’t about picture-perfect Pinterest crafts. It’s about easy, real-life ideas that work with your child’s current play urges, not against them. And the best part? You likely already have what you need at home. In this episode, we’ll cover: What play schemas actually are, and why they matter for child development Why Easter is the perfect time to support schema play (think baskets, eggs, nature walks) 10 simple, engaging Easter activity ideas—each linked to a specific schema How to include your toddler in Easter traditions that build emotional connection Bonus toddler-friendly recipes that support sensory exploration and independence We’ve made sure every idea includes: An independent play version to support solo exploration A family version to foster bonding and shared joy No fancy materials or hours of prep—just meaningful, low-fuss fun Whether you're a first-time parent or juggling multiple little ones, this episode is for you if: You want to understand your child’s behaviour instead of just managing it You’re looking for early learning tips that don’t require a teaching degree You’d love to make Easter special without going overboard You’re craving ways to connect more deeply with your child through play Y ou’re not just making Easter crafts—you’re building confidence, independence, and lifelong learning habits. Free download available! Grab your free Easter Play Ideas PDF with all 10 schema-based activities, family-friendly versions, and our go-to oaty pancake recipe at playschemas.com/free Visit the full blog post here → playschemas.com/021 Follow along on Instagram → @play_schemas If this episode made your parenting life a little easi Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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020 Keeping Kids Safe: Practical Tips for Parents with Victoria Barendsen 28:25

7 weeks ago28:25

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Send us a text Looking for the discount code? use playschemas10 at the checkout! ww.thesafekidsproject.com As parents, we want to protect our children. But when it comes to body safety, it can feel overwhelming—where do we start? How do we talk about it in a way that’s age-appropriate and empowering? And how do we navigate such an important conversation without fear or discomfort? You’re not alone in these concerns. In today’s world, we hear so much about unsafe physical touch, making it even harder to know how to teach our children what safe and trusted touch looks like. But ignoring the topic isn’t the answer—our kids need us to guide them in understanding their own boundaries, their rights, and how to respect others. This is where the ‘Foundations of Body Safety’ course comes and why I have teamed up with Victoria Barendsen, a registered psychologist specialising in childhood trauma and sexual abuse, to offer you a 10% discount ( playschemas10 at ww.thesafekidsproject.com ). In this 6-week course will: ✅ Give you the confidence to introduce body safety concepts in a natural, everyday way ✅ Teach you how to discuss sensitive topics—like consent and private parts—without feeling awkward or unsure ✅ Help you build open communication so your child feels safe coming to you with questions or concerns ✅ Empower your child with the knowledge and tools they need to maintain healthy boundaries I have taken this course myself, and to say it has been eye-opening is an understatement. Within just a few lessons, I told my husband that this is something every parent should have in their toolkit—just like an infant and child first aid course. Join the waitlist today to secure your spot! As a special bonus, I’ve partnered with Victoria to offer you 10% off, so make sure you use the code playschemas10 at the checkout. ww.thesafekidsproject.com Let’s empower our children—because every child deserves to feel safe, respected, and confident in their own body. ❤️ Please note that the discount code is also an affiliate link - There is not extra cost to you...But you do get a discount and I get a little thank you! Win-Win! Even without the affiliate link I still would be promoting this course as I really do believe in being empowered to have these discussions with our children. Victoria teaches in a way that equips and makes these 'tricky conversations' a part of our every day, making them accessible... and supporting us to ensure they actually happen! Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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019 Understanding Play Schemas & Love Languages in Parenting 11:04

8 weeks ago11:04

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Send us a text Wrapping Up the Love Languages Series: How Play Can Deepen Your Connection with Your Child Do you ever wonder what’s really behind your child’s play? Or why they behave a certain way when they’re feeling disconnected? Understanding play schemas and love languages can completely transform the way you interact with your little one—making parenting more intentional, fun, and fulfilling! In this final episode of our Love Languages & Play series, we bring everything together to help you recognise , respond to , and nurture your child’s emotional needs through play. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✅ How Play Schemas & Love Languages Work Together – Discover how your child’s natural play tendencies (like spinning, building, or transporting objects) can align with their love language and emotional needs. ✅ Spotting Your Child’s Love Language in Daily Life – Learn the simple ways children express what they need, from asking for quality time to seeking physical touch. ✅ Why Love Languages Change Over Time – Understand how your child’s love language may shift as they grow, and how to stay attuned to their evolving needs. ✅ The Connection Between Love Tanks & Behaviour – Is your child acting out, or are they just running low on love? Learn how unmet emotional needs can show up in tantrums, clinginess, or defiance. ✅ Discipline Through the Lens of Love Languages – Why using the wrong consequence could do more harm than good, and how to guide your child in a way that keeps their love tank full. ✅ Building a Stronger Family Culture – Encourage siblings, partners, and extended family to understand and support each other’s love languages, creating a more connected home. 💡 Try This Today! Next time your child is upset, ask yourself: Have I filled their love tank today? Take just five minutes to connect in their love language—whether it’s a cuddle, a game, or simply telling them how much you love them. You might be surprised by the difference it makes! 💬 We’d love to hear from you! What love language does your child respond to most? Share your experiences with us! 📌 Resources & More: 🔗 Read more on our blog: playschemas.com 📲 Follow us on Instagram for daily insights: @play_schemas 📩 Join our newsletter for exclusive parenting tips: playschemas.com If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review—your support helps more parents discover how to make play a powerful parenting tool! 🎧💖 #PlaySchemas #LoveLanguages #ParentingTips #EarlyChildhood #GentleParenting #ChildDevelopment Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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018 Acts of Service = Love in Action! 13:09

9 weeks ago13:09

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Send us a text Unlock the Secrets of Your Child’s Play: Play Schemas & Acts of Service in Parenting! Have you ever wondered why your child insists on lining up their toys, spinning in circles, or moving objects from place to place? It might seem random (or even frustrating!), but these repetitive behaviours are actually part of their natural learning process. They’re called play schemas , and understanding them can transform the way you see your child’s play—helping you to nurture their development and reduce daily parenting struggles. But there’s more! When we connect play schemas with the love language of acts of service, we unlock an even deeper way to support our children. In this episode, we’ll explore how simple, everyday acts of service can show love, model responsibility, and empower our little ones to serve themselves—and eventually, others. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ What play schemas are and how they shape your child’s learning and behaviour. ✅ The love language acts of service—why it’s more than just doing things for your child. ✅ How recognising play schemas can strengthen your bond and make daily life smoother. ✅ Practical ways to support your child’s play while fostering independence and confidence. ✅ How small, intentional acts of service help children understand love, responsibility, and community. As parents, we’re constantly serving our children—meals, clean clothes, cuddles, bedtime routines—but when done with intention, these daily tasks become powerful expressions of love. In this episode, we talk about how acts of service should go beyond “doing everything for them” and instead guide children toward learning, responsibility, and meaningful connection. 💡 Ready to see your child’s play in a whole new light? Grab a cuppa, pop in your earphones, and let’s dive in! 🎧 Subscribe & Listen: Never miss an episode—hit Follow on your favourite podcast app! 📲 Join the Conversation: Follow us on Instagram @Play_Schemas for daily insights & tips! 📩 Get More Parenting Resources: Join our newsletter at playschemas.com #PlaySchemas #ParentingPodcast #ActsOfService #EarlyLearning Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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017 Loving your child through gifts and play 15:17

10 weeks ago15:17

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Send us a text Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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016 Make Memories: Play & Quality Time Tips! 18:25

11 weeks ago18:25

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Send us a text Ever feel like your child is constantly throwing, spinning, or building the same thing over and over—and you’re not quite sure why? Or maybe you’re wondering how to give your child the quality time they crave without adding more to your already packed schedule? You’re not alone! In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play , we’re unlocking the magic behind play schemas and how they connect with the love language of Quality Time—helping you build stronger bonds with your child through their natural way of playing. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ What are play schemas? Discover why your child repeats certain play behaviours and what it tells you about their development. ✔️ Why Quality Time matters—especially for children who seek undivided attention from parents. ✔️ 10 easy ways to turn play into meaningful connection, tailored to your child’s unique play interests. ✔️ How to make time for Quality Time (even when life is busy!). Many childhood behaviours—like throwing objects, hiding under blankets, or endlessly lining up toys—aren’t random at all! They’re part of play schemas, the natural way children explore and make sense of the world. When you understand these patterns, you can join in their play in a way that feels natural, fun, and deeply connecting. And if your child’s primary love language is Quality Time, they don’t just want you to watch them play—they want you to play with them! But don’t worry, this doesn’t mean you need to set aside hours of elaborate playtime. Even small, everyday moments can make a big impact! Practical Ideas You Can Try Today! 🌟 Trajectory Play (throwing, dropping, running): Instead of saying "Stop throwing!", turn it into a game—play catch, race toy cars, or explore water play together. 🌟 Rotation Play (spinning, turning things): Join your child in stirring, mixing, or riding bikes—simple, everyday moments that fill their love tank. 🌟 Enclosure Play (building forts, climbing into spaces): Snuggle inside a homemade fort for cosy, screen-free Quality Time. 🌟 Positioning Play (lining things up, arranging objects): Set the table together or sort coloured toys—simple, mindful moments that strengthen your connection. ✨ Even just 10 minutes of focused, undistracted play can make your child feel seen, valued, and deeply loved! Too Busy? Here’s How to Fit It In! We get it—parents are BUSY! But Quality Time doesn’t mean grand outings or hours of play. Here are simple ways to make connection part of your daily routine: ✔️ Pre-bedtime snuggles – A perfect, distraction-free way to end the day. ✔️ Car time chats – Use car rides for fun conversations instead of screens. ✔️ Cooking together – Let them help mix, pour, or taste-test while you chat. ✔️ Set a timer – Just 10–15 minutes of full attention can make all the difference! 🎁 Giveaway Alert! Sign up to our email list before March 31, 2025, for a chance to win a copy of The 5 Love Languages of Children ! → Join Here: playschemas.com 🔗 Don’t miss out! Follow us on Instagram Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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015 Why Your Words Matter: Affirmation in Play 14:33

12 weeks ago14:33

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Send us a text In this episode, we delve into the fascinating world of child play through the lens of play schemas and the powerful impact of words of affirmation. Understanding why children engage in particular play patterns allows us to connect with them on a deeper level and support their growth more effectively. These schemas are not simply repetitive behaviors; they serve as gateways to developing essential skills like problem-solving and spatial awareness. We discuss how to frame our communication to not only encourage our children but also help them understand the value of their efforts. Words hold tremendous power; hence, using affirmations thoughtfully can have a lasting impact on their self-esteem and overall development. Through concrete examples, we explore how to apply praise thoughtfully, nurturing your child’s sense of self regardless of the situation. As we navigate the complexities of parenting, we recognize the importance of our energy and positivity in our interactions. Listening to your child’s play and responding with affirmation is key to fostering a supportive learning environment. This conversation focuses on practical, actionable insights for parents to implement at home, enhancing connections with your children while encouraging their unique paths to learning and exploration. What You’ll Discover in This Episode: ✔️ The 10 Play Schemas – How children explore the world through play ✔️ Why Play Schemas Matter – Reduce frustration and support learning ✔️ Words That Empower – Practical scripts to affirm and encourage your child ✔️ The Hidden Power of Praise – How to uplift without over-praising ✔️ Avoiding Common Pitfalls – The impact of sarcasm, tone, and empty praise Join us for a warm, engaging discussion that encourages deeper understanding and nurturing connections in your parenting journey. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us reach even more families! Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!…

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014 Play Schemas & The Love Language of Physical Touch | Understanding Your Child’s Needs 22:04

13 weeks ago22:04