Cozy Homes // Carly Thornock

Hey, Sister!

House love coach Carly Thornock joins cohost sisters Courtney and Carley for an episode about intentionally bringing joy and fun into your life and home this fall. This episode is part of the feel good fall series, packed with interviews and sisterly advice to increase feelings of peace and confidence going into the holiday season and beyond.

Call to Action

In the next 24 hours, create 2 columns on a piece of paper. In the first column, write down words/adjectives that represent what feels fun to your soul this holiday season (is it beautiful bows, tasty treats, festive music?). In a second column, write a list of all the rules, traditions and expectations associated with this time of year (delivering neighbor presents, attending parties, etc.). Cross out the second column elements that don’t match up with the adjectives of the first column and soak in the joy and deliciousness of your personalized holiday plans.

“If you go through and in your body, it's like, ‘I hate that! I should do that.’ If your brain ever says, ‘I should do that’--cross it off. I want you to be liberal in your crossing off. And then the ones that are left, I want you to circle and put little hearts around them and I want you to just soak it in with the deliciousness that it is to you of, ‘I just love sitting under my Christmas tree and listening to instrumental music while I look at the snow. That is what I'm doing and I'm doing it three times and that’s the only thing. We're giving up all the parties. We're not doing any candy canes.’ Whatever it is to you. Cross off the things that feel at all not fun. And highlight the ones that do and commit to those.” -Carly Thornock

Resources

Quiet Your Mind (referenced body scan episode)

Intentional House by Month (Carly's book!)

Connect with Carly

Instagram @CarlyThornock

carlythornock.com

Connect with Hey, Sister!

Instagram @TheHeySisterPodcast

heysisterpodcast.org

Show Timeline

0:00 Guest and topic introduction

4:30 Home is the ultimate inside joke

6:15 Feel Good Fall meaning as a house love coach: the invitation to match nature. 3 steps to recognize what feel goods to you: 1) Breathe and sit still, 2) Use senses to connect, 3) Fun or it doesn’t happen

11:00 Intentionality of what makes a “good home”; hitting metaphorical nails on the head. Energy in homes

13:45 “Shoulds” and further elaboration on the nails on the board analogy

15:00 Breathing/syncing heart and mind; nutcrackers story

18:00 Assets of home

20:45 “Fun or it doesn’t happen” coaching: fun is what feels good to body, fun can look like structure, relationships, connection, beauty

23:45 Getting into your body. Anxious should-ing vs. truly happy with structure. Failed body scans and letting husbands bake the cookies. Gatekeeping

28:45 Call to action

31:30 Children’s experience at home is colored by what is delightful/delicious to mom

33:30 Contact information, final thoughts, outtakes