EP 33: Samuel Interviews Paige A Betrayed Female Spouse: "I'm So Much Stronger Than I Thought I Was"

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Episode Notes [01:14] Unexpected Email from Employer [05:49] The Deferred Resignation Program [06:34] Initial Reactions and Concerns [08:01] Evaluating the Offer [08:21] Enhanced Standards of Conduct [08:55] Personal Reflections and Concerns [12:21] Seeking Advice and Making a Decision [13:01] Option One: Do Not Resign [14:56] Option Two: Resign [16:44] Insights from Conversations [21:30] Making The Decision [23:51] Final Thoughts and Gratitude Resources Mentioned Sebastian Junger The Soul of Shame by Curt Thompson Donald Trump Elon Musk Steve Bannon Russell Vought Derek Sivers Sumner Crenshaw Brian Fretwell at Finding Good Chad Littlefield The Thought Leaders Practice by Matt Church Simon Cowell Beauty Pill Producer Ben Ford Questions Asked Is it legitimate, and can it be trusted? How are you feeling? What questions come to your mind? Where does your mind go? Are you seeking safety? Would this have been an adrenaline rush as you raced to send the resignation response? What an "enhanced standard" regarding loyalty and trustworthiness was? What are these new "enhanced standards?" Are they beyond what my Constitutional oath requires? If I don't resign, how bright will the target on my back glow? My leadership has supported all my work, but would termination direction come from higher up the chain of command? What would you recommend if we talked over coffee? What questions would you ask? How would you use listening? How would you use silence? How is this scenario playing out in your mind and body? What is coming to the surface for you? How might that influence what you are about to say to me? What are the chances of my name popping on a list and getting fired? How about the chances of being part of an official Reduction in Force and early retirement? Would the administration make a better offer? What do I know about the pending job market? What did I expect the workplace to be like and did I want to be there as the contractions took place? Will the administration pay me through the end of September or will they renege? Can I sufficiently build the Curated Questions business to transition by 1 October? - Do I have the faith or confidence to step into this future as a sole practitioner and grow Curated Questions into all I envisioned? Was this purpose calling? What would I expect the job market to look like at the end of summer if I hadn't developed the income streams to maintain our lifestyle? What is your recommendation? Did it change from your initial recommendation? Where in your body are you feeling the uncertainty? Are you processing this scenario in parallel with your decision as if you had received the email? What additional questions should I have considered? Who else should I have consulted with? How would you have changed my risk rating? What is the correct length of the pregnant pause before making an important announcement? What processes would you use in my circumstance, and what would be different? What questions are at the top of your list to get to a decision? Who would be the members of your pantheon you would counsel with to gain clarity? Apart from the heady analysis, what other key practices would you include in your journey through a similar situation?…

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While some marriages don't make it, Paige's marriage is thriving and passionate, proving that it's often times not as hopeless as it seems. Respectfully, not every marriage makes it and not every marriage should be saved. From a refusal to get help or end the affair(s), to narcissistic abuse, to domestic violence, some marriages should end.

However, despite what one may read in forums or comments on blogs, videos or Instagram posts, some unfaithful are worth the effort and many marriages do in fact, find healing and restoration. While staying after infidelity is the new public shame, today you'll hear from a woman of great courage and commitment, who did the work while her husband did AND continues to do the to heal wounds he inflicted by his choices.

Maybe one day you too will say as Paige did: "I am so much stronger than I thought I was."

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Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.

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EP 33: Samuel Interviews Paige A Betrayed Female Spouse: "I'm So Much Stronger Than I Thought I Was"

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Maybe one day you too will say as Paige did: "I am so much stronger than I thought I was."

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EP 34: Interview w/a CPTSD Expert & Neuroscientist on Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma & Psychotropics 36:09

3 days ago36:09

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The topic of CPTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) and infidelity is important because infidelity can trigger complex trauma responses, especially for individuals who have a history of unresolved trauma or are vulnerable to the effects of betrayal. The intersection of these two can cause profound emotional and psychological damage, making it crucial to understand how infidelity can exacerbate or even trigger CPTSD symptoms. Today you'll hear from a survivor of infidelity who also happens to be an expert in CPTSD, as well as a Neuroscientist who will discuss the effects of CPTSD on the brain and nervous system. We'll also discuss the effects and use of psychotropics for those who deal with betrayal trauma, CPTSD or addiction. CPTSD often stems from early-life relational trauma—such as abuse or neglect by caregivers or partners—leading to attachment insecurity. For individuals with CPTSD, relationships are especially important for their sense of security and self-worth. Infidelity shatters this already fragile attachment system. The act of betrayal may feel like a direct attack on their sense of self and their ability to trust others. It may also reinforce feelings of inadequacy and unlovability, common in CPTSD, making recovery even more challenging for the betrayed spouse. Understanding the connection between CPTSD and infidelity is essential because it allows us to see the deep, often hidden layers of emotional trauma that infidelity can trigger, especially for those who have a history of prolonged abuse or neglect. Infidelity isn’t just a single betrayal; it can act as a re-traumatizing event for someone with CPTSD, setting off powerful emotional reactions that can complicate healing and recovery. This is why healing from both infidelity and CPTSD requires specialized, compassionate care like those you'll meet today—and why it’s important for those affected to understand the depth of their trauma in order to seek out the most appropriate support. For more information you can contact Samuel at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com . To contact Amanda Asproni you can do so at Amanda @amandaelliottasproni or amanda@healingaffairscounseling@gmail.com. ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 33: Samuel Interviews Paige A Betrayed Female Spouse: "I'm So Much Stronger Than I Thought I Was" 19:04

8 days ago19:04

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Today you'll meet Paige, a betrayed spouse who is both courageous, vibrant and resilient. Months ago on Samuel's Instagram there were several poems that were written that were moving, powerful and gut wrenching all at the same time. Paige was in fact the author of those poems and has agreed to share some of her story with the audience. While some marriages don't make it, Paige's marriage is thriving and passionate, proving that it's often times not as hopeless as it seems. Respectfully, not every marriage makes it and not every marriage should be saved. From a refusal to get help or end the affair(s), to narcissistic abuse, to domestic violence, some marriages should end. However, despite what one may read in forums or comments on blogs, videos or Instagram posts, some unfaithful are worth the effort and many marriages do in fact, find healing and restoration. While staying after infidelity is the new public shame, today you'll hear from a woman of great courage and commitment, who did the work while her husband did AND continues to do the to heal wounds he inflicted by his choices. Maybe one day you too will say as Paige did: "I am so much stronger than I thought I was." ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 32: Interview with Max a Betrayed Male Spouse on Toxic Comparisons with the Affair Partner 34:43

17 days ago34:43

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How does the betrayed deal with comparisons to the affair partner(s)? This issue remains one of the most difficult, overwhelming and traumatizing aspects of infidelity. Why wasn't I enough? Why wasn't I enough for them to stay committed to the marriage? What was lacking in me or in our relationship that would lead them to go outside the marriage or relationship? Today Max and I discuss how he's been able to heal from these questions and more. As a betrayed spouse, Max has continued to share his pain and arduous journey, displaying vulnerability and insight into how he's found clarity and peace with his wife's affairs and his own outcome. Every situation is different and unique. No story is the same, however there are helpful insights that pertain to betrayed male and female partners across the globe. Comparing ourselves with affair partners is normal but both awful and paralyzing. But, it doesn't have to be. There is a way through and there is a way to grieve through the pain and ultimately heal. Today you'll hear more from Max and I as we share helpful insight into how to move forward into new life and new hope. You're not alone and you're not without hope today. ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 31: Samuel Interviews Max, A Betrayed Male Who Shares His Story of How He Dealt With Shame 33:01

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A soon to be regular contributor to the podcast, Max returns to discuss the shame of the betrayed male. While not entirely different than the betrayed female, Max goes to great length to describe his own shame and trauma associated with his wife's multiple affairs. From isolation to loneliness, to embarrassment and outright despair, Max takes us down a journey of just how hard it was to find his footing after both his wife's disclosure and multiple relapses. It's a normal response for the betrayed to often times blame themselves for their partner's affairs and today you'll hear a betrayed male courageously share how he worked through what felt like endless shame and blame for his wife's acting out. He further shares practical insight into how he found freedom and healing from both the shame and the betrayal trauma. Today is a must watch for those trying to make sense of our their own betrayal trauma. Additionally, it's a crash course for the unfaithful to hear how our choices have affected the betrayed, both male and female. Listen carefully to the heart of Max as he very bravely and unashamedly discusses how he made it through. I see you betrayed. I hope today is a life preserver within the midst of what feels like an endless ocean of confusion and hurt. There is hope for you and your own healing. ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 30: Samuel Interviews Max, a Betrayed Male Spouse Who Shares His Courageous Story of Healing 32:33

6 weeks ago32:33

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Today you'll meet a great friend of mine by the name of Max. He's an author of two books, an editor, a guitar player, a gracious speaker and unfortunately a betrayed male spouse. Today you'll hear some of his story and more importantly, all of his heart. I've said this in videos, written blogs and interviews over close to 20 years that the journey of the betrayed male spouse is different. It's nuanced. It has edges to it that are not any 'worse' than the betrayed female, but the realities and the scenery is a bit different. Again, not harder, not easier than the betrayed female, but different. Today Max taps into what was so different and gut wrenching for him as a male, feeling like he was and is on an island somewhere in the middle of an ocean that only a select few know about, but no one knows how to find, discover or rescue. If you're a betrayed female you probably feel exactly the same at times? Today is for both male and female, unfaithful and betrayed. If you're an unfaithful, there are massive bombs of truth in here for you to hear and absorb. If you're a betrayed male, I'm honored you'd stop by. You're safe here. You can reach out for support at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 29: Dr. Debi Silber PhD Discusses Betrayal Trauma & The Post Betrayal Transformation Institute with Sam 36:43

7 weeks ago36:43

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Do people really heal from infidelity? Do people ever really get their lives back after being betrayed? What does it mean to actually be a survivor of infidelity and betrayal? Today you'll meet the epitome of not only someone who has healed from infidelity but has returned from the depths of pain and agony to light the way for others to heal. Dr. Debi Silber PhD has become a household name for survivors of infidelity while providing exceptional content, insight and tangible hope for those endeavoring to heal after infidelity and betrayal. Dr. Debi Silber, Ph.D. is the founder of The PBT® (Post-Betrayal Transformation®) Institute. She also runs a WBENC-Certified WBE (Women’s Business Enterprise) company, is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset, and personal development expert, an award winning speaker, the author of Trust Again, The Rebuild Roadmap, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she’s an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 28: What is a Trauma Bond and Is It Possible to Break Free? Trauma Expert Amanda Asproni Joins Sam 23:04

13 weeks ago23:04

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What is a trauma bond? Are you or someone you know lost in one? Is it just an infidelity issue or can you be trauma-bonded to someone who hasn't cheated on you? Today on the podcast I speak with regular contributor, Amanda Asproni and discuss these types of bonds, how addicting they are, and how to find freedom and healing from such a bond. We often wonder, "Why can't I break free of him or her?" We feel weak, frail and often times confused on why we feel like we need this person in our life. It's like we only get so far away from them, only so much freedom from them, only to have them suck us back into their lives. "Sometimes it's great and we're just fine.....other times....not so much." It can feel like a drug we just can't let go of. If you're often times using those statements, you just may be in a trauma bond. ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 27: Trauma Expert Amanda Asproni Discusses the Anxious Attachment Style, Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma 32:22

17 weeks ago32:22

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Are you or your partner anxious when it comes to an attachment style? What is the anxious attachment style you might ask? An anxious attachment style is a type of insecure attachment that causes people to feel a deep need for validation and reassurance from others often preventing that individual from living a secure life relationally. People with an anxious attachment style may: Fear rejection and abandonment Come across as clingy or needy Have difficulty setting boundaries Have trouble accepting other people's boundaries Have big reactions to small conflicts Overanalyze or overthink their partner's behaviors Become jealous or possessive easily The anxious attachment style usually developed in childhood as a coping mechanism when a child's primary caregiver is inconsistent in meeting their needs. This can leave the child feeling insecure and fearful of abandonment. In adult relationships, people with an anxious attachment style may become overly dependent on their partner for validation and reassurance. How this plays out in dealing with infidelity is vital to understand how you can help yourself heal as well as your partner. Without an understanding of our attachment styles, relational recovery can be even harder due to the unseen forces working against the couple's attempt to communicate, lean in and display mutual empathy. ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 26: Trauma Specialist Amanda Asproni on Understanding the Unfaithful Partner's Avoidance & Resistance 34:21

19 weeks ago34:21

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As a betrayed partner, have you ever wondered why your spouse or partner is so avoidant with you? Maybe you're an unfaithful and wonder why you have such significant trouble communicating your emotions, needs and overall feelings? Today on the podcast, trauma expert Amanda Asproni and I discuss two of the most complex attachment styles: the dismissive avoidant and the fearful avoidant and how they both became who they are. Not only do we discuss how they became who they are, but how the betrayed can navigate around these attachment styles and find hope, healing and practical help to understand how they operate. When dealing with infidelity it's vital we have a grasp of both our own attachment style as well as our partners AND how those styles interact. How did we become so avoidant or anxious? Was this attachment style modeled for us by our parents or care givers? Where do we find expert help and a safe approach to try and save our families and marriages? While avoidance can frustrate and isolate the betrayed partner, there are ways to engage the dismissive avoidant (DA) as well as the fearful avoidant (FA) that can create tangible forward progress and hope. It's not as hopeless as it feels or seems and today you'll find a light within what I'm sure feels like a never ending tunnel of darkness and despair. Amanda’s journey into the field of complex trauma probably began in a similar place to where you're finding yourself right now. Her life brought her to a place full of despair, confusion and suffering. Amanda’s journey into the field of complex trauma began right where many of you are right now, at the beginning. Experience taught her that the that path to healing the myriad and various aspects of complex trauma is not only long, but also daunting at times. Specialized professional help from practitioners with training to treat the complexity that is complex developmental and relationship trauma is critical to success. Her personal story makes her relatable and empathetic to her clients pain, confusion and the arduous road that coins recovery. Treating complex trauma is also about identifying the underlying root issues such as betrayal trauma, childhood sexual abuse, intimacy disorders, attachment disturbances and unresolved dysfunctional family of origin patterns. You can find more about Amanda Asproni here: https://www.healingaffairscounseling.com/about/ ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 25: Dr. Jill Manning Discusses the Effect of Snooping on the Betrayed & How to Live Above Suspicion 39:01

20 weeks ago39:01

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If you're an unfaithful spouse, let me ask you a question that will define your recovery work: Are You Living Above Suspicion? If not, why? How can we expect the betrayed partner to trust us, lean into us, move towards us or even give us their heart again if we're not committed to living above suspicion? If you're a betrayed, is your partner committed to living above suspicion? Or, do you feel like you constantly have to search for information and details. Maybe you're in a situation where the only information you have found is the information you have discovered? Today, Dr. Jill Manning and I discuss snooping and it's effects upon both the betrayed and the marriage or relationship. It's normal to snoop. Sometimes snooping reveals information that the betrayed wouldn't have discovered otherwise. But is it healthy? Is it necessary? You will be surprised to hear Dr. Manning discuss the reasons for and against snooping while also discussing what to do instead of snooping. While a controversial topic, as usual Dr. Manning shares helpful and soothing insight to those who are walking through one of the darkest tunnels of their life hoping to find light and a survival strategy. ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 24: Michael Webb and Samuel Discuss Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma and Self-Compassion 45:24

23 weeks ago45:24

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Today on the podcast I discuss Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma and Self-Compassion with frequent guest clinician and trauma expert Michael Webb. For decades it's been known that shameful people do shameful things and commit heinously shameful acts. But how do we heal the shame while also owning our behavior and destructive choices as unfaithful spouses? How do we show remorse and empathy to our betrayed partners or spouses while also showing much needed empathy to ourselves? And....why do we still deserve self-compassion even though we're an unfaithful? Better yet, how can the betrayed find self-compassion for themselves while trying to heal from some of the most painful wounds they've ever known as human beings, let alone spouses of unfaithful? While it can seem messy, complicated and downright confusing, Michael and I talk through what self-compassion has meant for myself as well as Michael in his long time journey of healing from abuse, childhood trauma and relational challenges. Today's conversation is not just for unfaithful but also betrayed partners looking to heal and start a new chapter of their own. Michael has centered his work around trauma, addiction, attachment struggles and OCD due to the fact that he has identified with and experienced this sort of healing himself. Michael has further noted that complex trauma, attachment difficulties, addiction and OCD often cause chronic emotional dysregulation. Additionally, persistent negative beliefs about oneself, God, karma or others make healing feel unreachable at times and as though life has very little meaning, joy or fulfillment. Helping people find freedom and start living is the passion that fuels both his work and calling since he believes people are built to be self-healing and self-regulating. Michael also believes that therapy is a way of cleaning emotional wounds so that the natural healing ability of the mind can work. He uses advanced techniques and equipment to increase the speed and depth of healing and personal growth. His therapeutic techniques include Emotional Transformation Therapy (ETT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Ego State Therapy, CBT and Revisioning. For more help from Michael or Sam please leave a comment here or reach out to Sam at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 23: Expert Interview with Tyler Patrick: How and Why Did We Become So Avoidant in our Relationships? 39:04

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Are you an avoidant? Are you married to one? If you're married to an avoidant, you're probably frustrated as all get out with them, unless you too are an avoidant? If you're an avoidant you might be wondering what all the fuss is about and why is everyone making such a big deal about it? So what, you avoid conflict and shy away from confrontation and intimacy, what's the issue? Well, today I've invited my good friend and expert Tyler Patrick to talk about his own avoidance and how he helps both men and women deal with avoidance and quite possibly the avoidance of their partner. The reality is, no one just wakes up one day and is avoidant. We learn to avoid. Some of us cope with life, pressures, pain, responsibility and intense emotions by avoiding. Often times we avoid because we had to growing up due to developmental trauma or outright abuse. We learned to avoid in an effort to make sense of our life or survive awful circumstances, pain and trauma. I'm certainly not making excuses to justify avoidance in our own life or our partners, but if we don't understand where avoidance comes from, how can we heal and find freedom? How can we move them or ourselves closer towards not only secure attachment but better communication in our most closest relationships? Today begins a journey into the heart and mind of the avoidant. I hope you find healing and insight into either your own avoidance or your partners. For more help reach out to samshealingpodcast@gmail.com . ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 22: Understanding the Inner Child, Infidelity & Problematic Sexual Behaviors with Eddie Capparucci PhD 40:29

28 weeks ago40:29

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For decades the 'inner child' has been a topic of confusion and misunderstanding as it relates to infidelity, problematic sexual behaviors and restoring both marriages and individuals. What actually is the inner child? Can I, an unfaithful, blame my inner child for my choices and affair(s)? Don't I have power over my own choices? Is the 'inner child' just an excuse for my affair or addiction? Today Dr. Eddie Capparucci and I discuss the answers to these questions while validating both the pain of the betrayed and the confusion of the unfaithful. I'm confident both unfaithful and betrayed partners alike will feel not only validated but safe by Eddie's heart and approach to both infidelity, trauma and long term sobriety. Eddie Capparucci, Ph.D., LPC, C-CSAS, CPCS, specializes in treating Problematic Sexual Behaviors including pornography. Among his many clients, have been professional athletes including NFL and MLB players and television personalities. Dr. Capparucci is the creator of the unique Inner Child Model for the treatment of Problematic Sexual Behaviors. Learn more at www.innerchild-sexaddiction.com. He believes at the heart of most Problematic Sexual Behaviors are unresolved childhood pain points. ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 21: Why the Betrayed and Unfaithful Need to Know 'The Why' of the Affair: Interview with an Expert 29:35

28 weeks ago29:35

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Understanding 'the why' of the affair is vital for a variety of reasons including but not limited to relapse prevention, safety for the betrayed and long term healing for both parties. If an unfaithful doesn't know why they had an affair or acted our, how can they expect to prevent it from happening again in the future? How can they assure their partner they'll never do it again when they were never supposed to do it in the first place and still don't know how to prevent the same circumstances from happening which led to the affair or addiction? It's a common choice of the unfaithful to just want to 'put it behind us' only to realize our betrayed partners don't feel safe, don't want to be vulnerable and don't want to take our word for it that we have it all figured out and we just won't do it again. Discovering why we have affairs or addictions is critical to finding healing, safety and for those who struggle with addiction, sobriety. Without an understanding of why the affair happened outside of our own minds and reasonings, we're doomed to repeat the behavior and run the risk of losing our families or partners. Today, a frequent contributor and expert, Amanda Asproni comes into the podcast to share her clinical insight into why it's vital to know the why of the affair(s) and how both parties can do work to discover either their own or their partner's 'why' of the affair. ------ Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.…

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EP 20: Tyler Patrick Discusses How to Help the Unfaithful Develop Shame Resilience After Infidelity 37:22

28 weeks ago37:22