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044 - What Does Healthy Pursuit Look Like in Dating?
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Bus Stop is one of Marilyn Munroe’s most critically acclaimed films.
She acts a treat, that is for sure … but the moral of the story, eeek!
We see a courageous young woman from a small town on a mission to Hollywood, paying her own way across the country …
… until she is “spotted” by a young man who decides he is going to take her back to his ranch, her dreams be dammed.
We see Marilyn's character repeatedly decline his advances, we watch her literally run away from him in public, as he continues to pursue her, right into her bedroom as she wakes up one morning.
When she again declines his proposal and attempts to catch a bus out of town to escape him and carry on with her dreams …
… he literally throws a lasso around her and pulls her back to him as she attempts to board the bus.
A lasso.
Eventually, Marilyn's character rips up her (dreams) map to Hollywood. The screen goes dark as she heads to the ranch.
Even though this film is from the 1950s, IMO we cannot underestimate how older pop culture depictions of unhealthy pursuit still unconsciously imprint our psyches re: how ppl are supposed to behave if they like someone. All genders are affected.
The number of clients who come through my door in 2022 who are still scarred by this type of thinking tells the tale!
That can run the gamut of thinking that love-bombing = love …
… to wondering why a well-regulated, emotionally mature human no longer gets turned on by climbing Rapunzel's tower.
But then again, after #MeToo, what is healthy pursuit?
In these recent years of reworking social and gender norms, together with a major tech disruption of how we meet and mate…
IS THERE ANY WONDER that we might be confused about all this?
What DOES healthy pursuit look like in dating?
If you're curious about this for yourself, I offer questions for contemplation plus examples of healthy pursuit in today's episode.
x Ezzie
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