IYT 114 Mirror Talk: Shifting Your Inner Dialogue

In Your Thirties

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On the Season 2 debut of Lost Cultures: Living Legacies , we travel to Bermuda, an Atlantic island whose history spans centuries and continents. Once uninhabited, Bermuda became a vital stop in transatlantic trade, a maritime stronghold, and a cultural crossroads shaped by African, European, Caribbean, and Native American influences. Guests Dr. Kristy Warren and Dr. Edward Harris trace its transformation from an uninhabited island to a strategic outpost shaped by shipwrecks, colonization, the transatlantic slave trade, and the rise and fall of empires. Plus, former Director of Tourism Gary Phillips shares the story of the Gombey tradition, a vibrant performance art rooted in resistance, migration, and cultural fusion. Together, they reveal how Bermuda’s layered past continues to shape its people, culture, and identity today. You can also find us online at ⁠travelandleisure.com/lostcultures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

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Welcome to In Your Thirties, the podcast that dives into the real, raw, and sometimes hilarious journey of navigating life in your thirties. I'm your host, Brandea Miller, and this February, we’re flipping the script on love. Instead of focusing on romance, we’re talking about the most important relationship you’ll ever have—the one with yourself.

In this episode, Mirror Talk: Shifting Your Inner Dialogue, we explore how the way you speak to yourself shapes your confidence, mental health, and ability to fully embrace self-love. We’ll unpack the science behind self-talk, share practical tips for challenging negative thoughts, and show you how to reframe your inner dialogue with kindness and compassion.

Whether you’re struggling with self-doubt or simply looking to deepen your self-love journey, this episode offers the tools and inspiration to transform your inner world. So grab your favorite cup of coffee, settle in, and let’s get real about the power of self-love—because you deserve it.

Thanks for Listening!
If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who could use a little extra love this month.

Until next time, I’m Brandea Miller, reminding you that you are enough, just as you are.

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IYT 114 Mirror Talk: Shifting Your Inner Dialogue

In Your Thirties

published about a year ago

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Thanks for Listening!
If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who could use a little extra love this month.

Until next time, I’m Brandea Miller, reminding you that you are enough, just as you are.

24 episodes

#Brandea Miller #Thanks For Listening #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement

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IYT 125 Make The Most of Your Summer Schedule 17:53

21 days ago17:53

17:53

Summer doesn’t have to slip through your fingers. In this deep-dive episode, we’re talking all about how to schedule your time with intention so you can actually enjoy it. We’ll explore the power of seasonal living, go in-depth on time-blocking and thematic days, and break down the 3-3-3 Rule for summer planning — your new secret weapon for balance and joy. Plus, we’re sharing a massive list of summer activity ideas, vacation inspiration (including family-friendly tips), and safe travel advice to help you confidently say yes to adventure. You’ll also get a gentle permission slip to design a summer that truly feels like yours. Whether you're looking to relax, reconnect, or re-energize, this episode will help you build a summer you won’t want to forget.…

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IYT 124 Owning Your Orgasm 42:49

28 days ago42:49

42:49

In this episode of In Your Thirties, we dive deep into a conversation that’s long overdue: Owning Your Orgasm . Too many of us were raised in a world where female pleasure took a backseat — we were taught to focus on his satisfaction, to play the role of the "good partner," and never to ask for what we truly wanted. But it's time to change the narrative. We explore the myths and misconceptions that held us back in our 20s and how those lessons shaped our experiences in the bedroom (and beyond). Through personal stories, research-backed insights, and practical tips, we’ll reframe the conversation and empower you to claim your pleasure fully and unapologetically. Whether you’re rediscovering your sexuality in your 30s or just beginning to understand your own body, this episode is for anyone who’s ready to step into their sexual power and say, “I own my orgasm.” Join us as we break free from outdated ideas, reclaim our pleasure, and give ourselves permission to enjoy sex on our terms. It’s time to make space for our own desires, communication, and self-love. Because your orgasm isn’t just a bonus — it’s your birthright.…

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IYT 123 Signs You are Not Ready | Dating Edition | 50:06

5 weeks ago50:06

50:06

Are you truly ready for love, or are you just feeling the pressure to settle down? In this episode of In Your Thirties, we’re diving deep into the signs that you might not be ready to date—yet. Society tells us that by our 30s, we should have the relationship, the ring, and the stability of lasting love. But what happens when our hearts, minds, and lives aren’t prepared to receive that love in a healthy way? We’ll uncover five major signs that you should hit pause on dating, the consequences of ignoring them, and, most importantly, how to shift toward healing. From unresolved trauma to seeking love as a void-filler, we’ll explore the research and real-life patterns that shape our relationships. If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, Why do I keep choosing the wrong partners? or Why does love feel so hard?—this episode is for you. Tune in as we break down what it really means to be ready for love and how to prepare yourself for the relationship you truly deserve.…

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IYT 122 Hard Lessons, Hidden Strength 1:00:11

6 weeks ago1:00:11

1:00:11

We've all heard it—"Why do you always have to learn the hard way?" It’s often said as a criticism, but what if learning through struggle is actually a secret weapon for growth? In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology of hard-earned lessons, exploring why failure and adversity can lead to deeper wisdom, stronger resilience, and lasting personal transformation. Backed by research and real-life insights, we’ll uncover why some people struggle to learn life’s lessons the first time, why regret isn’t always necessary, and how embracing difficulty can be the key to mastering life. If you've ever felt like your toughest experiences shaped you in ways others can’t understand, this episode is for you. Tune in to discover why learning the hard way isn’t a flaw—it’s a superpower. 💡🔥…

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IYT 121 The Bio You Would Never Post 29:11

7 weeks ago29:11

29:11

We carefully curate our social media bios and “About Me” sections to reflect the best version of ourselves—but what if they were based solely on our behavior behind closed doors? Would they say the same things? In this episode, we take a brutally honest look at the gap between self-perception and reality. From road rage moments to everyday frustrations, we explore why we justify certain behaviors, the psychology behind cognitive bias, and why true self-awareness is so rare. Through expert insights, personal reflection, and actionable steps, we’ll uncover how to bridge the gap between who we think we are and who we actually are. Ready to face the truth? Let’s dive in.…

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IYT 120 Lavender Marriages: Then, Now, and the Evolving Meaning of Partnership 38:41

8 weeks ago38:41

38:41

What happens when love, identity, and societal expectations collide? In this episode, we take a deep dive into the history, evolution, and modern reality of lavender marriages—once a secret necessity, now a complex and evolving concept. We’ll explore how these marriages were shaped by the pressures of Hollywood’s Golden Age, cultural and religious expectations, and professional survival. Then, we’ll examine how relationships have shifted in the modern era, from queerplatonic partnerships to the ongoing use of public-facing relationships for personal protection. Are lavender marriages a relic of the past, or do they still hold relevance today? Join us as we unravel the nuanced reasons why some people still choose these relationships—and what that tells us about the world we live in.…

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IYT 119 Not Everyone Can Sit at Your Table 26:51

9 weeks ago26:51

26:51

Not everyone can sit at your table—and that’s okay. In this episode, we dive into the difficult but necessary process of letting go of relationships that no longer serve us. We explore the grief that comes with saying goodbye, the guilt of moving on, and the power of making space for the right people. How do we honor the love we once had while accepting that some people are no longer meant to be in our lives? How do we release the weight of past connections and allow ourselves to embrace peace? Join me as we navigate these deep emotions, offering real, actionable ways to process, heal, and move forward. 🎧 Tune in, reflect, and remember—you deserve a table filled with people who truly belong.…

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IYT 118 The Parenting Village—Help, Resistance, and Unreliable Support 1:00:42

10 weeks ago1:00:42

1:00:42

We’ve all heard the saying, “It takes a village to raise a child,” but in today’s world, do we actually let the village do its job? Many parents reject the very help and advice that a strong support system is supposed to provide, convinced they know best. At the same time, we often expect support from people who can barely manage their own responsibilities. In this episode, we take a deep dive into what the village was originally meant to be, why we’ve moved away from communal parenting, and the impact of that shift on both parents and children. We’ll explore research-backed insights on the benefits of shared caregiving, the rise of parental isolation, and why so many parents resist the help that’s available. Plus, we’ll examine the problem of unreliable village members—those we lean on but shouldn’t. If you’ve ever felt alone in parenting, struggled to accept help, or questioned why the village doesn’t seem to function the way it should, this episode is for you. Let’s break down the barriers to building the support system we all need.…

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IYT 117 Lucky Decisions | How Small Choices Can Lead to Big Outcomes | 25:25

11 weeks ago25:25

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In this episode, we explore the seemingly small, often unnoticed decisions that can set off a chain of events leading to life-changing outcomes. From everyday choices to unexpected moments of luck, we’ll delve into how each decision—whether it's a detour or a bold leap—can shape our path in ways we never saw coming. Join us as we reflect on our own "lucky decisions," discuss how to make the most of life's unpredictable turns, and uncover how sometimes, the best things happen when we least expect them.…

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IYT 116 The Comfort Of Lies Vs Truth 27:07

12 weeks ago27:07

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In this episode of In Your Thirties, we explore why people often prefer the comfort of a lie over the unsettling nature of the truth. From protecting our sense of self to avoiding hard emotions, lies offer a sense of relief and simplicity. We discuss the principle of cognitive ease, which explains why our brains are naturally inclined to believe information that feels familiar and effortless—even when it’s false. Through personal reflections and psychological insights, we examine how this principle influences our choices and how understanding it can empower us to embrace the discomfort of truth for a more authentic life.…

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IYT 115 Knowing When To Walk AWAY! 50:39

14 weeks ago50:39

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In this episode of *In Your Thirties*, Brandea Miller dives deep into a crucial topic—*knowing when to walk away from relationships.* Whether it’s a romantic partner, a long-time friend, a family member, or even a business connection, holding onto toxic relationships can take a serious toll on your mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. Brandea breaks down the different types of relationships that may no longer serve you, the key warning signs that it’s time to move on, and the real-life consequences of overstaying in unhealthy dynamics. Backed by research and expert insights, this episode explores how negative relationships impact stress levels, self-esteem, decision-making, and overall personal growth. Most importantly, you’ll learn practical strategies for walking away with grace, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your well-being—without guilt. If you’ve ever struggled with knowing when to let go, this episode is for you. Grab your coffee, tea, or a glass of wine, and let’s have this necessary conversation.…

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IYT 114 Mirror Talk: Shifting Your Inner Dialogue 19:54

15 weeks ago19:54

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Welcome to In Your Thirties , the podcast that dives into the real, raw, and sometimes hilarious journey of navigating life in your thirties. I'm your host, Brandea Miller, and this February, we’re flipping the script on love. Instead of focusing on romance, we’re talking about the most important relationship you’ll ever have—the one with yourself . In this episode, Mirror Talk: Shifting Your Inner Dialogue , we explore how the way you speak to yourself shapes your confidence, mental health, and ability to fully embrace self-love. We’ll unpack the science behind self-talk, share practical tips for challenging negative thoughts, and show you how to reframe your inner dialogue with kindness and compassion. Whether you’re struggling with self-doubt or simply looking to deepen your self-love journey, this episode offers the tools and inspiration to transform your inner world. So grab your favorite cup of coffee, settle in, and let’s get real about the power of self-love—because you deserve it. Thanks for Listening! If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who could use a little extra love this month. Until next time, I’m Brandea Miller, reminding you that you are enough, just as you are.…

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IYT 113 Grateful, But Broke: How to Celebrate Thanksgiving on a Budget 53:47

26 weeks ago53:47

53:47

Feeling the financial squeeze this holiday season? Don’t worry—you’re not alone. In this episode of In Your Thirties, host Brandea Miller shares practical tips and creative ideas for celebrating Thanksgiving without blowing your budget. From affordable recipes and shopping hacks to meaningful DIY décor and thoughtful ways to show gratitude, this episode is packed with advice to help you make the most of the holiday without the stress. Discover how to plan a feast that’s delicious and budget-friendly, rethink traditional celebrations, and focus on what really matters: connection, gratitude, and togetherness. Whether you’re hosting, attending, or keeping things simple this year, you’ll walk away with plenty of inspiration to create a Thanksgiving full of love and joy—on any budget.…

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IYT 112 The Power of Pausing: How a Temporary Downgrade Can Set You Up for Big Wins 46:03

27 weeks ago46:03

46:03

In this episode of In Your Thirties, host Brandea Miller dives into the power of simplifying your life—temporarily—to achieve your biggest goals. Learn how a purposeful downgrade can free up your time, money, and energy to focus on what truly matters. Whether it’s saving for a dream, starting a business, or just creating more space to breathe, this episode is all about taking one step back to leap forward.…

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IYT 111 Holidays Reimagined: The Art of Tradition 40:48

28 weeks ago40:48

40:48

On this episode of In Your Thirties , we dive into the magic of creating holiday traditions—whether you’re flying solo, a couple, or navigating life with kids. We explore how these rituals can bring joy, provide stability, and strengthen family bonds. Plus, we share fun ideas for traditions that can last a lifetime and make the holiday season extra special. Tune in to learn how to craft traditions that create lasting memories and help you savor the season!…

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IYT 110 Merry & Manageable: Stress Less, Enjoy More This Holiday Season 30:00

29 weeks ago30:00

30:00

Hey Thirty Something Gang! As the holiday season ramps up, we’re diving into the realities of holiday stress—from family gatherings to financial pressures—and exploring ways to make it through with sanity and joy intact. In this episode of "In Your Thirties", we uncover the effects holiday stress can have on our health and finances and share practical tips to manage the chaos. Episode Sources 1. National Institute of Mental Health Insights on the effects of chronic stress on physical and mental health. Link: [https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/stress](https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/stress) 2. Journal of Behavioral Medicine Research on stress-related immune responses and the impact of holiday stress on health. Link: [https://www.springer.com/journal/10865](https://www.springer.com/journal/10865) *(Note: Full article access may require subscription)* 3. American Psychological Association (APA) Discussion on the emotional impact of financial stress and the holiday season. Link: [https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/stress/2022/stress-in-america-finances](https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/stress/2022/stress-in-america-finances) 4. Forbes Data on average holiday spending and financial trends during the holiday season. Link: [https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbesadvisor/2023/10/15/average-holiday-spending/](https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbesadvisor/2023/10/15/average-holiday-spending/) 5. Credit Karma Statistics on holiday debt, spending regret, and financial stress post-holidays. Link: [https://www.creditkarma.com/advice/i/holiday-debt](https://www.creditkarma.com/advice/i/holiday-debt) 6. Harvard Health Exploration of mindfulness as a method for reducing stress, especially useful during holiday seasons. Link: [https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/mindfulness-can-help-reduce-stress](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/mindfulness-can-help-reduce-stress) 7. Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley Research on the positive effects of gratitude on well-being, supporting gratitude practices. Link: [https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/gratitude](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/gratitude) These sources provide comprehensive support for the episode’s exploration of holiday stress and effective ways to manage it.…

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IYT 008 You're Nothing Without Your Spouse 45:00

29 weeks ago45:00

45:00

In this episode of "In Your Thirties," we delve into the crucial elements of support that create a resilient and healthy partnership. From emotional and practical to moral support, we explore real-life examples and actionable advice to help you and your partner navigate life's challenges together. Whether you're balancing household chores, offering a listening ear, or providing encouragement during tough times, learn how to strengthen your bond and foster interdependence in your relationship.…

In Your Thirties

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IYT 007 Is It Worth It? 42:18

29 weeks ago42:18

42:18

In this episode of In Your Thirties , we dive deep into the journey of breaking the generational curse of financial struggle. If you’re in your 30s and find yourself wondering if all your hard work and hustle are truly worth it, this episode is for you. We explore how overcoming financial hardships is about more than just money—it’s about creating a legacy of stability, empowerment, and opportunities for yourself and future generations. From improving mental health and fostering personal growth to building stronger family dynamics and contributing to community well-being, we uncover the profound impact of breaking free from financial struggles. Tune in to discover why your perseverance matters and how it’s paving the way for a brighter, more fulfilling future.…

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IYT 004 Rich Aunt Vibes 13:51

31 weeks ago13:51

13:51

In this episode of In Your Thirties, we delve into the essence of the "Rich Aunt Vibe" and explore what truly makes a rich aunt beyond material possessions. Join us as we uncover the qualities and values that define the modern woman in her thirties embracing the rich aunt persona. From embodying independence and generosity to exuding confidence and empowerment, discover how the rich aunt vibe transcends material wealth and empowers women to live life on their own terms. Tune in for insightful discussions and inspiring anecdotes that celebrate the richness of spirit and character that defines the modern-day rich aunt vibe.…

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IYT 003 The Only 10 I See 27:39

31 weeks ago27:39

27:39

Welcome to the in your thirties podcast and to the 30 something gang! We are so excited you are here with us today. With a little absence and some big changes since the first couple of episodes today we'll be once again catching up and getting up to speed on what is going on in our lives. From a quick move to Tennessee to unspecific insight into the things that have been going on to some plan evaluation and what is the ultimate goal? Talk with me about our mini farm plans, our renewable energy plans for our house, being in the midst of chaos and still finding joy in the furnace of this season. Time is a wasting and we aren't getting any younger so grab a snack and a warm blanket and let's chat! If you enjoyed this episode follow us on your favorite podcast website. You can also join me on some other platforms below. Thank you so much for showing up today and incase no one has told you I am glad you are here. You can join us on these platforms to keep up with updates and other things we have going on! Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/brandea.miller/ Instagram- www.instagram.com/brandeamiller Blog- www.millersandmiles.com Youtube- https://www.youtube.com/@brandeamiller/featured Tiktok- Brandealmiller Amazon- https://www.amazon.com/shop/brandeamiller…

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IYT 002 Taking Charge of Our Life 56:29

31 weeks ago56:29

56:29

Welcome to In Your Thirties the Podcast. I am your host Brandea Miller. In Your Thirties you should laugh more and cry less. You should seize each moment and live a magnificent life. In Your Thirties you can grow and heal from your traumas. You can dance and celebrate more than ever. In Your Thirties you could bless others, or raise humans that can save the world. In your thirties you could choose that instead of raising humans you will make a difference in the lives of those already here. You may travel and gain perspective from different points of view. You may conquer the world or you may conquer getting a raise. No matter where our 30 somethings take us let’s navigate it together. While this episode was long it was definitely nice to get back with you guys and chat it up. Hopefully you can implement some of these tips and techniques in your life to help you take charge of your life in this new season! If you enjoyed this episode follow us on your favorite podcast website. You can also join me on some other platforms below. Thank you so much for showing up today and incase no one has told you I am glad you are here. You can join us on these platforms to keep up with updates and other things we have going on! Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/brandea.miller/ Instagram- www.instagram.com/brandeamiller Blog- www.millersandmiles.com Youtube- https://www.youtube.com/@brandeamiller/featured Tiktok- Brandealmiller Amazon- https://www.amazon.com/shop/brandeamiller…

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IYT 009 Breaking Free from Stagnation 30:00

37 weeks ago30:00

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In this episode of In Your Thirties, host Brandea Miller dives deep into the feeling of stagnation that often hits in your 30s. If you’re struggling with Routine Overload or a Lack of Purpose, you’re not alone. Brandea explores why these feelings arise and shares practical steps to break free from the rut, reignite your passions, and rediscover a sense of purpose in your life. Tune in for an honest conversation about how to recognize these challenges and take action toward a more fulfilling and vibrant life. Whether you're feeling stuck in your career, relationships, or personal growth, this episode offers valuable insights to help you move forward.…

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IYT 006 Build Generational Wealth. Yes, In This Economy! 41:16

52 weeks ago41:16

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Build Generational Wealth with me Thirty Something Gang! Today I tell you how I have been building more into my portfolio and obtaining acreage without tying up my credit! Yes, even in this economy it is possible! So come talk with your friend and let's grab up this land in our thirties!

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IYT 001 Searching for Simple 41:14

2 years ago41:14