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The space between where you are now and where you want to be can feel daunting and lonely. This podcast is the remedy to comparison and feeling like everyone else has it figured out but you. Each episode contains personal insights from her work as a therapist and taking a deeper look at the messy middle between before and after stories. Danielle wants to help you make big feelings feel less scary, easier to understand and approaching them possible. And, wherever possible - to laugh as much as possible.

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The space between where you are now and where you want to be can feel daunting and lonely. This podcast is the remedy to comparison and feeling like everyone else has it figured out but you. Each episode contains personal insights from her work as a therapist and taking a deeper look at the messy middle between before and after stories. Danielle wants to help you make big feelings feel less scary, easier to understand and approaching them possible. And, wherever possible - to laugh as much as possible.

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Welcome Back to 'Don't Cut Your Own Bangs': New Beginnings in Video Podcasting! 14:02

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Danielle Ireland, kicks off the new video era of 'Don't Cut Your Own Bangs' by reintroducing herself, reflecting on her journey from ballroom dance instructor to therapist, and discussing her new children's book 'Wrestling a Walrus for Little People with Big Feelings.' She candidly shares her fears and procrastination battle, revealing how overcoming them led her here. Danielle outlines what's to come in the podcast, including solo casts and insightful interviews, and emphasizes her mission to make big feelings feel less scary. Join her for meaningful conversations, personal growth, and plenty of laughs. 00:00 Welcome to the Video Podcast 00:34 Overcoming Fear and Procrastination 02:07 Reintroducing Myself and the Podcast 02:42 Writing a Children's Book 03:50 The Heartbeat of the Podcast 05:01 Future Podcast Plans 08:41 Personal Updates and Challenges 12:01 Top Episodes and Gratitude 13:18 Final Thoughts and Encouragement THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal The one tool I recommend to all of my therapy clients is journaling. Getting your thoughts out of your head and down on the page is a simple act that can change your life. I made the Treasured Journal for anyone who wants to dig a little deeper but doesn’t know where to start. The questions, prompts, and sentence stems in the journal will help support you in exploring the big feelings in your life. Learn more about this specially designed journal and its companion Meditation Series at https://danielleireland.com/journal . READ DANIELLE ON SUBSTACK I’m now on Substack and I’d love for you to check it out. Substack is its own platform that is teeming with my favorite thought leaders, writers, and authors—incredible people out in the world who are asking interesting questions and exploring interesting answers. I'm throwing my hat in the ring and putting engaging content out there, too. So, click the link ( https://danielleireland.substack.com/ ) to subscribe. You’ll stay up to date and never miss out on the best new material. VISIT DANIELLE’S WEBSITE If you’d like more content like this and you want to stay in the know, hop on over to my website ( https://danielleireland.com/) and hit subscribe. There you will always be up to date on the latest learning material, my blog, and other meaningful content. Just click on the website so that you never miss out. RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE TO “DON’T CUT YOUR OWN BANGS” Like your favorite recipe or song, the best things in life are shared. When you rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast, your engagement helps me connect with other listeners just like you. Plus, subscriptions just make life easier for everybody. It's one less thing for you to think about and you can easily keep up to date on everything that’s new. So, please rate, review, and subscribe today. DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below. Website: https://danielleireland.com/ The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com/ Blog: https://danielleireland.com/blog/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured [00:00:08] Hello. Hello, this is Danielle Ireland and you are listening or watching. Don't cut your own bangs. I wanted to take this opportunity with this new video. [00:00:19] to say hello and reintroduce myself. Whether you are joining for the first time, or you've been a long time listener since the podcast first began, I just wanna welcome you back and welcome myself to the video podcasting space. [00:00:34] I put it off for a long time. Mostly because I didn't know if I could figure it out and I was afraid. But that is also what this podcast is about. When I was transitioning from working as a ballroom dance instructor to building a career as a therapist and all of those twisty zigzags in between, there was a lot of uncertainty, a lot of doubt, and can I freaking do this? [00:01:00] And what I have found to be true. only every single time is that whenever I approach something new that excites me, that I really want, that's just like, just teetering on the growth edge. I feel the same way every time. I don't know if I can do this. This is gonna be really hard, maybe I shouldn't. And then I do, a dance of procrastination where I. [00:01:26] Learn a little bit, feel kind of frozen, and we'll re-watch a comfort show, binge Parks and Rec or Gilmore Girls, and then that feeling, that pestering knock on the internal doors, like, Hey, are you gonna come play with us? And so then I try to pick the baton back up and learn a little bit more. And so inch by inch by inch. [00:01:48] I find myself here on video doing a podcast, which actually feels great. But this, that's the other thing too. It's like if you can get over your fear just enough to try to do the thing and you start doing the thing you've been putting off almost every time you find out, oh, it was really not as scary as I thought, or nor was it as hard as I thought. [00:02:07] What I wanted to do was reintroduce myself if you're new to the podcast, and give you an idea of what you can expect in these upcoming episodes. 'cause I'm figuring it out too. And then also just share a little bit about what I've been doing between the last time I was really recording consistently and now, and hopefully humanize the gap and. [00:02:32] Just kind of rev myself back up into doing something that I love, which is sharing, sharing the space with you. So what have I been doing? I wrote a children's book. It is called Wrestling a Walrus for little People with Big Feelings. I'm a parent of two. I have a 4-year-old and a one and a half year old, and they have big. [00:02:53] Freaking feelings. I haven't decided yet. If I'm gonna openly curse at every podcast I've ever done, I let myself curse. But somehow like this being on video, I feel different about it. We'll figure that out along the way too. But I wrote this book and I actually did a mini series about the writing process with Emily Sutherland, who is the woman who helped me edit the book, who has been my children's book Guiding Light in this whole writing processing. [00:03:21] And cultivating slash self-publishing process. And so if you want to do a deeper dive into that, you can. It's only in audio. It's not video, But, this, this book is a big reason why I'm excited in a renewed way to record this podcast and put it in. [00:03:42] Another format that potentially makes it more accessible, because I believe in this book, I love this little book. it's a little book with a big idea. And that idea has been, I think the, the heartbeat of what made me love this work in the podcast space as well as the work I do as a therapist, which is when we confront a seemingly insurmountable obstacle. [00:04:08] And in this case it happens to be. A large feeling or a walrus. But when we confront something that seems impossible, we will use every well worn, familiar, mostly ineffective way to tackle that obstacle. And because what we want is for the obstacle to not be an obstacle. What we want is for the obstacle to change. [00:04:31] But what I know through my own lived experience and what I know through walking. Hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people through their most painful processes is that what makes the obstacle move is an internal movement, emotions or energy in motion. They want you to move. They have something for you to learn. [00:04:58] And that's what I wanna talk about here in this space. So we will have a combination moving forward of solo casts where it'll be like this with me, just you and me here in this space, Talking about really key specific takeaways that come through my practice as a therapist. [00:05:18] I'm not going to be sharing any secrets from what clients are divulging personally, but there's this beautiful balance between specificity of a moment that seems so unique to an individual that almost the deeper you go in. What you find on the other side is this universality, this common thread that is bigger than the individual, that's bigger than the story, and it's something we can all learn from and grow from together. [00:05:48] And then beyond the solo casts, which will be. Generally between 20 and 30 minutes, we will have interviews. Again, I miss interviews. That was how the podcast began, mostly because I was afraid afraid of the format. so I thought if I just bring someone along with me and I talk to them, I'll have something to talk about. [00:06:07] turns out I have no shortages of things to say, We wanna have guests back. I wanna talk to, I wanna revisit some of our most popular interviews. I wanna have them back and catch up. Where are they now? Because as a creator and as an ever evolving, growing person, when you shift out of the starting something phase and you're in a, I need to keep it alive phase. [00:06:31] That's a different point of view, that's a different energy, that's a different focus. And that's going to lead to a different conversation. And I wanna know where people are because I was right in the beginning of my podcasting journey with some of the, my favorite interviews of all time. And I've grown, I've changed. [00:06:47] And I know that they have two. So we're gonna invite some old friends back, not old chronologically. Biologically, in the. Lifespan of the podcast, but we're gonna invite them back and continue those conversations as well as invite some new friends that either I've never met or you've never met, and we're gonna just grow and have really fun, in-depth, meaningful discussion. [00:07:12] But here's what you can expect every time, whether it's just me or whether it's me and a friend having a meaningful conversation or interview. What I really wanna do in this podcast is make big feelings feel less scary. I want to help make them feel easier to understand, and I wanna make approaching them feel possible because it is possible. [00:07:35] And whenever possible, as much as possible, I wanna laugh mostly for my own healing, and my own, I guess selfish reasons. But what I have found to be true time and time again is when we are faced with truth, like not just something that sounds true or an interesting fact, but when we are hit with something that is undeniably true, it elicits a physiological response and we either cry in those moments or laugh [00:08:07] I hold a lot of space for tears for people, and I think for my own sense of balance and for my own selfish need. I wanna laugh, and I think when you can turn challenges into something that amuses you or delights you. That is a real power move. I wanna discover that in real time here and I wanna discover that with you. [00:08:33] And so that is my goal. That's my goal with this next wave of the podcast to share a little history and what has been going on in this break? when I got pregnant with my son, Who's a year and a half old now. I lost a lot of extra energy reserve, which on the face value of it sounds like, of course. [00:08:52] That makes sense. but I have also seen and felt the opposite when I was pregnant with my first, I had this Almost like extra adrenaline edge that made me wanna go, go, go and make, make, make, and do, do, do. And with my son, I just felt like if there was like a buns and burner for my life force energy, it was dialed down. [00:09:12] And not just in a depressive way, but my light dimmed. I was burning more and didn't have extra fuel to put into things outside of where I absolutely needed to show up, therapy home, my physical health. and that left me in kind of a limbic space with this. [00:09:33] I loved making it, but I had changed and I needed to allow this to change with me The process of writing this beautiful little book for little people with big feelings, helped me reignite a creative spark that I was missing. I started this about a year ago, and again, if you want to know [00:09:56] how the book began, how I wrote it, why all of the little twists and turns into the actual nuts and bolts of how I wrote the book and how I made the book. you can, there's a whole podcast miniseries on that, specifically with Emily Sutherland. But all that to say is that that process of making this idea from an idea to a living thing helped light a new spark in me [00:10:20] Reignited my excitement, enthusiasm to show up here. The other experience that happened is that, somebody tried to create a podcast with the same name and I had to take some pretty strong action to protect the content that I put a lot of love and effort and sweat, and energy into cultivating. And in that process of fighting for it, I had a fork in the road moment where I essentially had to decide. [00:10:48] Okay, you're gonna fight for it, but what are you fighting for? Are you fighting for it because you don't want someone else to touch it? Or are you fighting for it because you still wanna do something with it? And what I realized was that little push was kind of, it felt like a nudge, just a gentle nudge saying, Hey, do you still wanna play with us? [00:11:10] Do you still wanna do something here? And then the answer was yes. So that was the other, and ugh. And then I moved, I moved, oh, I moved houses. And it was, it was a lot. I am humbled. There's, there's experiences you hear about and you think you know about until you experience them yourself. And I did not understand. [00:11:34] What the energetic toll of moving a house with small children and for the people who do that all the time or who have done that many times over, maybe you get better at it with time, but damn it is, it's, it, it takes a toll too. So for all those reasons and more, I had to, or rather chose to take a pause on the podcast, but I love, I love being back and I love that we're here. [00:12:01] And another thing that's important too, especially if you're new to the Don't Cut Your Own Banks podcast. So we have 172 episodes in the bank, in the back catalog, and I love every single one of them. But what I wanna do is make for new people that are discovering the podcast for the first time, I wanna make. [00:12:24] Your lives a wee bit easier. And so what I've done is gone through and combed through the archives and the 50 most listened to most downloaded episodes. Those are the ones that are gonna remain and everything else is gonna stay in the back catalog. [00:12:38] A lot of great, great episodes and interviews and solo cast, but what you're going to see if you are just listening to this, when you file back, you're gonna see the top 50 most listened to most downloaded episodes. I hope you go through and listen to them at your leisure. I know there's a lot of content out there. [00:12:54] I know there's a lot of places you can be, but yeah, those are some real gems that are sitting there for you. And mostly I just wanna say thank you if you are still listening. Thank you for being here. Thank you if you've been there since the beginning. Thanks for still listening. Thanks for joining me in this new journey and video. [00:13:13] I'm going to continue to learn and get better and hopefully improve. And this is gonna be a really fun, this is gonna be an awesome adventure and. As always, your time, your care, your attention, and your presence. Here, they mean the world to me. I look forward to adding value to your life, making big feelings, feel less scary, helping you feel less alone because you're not. [00:13:35] And whenever possible. As much as possible, finding opportunities to laugh because we deserve to delight in our life. We deserve delight. You deserve it. So thanks for being here. I look forward to continuing on this journey. And. Just whatever you do, don't cut your own bangs. [00:13:54]…

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Creativity Miniseries: The Toolkit 54:19

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Welcome back to the final episode of the Creativity Miniseries! In this conversation, Emily Sutherland and I open up our personal creativity toolkits and share the resources and strategies that help us bring our ideas to life. Working on this miniseries with Emily has been an absolute joy. She’s not just an incredible creative and coach—she’s also become a trusted friend and advisor throughout the development of Wrestling a Walrus, my first children’s book. I truly could not imagine doing this without her. Interestingly, we didn’t plan on recording another discussion on the creative process, but that’s exactly where our behind-the scenes, warm-up conversation led us. So, we left it in. I think you might find some usefulness in this bonus material as we share our thoughts on the value of authenticity, the importance of differentiating yourself, and the surprising relationship between uncertainty and clarity. A huge thank you to Emily for her wisdom and generosity, and to you for joining us as part of the creative community. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! SPECIAL MENTIONS Emily Sutherland’s Storytelling for Business (April 4, 2025) and Nurturing Your Creative Self (May 9, 2025) - https://www.emilysutherland.me/events Storytelling Community (Substack) - https://open.substack.com/pub/storytellingcommunity The Secret Lies Within by “Auntie Anne” Beiler and Emily H. Sutherland - http://bit.ly/3FmIxPT Betsy B. Murphy - https://substack.com/@betsybmurphy or http://betsybmurphy.com/ Vanessa Marin, sex therapist on IG @vanessaandxander PROCESS TOOLKIT Write it down when you feel it (and be prepared in the middle of the night). Be ready for the idea. Be discerning about what, when, and who to share your idea with. When your idea is at a tender stage, who are your tender people? Do you need an editor or a cheerleader? Journaling. Let the creative juices flow without requiring an outcome. The more you write, the more ideas will come. Immerse yourself and trust the process. Try on new ideas to see if they go anywhere. “I make what I like, and they eat it how they want to eat it.” - Erykah Badu to Donald Glover ELECTRONIC TOOLS Manuscript Software - Scrivener - affiliate link: https://www.literatureandlatte.com/scrivener/overview?fpr=emilysuth Google Docs, YouTube, and Apps (e.g., voice memo, talk-to-text, notes) IngramSpark - https://www.ingramspark.com/ Kindle Direct Publishing - https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B008241EAQ Storytelling Workshops - https://www.emilysutherland.me/events PHYSICAL TOOLS Fine Tip Sharpie Pen or The Pilot G2 (in multiple colors!) Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert - https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/books/big-magic/ Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott - https://writingforyourlife.com/bird-by-bird-some-instructions-on-writing-and-life/ The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron - https://juliacameronlive.com/books-by-julia/ Rifle Paper Company little notebooks (great for lefties!) - https://riflepaperco.com/ The Treasured Journal - https://danielleireland.com/journal DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below. Website - https://danielleireland.com/ The Treasured Journal - https://danielleireland.com/journal Substack - https://danielleireland.substack.com/ Blog - https://danielleireland.com/blog/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW Podcast on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured…

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Creativity Miniseries: Creation 37:28

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Creative expression can be a powerful tool for personal healing and growth because the creative work we do is so connected to the healing work we need. From following along in this Creativity Miniseries, you know that Emily Sutherland has been my special guest on this journey. Emily is a ghostwriter, published author, coach, and executive storyteller. Together, we have explored the messy, magical stages of bringing an idea to life—Inspiration, Preparation, and Perspiration. Now, we’ve arrived at the final stage: Creation. In the Creation stage, you pour your heart into the work, but how do you know when it’s truly finished? Is it ever really done? When is it time to share your creation with the world? This final stage of the process can feel both vulnerable and exhilarating. Emily and I explore it all. While this episode covers the last stage in our series on the creative process, we’re not done just yet! Stick around for our next episode, when we share our Creativity Toolkit—packed with tips on making time for your craft, resources for self-publishing, and much more. Thank you for listening! Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! RESOURCES Emily Sutherland’s Storytelling for Business (April 4, 2025) and Nurturing Your Creative Self (May 9, 2025) - https://www.emilysutherland.me/events Emily H. Sutherland website - https://www.emilysutherland.me/ Madeleine L'Engle - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madeleine_L%27Engle IngramSpark - https://www.ingramspark.com/ THE TREASURED JOURNAL Learn more about this specially designed journal and its companion Meditation Series at https://danielleireland.com/journal DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below. Website - https://danielleireland.com/ Substack - https://danielleireland.substack.com/ Blog - https://danielleireland.com/blog/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW Podcast on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured…

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Creativity Miniseries: Perspiration 16:48

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Welcome back to our Creativity Miniseries on Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs! We’re diving into the next (and sweatiest) stage of creativity: perspiration! This is where ideas move from being dreams and start becoming reality. I’m joined once again by my brilliant friend, Emily H. Sutherland—a ghostwriter, published author, coach, and executive storyteller. Together, we’re getting real about what it takes to push past resistance, embrace creativity, and bring your ideas to life. We use our own messy, sweaty experiences—including my upcoming children’s book—to illustrate the difference between “just do it” sweating and “shame” sweating. And, we share how movement, breath work, and self-imposed deadlines can help you power through creative roadblocks. If you’ve ever felt stuck between having a great idea and making it happen, this episode is your ticket to action—no perfection required. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! RESOURCES Emily Sutherland’s Storytelling for Business (April 4, 2025) and Nurturing Your Creative Self (May 9, 2025) - https://www.emilysutherland.me/events Emily H. Sutherland website - https://www.emilysutherland.me/ Anne Lamott - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anne_Lamott Jen Edds at the Brassy Broadcasting Company - https://brassybroad.com/ THE TREASURED JOURNAL Getting your thoughts out of your head and down on the page is a simple act that can change your life. I made the Treasured Journal for anyone who wants to dig a little deeper but doesn’t know where to start. The questions, prompts, and sentence stems in the journal will help support you in exploring the big feelings in your life. Learn more about this specially designed journal and its companion Meditation Series at https://danielleireland.com/journal . DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below. Website - https://danielleireland.com/ Substack - https://danielleireland.substack.com/ Blog - https://danielleireland.com/blog/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW Podcast on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured…

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Creativity Miniseries: Preparation 35:19

17 weeks ago35:19

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Welcome back to Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs and our Creativity Miniseries! I’m thrilled to continue this deep dive into the creative process alongside my friend and fellow creative, Emily H. Sutherland—a ghostwriter, published author, coach, and executive storyteller. Together, we’re exploring what it means to embrace creativity, break through resistance, and bring ideas to life. In our last episode, we discussed the first stage of creativity: inspiration—how talking about creativity, building community around it, and applying maybe a little bit of structure can allow ideas to feel more tangible and possible. Now, we’re moving into the next phase: preparation—the crucial but often overlooked step that turns inspiration into something real. Preparation can feel deceptively inactive—even lazy. But in reality, nothing is wasted. This stage is where clarity and intention come together, setting the foundation for everything that follows. If you’ve ever felt stuck between having a great idea and actually making it happen, this miniseries is for you! Buy my new book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! THE TREASURED JOURNAL The one tool I recommend to all of my therapy clients is journaling. Getting your thoughts out of your head and down on the page is a simple act that can change your life. The Treasured Journal is for anyone who wants to dig a little deeper but doesn’t know where to start. The questions, prompts, and sentence stems in the journal will help support you in exploring the big feelings in your life. Learn more about this specially designed journal and its companion Meditation Series at https://danielleireland.com/journal . EMILY SUTHERLAND Website - https://www.emilysutherland.me/ Storytelling for Business (April 4, 2025) - https://www.emilysutherland.me/events Nurturing Your Creative Self (May 9, 2025) - https://www.emilysutherland.me/events DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below. Website - https://danielleireland.com/ The Treasured Journal - https://danielleireland.com/journal Substack - https://danielleireland.substack.com/ Blog - https://danielleireland.com/blog/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW Podcast on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured…

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From Idea to Impact: How becauseOne is Transforming the Process of Giving 51:15

2 years ago51:15

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"becauseOne" is an online platform that connects people's passions with the needs of those served by non-profit organizations. This remarkable initiative sprang from the collaborative vision of sisters Stephany Dolan and Stacia Jones and was driven by their family's desire to strengthen community and make it easier to help others. We look at how to use becauseOne to get involved with organizations that match your specific areas of interest. And, as part of our discussion about the enthusiasm and challenges around developing their idea, Stephany and Stacia explain how elevating the good being done in the world is a key part of their vision. I’m excited to bring you this discussion because the platform is transforming how we give while also serving as an antidote to online negativity. With becauseOne, anyone can embrace philanthropy, spread positivity, and witness the direct impact of their contributions. Thank you for listening! Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! RESOURCES becauseOne website: https://becauseone.com/ Call: 463-444-8301 Email: info@becauseOne.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087037890605 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becauseone_community/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/becauseone/ ++++++++++++++++++ Journaling can be a life-changing tool. Grab a pen and put your thoughts on paper—you might be amazed by how much it helps. But, if you’re having trouble getting started or sorting out your thoughts, consider getting a copy of the Treasured Journal. The Treasured Journal includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. You can get the journal and its companion meditation guide at the link below. THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal Please feel free to reach out with any questions, comments, or experiences you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of this program and makes it easier for others to find us. CONNECT WITH DANIELLE Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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Three Myths About Therapy 20:54

2 years ago20:54

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Most of us look long and hard for reasons to avoid therapy. And, granted, therapy is not the only modality for emotional healing. Talking with friends and exercise and travel and dozens of other things can help the healing process. But, only therapy is therapy. Ultimately, THINKING about starting therapy is way harder than ACTUALLY starting therapy and it’s because of these three myths. People tend to think that starting therapy means: Something is wrong with me. (Not true.) I have failed. (Again, not true.) I have to know why I want it to start it. (No, you don’t.) If you’ve been thinking about starting therapy, don’t wait until the walls are crashing down around you. Taking that first step is easier than you think. If starting therapy seems scary and disempowering, consider this—therapy can be whatever you want it to be. Thank you for listening. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you might want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of the program for you and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. You can get THE TREASURED JOURNAL and its companion meditation guide at this link - https://danielleireland.com/journal Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! CONNECT WITH DANIELLE Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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Jealousy. Three things it could be telling you. 13:50

2 years ago13:50

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Jealousy is often seen as a negative emotion. And let’s be honest, it doesn’t feel great when we experience it. BUT, what does it look like when we approach our jealousy with a little compassionate curiosity? In my experience, jealousy is calling our attention to a deeper desire that’s hiding inside us. Like every emotion, jealousy can be a great teacher. It can show us that there is something we want or something we want more of. Jealousy can also signal that we are ready for a change. Oftentimes, however, we can get stuck on our way to clarity. Comparison, criticism, and complaining are common traps. If you’re feeling stuck, this episode is a good companion to our Listener’s Favorite episode on Desire (Ep 81), which we featured just a few weeks back. Journaling is another useful tool. A plain pad of paper and pen will do or you can use the Treasured Journal, which includes questions, prompts, and sentence stems that will help you open up and get your thoughts flowing. You can get the journal and its companion meditation guide at this link: THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal Thank you for listening. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you want to share. I would love to hear from you! If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps me increase the value of the program for you and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! CONNECT WITH DANIELLE Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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Finding hope. Raising a child lost in a complex medical system. 1:06:22

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My guest, Ashlyn Thompson, is the co-founder of Charlotte’s Hope Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to supporting, encouraging, and educating parents and caregivers of children facing difficult health challenges. Ashlyn, and co-founder Emily Whiting, have daughters with rare medical complexities. By sharing their stories, they hope to connect other parents and caregivers with valuable resources and the understanding that they are not alone. In short, they think of the foundation as providing a lighthouse in the storm. Our discussion covers a range of topics: Understanding advocacy Managing white coat syndrome Turning pain into purpose Dealing with trauma Sitting with the pain Leading with love Defining and introducing hope Enjoying dark chocolate Ashlyn and Emily created the Charlotte’s Hope Foundation to provide the type of support that was not available to them. As Ashlyn says, everyone knows someone. So, please, share this important discussion with others who could find value here. CONNECT WITH ASHLYN AND THE FOUNDATION Website: Charlotte’s Hope Foundation Podcast: Empowered by Hope Book: She is Charlotte by Emily K. Whiting Facebook Instagram As always, thank you for listening. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you want to share. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of the program for you and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal CONNECT WITH DANIELLE Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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A Husband and Wife Do Life. Danielle's FIRST recording with David Dellen. 1:07:38

2 years ago1:07:38

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Talk about a throwback! From 2018, this is the first ever recorded episode of the Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs podcast. Not the first to air, but the first to be recorded. My guest, David Dellen , is a Harley Davidson dealer , a big brother in the Big Brother Big Sister Program, and also MY HUSBAND. He is an incredible leader and entrepreneur with a lot of valuable experience to share. I wish I could say that I asked him to be my first guest because of his experience and wisdom, but truthfully...it was because I was scared, insecure, and he said "YES." So, this conversation is the REAL beginning. You'll hear me make every possible mistake: interrupting, clinking glasses, poor sound quality, poor use of the mic, etc. But you know, I LOVE this episode. I love this man, and I know you will, too. Welcome to the very beginning of my messy middle. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal CONNECT WITH DANIELLE Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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Journal Your Way to Clarity: Part 2b Relationships 22:33

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Our special series focusing on the seven life themes in The Treasured Journal continues with the second in a two-part discussion of relationships. This is a big topic that can include communication, boundaries, trauma, pleasure, needs identification, and more. But, here, I want to zero in on two specific concepts that I’ve found to be invaluable for myself and my clients—and I’m confident they will help you make the most of your journaling: Relationships are like mirrors The relationship fear loop Working through relationship “stuff” can take many forms and journaling can be one of our most effective tools. That’s why I recommend it to almost everyone! In the case of relationships, we’re able to learn a great deal about ourselves by examining how we feel about, how we treat, and how we respond to others. If you’re new to the series, it’s not too late to catch up. I am devoting the first podcast episodes of this year to a guided discussion of career, relationships, love, sex, money, family, and purpose—the major themes from The Treasured Journal. The series is designed to expand your ability to understand the role and influence these themes occupy in your life. It’s not essential that you use The Treasured Journal for this series of exercises—a plain pad of paper and pen will do. But, if you do use the journal, you can lean on the questions, prompts, and sentence stems that, along with these podcasts, will help you move past the blank page. You can get the journal and the companion meditation guide at this link: THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Thank you for listening to the Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs podcast. As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you want to share. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of the program for you and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. CONNECT WITH DANIELLE Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW The “Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs” podcast is edited by Marilou Marosz.…

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Journal Your Way to Clarity: Part 2a - Relationships 27:35

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We continue with a special series of exercises that will be our focus over the coming weeks. With each podcast, I’ll examine one of the seven life themes in The Treasured Journal: career, relationships, love, sex, money, family, and purpose. Journaling is one of the most powerful tools we have for gaining clarity and understanding of ourselves, which in turn, helps us advocate for ourselves, create space when we need it, and engage in constructive conversations that otherwise might feel overwhelming. This episode is the first of a two-part look at relationships. It’s where 90% of sessions start with my new clients. People want to talk about heartache, frustration, or anger with regard to their partner or someone else in their life—but ultimately, discussion of the relationship reveals work that needs to be done by the individual. And that’s okay; it’s a good place to start. We want to be seen and heard and we want other people to be there for us, but we need clarity on what “being there” looks like. So, when journaling about relationships, start with the following prompts: What do I really feel? What do I really want? How can I satisfy that for myself with some small action? It’s not essential that you use The Treasured Journal for this series of exercises—a plain pad of paper and pen will do. But, if you do use the journal, you can lean on the questions, prompts, and sentence stems that, along with these podcasts, will help you move past the blank page and gain the type of clarity that comes from meaningful self-reflection. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal BOOKS I’M READING (visit your local bookseller or library): Spare by Prince Harry - https://www.amazon.com/Spare-Prince-Harry-Duke-Sussex/dp/0593593804 The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté, MD with Daniel Maté - https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Normal-Illness-Healing-Culture/dp/0593083881 Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy - https://www.goodinside.com/book/ The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron - https://juliacameronlive.com/books-by-julia/ CONNECT WITH DANIELLE Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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Journal Your Way to Clarity: Part 1 - Career 32:16

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I am excited to announce a very special series of exercises that will be our focus over the next seven to nine weeks. With each podcast, I’ll examine one of the seven life themes in The Treasured Journal: career, relationships, love, sex, money, family, and purpose. Whether you’re experienced at journaling or brand new to it, I encourage you to take advantage of these guided exercises to explore the seven themes in your life. Journaling is one of the most powerful tools we have for gaining clarity and understanding. Understanding is empowering and freeing—it helps us advocate for ourselves, create space when we need it, and engage in constructive conversations that otherwise might be overwhelming. It’s not essential that you use The Treasured Journal for these exercises—a plain pad of paper and pen will do. But, I recommend that you lean on the questions, prompts, and sentence stems in the journal. Along with this series of podcasts, they will help you move past that blank page and gain the type of clarity that comes from meaningful self-reflection. Get a copy of THE TREASURED JOURNAL - https://danielleireland.com/journal In this episode, we begin our series with a discussion of “career” because people tend to have a lot of unconscious bias, complicated feelings, and self-identity wrapped up in their careers. So it’s worth examining how we perceive its value and its effect on us. Additionally, there is a unique emotional tension for women who choose to leave their careers to raise children. Within that context, we ask these questions about career to get your journaling juices flowing: How do I know which internal voice to listen to when one is telling me to rest and another is pushing me to do that thing that seems so important? When meeting someone and introducing myself, how quickly does my career come up? Or, conversely, do I avoid talking about my work? When I receive criticism, how do I react? How long do I dwell on the feedback? Do I start most weeks feeling some level of dread or enthusiasm about the week? Thanks for listening to the Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs podcast. As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you want to share. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of the program for you and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. BOOKS I’M READING (visit your local bookseller or library): The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté, MD with Daniel Maté - https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Normal-Illness-Healing-Culture/dp/0593083881 Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey - https://thenapministry.com/ Spare by Prince Harry - https://www.amazon.com/Spare-Prince-Harry-Duke-Sussex/dp/0593593804 CONNECT WITH DANIELLE Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW The “Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs” podcast is edited by Marilou Marosz.…

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Confidence, Collaboration & Jumping In. With Sheena Birt from Color Story Studio. 1:03:20

3 years ago1:03:20

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Sheena Birt is the owner of Color Story Studio, a custom design studio that turns brick-and-mortar businesses into destinations people can’t wait to visit. Color Story Studio is known for creating one-of-a-kind installations for a variety of high-profile locations in and around Indianapolis. Her work has been featured at Dior in Chicago and Two Chicks District Co. (the store owned by the women of HGTV’s Good Bones), corporate lifestyle brands (such as Anthropologie), and Newfields, an art institution the studio partners with each year to create an immersive, multi-room installation inside the historic Lilly House. While Sheena’s reputation and portfolio are impressive, her path from graphic designer at a t-shirt shop in Terre Haute to the owner and creative force behind a highly sought-after design studio has not been a straight line. We discuss career fits and starts, confidence, collaboration, trust, burnout, asking for help, and the reluctance to jump in. Sheena also shares her search for inspiration, the benefits of being open to new things, and a surprising social media strategy. I’m sure you’ll enjoy this inside look at a business we don’t often hear much about. Sheena’s insights will be of special interest for anyone considering a career in retail store and visual design, merchandising, and consulting. And, as you’re out and about this month, you’ll appreciate the season’s special holiday decorations from a brand new perspective. Learn more about Sheena and Color Story Studio: Website Instagram Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Thanks for listening. As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you want to share. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of the program for you and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with Danielle: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW The “Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs” podcast is edited by Marilou Marosz .…

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Gratitude and Toxic Positivity 27:41

3 years ago27:41

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There really is no escaping the year-end holidays. From decorations to music to parties, the season is everywhere! And, with the season, comes the expectation that this is a festive time of year and you had better get on board and be grateful. We love and encourage feelings of gratitude. Gratitude feels good and we want to feel good, right? But gratitude can go very wrong when it doesn’t allow for a full range of emotion. When there is no space to feel anything else, gratitude can tip over into toxic positivity. So, this is a discussion of what gratitude really is and how we can access it in a healthy, authentic way. Because gratitude is a feeling, practicing gratitude without actually feeling gratitude is an empty exercise. But when we are truly in a state of gratitude, we are creating new neural pathways in the brain. So, I also share a few techniques for a gratitude practice that can help you develop those pathways: Doing mirror work Telling someone what you love/appreciate/respect/value about them Asking someone what they love/appreciate/respect/value about you Journaling Just as we’ve been conditioned over the years to think negative thoughts, these techniques and others can recondition the brain—and being able to access the new pathways literally can be lifesaving. As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you might want to share. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of the program for you and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with Danielle: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW The “Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs” podcast is edited by Marilou Marosz .…

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Are You Being Too Hard on Yourself? 21:42

3 years ago21:42

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I started the "Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs" podcast to explore the "messy middle," that place between the before and after photo. It can also be thought of as the gap between how we are feeling and how we think we should be feeling. The middle doesn’t only exist during the year-end holidays, but as we’re closing in on that time of year, the gap between how we feel and how we want to feel can seem especially wide. To deal with the stress and business of the holiday season, we must first acknowledge the stress within ourselves. Anxiety, depression, and burnout can result when we push for a sense of togetherness and not disappointing loved ones. Before we know it, joy gives way to the pulls of exhaustion and lonliness. I know that it's easier said than done, but we need to get clear on what we want and how we want to feel if we're going to have a chance at getting through this season. So, start with some questions: How am I feeling? How do I want to feel? How do our holiday traditions make me feel? How many things am I doing because I want to be doing them? Or, because I feel I have to do them? Am I being too hard on myself by trying to please others and meet their expectations? What do I want my holiday season to feel like? How does it usually feel? How willing am I to acknowledge what I truly want, knowing the discomfort that it might cause? Remember that "practice makes permanent." Our holiday traditions have a way of continuing even when they no longer serve us. Maybe it’s time to make some space for a new approach or even a new tradition or two. We’ll revisit this theme in upcoming episodes, so give it some thought. As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you might want to share. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of the program for you and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW The “Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs” podcast is edited by Marilou Marosz .…

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Let Her Eat Cake! Danielle and Lauren Rieker, RDN. 51:37

3 years ago51:37

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Lauren Rieker, RDN, is a registered dietitian and owner/manager of Collaborative Counseling & Nutrition, an outpatient nutrition and body image counseling center in Indianapolis. In this episode, I talk with Lauren about her own history with food, exercise, and health—and how it led her to pursue an approach to eating disorders, body image, and intuitive eating that emphasizes compassion, mindfulness, and holistic treatment. This is not a typical discussion about our bodies and food-related struggles. In today’s environment, virtually all women are affected by pervasive ideas—and often misinformation—about body weight, size, and shape. So, I hope you will join us as Lauren shares her experience and perspective on these and related topics: Eating disorders versus disordered eating Conventional diet culture and health outcomes Behaviors, satisfaction, and trusting our bodies Combining therapy services and nutrition for healthy living Be sure to register for Lauren's workshop on October 19th to learn more about intuitive eating (Follow her on Social Media to get the deets! All her links are below.) Connect with Lauren and the team at the links below. Website: Collab-counseling.com Instagram: @laurenrieker.rd As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you might want to share with Danielle. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps increase the value of this program and makes it easier for other listeners to find the show. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with Danielle: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW The “Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs” podcast is edited by Marilou Marosz .…

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When things don't go as planned. 25:38

3 years ago25:38

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Let’s face it, sometimes things just don’t go as planned. But, how do we respond? Do we hang on fiercely to the original plan? Do we let go and adjust to the new situation? If we let go of the original plan, how do we know when to let go? A lot of my clients have been faced with this question lately. So, in this episode I share a recent experience of my own to explore these questions and more. We can learn a lot about ourselves when our plans are upended. All of us know the struggle of holding onto the promise of what could be rather than acknowledging the truth of what is. But that challenge, it turns out, can help us clarify what we want, why we want it, and how we want to feel. Maybe it’s time to rethink how we plan so that we can give proper attention to setting realistic expectations, listening to how we feel, and trusting in the idea of “lightly held” plans. As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you want to share with me. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of our time together and makes it easier for new listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW The “Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs” podcast is edited by Marilou Marosz .…

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Need some alone time? Why women need solo retreats. Danielle x Jen Petro. 36:06

3 years ago36:06

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In episode #42 from April 2022, Jen Petro and I discuss the benefits of taking a solo retreat. She first suggested the idea to me while working side by side at Cafe’ Patachou .⁣ ⁣I remember thinking, “Huh? Just go somewhere by myself, for myself, for no other reason than I want to?”⁣ ⁣It sounded indulgent, a little selfish, and OH SO NECESSARY. Saying yes to myself in this way changed my life. Truly. ⁣ A solo retreat can drop your stress level and help you feel more settled, especially in times of uncertainty. If taking a solo retreat sounds appealing and like something you’re able to do, I encourage you to listen to the episode to learn more about this terrific approach to self care. Enjoy! Jen Petro is a writer, marketing nerd, and owner of Dropleaf Communications. Dropleaf helps brands and businesses clarify their message to connect with customers and drive sales. To connect with Jen: Website: dropleaf.co/ Instagram: jenspetro Email: jen@dropleaf.co As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you might like to share with others. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of our time together and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: danielleireland_LCSW…

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When’s the last time you did something for the first time? Danielle x Danielle Wolter Nolan 1:07:55

3 years ago1:07:55

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This episode revisits my discussion with Danielle Wolter Nolan , who has a question for you. When was the last time you did something for the first time? In episode #42 from April 2020, Danielle and I talked about taking leaps of faith, what it means to push past what you believe is possible, and what it takes to live adventurously. Danielle and her wife, Kate Nolan, founders of DNK Presents , organize and guide empowering adventure retreats for groups and businesses. They focus on getting people to step outside their comfort zones, try something for the first time, and in turn, gain confidence through experiential learning and adventures. In 2016, they turned their story and the life changing stories of their fellow adventurers into a documentary film, titled “Live Adventurously,” which was accepted to the Heartland Film Festival. To learn more about the film, watch the trailer here . As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that you might like to share with others. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of our time together and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: danielleireland_LCSW…

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Are You Living in a Joy Deficit? - A solocast 23:59

3 years ago23:59

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If the way we want to feel isn’t alive somewhere inside us, then we’re more likely to stay stuck in the mindset of our problems. While choosing joy in the midst of insanity might feel like a bold and radical choice, joy is the rocket fuel we need to get us where we want to go. In this episode, I discuss tactics that help us tap into the joy that can be lying dormant inside us. Window-shopping joy Doubling down on what feels good Being a student of happiness By recognizing what feels good and practicing the rhythm of pleasure, we can learn to access the joy that we need. As always, feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or experiences that might benefit others. If you liked this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of our time together and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW The “Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs” podcast is edited by Marilou Marosz .…

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Attracting Loving Relationships 19:19

3 years ago19:19

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Our desire to attract more loving relationships relies on our ability to be honest and loving toward ourselves. In this listener’s favorite episode from January 2021, I revisit what this has looked like in my own life and explore the importance of finding acceptance and comfort in our authentic selves, which can set the stage for growth. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps increase the value of these discussions and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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Fear & Getting Unstuck - A Solocast 19:20

3 years ago19:20

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This episode comes in the wake of another horrific school shooting and many of the people I’ve encountered over the past week are struggling because of it. So, I’m compelled to use this time to address the concept of fear brought on by secondary trauma and how we can get stuck trying to process that fear. Through biologic evolution, our bodies have been hardwired with the classic fear responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. Often we respond with fear even when the danger or trauma does not pose an immediate physical threat to us. Typically, these reactions are involuntary. Our bodies make the decision to respond in a particular way regardless of whether the danger is real or perceived, primary or secondary. For many of us, our fear response appears not only because of a specific event or string of events, but also because the news outlets recount stories and images on seemingly endless repeat. We imagine the pain and heartache of the devastated families and consider the vulnerability of our own children. We are affected by the responses of our family, friends, and coworkers as well. Our social media feeds carry the strong emotions from the people we follow, and their reactions are served up right alongside the algorithms that are designed to activate us and keep us engaged as long as possible. When our bodies carry the weight of these chronic stressors it’s easy to get stuck in our corrosive emotions. But there are steps we can take to reduce our involuntary fear response. Here are just a few that I discuss in this episode: Exercise, go to the park, snuggle a pet, engage in simple touch Read, rather than watch, the news Limit the amount of time you spend consuming social media Most importantly, do what is best for you. If listening to this episode is not what you need right now, that’s okay. Come back next week. If you choose to listen, I hope it brings you some relief. Just know that you are not alone in your response to overwhelming tragedy. Thank you for listening. As always, I welcome your feedback and ask that you rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast if you find value here. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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Compassion Fatigue & Empathy. Danielle and Liesel Mertes 1:09:10

3 years ago1:09:10

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In this Listener’s Favorite from November 2020, I revisit compassion fatigue and empathy with Liesel Mertes. Liesel is a workplace empathy consultant and founder of Handle with Care Consulting . In the wake of Covid, workplace empathy has taken on even greater importance, but so too has the need for compassion and empathy in every aspect of our lives today. For many of us, the lines between work and home and school have been blurred and it seems that nearly everyone is struggling with fatigue and the current and residual stress from worrying about and taking care of ourselves, our loved ones, and our community. In this episode, Liesel shares her own profound experience with loss. Her journey has changed her perspective on what it means to be well and has transformed her ability to teach valuable lessons on how to be a better partner, a better friend, a better coworker, and a better leader. Even though loss can be heavy, our discussion is light. We approach the subject in a warm and gentle way. I’m confident that anyone whose life and worldview have been disrupted over the last several years will find benefit in Liesel’s experience and insight. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps increase the value of these discussions and makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW Connect with Liesel Mertes: Website Podcast LinkedIn Twitter…

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Boundaries & Bubble Baths. Danielle x Leslie Bailey 55:18

3 years ago55:18

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Women have always known that building community with other women creates a powerful force for good. Leslie Bailey, the co-founder and CEO of Indy Maven, has transformed that knowledge into a lifestyle media company and community for women that epitomizes her spirit of collaboration, support, and inspiration. And now she is creating even more opportunities for the community by launching a new social and networking space that expresses what the Indy Maven team has created digitally. I love the wisdom and vulnerability that she brought to our discussion on these topics and others: Managing success and all the expectations that come with it Resisting the urge to give away too much of yourself Setting boundaries Understanding that self care is about more than bubble baths Asking for help when life happens I’m confident that you’ll find useful takeaways in this episode. It’s a valuable discussion for anyone who has ever felt overwhelmed, in need of support, or out of control despite their achievements. Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps increase the value of these discussions and it makes it easier for other listeners to find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW Ways to connect with Leslie Bailey & IndyMaven: Indy Maven Website Indy Maven Instagram Indy Maven Facebook Leslie Bailey Instagram Leslie Bailey Facebook Leslie Bailey is the co-founder, CEO, and editor-in-chief of Indy Maven, a lifestyle media company and community for women, by women in Central Indiana. Indy Maven offers an engaging website with free editorial content, an award-winning weekly newsletter, a membership program, events, and more. Before launching Indy Maven, Leslie worked as a freelance writer and editor and held roles including managing editor of AAA Crossroads magazine, lifestyle editor at Indianapolis Monthly magazine and “The Adventuress” columnist for the Indianapolis Star. In 2021, Leslie was listed in the first class of the Forbes Next 1000. In the spring of 2022, she’s launching Maven Space, a community and co-working space powered by Mavens. Leslie is a longstanding board member at Coburn Place and was a founding member of the Indianapolis Museum of Art’s Fashion Arts Society. She lives on the northwest side of Indianapolis with her husband, 4-year-old and 1-year-old sons, a bonus 12-year-old son, two cats, and a slobbery Bullmastiff.…

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Everything is connected: our pelvic floor & deep breaths. Danielle x Dr. Katye Tuyo. 57:57

3 years ago57:57

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I'm excited to introduce you to Dr. Katye Tuyo, PT, DPT, an orthopedic and pelvic health physical therapist. In this episode we learn that everyone—regardless of gender—has a pelvic floor and its health plays a vital role in our overall health and wellbeing. I learned this firsthand as a patient, which is why I’ve asked Katye to share her expertise. This episode is not just for new parents. Katye talks about pelvic floor health, how to recognize when therapy might be needed, and how even seemingly unrelated physical issues can signal the need for help. Everything from hip pain, back pain, urinary incontinence, sexual dysfunction, leg pain, and many other problems can be improved by pelvic floor strength and stabilization therapy. We don’t have to “just live with” physical pain and dysfunction Many symptoms are common but not normal, and can be fixed Our emotional and physical systems are profoundly interconnected Deep breaths don’t cost a thing SPECIAL GIVEAWAY Do you live in or near Indianapolis? Get in on a chance to win an initial consultation and treatment session at Vitalize Physical Therapy as well as my Treasured Journal & Meditation Series —a combined $300 value. Follow me on Instagram to get the details. Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of these discussions for you and it makes it easier for other listeners find us. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW Ways to connect with Katye and the Vitalize Physical Therapy Team: Website Instagram Facebook Dr. Katye Tuyo is happy to be a part of the Vitalize Physical Therapy family, with a passion for getting to the root cause for true healing to happen. Born into a family that bleeds Black and Gold, she attended Purdue University where she graduated with a degree in Athletic Training. It was there she discovered a natural ability to feel what is happening below the skin and a love for manual therapy was born. She continued on to the University of Indianapolis where she achieved her Doctorate degree in Physical Therapy. Upon graduation from UIndy, Katye remained in the Indianapolis area treating patients with orthopedic and pelvic health conditions, continuing to grow her holistic approach to help patients heal. Her patients say she is a good listener and uses a personalized hands-on method. She focuses on creating an optimal environment to enable the body’s innate healing process. She takes a “zoomed-out” approach in order to determine contributing factors, while simultaneously focusing on the root cause of symptoms. Katye is a lifelong learner, stays up to date on current research, and loves continuing education to learn new techniques and perfect her skills. When not at the clinic, you can find Katye spending time with her dog Harvey. She enjoys traveling, going on family trips, rollerblading with her pup, advocating and educating on non-toxic personal products, and growing her own fresh veggies in the garden. On Saturday mornings you will likely find her at one of her favorite places, the farmer’s market, where she enjoys trying new foods and supporting the local community.…

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David’s Hot Takes: Navigating Parenthood, Marriage & an Evolving Relationship 1:21:47

3 years ago1:21:47

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When you’re caught up in the details of everyday life, it can be easy to “forget” how remarkable our loved ones are because we’re around them so much. By dedicating time for interruption-free discussion that might not happen organically over dinner, we can reconnect in important ways. So I thought it would be fun to “check in” with my husband, David Dellen, and share that discussion with you. Since having a baby in the last year, our relationship has changed and evolved in ways we anticipated and in ways we did not. We discuss: Adapting to changing priorities Managing an evolving relationship Making adjustments in communication Whether you’re a new parent or not, these themes will resonate with anyone interested in making the most of life with their partner. Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps me increase the value of these discussions for you. Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please remember to rate, review & subscribe to the podcast. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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LISTENER'S FAVORITE: Jealousy - 3 things it could be telling you. 16:58

3 years ago16:58

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Jealousy is often seen as a negative emotion. And let's be honest, it doesn't feel that great when we experience it. ⁣ BUT, what does it look like if we approach our jealousy with a little compassionate curiosity? In my experience, jealousy is calling our attention to deeper desires that we may not be fully aware we have. When we're riding the jealousy train, we might find ourselves falling into the following rabbit holes: Comparison⁣ Criticism Complaining⁣ ⁣Here's 3 things jealousy it might be telling you.⁣⁣ There's something here I want for myself.⁣ I need more of this in my life.⁣ I'm really ready to make this change.⁣ ⁣ Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please remember to rate, review & subscribe to the podcast. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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LISTENER'S FAVORITE: Doubt. What does it mean & what do we do with it? 30:58

3 years ago30:58

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Doubt - What does it mean? Why do we feel it? What do we do about it? A preview to upcoming episodes, and what to expect from the podcast moving forward. Doubt - Why do we feel it? What does it mean? How does it affect our behavior? And, what the heck are we supposed to do when we feel it? I share a journal entry (in real time) as an example for when I last experienced doubt, how I felt, and share a process that could be helpful to you too. Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please remember to rate, review & subscribe to the podcast. Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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LISTENER'S FAVORITE: Gaslighting 18:28

3 years ago18:28

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Being gaslit can feel like you're carrying a lunch tray and someone smacks it up in your face. It wasn't your doing, but somehow you're the one with chocolate pudding and pizza all over your clothes. It's messy, confusing, and often leaves you doubting yourself. In this week's solo cast, I'm exploring gaslighting. What it means. What it sounds like. What it does to our relationships. And more importantly -> How to work through it. Did you enjoy the episode? If so, please remember to rate, review & subscribe to the podcast. Grab a copy of the Treasured Journal HERE Ways to connect with me: Website: danielleireland.com Instagram: @danielleireland_LCSW Facebook: @danielleireland_LCSW…

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