Valentine's Day Special: Tips for developing a loving relationship

Get Over Yourself! The Milt n Mia Show's podcast

After Milt introduces themselves and the show, he mentions their 2 relationship booklets, The Get Over Yourself! Handbook on Cheating and Betrayal and The Get Over Yourself! Handbook on Creating Happiness in a Relationship, before Milt speaks of today's theme, Valentine's Day and what it takes to nurture and develop a loving relationship. Milt, “The aim of any couple should be to develop a loving relationship over time.” He advises that men, rather than buying gifts, should take that day and clean the house, cook a great meal or meals then give her hot and lengthy romance to really celebrate the meaning of the day. Mia, “Don't just do this on Valentines, try bringing once a week a day of love into your life. Something fun to give her a break, and you can include the kids, too. It's not another material gift, as women need gifts that come from the heart; why not try a fresh bread you make? Or clean the house, dusting, little things that men may not notice but women do.” Milt mentions the debut of 50 Shades of Grey and suggests men give their wives a 'private screening' later. Mia, “Don't be a follower of a movie, though, why not be your own creative director and come up with your own story and love who you are?”

Milt goes through the tips they've mapped out to develop a loving relationship, “Honesty is perhaps the single most important quality you need for love to really grow, and the lack of it will just kill it, but why do you feel this is so critical?” Mia, “When you lie, you tell your partner 'I don't love myself because who I am, I'm ashamed of', but is that why we are here?” Milt, “2nd on our list is the concept of patience, being patient with one another and allowing our lovers to grow, make mistakes and develop.” Mia, “We are living in a very fast paced world where everything is instant, but good things take time, especially cooking. Allow your partner to make mistakes without you constantly criticizing them.” Milt, “Next is developing good communication habits early in your relationship, rather than waiting until some crisis comes along.” Mia, “If you keep the habit of regularly communicating with your loved one, things don't accumulate nor do they suddenly explode when some surprise happens.” Milt, “This next one probably should be attached to patience, because they go hand-in-hand, the idea of being humorous, having fun and making light with each other's and our own screw-ups and mistakes.” Mia, “Some people take everything serious because that's how they learned. Just don't wait till the last second before you talk about a problem, and don't penalize yourself with guilt, including calling yourself 'dumb'. Humor makes things a little easier.” Milt, “Next is the idea of not smothering each other with neediness, or clinging to one another to the point that the other person cannot even enjoy their lives without you worrying over every detail.” Mia, “We all need our space, but it's important to have time for yourself, so you can recognize your talents and develop them; if you spend too much time together, you become suffocated.” Milt, “Another quality on our list is to appreciate who your lover is and not focus on what they are not or should be.” Mia, “Learn to praise each other honestly; every once in awhile, let them know that you recognize their good qualities, so they're encouraged to continue.” Milt, “Last on our list is to learn to be a lover to your loved one, which means learning the secrets of intimacy which your lover and you enjoy.” Mia, “One thing we've last now is our instincts, and to be a good lover, you must be instinctive and sensitive. Only time will make you a great lover.”

Milt reads an email from a formerly selfish man who loves Valentine's Day and now wants to learn a few tips on loving properly. Mia, “He's making progress, he was immature and selfish but now he's taking things slowly. Just don't torture yourself over your past; now you're aware and learning to do all the right things. Just make sure your gifts are unique and from your heart, including cooking for her. Ask questions about her and put the focus all on her and tell her, 'The entire day is ours!'”

Mia draws 2 names from the hat for their book giveaway and offers some advice on how to read it slowly, 1 page at a time, before Milt sends everyone to their website with its MiltnMia Show Store, and then closes the show.