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How Self-Assurance Helps You Set Standards and Stop Seeking Approval
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Are you clear on your values — but still find yourself looking for outside validation?
The missing link might be self-assurance.
In Part 3 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down what true self-assurance looks like and why it’s essential for setting and holding personal standards — without needing others’ permission or praise.
🎙️ In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why self-assurance isn’t about confidence — and how to tell the difference
- How self-assurance protects you from people-pleasing
- What it really means to live by your own standards
- A journaling prompt to strengthen your inner trust
If you're tired of second-guessing your worth or compromising your values for approval, this episode will help you return to your truth.
🎧 Listen now and learn how to stand firm in your standards from the inside out.
Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.
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Are you clear on your values — but still find yourself looking for outside validation?
The missing link might be self-assurance.
In Part 3 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down what true self-assurance looks like and why it’s essential for setting and holding personal standards — without needing others’ permission or praise.
🎙️ In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why self-assurance isn’t about confidence — and how to tell the difference
- How self-assurance protects you from people-pleasing
- What it really means to live by your own standards
- A journaling prompt to strengthen your inner trust
If you're tired of second-guessing your worth or compromising your values for approval, this episode will help you return to your truth.
🎧 Listen now and learn how to stand firm in your standards from the inside out.
Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.
116 episodes
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1 The Hidden Costs of Clarity (And What to Do With Them) 13:49
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedClarity should bring peace… but what if it feels heavy instead? Learn what it’s really costing you — and how to respond with self-trust. In this Part 5 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh dives into the hidden emotional and psychological costs of clarity — the part of personal growth no one talks about. Clarity is essential if you want to live by your own standards. But what happens after you know your truth? Why do guilt, fear, or tension show up when you’re finally clear on your values, decisions, or direction? Whether you're going through a mindset shift, making big life changes, or stepping into new boundaries — this conversation will help you understand: Why clarity often feels heavy , not peaceful The 3 hidden costs of clarity : relational, identity, and comfort How your brain resists uncertainty (even when it’s right for you) How to move from awareness to aligned action with more self-trust This is a powerful follow-up to our last episode on discernment — and a must-listen if you’ve ever thought, “I know what I want, but I don’t know how to live it yet.” 🎧 If you’re searching for: How to navigate clarity and discomfort Emotional cost of setting boundaries How to take action after a mindset shift Building self-trust and inner alignment ...this one’s for you. ✨ Ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start honoring your truth — even when it’s hard? Hit play. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 Life Lessons on Love, Friendship & Communication From My 70-Year-Old Friend 1:01:12
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like Liked💬 “It’s the communicator’s responsibility to be understood.” — wisdom from my 70-year-old friend In this episode, we explore life lessons on love, adult friendships, and communication skills — including how to be heard and understood, how to ask better questions, and how to build meaningful, lasting relationships. Chris Oh sits down with her dear friend — a vibrant, curious, and thoughtful woman in her 70s. What started as a friendship across a 25+ year age gap has grown into a relationship rich with real talk, curiosity, and the kind of life lessons you can’t find in a quick Google search. Together, they explore: How to build and sustain meaningful adult friendships The underrated skill of asking the right questions Why curiosity and receptivity are key ingredients in personal growth and building meaningful connections What makes love and commitment last in a long-term relationship How to communicate in a way that helps you truly be heard and understood Debunking the myths about life, aging, and relationships in your 70s and beyond This conversation isn’t about advice from an “expert” — it’s about sharing lived experience, hard-earned wisdom, and the reflections that come from paying close attention to life. If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who would appreciate these insights, too. And if you’re enjoying the show, it means so much if you leave a quick review — it helps others find these conversations. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 Always Second-Guessing Yourself? How to Build Discernment 16:24
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIf you find yourself stuck overthinking every decision — questioning your gut and feeling guilty after saying "yes" — this episode is for you. You might be overlooking one of the most powerful tools for personal growth: discernment. In part 4 of the “Living By Your Standards” series on P.S. Younger Self, host Chris Oh shares a vulnerable personal story of overriding her truth — and introduces the DAR Framework, her 3-step method to help you make aligned, guilt-free decisions in everyday life. 🎙️ In this episode, you’ll learn: Why self-doubt shows up, even when you know your values and standards How to spot misalignment in your body and behaviors The subtle signs you’re out of sync with your inner clarity How to build discernment into daily decisions — without guilt, noise, or people-pleasing Whether you're navigating a relationship, career shift, or trying to stop overthinking every choice — this episode gives you tools to trust your gut and live in alignment with your own standards. 🎧 Listen now to reconnect with your truth and start making empowered decisions. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 How Self-Assurance Helps You Set Standards and Stop Seeking Approval 15:19
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedAre you clear on your values — but still find yourself looking for outside validation? The missing link might be self-assurance. In Part 3 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down what true self-assurance looks like and why it’s essential for setting and holding personal standards — without needing others’ permission or praise. 🎙️ In this episode, you’ll discover: Why self-assurance isn’t about confidence — and how to tell the difference How self-assurance protects you from people-pleasing What it really means to live by your own standards A journaling prompt to strengthen your inner trust If you're tired of second-guessing your worth or compromising your values for approval, this episode will help you return to your truth. 🎧 Listen now and learn how to stand firm in your standards from the inside out. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 Clarify Your Core Values & Create Standards That Protect Your Peace 14:49
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedDo you know your core values — and are you actually living by them? In this part 2 of the Living By Your Standards Series of P.S. Younger Self , host Chris Oh guides you through a grounded process to identify your core values and turn them into non-negotiable personal standards. It’s the first step to living in alignment — and protecting your energy, peace, and self-worth. 🎙️ In this episode, you’ll learn: How to clarify your true core values (not the ones you inherited) What makes a standard “non-negotiable” Common traps that lead to misalignment How to check if you’re honoring your values in everyday decisions This episode is part of the “Living By Your Standards” series — designed to help you stop performing for others and start standing in your truth. If you’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself, set stronger boundaries, and live life on YOUR terms, hit play now. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 Foster Deeper and More Meaningful Intimacy in Relationships 56:25
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWhen you hear the word "intimacy," do you only think of sexual connection? Intimacy in a relationship goes far beyond the physical—it includes emotional, intellectual, spiritual, experiential, and physical without sexual intimacy. These six intimacy tanks are the foundation of deep, meaningful connections, but here’s the thing: expecting one person to fill them all isn’t sustainable. In this episode of P.S. Younger Self, we’re joined by Tannaz Hosseinpour , a Relationship & Manifestation Coach, to explore intimacy on multiple levels and rethink how you nurture these connections in your relationships. Together, we’ll dive into: The six intimacy tanks and why they’re essential for relational health. Inspiring and practical tips from Tannaz to foster deeper intimacy in each area, helping you build meaningful connections across all relationship dynamics while staying fulfilled through personal growth and community. How to share the responsibility of filling intimacy tanks with your partner, yourself, and your wider support system, including your friends, for a more balanced and sustainable relationship. Tannaz will also help you reflect on which intimacy needs are non-negotiable for your partner to meet and which ones can be filled through your own practices or external relationships. Connect Tannaz on Instagram here or her website here. Be sure to download Tannaz´s free nervous system regulation e-book here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 5 Signs You're Prioritizing Expectations Over Standards 17:14
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedAre unmet expectations leaving you frustrated? Do you find yourself clinging to the idea that people or circumstances should be a certain way? In this first episode of 2025, host Chris Oh unpacks how deeply ingrained expectations are often confused as personal standards, leading to a cycle of disappointment and frustration. This episode is part of a new P.S. Younger Self monthly series, Living By Your Standards. In part 1 of this series, host Chris reveals the 5 key signs you might be prioritizing expectations over standards and why this subtle shift can transform your relationships, mindset, and overall quality of life. From releasing 'should be' beliefs to breaking free from overthinking and blame, this episode offers actionable insights to help you reset your approach to connections and cultivate a life aligned with your values. Discover how personal standards—not expectations—create healthier dynamics, deeper fulfillment, and a stronger sense of self. Start the new year by releasing expectations and embracing the power of living by your standards. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 Seoul Searching: Balancing Tradition and Self-Expression as a Korean American 20:43
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWhat happens when the need for self-expression clashes with deeply rooted cultural traditions? In this profoundly personal episode, host Chris Oh shares her journey of growing up Korean American, navigating familial and cultural expectations, and finding peace in accepting that prioritizing a relationship with her mother means letting go of the hope for full understanding—but grounding herself in the love and acceptance her mother expresses in her own way. Chris reflects on a recent trip to Korea with her mother, where old childhood insecurities resurfaced, and she found herself grappling with the delicate balance of honoring her Korean cultural heritage while staying true to her own voice. This is a story of vulnerability, cultural identity, and acceptance—showing that while mutual understanding may not always be possible, finding clarity in a loved one’s perspective and focusing on connection can foster healing and peace, even when worlds feel apart. 💬 How do you navigate cultural and familial expectations? Share your thoughts with us in the comments or reviews. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 5 Steps to Hold Yourself Accountable to High Standards 14:18
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedStruggling to hold yourself accountable and uphold your high standards? In this episode, we dive into the essential role of accountability in setting and upholding your personal standards. Without accountability, it's nearly impossible to stay aligned with your core values and principles. Join Host Chris Oh as we explore practical steps on how to be accountable to yourself, from self-reflection and ego management to understanding the powerful impact of intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation. Discover how to stay accountable and how Self-Determination Theory explains the importance of accountability, helping you take full ownership of your actions, behaviors, and decisions. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear understanding of what accountability truly means and how it empowers you to uphold your high standards that dictate the quality of life you desire and create. 🎯 Key Takeaways: ✅ Why accountability is the foundation of maintaining high standards ✅ Why identifying your personal values and aligning them with your daily actions is essential. ✅ The role of intrinsic motivation in self-determination ✅ How Self-Determination Theory explains the importance of accountability ✅ Five steps to hold yourself accountable to high standards. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 Cognitive Biases Explained - How to Out Smart Your Brain 14:32
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedDid you know that there are over 180 documented cognitive biases that can subtly influence our decision-making? In this episode, host Chris Oh delves into five common cognitive biases—confirmation bias, anchoring effect, halo effect, availability heuristic, and WYSIATI (What You See Is All There Is)—drawing insights from Daniel Kahneman's best-selling book, Thinking, Fast and Slow. She explores how these biases shape our thinking and decisions, often without us even realizing it, and shares personal examples of when each cognitive bias affected her own choices. Chris also offers practical strategies she uses to overcome these cognitive biases, helping you to also make better decisions in both professional and personal situations. This is a must-listen for anyone looking to sharpen their decision-making skills and avoid the pitfalls of biased thinking. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 How To Build Deeper Connections - Master the Art of Human Relationships 1:02:50
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedAs social beings, we are fundamentally wired to connect. The quality of our lives depends on the relationships we create and foster. Yet, in a world that's growing more divided and ego-driven, where attention often outweighs genuine connections, how can we forge deep, meaningful bonds? What does that truly mean, and how does it look in various relationship dynamics—from friendships to romantic and even professional relationships? In episode #108, our guest Simon Stawski, a Lisbon-based creator with more than 2 million subscribers across his social channels and a personal brand consultant, shares his personal journey and the tools he's acquired and applied in his everyday life to foster deep, genuine human connections. Discover Simon's intriguing personal philosophy on what it means to truly connect with others, along with effective communication skills to build deeper, better connections. Drawing on his extensive knowledge in neuroscience, psychology, consciousness, and communication strategies like non-violent communication, Simon explains how he continues to apply these principles across various types of relationships: friendships, romantic, familial, and professional. Get ready to widen your perspective on what it means to deeply connect with someone and learn new, powerful ways to transform the way you connect with others. Connect with Simon here: https://www.youtube.com/@SimonsBookClub or on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/simonsbookclub/ Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
Did you know that 90% of our communication is non-verbal? It's not just about what you say, but how you say it that can completely change how the receiver perceives and interprets your message. This episode underscores the importance of communicating your standards primarily through mastering key non-verbal communication nuances. Discover how your actions, presence, and even your energy can convey your standards without uttering a single word. Host Chris Oh explores how you show up in various aspects of your life and the subtle yet impactful ways non-verbal communication can set the benchmark for expressing your personal standards. Learn how to master non-verbal communication to convey your standards more effectively than ever before. Stick around, especially for tip number five—it might just change the way you think about how you are communicating your message. And, if you want clarity on standards vs. expectations, be sure to watch this video on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuBsv4kclYM&t=181s Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 Master Your Emotions: Developing Emotional Regulation from a Neuroscience Perspective 22:47
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedForget what you thought you knew about emotions—they're not predetermined reactions triggered by external stimuli, nor are they universal and imprinted in us. Instead, they're constructed by your brain, drawing from sensory input, cultural influences, and past experiences. This episode draws on the groundbreaking research and findings of Lisa Feldman Barrett, a venerated neuroscientist, psychologist, and the author of 'How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain.' Host Chris Oh shares her key insights from this eye-opening book that has transformed the way she understands emotions, and invites you into this new paradigm shift in understanding the science of emotion to empower yourself through your journey of mastering your emotions and becoming more emotionally intelligent, which you may be surprised to hear is also inherently linked to your health and well-being. If you've never heard of Lisa Feldman Barrett's renowned work on the science of emotions, be prepared for a transformative shift in your thinking. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
1 Signs of Manipulation: How to Spot and Handle It 56:31
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedHave you ever felt something was off in a conversation, leaving you questioning the sincerity of the other person? Or perhaps, you felt like someone was subtly orchestrating your decisions without you knowing it! These moments often signal the subtle presence of manipulation at play. The thing is, manipulation can be subtle, and know what? We all at one point or another will use manipulation tactics in our communication because our guest says it´s a form of power wielding. Our guest Bronwyn Saglimbeni, a seasoned communications coach who has prepared clients for their big moments on shows like American Idol, Bloomberg TV, CNBC’s Power Lunch, The Oprah Winfrey Show, and hundreds of Ted Talks, dives into this concept and reveals the underlying power dynamics involved in manipulative communication. She also offers insights on how to identify and effectively manage such scenarios. Moreover, Bronwyn shares how we can even catch ourselves if we're inadvertently becoming the manipulator, and offers powerful, actionable tools to foster authentic power through communication strategies that instead inspire and influence. To connect with Bronwyn Saglimbeni, visit her site here. You can also watch her informative content on YouTube here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
Do you believe self-confidence is a fixed trait? Host Chris Oh challenges this notion, revealing how anyone can cultivate greater self-confidence. In fact, building self confidence is largely what psychologists call volitional, which means it´s by your own choice. Chris shares her own journey from painfully shy early beginnings to embodying unshakeable confidence today, illustrating that transformation is attainable for everyone. Discover the essential components of building self-confidence as Chris provides actionable strategies for your own personal growth. Drawing from her own experiences, she reveals the secrets to developing unshakeable confidence, guiding you towards a more self assured and boldly confident future. Learn the 10 transformative steps to not only boost your self-confidence, but to cultivate Unshakeable Self Confidence today. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 How Stoicism is Helping Me Overcome Tough Times 10:43
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedLife’s journey is not without its storms; sometimes it's just a light sprinkle, other times it's a full-blown downpour. Amidst the ebb and flow of happiness, sadness, and uncertainty, one timeless philosophy stands as a beacon of resilience. In this episode, host Chris Oh shares how Stoicism, particularly the profound concept of Amor Fati, has been instrumental in navigating one of the most challenging and stressful experiences of her life. Amor Fati, the Stoic idea of embracing one's fate, becomes a guiding principle in turning adversity into opportunity. Drawing from Stoic teachings and Nietzsche's philosophy, Chris explores the nuanced interpretation of Amor Fati, revealing how it can empower you to change your frame of reference to transform your adversity into an impetus for personal and character growth. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 How to Work Out According to Your Menstrual Cycle: Optimize Female Hormone Health 58:07
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedAre you exercising against your unique female physiology? With a mere 6% of exercise research centering on women, this episode aims to empower women with knowledge that challenges generic fitness advice. Our guest, Denise Yeats, a personal trainer, menopause training specialist, Ironman Certified Coach, and endurance athlete, is committed to guiding women in resetting, recharging, and reclaiming their vitality at any life stage. Denise draws upon her expertise in managing female hormonal fluctuations to offer practical insights on customized fitness solutions that honors women's physiology. From dispelling exercise myths to optimizing training and promoting proper fueling for female hormone health across various life stages—including menstruation, perimenopause, and menopause—this episode is a must-listen for women looking to optimize their health and fitness journey. Tune in to discover how to synchronize your workouts for maximum benefits and unlock your full fitness potential. To connect with Denise Yeats, visit her website here. How to fuel for performance in the perimenopause and menopause resource. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 Understanding the Why Behind Our Financial Decisions 42:24
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWhat if the pursuit of happiness isn't about the zeros in our bank accounts, but the why behind our financial choices? In this episode, "Understanding the Why Behind Our Financial Decisions," our guest Eric Roberge, CFP® and the CEO of Beyond Your Hammock, helps us explore the connection between our financial decisions and their influence on our lives. In this episode, we explore the strategies and mindsets for optimal financial decision-making, discovering how understanding our "why" doesn't just shape our portfolios and bank accounts, but molds our lifestyle, mindset and relationships. Eric shares invaluable insights, empowering us to navigate the intricate intersection of money and life. Tune in for an interesting conversation that transcends conventional finance advice, offering inspiration to redefine your relationship with your money and finances. To connect with Eric Roberge, visit his website here. To listen to his podcast, Beyond Finances, click here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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In a milestone 100th episode of P.S. Younger Self, host Chris Oh unfolds a powerful lesson on forgiveness she recently experienced. Chris shares her personal revelation, illuminating a surprising, fresh perspective on forgiveness that reshapes its traditional understanding and role in reconciliation. This episode will challenge you to perceive forgiveness as a truly liberating force—a proactive choice to let go and extend compassion first. Discover how this shift in mindset can enable us to lead with genuine compassion, transcend our ego, and foster an environment rooted in unconditional love, ultimately paving the way to genuine inner peace. Tune in for an enlightening episode that prompts a reevaluation of our approach to forgiveness. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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Can you truly let go of expectations? And, why should you? Our perception of reality is intricately woven with our expectations and past experiences. However, transcending these expectations and embracing the present can unlock the full spectrum of life's rich tapestry. Join host Chris Oh, as she passionately delves into why letting go of expectations is the liberating path to escape the clutches of disappointment and frustration. And, discover the profound concept of the "Expectations Gap," as defined by Nat Ware, and how it's intricately tied to our feelings of unhappiness. Chris also shares the five conscious steps she's developed to master the art of letting go of expectations. Start your practice and set yourself free to embrace life's wondrous unpredictability. Be sure to sign up here to be the first to know when the Revealing the Foundations: The Standards Mastery Mini Course launches in November! You won't want to miss this transformative mini course: https://www.psyoungerself.com/courses Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 Stop Weaponizing Emotions & Build Stronger Relationships 1:04:59
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIn this latest episode of P.S. Younger Self, husband and wife team, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share powerful insights on how they have discovered what makes couples disconnect, and therefore connect to forge deeper, healthier, long-lasting relationships. They share their discovery through their own journey of a 40 year marriage (30 of which they say was painful) and through Dr. Glenn´s professional, groundbreaking research and studies on human emotions and connection. They share their transformative tool called the Connective Codes, which has helped couples around the world unravel the mysteries of disconnection and regulate and process emotions to foster profound, stronger connection in relationships. Don't miss this truly insightful episode, which covers topics such as: How getting curious about your partner´s emotions helps build deeper connection Why not to ask "why" questions. Change to "What happened?" Acknowledging our own unique experiences to be heard and seen Demonstration of Dr. Glenn & Phyllis working through the Core Emotion Wheel to process individual emotions Why part of human connection is to be seen and heard Why saying "I´m sorry" doesn´t build connection and can be weaponized Fascinating research on how emotions get reactivated if not processed in 19 seconds Why you can´t expect your partner to "understand" you ➡️ To connect with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis, click here on their YouTube channel: / @connectioncodes or visit their website here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/ ➡️ To download the Free Core Emotion Wheel - THE tool to conquer conflict in just 4 minutes, from Dr. Glenn & Phyllis, click here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/younger ➡️ And, all P.S. Younger Self listeners receive 20% of The Connection Codes Master Class. Use code "younger20" at checkout here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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In the latest episode of P.S. Younger Self, Chris Oh´s dear friend, Saria Gebeily, returned to the show for another deeply engaging and intimate conversation about what “healing” means. They discussed how they have personally defined "healing" and identified when they were “healing,” as well as revealed pivotal moments that signaled their own progress and growth. Discover why these intimate conversations between Chris Oh and her friend Saria Gebeliy are always so enlightening, as Saria isn´t afraid to share her different, yet always very wise perspective on topics and concepts that often gets diluted down in mainstream conversations. For example, can we get “addicted” to healing, which can do you more harm than good? And, don't miss the other two episodes with Chris and Saria: EP. 45: Why It’s Ok to Outgrow Some Friends EP. 74: Manifestation: What it is and What it’s not You can follow Saria Gebeily on Instagram here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 Gaslighting Explained: Signs, Types & How to Handle It 50:28
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedGaslighting seems to be thrown around for a lot of different negative behaviors, i.e., lying, insulting, guilt tripping, and much more. But what is gaslighting really? Discover the truth behind gaslighting and its intricate connection to emotional abuse in our latest episode with licensed psychologist, Dr. Emily Mayfield of Mindset Therapy, PLLC. Dr. Emily helps us unravel the distinction between gaslighting and other deceptive behaviors, and sheds light on the manipulative intent of gaslighters to control thoughts, emotions, and perceptions for their own benefit. Gain insights on how to identify real gaslighting behaviors and practical strategies to reclaim your reality, confront it, and break free from the manipulative chains of gaslighting. To connect with Dr. Emily Mayfield, visit her website here. You can also find her on YouTube here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 What's the Difference Between Standards and Expectations 10:04
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedSetting standards is an important aspect of our personal growth because they act as a measure of our own accountability and reflect our personal values. Yet many people confuse the two. They are not the same and not to be used interchangeably because our standards dictate the quality of life we create, while expectations lead to feelings of disappointment and frustration. In this episode, you'll learn the clear difference between setting standards vs. expectations in all areas of your life. And, if you are interested in finally feeling empowered to transform your experience from feeling frustrated, anxious, and disappointed when setting expectations in your life to setting clear standards, be sure to sign up to find out when our new course launches soon. ✨ Sign up here to be notified when our course "Your Hero's Journey to Setting Clear Standards" launches and to receive a special offer for being part of the initial launch: https://bit.ly/3IW9ysn Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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Today, 10MM working mothers in the U.S. alone are suffering from burnout, and in silence. In 2019, the World Health Organization officially included burnout as an occupational syndrome and an estimated that 1 in 3 people are affected by work-related stress, making it a significant health concern. What is going on? Burnout is a pervasive issue affecting more people today than ever before due to a combination of factors such as intense work culture, our "always-on" digital connectivity, uncertainty about the world and economic affairs, heightened stress, and lack of self-care. Dr. Oma Agbai, a Board-Certified Dermatologist, a Clinical Professor of Dermatology and Director of Multicultural Dermatology and Hair Loss Disorders at UC Davis, and Tedx Speaker, shares her personal story of how she overcame burnout by connecting with her higher purpose and implementing her three-step system. She passionately states that aligning with our highest purpose can be the antidote to burnout. Listen to the full episode to discover the early signs of burnout and the 3 step system to prevent and overcome it, and even achieve your own breakthrough moment. Connect with Dr Oma Agbai here and you can follow her on Instagram here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 Advice to My Younger Self | 10 Biggest Lessons I've Learned 5:50
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedI grew up as a painfully shy child. My mother had to make friends for me in grade school, and she even got me my prom date, no joke. Throughout my 20s and 30s, I climbed the corporate ladder, chasing status, more zeros and trying to make my parents proud. Fast forward to my early forties, I have never been more at peace and fulfilled in my life. But that came with a lot of self discovery, self work and lessons along the way, including the most important --- learning to fall in love with myself. 💙 These are my 10 biggest life lessons I've learned to date that I would pass onto my younger self. Whether you're just starting out in your self growth journey or are looking to reflect on the lessons you've learned along the way, this podcast episode will provide valuable insights from my own experience that may help you live your best life, right now, wherever you are in life..and on your own terms. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 Self Esteem vs How to Build Unconditional Self Worth 50:51
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedWhat would the world look like if we all cultivated unconditional self worth? Today, the feeling of low self worth is so pervasive. And, it not only cripples us from living out all of our dreams and authentic desires, but can significantly impact our mental health and well-being. In this episode with Dr. Adia Gooden, a licensed clinical psychologist whose Tedx Talk on cultivating unconditional self worth has garnered over 1.3 million views, we dive deep into the topic of building unconditional self worth and understanding the difference between self esteem and self worth. We explore the reasons behind why low self worth is so pervasive in our society, the signs that signal we are struggling with self worth, and the essential steps to start the journey of cultivating unconditional self worth. Dr. Adia also sheds light on the practice of self-forgiveness, which is often challenging for many, and how to navigate self-doubt and imposter syndrome. Listen to the full episode and don't forget to follow Dr. Adia Gooden on Instagram here and learn more here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 How to Heal From Insecure Attachment Styles 1:07:03
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedAttachment theory tells us that we develop certain attachment styles in childhood, which can greatly impact how we show up in our adult romantic relationships. And if you've struggled with any of these common insecure attachment styles, anxious-preoccupied or avoidant-dismissive, this episode is for you! Certified Somatic Attachment and Intuitive Body Coach Carly Ann dives deep into how insecure attachment styles develop, even later in life, what is really happening when you feel stuck repeating a pattern and how to break free to heal from insecure attachment styles. She created six SECURE pillars that has helped her clients unlock a version of themselves that until now, has been covered by trauma, low self-esteem, and deep attachment wounds. Don't miss this eye-opening conversation with Carly Ann. And, you can connect with her on Instagram here. You can also find her on YouTube here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 Master Emotional Self Regulation for Inner Peace 12:55
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedEmotional self-regulation is an essential cornerstone to developing successful interpersonal relationships of all dynamics and even executing on sound decision-making. Then, why do some of us struggle to develop strong emotional self-regulation skills? From childhood trauma to chronic stress, there are various reasons why some of us struggle more than others. However, the liberating thing to note is that emotional self-regulation is a skill that we can learn and hone over time with practice and conscious effort. And, plenty of research have found that honing our emotional self-regulation skills can have profound benefits on our mental health, overall wellbeing and life satisfaction. Listen to the full episode with host Chris Oh to discover how developing stronger emotional self-regulation skills can be so transformational for your personal growth and development. She also reveals the journey she went on to establish a practice of better emotional self-regulation. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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1 The Art of Doing Nothing | Dolce Far Niente 10:44
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Play Later Play Later Lists Like LikedIn a society that rewards productivity and where busyness has become a badge of honor, the concept of Dolce Far Niente (Italian) or Niksen (Dutch) can seem so foreign or worse, misunderstood as being lazy. The truth is, our society is more burned out that ever before. According to a 2022 Forbes article, findings from Asana, McKinsey and Deloitte reports reveal than burnout is a worldwide problem where 70% of people experienced burnout in the past year. So what can we learn from the Italians and the Dutch who live by this life principle of truly savoring life by mastering the art of "doing nothing." Host Chris explores this life philosophy, which is present in several different cultures, what it really means to master the art of doing nothing, and how to integrate this practice...yes, even as a high achiever. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here. And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.…
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