How to Be a Bad Friend with Katherine Sleadd

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It can be difficult to speak up for ourselves in relationships, especially when we've experienced heartache or lost friends in the past. But, as you’ll hear from today’s guest Katherine Sleadd, recognizing our needs and communicating them honestly can lead to deeper connections, even in the midst of conflict.
Katherine is a trauma informed coach, currently pursuing her masters in counseling psychology. She is the author of How to Be a Bad Friend: The Hidden Life of Failed Relationships, a book all about friendship and friend breakups. Her work is focused on growing people’s capacity to understand and reconnect with their desire, like you would an old friend.
Tune in to hear us discuss...

• How conflict is necessary for growth for ourselves and our relationships
• Noticing when we’re overworking in relationships and taking a break if needed
• Recognizing personal history and how it affects behavior in relationships
• Not ghosting yourself when you’ve been ghosted

Hang out with Katherine...

• Buy How to Be a Bad Friend: The Hidden Life of Failed Relationships
• Visit Katherine’s Website
• Follow Katherine on Instagram

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Chapters

1. How to Be a Bad Friend with Katherine Sleadd (00:00:00)

2. Introduction to Needy Podcast and its Mission (00:01:51)

3. Introduction to Katherine Sledd and her book "How to Be a Bad Friend" (00:02:35)

4. Katherine's journey into friendship and owning her needs in relationship (00:05:56)

5. Friend Breakups in Adulthood (00:07:13)

6. Shame in Friend Breakups (00:14:43)

7. The Dual Reality of Friend Breakups and Self-Discovery (00:18:01)

8. Trust Issues Amplified in Larger Friend Circles (00:20:45)

9. Self-Acceptance in Relationships (00:25:30)

10. Painful Friend Breakup due to Unexpressed Needs (00:26:56)

11. Importance of Honesty in Friendships (00:29:42)

12. The Core of Lying to Ourselves (00:31:17)

13. Struggling with Identity and Supposed to's (00:32:40)

14. Embracing Your Authentic Self (00:33:43)

15. Conflict and Negotiating Our Own Needs (00:39:34)

16. No Quick Fix for Conflict Resolution (00:42:28)

17. Overcoming Fear and Writing a New Story (00:44:41)

18. Introduction and Quiz Invitation (00:47:59)