In this episode, I discuss the idea of building a legacy. I share how over the past year and a half, through my podcast, social media, and networking, I have been building mine. My mission has been to help other single people like me find more joy. Through my transparency, I hope to help others feel understood and less alone. It takes bravery to be…

Since I recognize that the holidays are often busy, stressful, and not so holly jolly, I want to remind you of some of the things we singles should be grateful for and also give you all some ideas to bring a bit more joy to your Christmas season. We can plan time away without permission or agreement (within reason) We can decorate as little or as m…

'Tis the Damn Season... You can call me babe for the weekend." ~ Taylor Swift Cuffing season as defined by Merriam Webster: "Refers to a period of time where single people begin looking for short term partnerships to pass the colder months of the year.' Cuffing season begins in October and lasts until just after Valentine's Day. Paraphrasing a rece…

In this episode, I talk about navigating difficult conversations in our dating lives... When and how do we come clean about challenges (past or present) in our lives? Some of the topics I explore: Marital infidelity Financial/debt issues Health concerns, including addiction or previous battles with addiction Difficult Relationships with exes or chi…

In this episode, I explore all of the ways I could see my life play out as a single woman. I've done a lot of day dreaming and soul searching after divorce. One of the things I like to think about is what I could do if I grow old alone, but not lonely. Ideas of how I could spend my golden years single: Be a real life golden girl - live somewhere fa…

Our pets impact our dating lives in countless ways. To begin, I share a tragic story of how I adopted a black lab puppy on a whim from a not-so reputable animal shelter in Kansas City years ago. My dad, logically and lovingly asked if I had thought this decision through. I was a young single mom of a 5 year old. Was it really a good idea to add a r…

This episode is about all things happy and healthy that we should be looking for out in the dating world. The format for this episode is progressive... Green flags to spot when someone is into us when we first meet, when we're planning a first date, and while dating or in a relationship. I share personal stories along the way, per usual. Some Green…

This episode is all about red flags - how to spot them and how to respond to them. I share my own stories of red flags from my past as well as from my current dating life. To begin, I talk about little pink flags- early flags that have popped up when I've just been texting or getting to know someone before a first date. A guy that I got to know ear…

In this episode, I use songs from Lanie's country music playlist to describe how I hope to be thought of felt about by someone who loves me. I hope this musical discussion elicits thoughts in your own mind of what it is exactly you are looking for and how you hope to be treated. The first song I dissect is She's Everything by Brad Paisley. A few ta…

In this episode, I talk about how we (single people) are often easy targets for married people to hit on, hit up on social media, to proposition or entangle in an affair. I begin by sharing my own personal examples of being hit on by married men. I talk about my reaction to being hit on and how I handled those situations. Many years ago after my fi…

In this episode, I talk about that undeniable pull that some individuals have. I share some stories from my youth, recent experiences, and a story of one of my girlfriends. I have a theory some people are just born with game. To drive this point home, I share stories of a kid I knew in elementary school and a boy I nannied while I was in college. T…

In this episode, I share my thoughts on the Hot Crazy Matrix. I talk about how appearance, mental stability and emotional availability affect our search for a compatible partner. To begin, I think the terms hot, crazy, and emotionally unavailable are incredibly subjective. My idea of a HOT man, vastly differs from friend's opinions. I share a recen…

My name is Stacie and I am an agist. I have never been interested in dating anyone more than a few years older or younger than me. My friend, Tonya, though... Well, she's quite different. We begin by chatting about our friendship when I was newly divorced from Lanie's dad and she was single, as well. We, along with another friend, called ourselves …

Are you REALLY Happy being alone ( like I am)? If so, maybe you have some of the same struggles I have... I'm guarded and I'm getting VERY particular about who I share my heart and time with. Can you relate? In this episode, I'm going to share with you some examples of how I'm feeling SINGLE AF. At the end, I'm going to share a story from my stepda…

This inspiration for this podcast actually came from a Mass I attended. During the Mass, the priest said that if Moses were alive today he would be considered an "influencer". He went on to tell the parishioners that we could all be influencers for good in the lives of those around us, not just on social media. In this podcast, I explore how posts …

The phrase "Emotionally Slutty" is from a Sex and the City episode... Carrie Bradshaw says, "I revealed too much too soon. I was emotionally slutty." In this episode, I talk about the habit some of us are in of giving it up too early... You know, sharing intimate details of our lives with people we don't know very well. I share with you why I think…

I'm back! I'm on a journey of self- discovery right along with you! I'm 44 years old now and my daughter turns 17 at the end of the month. We've been on our own for about 3 years now. This skill of learning to write in pencil is something I've been working on for awhile. In this episode, I'm going to share some examples of how despite trying to wri…

This episode is all about a fact of life... rejection. To begin, I discuss how the end of a significant relationship or marriage can feel like the ultimate rejection. Sometimes these relationships end due to infidelity, growing apart, or choosing a vice over the relationship. I dive into how I experienced rejection throughout my two divorces. Rejec…

This episode is all about Catfishing on online dating sites. In this episode, I discuss the Tinder Swindler, a popular Netflix documentary about a man who conned several women out of hundreds of thousands of dollars. He called himself Simon Liviev and claimed to be the heir to the "king of diamonds". After matching with a woman on Tinder, he would …

I'm often asked if I'm scared to grow old and die alone? My answer is always "NO!". A huge source of my peacefulness and optimism for my future is my faith. This is an inclusive podcast, so if you believe in any higher power, I hope it resonates with you too. I believe in love. I believe that God has chosen a compatible match for me. I am patient. …

In this episode, my friend, Eric Reid, and I discuss the age old question... Can men & women be friends... just friends? Our topics of conversation include: When Harry met Sally Siblings LGBT+ Exes (itch scratched. But is it always? What about new relationship's feelings about it? Would you let a Friend tell you you can't have other friends?) Eric …

Let all that you do be done in love. 1 Corinthians 16:14 This is a special Valentine's Day Episode. I'm sharing with you several different ways you can spend this holiday that is NOT just for lovers. If you're alone, with little kids or older children, or open to sharing Valentine's Day with a group, I'm sharing ideas of how you can look forward to…

In this episode, I have a conversation with my friend, Licensed Clinical Therapist, Emma Wood, about narcissism, triangulation, and gas lighting. I share experiences from my second marriage with Emma to gain a better understanding of these traits and behaviors as they relate to divorce and co-parenting. Emma beautifully articulates: Why triangles f…

On this podcast, I typically focus on light subjects and keep things positive and fun around being single and dating. However, I think it's important to keep in mind we can't be happy and healthy singles if we haven't learned from our past. In this episode, I share many stories of narcissism and triangulation I encountered during my second marriage…

They say we are the sum of who we surround ourselves with. In this episode, I examine who I have surrounded myself with throughout my life and how they impact me and I encourage you to do the same. It's pretty well accepted that teens' peer groups impact them even more than their families, so I begin by talking about childhood friends and experienc…

I mean, after the past two years, how are we supposed to feel as we enter 2022? For those of us who are single and dating during a pandemic, newly separated or maybe divorced for years, approaching this new year can seem extra challenging and overwhelming. For me, I feel clueless and at a loss but I'm entering this year cautiously optimistic. In th…

I don't know about you, but I'm feeling' 22X2! In this episode I share my positive thoughts and feelings on turning 44. Being comfortable in my own style, skin, body, nakedness - I share my struggles with body image and my opinions on skin care, cosmetic procedures, and growing old gracefully. As I've grown older and more confident I feel free to s…

In this episode, I reflect upon 2021 experiences and learnings and encourage you to do the same. This episode is divided into 5 categories: Greatest Learnings (from dating/being single) Being ALONE has taught me the most this past year! Health Obstacles - Sinus surgery is minor, but definitely had an impact on my year Sweetest memories - Travels wi…

A thrill of hope is a lyric from the classic Christmas Carole " O Holy Night". These words evoke a lot of emotion in me. In this episode, these words provide inspiration for examples of how I have experienced a "thrill of hope" in my single life. The easiest example is in dating... I've met several men that have thrilled me with potential... unfort…

In this episode, I changed up the lyrics to the classic Christmas Carole, The Twelve Days of Christmas. I share 12 verses of what my "Ex Loves Gave to Me" : My first year of bad debt free (A partridge in a pear tree) A sense of love (2 turtle doves) A crystal clear lens (3 French hens) Only kind words (4 calling birds) Widespread wings (5 gold ring…

In this episode, I share stories from Christmases past as a single person. I begin with a story from when I was newly separated from my daughter's dad. I felt very much like an outsider as Lanie and I were gathered with a group of friends to go on a Christmas lights tour of our neighborhood. I couldn't believe I was going through a divorce. Althoug…

My 16 year old daughter, Lanie, joins me to share her thoughts and feelings about my dating life since my second divorce. She begins by sharing some memories of time she spent with my rebound," Mr. Wonderful". She recollects things we all did together and gives her opinion of the flags I saw and shared with her during the relationship. She also giv…

In this season of thankfulness, I express appreciation to some of the men I've dated in the past couple of years. I thank these guys for teaching me what I'm NOT looking for in a partner, valuable lessons, and behaviors and qualities I need to improve on too. On the biggest shopping day of the year, Black Friday, I reminisce on some of the lessons …

My 16 year old daughter, Lanie, joins me for a conversation about her recollections of my dating life when she was a preschooler and kindergartner. She shares her vague memories of spending time with my rebound boyfriend, "Funcle". Then, she talks about our time with "KStater" and his kids. To my delight, she tells us that I did not ruin Christmas …

In this episode, I share insights into what it has been like dating as the mother of a high schooler. I begin by talking about my rebound relationship with my childhood friend. I was a little nervous to tell my daughter, Lanie, about the relationship because my divorce was not even final yet. I was worried of what kind of example I was setting and …

In this episode, I share several personal stories from my dating life after my first divorce. I was 30-32 years old and my daughter was in pre-K and kindergarten. I talk about the mistakes I made when I was like to be young and single. I was insecure and basically introduced myself as damaged goods to men who displayed interest in me. I revisit my …

I'm so excited to share my first holiday themed podcast episode with you! I reached out to my listeners to collect their best psycho and ghosting dating stories to create this Halloween show. They totally delivered some great material! My girlfriend kicks off the show with her tale of the Ghost of Tulsa, Oklahoma. Then, I share a funny psycho first…

By this point in life, most of us have experienced a friendship breakup or two. In this episode, I talk about friendships that end because of marriage or divorce, specifically. I begin by telling the story of my own friendship breakup with three of my oldest childhood friends. Then, I analyze our friendship and look at things from their perspective…

In this episode I share how I am at a peaceful, content, happy place in life with no romance...I'm good over here. In this episode, I focus on three main topics. My experience after going through my first divorce helped me to brace and prepare myself for what I experienced during my second separation and divorce. This is not my first rodeo. I wasn'…

My friends share their funny dating stories in this episode to entertain you and to remind you that we are ALL in this together! (Yes, I stole the title from the 1996 movie, Swingers.) It's of important note that my friends from this episode are either still actively dating OR are in a committed relationship with someone they met online. I love how…

This episode was recorded live at Ash Cigars in Kansas City, Missouri with a group of local singles. In this episode, we discuss: Cigar Smoking v Cigarette Smoking - is there a difference? (We say YES!) What are single people looking for after 40? I think people are looking for different things at different parts of their journey...excitement, sex,…

In this episode, I explain why travel has been a priority to me since separation and how it has impacted my relationship with my daughter, Lanie. I share my motivation and rationale for trips that my daughter we went on in 2019 and 2020. Also, I encourage you to consider sharing travel experiences with your child(ren). If you thought this was going…

Divorce inevitably draws a lot of speculation, rumors and gossip. In this episode, I share several stories from friends, listeners, and of course, myself. I begin by sharing the sad story of a listener friend of mine. She lives in a tiny town where rumors are flying about her. She can't trust anyone and feels isolated and alone. The second story I …

Divorce is an opportunity! Let's celebrate some accomplishments of things we've done all by ourselves. Parenting Alone Finances Little stuff/Household tasks I share a story of how a guy that I went on a date with has evolved as a dad. When he was married, his role was to work and provide for his family. His wife did everything for the kids. Since t…

In this episode, I explain what a vision board is. I tell you what I put on mine, what my results have been, and why I think you should make one too. Although we've all experienced the effects of a global pandemic, social unrest, and political divide, I'll cautiously tell you, 2020 and 2021 have been amongst the best years of my life. I don't belie…

Meet my Bumble match, my friend. He reigns from the sunny state of California, stands 6'4" tall. He's tall, dark, and handsome. He is kind, intelligent, and sweet. He is proof positive you can meet a great person on a dating site. We discuss why we swiped on one another. After we swiped, we found commonalities in our backgrounds and locations. We g…

After Ep15, I gave myself homework to consider what I'm hoping to find in a future love. I've put a lot of thoughtful consideration into this to share back with you and hopefully inspire you to put time and consideration into what you're hoping to find in a partner. After recently filling out an exhausting questionnaire for a matchmaker... It made …

In this episode, I talk about why it's so hard to find a match when you're dating over 40... especially if you have kids and are divorced. I share some personal stories straight from my dating life as to why things just didn't work out with some of the guys I've gone out with. Complications of Dating Later in Life: Children - Do you have them? Do y…

It's a scary world out there! In this episode, I share everything I can think of to keep you safe while dating! I share how I research potential dates online, on social media, and even court records, if necessary I tell you measures you can take to stay safe when you meet someone in person for the first time. I share a story from a male friend as a…

Let me introduce you to my creative consultants and friends, Melissa and Tracy! In this episode, we discuss the dynamics of our friendship. We explain our unusual way of communicating throughout the day. We talk about their influence on the book I'm writing. They share their opinions on living vicariously through my dating life. The girls weigh in …