# 154 - Toxic Love in 2023
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Segments
0:00 Celebrating the new year
1:06 using headphones while podcasting for the first time
2:23 Is an unmarried 29-year-old woman a failure?
4:21 Defining failure 6:08 Are we generally a cold people?
7:50 Respecting the reality shaping power of the context
10:26 Only fail when you stop trying
12:13 A 16-year-old asks me about self-rewarding behaviors
15:32 Why self-care is essential
16:55 My first experience with a therapist
18:30 The concept of 'earning' self-love
20:06 The Stanford dopamine study
22:43 Doing the work needs to become its own reward
24:12 The dangers of associating dopamine with the outcome
24:55 The best way to avoid burnout
26:10 A person searching for happiness will always be unhappy
28:01 Ryan Holiday on speaking about and doing a certain thing
29:23 My problem is a man who won't admit his feelings toward me
30:27 Using the word 'depression,' properly
31:07 Whose fault is this unrequited love
34:01 The key to your destruction rests with your loved ones
35:21 Maya Angelou on believing people
36:19 The cognitive tax of unrequited love
37:15 I get invited to IBA as a guest of honor
39:36 I wonder why they would invite me
42:40 An anon lover concerned with how a person looks
46:04 What is empathy
47:31 The cure for unrequited love?
50:35 Who is really my friend?
53:04 Are you really becoming ruthless?
54:00 The temporal quality of memories
55:04 Are friendships a form of passing the time?
57:13 Entitlement isn't fair to anyone
59:30 The different kinds of friends
01:01 The story of Hot Spot in Karachi
01:04 Feelings connected to time more than space
01:05 Thoughts and prayers on 2022 and 2023
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