Top 10 Things to Know When Going Through a Divorce

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Summary: In this episode, Elizabeth Stephenson, Sarah Hink, and Jen Bordeaux from New Direction Family Law share the top ten essential tips and advice for navigating through a divorce. They cover both legal and personal aspects, offering practical insights and supportive guidance to help listeners manage this challenging period in their lives. From financial independence to emotional support, these tips aim to provide a comprehensive understanding of what to expect and how to handle various situations during a divorce.

Key Points:

1. Your Kids Will Be Okay
   • Emphasize the importance of shielding children from conflict.
   • Tips on co-parenting and maintaining a healthy relationship with your children.
2. Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your Ex
   • Avoid speaking negatively about your ex in front of your children.
   • Focus on your children's well-being rather than on past grievances.
3. There's Always a Way to Make It Work Financially
   • Discuss strategies for financial independence.
   • Importance of understanding your financial situation and planning accordingly.
4. Don't Use Your Attorney for Emotional Support
   • Seek professional counseling for emotional needs.
   • Focus on using your attorney for legal advice and strategy.
5. Things Might Get Worse Before They Get Better
   • Prepare for potential escalation of conflict during the process.
   • Stay focused on long-term outcomes and personal growth.
6. Focus on Yourself and Set Boundaries
   • Prioritize self-care and establish clear boundaries with your ex.
   • Use tools like Our Family Wizard for communication.
7. Unfriend or Block Your Ex on Social Media
   • Avoid the temptation to stalk or engage with your ex online.
   • Protect your mental health by limiting exposure to potentially upsetting content.
8. Treat Communications as Though They Will Be Read in Court
   • Always maintain a respectful and factual tone in written communications.
   • Understand that any communication could be used as evidence.
9. Surround Yourself with Supportive People
   • Lean on friends, family, or support groups for emotional support.
   • Avoid people who encourage negative or aggressive behavior.
10. Don't Rush into Dating After Divorce
    • Take time to heal and reflect on your past relationship.
    • Ensure you are emotionally ready before starting a new relationship.

Resources Mentioned:

• Our Family Wizard and other co-parenting tools.
• Professional counselors and therapists.
• Support groups and online communities for divorced individuals.

Call to Action:

• Follow New Direction Family Law on TikTok for more tips and insights.
• Reach out to a professional counselor for emotional support.
• Consult with an attorney to understand your legal rights and options.

Conclusion: Divorce can be a challenging and emotional journey, but by following these ten tips, you can navigate it more effectively. Focus on your well-being, seek appropriate support, and take one step at a time to ensure a better future for yourself and your children.