I'm so excited to share my new 1:1 re.love coaching program! Tune into discover how to remove splinters from your love consciousness. xo Ezzie BODY OF WORK: www.ezziespencer.com 1:1 re.love: www.ezzie.love Check out the self-study program LOVEABLE here: https://www.ezzie.love/loveable Ezzie's IG: @ezziespencer Free quiz, attraction elixir, love-not…

"Am I really attracted to very masculine men? Or is this just part of how I've been socialised (the whole girl fairytale thing)?" This is a great question from a listener, and today we're diving into attraction patterns on the pod. Truth be told, you won't know the answer to this Q until you strip back social conditioning and experience what lies b…

You CAN find love after a toxic relationship. I help women to restore self-belief, self-trust and to feel the courage and confidence to put themselves out there again to find real love. Last week, goop published my article on dating after a narcissist. You can read the article here. I’m sharing my best tips in this week’s podcast episode. Tune in b…

I'm so excited to share my new website! You know how when you look back at life and suddenly all the steps along the way make perfect sense? Jo ChunYan created a gorgeous cosmic visual reflection of that: past, present and future. Check out the new www.ezziespencer.com here. You can link to the three individual websites of my body of work from the …

Want to find out if you have any Unconscious Vows in love? Today's podcast episode is a thought experiment designed to help you uncover any secret beliefs that are holding you back in love. Lots of prompts for contemplation and journaling that may just unlock the clarity you need to take your love-life to the next level. X Ezzie BODY OF WORK: www.e…

When is it too hot too soon? What to look out for, to know if it's going to crash? Love-bombing might feel like a special “karmic bond”. Feels great, until it doesn’t. Today’s podcast episode helps you track the signs in dating, including unexpected conversational behaviours and other hints that something may be off in the early stages ... … plus h…

Something that upsets me is how many of my gorgeous, brilliant, magical women clients have been brainwashed by old-fashioned tropes about what it means “to be feminine” in love. It's not the “feminine” part that upsets me — it's those old cliches about “how the feminine should act so the masculine wants her" that translate into women feeling they h…

Do you ever lose yourself in the balance between wanting big love, and getting a little fixated on the specifics? If you relate, then you'll love today’s podcast episode. We cover: Why it is so hard to keep the balance between wanting the thing and attaching to the thing (when you really do want the thing!). What to focus on instead; and A simple p…

In my private client work: … we unearth any blockages to self-worth in romantic relationships (return to unconditional love and self-acceptance), … we release any Unconscious Vows that may be preventing us from turning our Heartlight on, allowing our feminine essence and magic to shine out to catch the attention of gorgeous, appropriate suitors … ……

If you’ve been single for awhile (or you’re recently out of a long-term relationship) then you may be confronted with the weirdness of the current dating climate. You might feel intimidated or turned off — which is entirely understandable. And I firmly believe that it is still possible to have fun dating right now, a belief rooted in the reality of…

So. We can know that the hype around February 14 is commercially manufactured, we can know that everyone is on their own timeline but … Valentine's Day can still be a tricky one to navigate if your love-life is not exactly where you'd like it to be. In honour of this, today's podcast episode is a bit different. Tune in for a guided meditation to co…

Love Blocks don’t mean that you are doomed. On the contrary, figuring out you have a love block is cause for celebration! Okay, that sounds weird. Why celebrate? Because correctly identifying what is blocking you means that you can swiftly address it. In today’s episode, we go through the 3 main love blocks that I see with my clients. These blocks …

Think of it this way. If expectations signal a focus on them (how they "should" behave) Then standards emanate from the inside-out (what works for you). It’s how you position and hold yourself in relation to the thing that matters. Starting with your own standards in the quest for love can make all the difference. And then, to hold your standards i…

FROM THE ARCHIVES: In the weird online world, when things seem increasingly uncertain and complex, a system can help you stay grounded and confident and relax into the flow. The wheels of (re)love is the exact system I use to help my clients weave their way from single to loved-up. Tune into another classic podcast episode from the archives: how to…

FROM THE ARCHIVES: This week I’m sharing one of the top re.love® podcast episodes of all time. THE GOLDEN QUADRANT gives a helpful framework to help you approach dating conversations with the energy of curiosity, openness, abundance and play. It helps to take the pressure down and have fun dating. Try it out and let me know what you think! xo Ezzie…

If you’ve ever wondered whether you missed the chance with someone special because of something you said or did, then this episode is for you. I loved recording this episode because it gives insight into a private client session (details shared with her permission). She came into the session beating herself up about what she said to an ex one night…

On the cusp of a new year, today’s podcast episode is another personal update. Tune in for my reflections on my word for 2022 (what was yours?) Also: Highlights of 2022 - and big decisions for me Why I’m so excited about changing things up in 2023 And why I believe love is possible in 2023! xo Ezzie Apply for a private re.love® journey here: www.ez…

Happy end-of-the-year, and good wishes for whatever you celebrate! Amidst it all, it can be a tricky time of year where friends and family take the opportunity to probe into your love-life … tricky if your love-life isn't exactly where you'd like it to be. If you're experiencing any awkward questions or opinions around the holiday dinner table, you…

This question breaks my heart because there is so much toxic dating advice out there, making you feel wrong for simply being YOU. The toxic part? "Having" to do/be something to be loved. The truth? Show YOUR magic. You don’t need to fix or change yourself to find love. And if you ever catch yourself trying to “be” or “do” something in order to “get…

I had more fun dating in my thirties than any other time. I was really hitting my stride when I met my guy, tee hee! Whether you’re dating in your thirties, forties, fifties or sixties: in today’s episode, I dive into some of the gifts of dating with a bit more experience under your belt ;) I see false scarcity kick in with many of my clients who h…

So many of the gorgeous women I work with are go-getters out there in the world (achievements, tick!). They can do all day and give and give and give. But inside their relationships? They tend to find it harder to receive support, affection, and love. There are heaps of reasons why we may find it difficult to receive. Fear is one. If you have ever …

What to say if someone asks you tricky questions about your past relationships? I mean Why are you still single … do you have to even answer that?! No, of course not! There is nothing wrong with you — your path is perfect! Claim your truth, loud and proud. This episode includes communication scripts for exactly that. Tune in for: Your quick and eas…

Every day, I'm asked some variation of … And what about this thing [in dating], is THIS a red flag? I so get it. When you've been hurt in love, you don't want to put yourself in harm's way. But I teach a different method than “red flag spotting” — an approach grounded in curiosity and your own inner wisdom. There may be really good reasons why some…

Kiss when it feels right of course! But let's be honest, that can be hard to discern, especially when you're dating with a serious goal in mind, like marriage/kids. What if you're heading back into the dating world after a (long) pause? What if you tend to leap into a physical bond super fast to establish desire/approval? What if you feel nervous m…

Bus Stop is one of Marilyn Munroe’s most critically acclaimed films. She acts a treat, that is for sure … but the moral of the story, eeek! We see a courageous young woman from a small town on a mission to Hollywood, paying her own way across the country … … until she is “spotted” by a young man who decides he is going to take her back to his ranch…

Tori finally met the one she was calling in. He shared her profession, he was emotionally mature, he wanted a globe-trotting life, he was super cosmic, she was catching feels … Except that ... He was focusing on building up his business. Like, super focused on that. He wasn't able to meet her where she was at, he said. OMG. Maybe you've had this ex…

We're back with Season 5 and it felt like the right time to give a lil update on re.love® My vision is a world of open hearts, so I'm musing on the question: How to most effectively realize this vision ... in a way that feels yummy and alive? I sense that my word for 2023 might just be "evolving". The good news is that this will mean more podcasts …

Have you ever had the experience of being just about to arrive at your destination, and then being thrown completely off? It can be so confusing to take one step forward and then 65 steps back ... … just when you were celebrating all your hard work and thinking you were “graduating”. But the reality is that many great spiritual and mythological tra…

Dating and looking for a job? Are they the same? Well, one involves a money goal (or vocational purpose) — and let's hope the dating experience is more aimed at love! So on one level no ... AND YET … We can share learnings about the job-seeking process in a way that can actually build your confidence in the new dating landscape. For example, one of…

A beautiful woman slipped into my Instagram DMs the other day. “How can I tell if someone is avoidant or just not into me?” My answer to her — does it matter? Does it really matter what their attachment style is — or their personality disorder, or their starsign, human design or whatever? What really matters in love is, does it work for you? (Meani…

Wondering how is it supposed to feel is so normal — especially when you have done deep personal work in recent years, had a spiritual awakening, or upgraded your relationship goals. The short answer? Listen to your body, trust yourself. The longer answer? There are certain clues to look out for. I'll go through two big 2 clues in this episode: - wh…

Intentional Celibacy is trending. There's a good reason — a sacred pause can be a brilliant way to reset your attraction patterns and attract in the quality of suitors that you desire. So ... What is it? Why do it? For how long? How to approach a period of sacred alone time? Plus ... How to get back onto the court, when you're ready? (eeek!). Tune …

While I'm a huge fan of dating apps (when done right), many of my clients are feeling the urge to meet people the old-fashioned-way too — in real life. I love that! I mean, why scrimp? Open up as many avenues as possible! Today's episode is for you if you're wondering how to meet people in real life after a period of relying on the apps (or not mee…

But what do I SAY at the end of the date - so he initiates the next one? The woman who asked me this was a go-getter who expressly wanted to learn how to embrace her feminine in love. Sidenote opinion : there's no right or wrong relating dynamic. It all comes down to what YOU want. THIS beautiful woman had a habit of stepping into the driver's seat…

Remote work: Once for the fringe dwellers, now mainstream. It's not possible for all professions of course, but maybe it is for you. The choice is great. So many possibilities for where to live, how to set up your life. And ... Will you find love when you don't yet know where you'll be? Is love even possible in these circumstances? (Yes!). In this …

After a summer hiatus, we're back with Season 4 of the podcast! This is such a juicy season, kicking off with the question ... How to handle multiple suitors?! In this episode we cover: - what rotational dating is (and isn't) - why do it (this may surprise you!) - how to do it elegantly (graceful communication alert!). This episode is for you if yo…

Elisa is an incredible life coach who is a graduate of the re.love program. In our conversation, Elisa speaks candidly about her concerns before entering the re.love program — was this just a heteronormative experience? What about those with intersecting identities? I welcomed Elisa's hesitations, and was also excited to jam about her journey with …

I'm sharing this seminal episode again because is an EPIC roadmap to love, and exactly what I use to (re)activate the love magic of the brilliant women I work with. Interestingly enough, I found that the women who listened to this episode and then joined re.love nominating a specific focus on “Wheel One” … are in gorgeous relationships, 12 months l…

There are two types of situation-ships I see my clients get lost in… Where the connection is palpable, the potential is STRONG, but the relationship itself feels elusive or remains just-out-of-reach. Are you in one of these 2 types of situation-ships? (And if you are — what to do about it?) Listen to this week's podcast episode to find out — Of cou…

"Is it possible to get too much into self-love and self-sovereignty?" Well, firstly, there's no rule that says you have to want to be in romantic relationship! But what happens if you did want that — and now you don't? How to know whether this is a passing phase, avoidance, or a core desire? In this week's podcast episode, I share why this question…

As a love coach, I see a LOT of text messages each week. This gives me a ringside seat to what exactly is misfiring for women who wish to be pursued (and who are experiencing the opposite in their dating lives). While every situation will naturally have its own context, there is one particular mistake I see time and again. What is it? Tune in today…

Why is he not pursuing you … or even asking you out? In this week's podcast episode, you'll learn - 1. The counter-intuitive tip I teach my clients (to activate pursuit) 2. What to do when you become magnetic (and what not to do) 3. The critical mindset shift to make now (to keep all this flowing). This is for you if you're dating — and it might ju…

Welcome to season 3 of the re.love podcast! If you are a highly sensitive person, or an empath, you may have porous energetic boundaries. This can be a superpower in terms of navigating spiritual realms ... … But in romantic relationships? It can become kryptonite, particularly when coupled with a tendency to take on and transmute the pain of other…

Most of the brilliant magical women I work with are yearning for a committed relationship, a healthy life partnership, a loving long-term partnership ... ... what we call the Secret Garden in re.love language, the ultimate Spoke #8 on the wheel ... ... but they keep getting stuck at the dating stage, in Spoke #6 of the re.love wheel. When your dati…

My answer to this is — No, And. Tune in to hear what I advise my clients about dating apps vs love-in-the-wild. xo Ezzie Reach out on IG: @ezziespencer Free quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here: www.ezziespencer.com Details on re.love here: www.ezziespencer.com/relove BODY OF WORK: www.ezziespencer.com 1:1 re.love: www.ezzie…

... my living situation is sorted, until my heart is healed, until I figure out what is happening with my work, until I lose those pandemic pounds … ? I see many so many women delaying love unnecessarily … resulting in loneliness. And I see others rush forwards into dating before they are ready … resulting in (further) heartbreak. Are you ready to …

Recording this episode dredged up the memory of that time I was ghosted after dating someone for six months … It was excruciating. Ghosting truly sucks. But in hindsight, the reason why it happened was obvious. In today's podcast episode, I share three reasons why people ghost, and how to handle it when they do. The third is rarely spoken about, bu…

"After I got out of that toxic marriage, I'm now in a relationship with a decent, kind man … he is so nice … buttt I just don't fall in love with him. Am I blocked? What is it that I'm doing?" Are you familiar with the pendulum swing — From wild, all-consuming, BIG LOVE (great til it crashes!) To the sensible, “safe” choice (great until it becomes …

What if I told you there was a method to go from dating to relationship? I have created a very simple method, which cuts through all the noise. In today's episode, I lead you through this tried-and-tested method that I lead my re.love clients through, from non-existent love-lives to being happy and settled. All you need to do - 1. Follow the 8 step…

Take a peek into the different types of dating apps that my clients are seeing great results with right now. Hinge, Bumble, Coffee + Bagel, the League, Raya, eHarmony, Match.com, Plenty of Fish, the Pattern, Feeld - How to choose?! In today's podcast episode, I use three categories to help guide you through the confusing landscape of online dating …