越炫耀什么就越缺什么
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有一个理论说,一个人越炫耀什么,他就越缺什么。
There is a theory that what a man shows off, what he lacks.
你认同这种说法吗?鉴别一个人真正的实力,就要看他在炫耀什么。
Do you agree with that? To judge a man's real strength is to see what he is showing off.
如果他炫耀自己是名校毕业,那么学历就是他的上限,如果他炫耀他有百万的豪车,那么车子就是他的上限。
If he shows off that he graduated from a famous university, then his degree is his upper limit; if he shows off that he has a million luxury cars, then the car is his upper limit.
他为什么要炫耀自己的学历经历?因为那是他最辉煌的经历。
Why does he show off his academic experience? Because it was his greatest experience.
他为什么要炫耀他的车子,因为那是他能买得起最贵的车子。
Why does he show off his car? It's the most expensive car he can afford.
他为什么会炫耀自己的生活方式?因为那是他能理解的最有品味的生活方式。
Why does he show off his lifestyle? Because it was the most tasteful way of life he could understand.
曾经看到一个说法,就是穷人突然变富,就会很喜欢炫耀。但是本身家庭就很富裕或者出身贵族的人,就不会炫耀自己的地位或金钱。
I once saw a saying, the poor suddenly become rich, will like to show off. But people from wealthy or aristocratic families do not show off their status or money.
你认同这样的说法吗?
Do you agree with this statement?
还有一个类似的说法,是越表现自信的人,其实越自卑。
There is a similar saying that the more confident a person is, the lower he or she feels.
从某种意义上说,我很认同这种观点。
In a sense, I agree with this view.
另外呢,我发现身高比较矮的男性,在某种程度上很自卑,而他的自卑所表现出来的就是一种对抗性的自信。
In addition, I have found that shorter men have low self-esteem to some extent, and their inferiority is reflected in a kind of antagonistic confidence.
另外呢,还听到一种说法,就是如何培养自己的自信呢?如何让自己自信起来呢?
In addition, I also heard of a saying that how to develop one's own self-confidence? How to make oneself confident?
有一种说法是不断的成功,反复的成功,你就自信了。
There is a saying that repeated success, repeated success, you will be confident.
比如当我做一件事情,第一次的时候,我很紧张,第二次我就不那么紧张啊,比如演讲,当我演讲了很多次之后,就会变得很自信了。
For example, when I do something, the first time, I am very nervous, the second time I am not so nervous, such as speech, when I have given speech for many times, I will become very confident.
另外还有一种理论说,真正的自信是源于原生家庭充满爱充满温暖的成长环境。
Another theory is that true confidence comes from a loving, warm upbringing in the family of origin.
你认同哪一种观点呢?
Which view do you agree with?
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