Episode 12 - Step 8 - Emergency Protocol
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In this episode, Denise and Jackie are discussing the prickly feeling of apologizing for (and then changing) your behavior. In our toolkit for living — the 12 Steps Reimagined — this week’s focus is Step 8: “We list each of the harms we’ve caused that require amends.” It’s important not to let the fear of making the
In the traditional 12 Step model, the 8th step is to “Made a list of all persons we had harmed and become willing to make amends to them all.” In the 12 Steps for Everyone framework, this step is about our behavior and the patterns that form as a result. Simply: Believe actions, not words. While Step 7 was about humility, Step 8 is leading with the resource material you wrote down and kept from Step 4, which looks a lot like a fat slice of… humble pie.
Denise shares a story about an outstanding warrant, and Jackie talks about how recording the podcast has made her a lot more aware of coping mechanisms and how to find what questions need to be asked. The two also express appreciation for being welcomed in spaces where there are no requirements.
Lastly, Denise and Jackie are planning a hybrid group event! Remote listeners: Which digital platform do you enjoy (or don’t enjoy)? Los Angeles locals — what part of the city are you in, and what days + times fit your schedule? Send your response via DM or email.
Topics Covered:
- Step 8 is about leading with changed behavior, not words
- Step 8 examples about an outstanding warrant and driving through a liquor store
- Guidance on keeping your amendment solely about your actions
- Why Jackie uses read receipts to hold herself accountable
- Other ways human choose to not feel their emotions
- Jackie’s therapy reflection about inherent value
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