Laying Foundations for Flourishing The Shift from Hurt to Healing

Parenting With A Purpose

Join me, Donna Janel, as I team up with the insightful Rhonda Santos to peel back the layers on a topic that's both personal and universal – healing from the scars of narcissistic abuse and codependency. Celebrating a pivotal moment in my own journey towards becoming a registered nurse, we draw parallels between the transformation of graduates embarking on new beginnings and our own steps towards fostering growth within our families. We tackle the complex web of emotions that often intertwine within our relationships, discussing how our unhealed wounds from the past can lead us down a path of seeking drama as a stand-in for intimacy, and the impact this has on nurturing our children.
As we chart the course of our conversation, we share stories close to our hearts, revealing the deep-seated roots of codependency that can ensnare those of us in the helping professions. We open up about the magnetic pull towards trying to 'fix' our partners, dissecting how this often masks a need for validation and caretaking. The discussion takes a turn towards self-discovery as we consider the importance of setting boundaries, not just for our own well-being but as a beacon for our children to follow. We're reminded that the journey of healing isn't just for us; it's a legacy we impart to our kids, replacing cycles of hurt with patterns of healthy, self-affirming love.
Our dialogue ventures beyond the personal, considering how the post-pandemic world has reshaped our approach to dating and relationships. We celebrate personal victories, like the nearing end of Rhonda's doctoral program, and the joys of newfound financial independence – all milestones marking the progress on our paths. This episode is a testament to the courage it takes to confront our traumas, to the transformative power of education, and to the resilience that comes with learning to love ourselves fully. Listen as we affirm that each step we take is one towards a future where our children can thrive, unencumbered by the burdens of our past.

Parents are the Bows and Children are the Arrows they will land wherever we aim them eventually!

Chapters

1. Laying Foundations for Flourishing The Shift from Hurt to Healing (00:00:00)

2. Healing From Narcissistic Abuse and Codependency (00:01:59)

3. Understanding Codependency in Relationships (00:16:57)

4. Parenting and Childhood Trauma Impact Relationships (00:20:32)

5. Parenting, Codependency, and Self-Love (00:34:39)

6. Navigating Relationship Expectations and Boundaries (00:39:28)

7. Navigating Loyalty, Relationships, and Identity (00:45:10)

8. Navigating Boundaries and Self-Discovery (00:50:17)

9. Parents With a Purpose Journey (01:02:20)