Ep50~ Come on in to the Cougar Den

Man Shopping with Stacie

My name is Stacie and I am an agist. I have never been interested in dating anyone more than a few years older or younger than me. My friend, Tonya, though... Well, she's quite different.
We begin by chatting about our friendship when I was newly divorced from Lanie's dad and she was single, as well. We, along with another friend, called ourselves the Neapolitan Sundae. We three friends were different in many ways and our preferences when it came to men were different too. Tonya noticed back then, when I was 31, that I was biased when it came to age.
Tonya shares the story of how she and her boyfriend of 11 years now met. There is a 16 year age gap that Tonya was initially uncomfortable with. When they met, Tonya was turning 41 and Brennan was 25. Tonya resisted Brennan initially, but Brennan persisted!
We discuss some concerns about dating much younger or older:

• If significantly younger, I worry about looking older than him and staying as fit. Tonya shared that she isn't concerned about the physical differences between the two of them and reminded me that appearance comes and goes.
• Tonya shared that Brennan was concerned about Tonya dying on him. I completely get it! That is a reason I don't date men much older than me. I don't want to get short changed!
• Younger men I've dated have either been unsure about children or definitely want children. I'm not having anymore babies. Tonya shares how this topic impacted her and Brennan's relationship.
• Careers and finances may not align.

We have an in-depth discussion about how attraction and chemistry may be different when you date younger or older. We shift the discussion to Tonya convincing me to date younger men.
I was approached by HULU for a female empowering show casting women over 40 to date young men. I share all the details!
We discuss the family dynamics and age... If the man is closer in age to my mom than me, I'm not into it. Tonya tells about meeting Brennan's parents. SPOILER ALERT - They were very accepting and loving!
I told Tonya my theory that 39-40 isn't the right age for me to date. Tonya dispels my theory.
Tonya and I talk about sex and how disappointing it can be over 40. Tonya transparently shared how fantastic her and Brennan's sex life is. She highly recommends having sex with younger men!
Tonya gives me a pep talk and advice to not get hung up on age and advises me to date YOUNGER MEN, not older.
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