You'd be lying if you said, "I've never been bullied!" Hate to say it, we all have a bully. What might surprise you is that bully resides within.Everytime you put yourself down, or make a snide remark, or find yourself question your abilities, you tend to easily go down the path of bullying yourself. Stop it, and stop it now. Here's how!Quick Q ...…

Once a bully, always a bully. But once bullied, doesn't mean you have to stand for being bullied. Not now, not ever.Even in a world that seems the bullies are now out in full force, given free reign to do as they please, it's time to take a stand to ensure that no one has to be bullied regardless of their life, their looks, their social status, ...…

Three of the most used words in the English language are...I don't know. You don't? I don't either. Not sure that statement is true, but I do know that way to many of us say, "I don't know..." way to much. I'm guilty as charged and so are you. Here's a simple exercise to help you when you feel like, you don't know.Quick Question For YouAre you ...…

Imagine living a life of abuse - mental, cult religion, and hidden mixed orientation marriage - where all you did was feel neglected. Now imagine that this went for almost 40 years and you had been so brainwashed and gaslighted that you believed this was the way life was meant to be. From cult religious parents to marrying a man who even to thi ...…

What does it mean to live in a space of where you feel limitless? If you listed to episode 370 with my friend Laura Gassner Otting, you know her new book -Limitless: How to Ignore Everybody, Carve Your Own Path, and Live Your Best Life - is all about setting yourself free to be in a state of being limitless. But how do you get there? What do yo ...…

What if success doesn't equal happiness? What if happiness doesn't grow on trees? What if you live your life believing you can't do, blah, blah, blah? What if the problem is you and not seeing that you are limitless?Many of us spend our lives pursuing a singular idea of success, one that was created for us by someone else. We give votes to thos ...…

Honestly, there's a lot of humanity damaging going on in the good old USA these days. Mostly from the political arena. Now with the Mueller investigation behind us, it seems that once again certain leaders whom I will not name because it makes me sick to the stomach to even consider typing his name, have once again escaped from the truth, oblig ...…

All of us, in some way, shape, or form in our lives have been perceived as different. Yet, nothing is more painful to a child than to be perceived as weird because of their differences, only to be teased, and isolated simply for being who they are in their own unique way.Imagine for instance, if you were a little boy who likes to knit and sew. ...…

Depression. Stigma. Shame. Misery. If you suffer with depression you know the stigma, shame, and misery depression causes in your life. To often those feelings lead you to hate your depression and try to fight it. Truth is, there is no fighting depression.Yes you can take medications to help balance it out, but to do battle with it is a losing ...…

Shame on you! How many of us heard those words as kids? All right, maybe not so much these days, as I think that was the type of phrase us Baby Boomers heard growing up, but today the SHAME FACTOR is prevalent everywhere. You're shamed if you don't have enough followers on Instagram, if you aren't the right type of Christian, if you're LGBTQ, i ...…

To often we oblige for all the wrong reasons. Today I give you 3 steps for Curing Unhealthy Obliging. These steps came out of the podcast interview I recently did with Jeff Goins on Episode 364, where he discovered, so many of his own thoughts were what was keeping him hostage from living his life to its fullest. In a nutshell, Jeff was over ob ...…

Imagine, saying to yourself, “Nothing I’ve ever done has felt like a success." Then, as soon as the words escaped your lips, you feel like a hypocrite. Tons of people envy you. Your accomplishments stack up like a Jenga tower. Weekly, monthly, yearly, you cross off dreams and goals from your list - astounding yourself and others. Yet, there's c ...…

Once a year we have the opportunity to celebrate women across the globe and contribute to raising awareness about gender bias on International Women's Day. It's time to uncloset disrespect of women, and celebrate their achievements, by creating a gender-balanced world. Today we make bold moves to celebrate everything that is the essence of wome ...…

Flying. Minimalism. Sobriety. Adventure. Each one of those things is about taking flight to live an epic life and helping others live their version of an epic life. Quiet a mixed bag of tricks, eh? Yet, when it all gets put together, you find an extraordinary life where adventure and exploration are prevalent and you find yourself pursuing the ...…

What happens when you get stuck in fear, don't do the thing you most want to do, and you find yourself continuing to apologize for your life? If you are like most of us, you wallow in confusion and don't get shit done! You freeze, might get angry with yourself, and then either start going deeper in your fears, or pretending everything is ok. Ye ...…

Coming out is a challenge. It’s sticky, icky, and sometimes a blissful happy trail. Regardless of how the journey goes, guidance is always helpful. But where do you turn? Whom do you ask for help? The answers lie within you. Whether you’re coming out of the sexuality or gender identity closet, or coming out of your own unique life challenge clo ...…

Headline news about Jussie Smollett has us all questioning what's happening here in America, especially, as it pertains to race, LGBTQ issues, and fake news. He made a bold move and it backfired. Yet, like rabid dogs, we could all jump on the bandwagons of "Jail the MOFO," or "What was he thinking?," or "This is all that the black and LGBTQ com ...…

Imagine practicing radical kindness. Now imagine others being kind and also practicing radical kindness. What would our world be like if we all operated from that perspective without all the other bullshit? Simply stated, kindness rocks. So why don’t we practice it more often, even in the subtlest ways of living? Do we forget to be human and se ...…

We all have dreams. Vision of things that we say we want to do. Heck just this past week we heard from Chase Boehringer how his bucket list lifestyle, not only saved his life, but is not his dream calling. Yet, what he did, and what most of us do, we have these big hairy dreams and we suddenly let the magnitude of those dreams stop us. We freez ...…

Darkness. Despair. Depression. Divorce. Sounds pretty gloomy and not anything that anyone would but on their bucket list. It was gloomy, ugly, and daunting, and the only way through was either to continue to live his life or to end it. But before ending it, he decided to do one thing that he’d said he was going to do – run with the bulls in Spa ...…

If you aren't having fun and thinking you aren't creative, then you're in good company. Most of us forget to have fun. Life gets in the way, demands take over, and before you know it work, eat, sleep; work, eat, sleep; work, eat, sleep. The hamster wheel is on high speed and we glaze over and settle for "this is life!" As the mundane sets in, w ...…

Imagine at 23 you land a gig at the White House. That may or not excite you depending on who’s sitting in the oval office, but, play along here for a moment. You got this gig at the White House, not because you had an Ivy League education, or because your family had money, or because you had an inside connection. You got it because you knew bui ...…

I know some of you are probably going to balk at this. Go ahead. Balk, balk, balk. But the truth is, most fears in life are short-lived and self-created. Think about it. When fears show up, most the time nothing happens the way we FEAR it will and then we've just wasted a whole bunch of energy, playing into the hands of our own crazy making tho ...…

Darkness. The kind that causes you to retreat into yourself because you’ve been bullied so much you actually believe that you’re worthless. You’ve made the conscious and unconscious decision to hide and turn to a life of self-destruction and drug addiction, rather than face one more painful moment of living in this abuse. It’s a traumatic life, ...…

Let's be clear. Transgender discrimination is discrimination, plain and simple. Lacking kindness, empathy, compassion is what Transgender discrimination represents. Those three human characteristics are all that is needed to treat people with dignity, respect, and understanding. Yet, with the newly supported Transgender Military Ban upheld by t ...…

We all desire to go our own way. Doesn't matter if it is in love, work, or life in general. But there's this little, big word that holds us back - PERMISSION. We come to the precipice of doing our thing, going our way, and then we retreat, waiting for someone, maybe ourselves, to approve and give us PERMISSION to do the thing we want to do. The ...…

If you haven't been on social media or watching the news the past couple of days, there's been a viral explosion. Not about Trump or Theresa may. It's about razors. Or let's say about one of the biggest consumer brands behind razors - Gillette - who just launched an ad that is garnering applause and criticism around toxic masculinity. Not surpr ...…

Who are you? One of the biggest questions we can ask ourselves, but it is an especially big question for gay men who often find themselves caught up in the world of material goods, great bodies, and always looking to impress so that they can be accepted. But what would happen if you gave yourself permission, true permission to be yourself witho ...…

I'm a disruptor. I'm also a believer in there is no "NORMAL." But that's me, and quite a few of my coaching clients, and other people that tend to hang out in my circle. We disrupt, we don't see anything as normal, and we tend to us both those energies to continue to kick ass and take names in the world - in a good way. Today I'm challenging an ...…

We all have our own insecurities about fitting in, in life and especially at work. It can be a frickin' challenge when you don't have the warm fuzzies that you can be part of the team and it gets in the way of how you contribute. Before you know it work sucks, your co-workers suck, and life sucks. But why settle for the mundane when you can sho ...…

Four days into the New Year. Some resolutions have already hit wall, some goals are lost in the past, and you might be struggling to even get focused. I know. I've been there. So here's what I do.First, I follow my buddy Chris Brogan's lead with his My Three Words approach to the New Year. My words for this year are audacious, spoontaneous, and ...…

Food, shelter. Two basic needs that we all need to survive. Now imagine, fighting to be able to find a home and live in a place that makes you feel secure, only to discover that you can’t because of your sexuality or gender identity. Yes, this is true. People get denied housing and home loans based purely on their sexuality and gender identity. ...…

We’ve all struggled with confidence and being who we are. Shame, guilt, comparisons all get in the way of our happiness. Then one day we discover we’ve been sucked into success as for of happiness, rather than letting our own unique freak guide us to living our passionate lives and purpose on this earth. There we sit, limited by our own doing. ...…

Toxic people don't take a break at the holidays. In fact the own their toxicity and show up when you least expect it and need it. In fact, that's part of the triggering and wake up call for us to own our IT, and to show up fully being ourselves. After another out of the blue, let's due battle with my parents, I decided it's time to own my IT an ...…

Life keeps moving along. Her job brings you joy. She travels every chance she gets. She’s consistently doing the inner work to bring herself closer to her soul center. Looking at her from the outside you’d think this gal’s got it all together, and she pretty much does. Ah, but there’s more.Her burning desire to take that leap of faith, eludes h ...…

Vulnerability. Everyone seems to be talking about it these days. Or maybe it's just the circles I run in. The truth is, vulnerability is a gift. However, many people are scared to death of vulnerability, and for some, rightfully so. What I've learned, and what I'm sharing is that vulnerability can be many things, and sometimes we just need to r ...…

One day you wake up and realize that self-care is not an option. It is a must. All the fun, fun, fun of drinking and partying has turned into another disastrous wake-up call on Monday morning where your child looks at you with disgust. Getting by is no longer acceptable. Drinking through it doesn’t ease the pain, it creates it. It’s go time. Ti ...…

Boy Erased, starring Lucas Hedges, Nicole Kidman, Russell Crowe, and Joel Edgerton, explores the story of the son of a Baptist preacher is forced to participate in a church-supported gay conversion program after being forcibly outed to his parents. Based on the memori and true story of Garrard Conley, the film takes us on the journey of the phy ...…

It’s been awhile since we’ve done a “He said, she said” or a “Coach To Coach” segment. But when I was contact by Anne-Marie Zanzal, I knew it was time. Especially given our political climate where it appears that the far right, and maybe even the leaning right are coming after the LGBTQ community.Typically when these types of rumblings start to ...…

I used to love reading Curious George when I was a kid. Then, somehow the stars aligned and I married a guy named George and he always invites me to be curious, rather than jumping to assumptions, or conclusions. Thanks hubby. I've also learned in my own life explorations, that curiosity serves me or sucks the wind out of me. That's why today I ...…

Imagine knowing exactly what someone is thinking. Or, at least having a pretty good idea of what they are thinking, all because their body speaks louder than their words. You could tell if they were really interested in a date. You'd be able to determine if he was serious about promoting you. Possibly you'd discover is someone is lying or telli ...…

Have you ever found yourself asking for permission? Of course you have. The better question is, have you ever found yourself not giving yourself permission? Yeah! The permission to do something you really want to do. Or, the permission to say what you need to say. And better yet, the permission to make a mistake or f*ck up. I have and I hate it ...…

Imagine coming into the world, just as your Father made a major life detour. His detour, one of shame in the world, was unbeknownst to you until the age of 13. By then, you’ve been socialized to believe that everything you now discovered your Father is, cannot be talked about in your conservative, church-going Iowa Community. The negative fallo ...…

Nothing is perfect. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. But we all know that, yet we pursue perfection and allow it to drive us batty. It's such a waste of energy that could be put to better use. Which begs the question, "If perfection doesn't exist, how could we better use our energy, than pursuing perfection?" Here's two quick tips for detoxing from p ...…

Kindness. At times it seems to be elusive. Especially in our world today. People from all walks of life seem more divisive and at odds with one another. Yet, how different would we all be, myself included, if we practiced more kindness, empathy, and understanding? It could be, and probably would be a completely different world. Yet in chaotic t ...…

I know the future, I never encounter anything unexpected, and I am fully in control of what is to come. Yeah right! But don't we wish that were true? Alas, the unexpected is inevitable. So why do we fight it, cringe when it shows up, and then wail and moan as we deal with it when we know deep down that life is a series of unexpected twists and ...…

Imagine, in the land of imagination – Hollywood – that LGBTQ characters have leading roles that are never based on stereotypes. That the main conflicts of LGBTQ characters face on the big screen aren’t based solely on their sexual orientation. That female characters have roles that go beyond mother, wife, daughter, and/or woman-in-jeopardy. And ...…

I'm never confused. You're never confused. We're all never confused. So why do we need to call Confusion Busters? Because we're all lying! And, we all hate being in a state of confusion. Or at least most of us do. Those of you who enjoy confusion probably also have a thing for getting dental work done without novocaine.Truth is, confusion is fo ...…

I want you to imagine just for a moment a Nun. Now I want you to imagine an order of Nuns that knows no gender, embraces all spiritual affiliations, and whose practices included service, education, activism, entertainment, and ministry. Guess we’re not talking about your normal Nunnery now are we? No we’re not!Today we explore perpetual indulge ...…

Two words, "Admit It" can fix so many things. Yet we don't like to admit things as humans. And then before you know it, we repress crap and then become miserable. So what's the solution? LOL. Just admit whatever you're holding back and get it out of your system.WebsiteTwitterFacebook