S1E23. Black Sheep Bios’ Heaux Story: Youth Group “Mess Up,” Sex as Power Trip, Guilt-Free Sex

Heauxly Coitus

Follow @BlackSheepBios on Instagram to learn more about Deconstructing religion, faith, spirituality, and all things purity culture! A Heaux Is someone who embraces their sexual autonomy, and as long as it remains consensual and causes no harm, doesn't allow religion to dictate what they do with and think about their body. ~ Black Sheep Bios _______ I don’t normally do show notes, but BSB was super organized and I want to acknowledge her preparation! See below for our talking points. 1) My Purity Culture Experience - Purity Ring -Youth Group -"Messing up" and enjoying a redemptive testimony -Conditional love from friends/family, being threatened -Leaning into purity culture and being shocked it wasn't all it promised 2) How Purity Culture messed up my Sexuality -When i had sex, i didn't do so safely (if you bring protection... that makes it a premeditated sin lol) -Sex was always intense, passionate, hard, fast, "naughty"... because it was sin. So if I wanted to do it... I had to really lean into that. Unfortunately I'm STILL learning how to embrace the soft, slow, passive, safe, intimate side of it. -Sex was a power trip for me. As a woman who had grown up absolutely stifled by misogyny it felt wildly powerful to feel really in control of a man. - I didn't truly embrace and accept guilt-free sex until after I was already in a healthy, committed hetero marriage 3) Deconstruction & Black Sheep Bio's 8 points of "Purity Culture: Fallout" 1. Lasting Shame 2. The Pressure to Perform 3. Unrealistic Romantic Expectations 4. Body Dysmorphia 5. Self- Gaslighting 6. Emotional Disappointment 7. Feelings of Spiritual Inadequacy 8. Unhealthy Sexual Identity Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For Heaux T-shirts and mugs and bags: http://jenaya-global.myshopify.com 💦Come share your heaux story on the pod! Be the next guest. Inbox me, Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For pictures, past episodes, and stories: https://heauxlycoitus.home.blog . ~To be a heaux is to engage in consensual sex, be kind your yourself and partner(s), creative, fully embodied, unapologetic, powerful, and free.~