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Have you ever lost your temper at a loved one and immediately regretted it? Do you sometimes feel like anger is controlling your life, no matter how hard you try to keep it in check?

If so, you are not alone.

Controlling your anger is essential for creating healthier relationships and achieving personal peace. This episode of the Anger Management podcast dives into three powerful keys to anger management that can help you take charge of your emotions and respond more calmly in challenging situations.

Tune in to discover practical strategies that empower you to manage your anger effectively and live a more fulfilling life.

Key Takeaways:

Being aware of your body’s signals when anger arises is crucial for managing it effectively.
Anger rarely resolves problems; it often escalates conflicts and creates more issues.
You have the power to change your thoughts, which can transform your emotional responses.
Recognising that anger is a choice allows you to take control of your reactions.
Cognitive reframing can help you shift your perspective and reduce anger triggers.
Practicing awareness and reframing thoughts leads to healthier emotional responses over time.

Links referenced in this episode:

For free resources on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com

To control your anger now, visit angersecrets.com/course/

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3 - Master Your Anger: The 3 Keys To Anger Management

Anger Management

published about a year ago

MP3•Episode home

Have you ever lost your temper at a loved one and immediately regretted it? Do you sometimes feel like anger is controlling your life, no matter how hard you try to keep it in check?

If so, you are not alone.

Tune in to discover practical strategies that empower you to manage your anger effectively and live a more fulfilling life.

Key Takeaways:

Being aware of your body’s signals when anger arises is crucial for managing it effectively.
Anger rarely resolves problems; it often escalates conflicts and creates more issues.
You have the power to change your thoughts, which can transform your emotional responses.
Recognising that anger is a choice allows you to take control of your reactions.
Cognitive reframing can help you shift your perspective and reduce anger triggers.
Practicing awareness and reframing thoughts leads to healthier emotional responses over time.

Links referenced in this episode:

For free resources on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com

To control your anger now, visit angersecrets.com/course/

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30 - The Surprising Shortcut To A Happier, Calmer Life 16:07

3 days ago16:07

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Understanding how your thoughts shape your emotions is key to managing anger and finding happiness. In this episode, anger expert Alastair shares that it's not events themselves that trigger feelings of anger or frustration, but rather the stories people tell themselves about those events. He also discusses the ETFA model and highlights how this model can apply both to anger and happiness. Learn also about the importance of gratitude and generosity and how these practices can significantly enhance happiness and emotional resilience. By changing your inner dialogue, listeners can take control of their emotions and improve their overall well-being. Key Takeaways: The way you think about an event can change how you feel about it. Practicing gratitude daily can help shift your focus towards positivity and joy. Learning the ETFA model can empower you to control your emotional responses effectively. Your thoughts are a powerful tool in shaping your experiences of anger and happiness. Small acts of kindness and generosity can significantly boost your own happiness levels. Shifting your perspective can unlock deeper joy, even during challenging times. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/ .…

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29 - The Moment Everything Changed: Tony's Story 18:37

10 days ago18:37

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Sometimes it’s not the shouting, the slammed doors or even the broken walls that change you. Sometimes it’s just a look — the fear you see in someone you love. In this powerful episode you will hear Tony's story. Tony is a man who enrolled in The Complete Anger Management System soon after he realised that unchecked anger was damaging not just to himself but to his loved ones. In this episode Tony shares his journey from denial to awareness, sparked by a moment that revealed how his anger affected his wife. This episode dives into the importance of recognising one’s anger and seeking help, and shows that change is possible. Anger expert Alastair Duhs guides listeners through Tony’s story, emphasising that real growth comes from amongst other things, facing hard truths. Key Takeaways: Tony's journey illustrates that sometimes a single moment can spark real change. Realising you have an anger problem is the first crucial step toward healing. Asking for help shows strength, not weakness, and can lead to personal growth. The tools learned in anger management can change how loved ones experience you. Small steps every day can lead to significant changes in managing anger effectively. The Complete Anger Management System allows for learning at one's own pace, making it easier to absorb and apply techniques. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/ .…

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28 - How to Forgive Others and Finally Feel Free 17:14

17 days ago17:14

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Feeling that simmering anger inside can be tough, and many people carry it long after the hurt has happened. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into forgiveness and how it can truly set one free. Holding onto anger only traps you, keeping you stuck emotionally and physically. In this episode, you will learn seven practical steps to let go of that anger, focusing on real tools rather than just vague advice. Key Takeaways: Holding onto anger only harms yourself, causing stress and tension in the body. Empathy allows for understanding others' actions, helping to release feelings of resentment. Letting go of anger is essential for personal healing and moving forward in life. Self-compassion is crucial; treating oneself with kindness makes it easier to forgive others. Forgiveness is a personal choice that liberates a person from past resentment and pain. Recognising everyone's imperfections can soften anger and foster understanding. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/ .…

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27 - Breaking the Anger Cycle: Angela's Story 14:12

24 days ago14:12

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Angela's story dives into the inter-generational cycle of abuse and how it can shape a person's life. Growing up in a home filled with control and emotional pain, she learned that anger was just part of life. However, after feedback from her husband and realising that these patterns affected her relationships and parenting, Angela decided to break free from this cycle. She enrolled in The Complete Anger Management System and began to understand that the anger she felt wasn't just hers; it was a legacy passed down through generations. This episode is a raw and honest account of her journey towards building a calmer, more connected life, showing that change is possible and that one can choose a different path for themselves and their family. Key Takeaways: Anger can be inherited from family, often tied to trauma and survival. Angela's story shows how past pain can affect present relationships and parenting. Choosing to change is powerful; Angela decided her past wouldn't dictate her future. Understanding different types of anger helps to manage it better in daily life. Breaking the cycle of anger is crucial for healthier family dynamics and relationships. Seeking help for anger is a sign of strength, not weakness; change is possible. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/ .…

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26 - Is Being Right Ruining Your Relationships? 15:29

4 weeks ago15:29

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Being right often costs more than it's worth, especially in relationships. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into how the need to win arguments often leads to frustration and disconnection. He emphasizes that judgmental thinking can fuel anger and conflict, making it crucial to shift towards understanding and connection instead. This episode also explores practical steps to embrace open-mindedness and respecting different perspectives even when they clash with one's own. Key Takeaways: The need to be right can cost you more than it's worth. Judgmental thinking leads to arguments and makes it harder to connect with others. Open-mindedness is the antidote to judgmental thinking and fuels understanding in relationships. Recognising that different perspectives don’t mean someone is wrong is essential for growth. Taking a step back and saying 'maybe' can help soften arguments and lead to connection. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/ .…

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25 - What No One Told You About Emotional Abuse 18:29

5 weeks ago18:29

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Emotional abuse can be hard to spot, but it leaves deep scars that often go unseen. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives deep into what emotional abuse really is, discussing how it can manifest in relationships through behaviors like constant criticism, sarcasm, and gaslighting. Learn the importance of self-awareness as the first step in recognising these harmful patterns and reflect on your actions to consider how their anger might impact others. Change is possible, but it requires commitment and often the help of a professional. Key Takeaways: Emotional abuse can silently damage relationships, leaving no visible scars but causing deep emotional wounds. Recognising the subtle signs of emotional abuse is crucial to stopping harmful patterns before they escalate. Self-awareness is the first step towards change; it helps identify when anger is becoming harmful. Change requires effort and commitment; seeking professional help can guide you through the process of healing. Emotional abuse often develops as a pattern over time, starting with small criticisms that grow more damaging. Understanding the impact of emotional abuse on children is essential, as it can shape their future relationships. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/ .…

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24 - Is Anger Really Just a Choice? 15:52

6 weeks ago15:52

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode you will learn how anger isn't just something that happens to you; it's something you can choose how to manage. While anger often feels automatic, it’s essential to recognise the early signs of anger building up. By being aware of these signs, you can take control of your anger and decide how to respond rather than just react. Finally, listeners are encouraged to explore their choices regarding anger and to seek support, emphasising that they aren't alone in this journey. Key Takeaways: Anger can feel automatic, but it's important to understand that we have control over our reactions. Awareness is key to managing anger; we must notice our feelings and thoughts as they arise. Beliefs shape how we react to situations; changing our beliefs can lead to different emotional responses. Communication is vital in relationships; active listening can help de-escalate anger during conflicts. Challenging and changing deep-seated beliefs takes time and effort, but it's a valuable journey. Using coping mechanisms and support systems can empower individuals to manage their anger effectively. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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23 - I Had No Idea My Anger Was Hurting Them – Michael’s Story 12:40

7 weeks ago12:40

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Michael's story shows how even small frustrations can cause significant damage to relationships. Michael, a successful 77 year-old man thought his anger was harmless until he learned from his wife and daughter that they often felt anxious around him. This revelation pushed him to take action and make meaningful changes in his life. Through awareness and small adjustments, like keeping an anger diary and pausing before reacting, Michael improved his marriage and regained control of his emotions. It's never too late to change; Michael's story proves that with effort, anyone can cultivate calmer, happier relationships. Key Takeaways: Anger can cause damage in ways we might not realise until we ask loved ones. Michael learned that even minor frustrations can create big problems in relationships. Recognising one's anger triggers is essential for managing emotions effectively and responsibly. Small changes in behavior, like keeping an Anger Diary, can lead to significant improvements. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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22 - The Winner's Triangle Will Save Your Relationship 17:34

8 weeks ago17:34

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode, we dive into the Winner’s Triangle - a powerful model to build trust, respect, and deeper connections in your relationships. Learn how to shift from blame to accountability, practice active listening without judgment, and express empathy while setting healthy boundaries. By embracing the Assertive, Caring, and Vulnerable roles, you can manage conflicts effectively and foster stronger, more balanced bonds. Whether in personal or professional dynamics, the Winner's Triangle is an essential tool for creating a calmer, happier, and healthier life. Key Takeaways: One simple change in communication can stop fights and build trust in relationships. Understanding the Winner’s Triangle helps to recognise negative patterns in conflicts. The Winner’s Triangle promotes assertiveness, vulnerability, and caring to improve relationships. Using 'I statements' is crucial for expressing feelings without blame or anger. Vulnerability is about sharing emotions honestly while seeking support, not playing the victim. Caring involves listening and supporting others without trying to fix their problems. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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21 - The Drama Triangle Is Destroying Your Relationship 15:23

9 weeks ago15:23

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating concept of the Drama Triangle—a powerful framework that sheds light on the destructive roles couples often fall into during conflict: namely the Victim, the Persecutor and the Rescuer. Learn how these roles shape your interactions, fuel misunderstandings, and keep you stuck in cycles of blame and defensiveness. More importantly, learn practical strategies to step out of the Drama Triangle and embrace healthier, more empowering ways to approach disagreements. Key Takeaways: The Drama Triangle consists of three roles: the Persecutor, the Victim, and the Rescuer, which can trap couples in toxic cycles. Recognising when you are in the Drama Triangle is the first step to breaking free from negative relationship dynamics. Each role in the Drama Triangle contributes to conflict, with the Persecutor blaming, the Victim avoiding responsibility, and the Rescuer enabling the cycle. To escape the Drama Triangle, one must shift their approach to conflict and actively choose healthier responses instead. Self-awareness is crucial; individuals should pay attention to their reactions during conflicts to identify their roles in the drama triangle. Empowering oneself involves setting boundaries, acknowledging personal responsibility, and practicing empathy towards partners during disagreements. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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20 - He Lost Everything to Anger: Colin's Story 15:46

10 weeks ago15:46

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Colin thought he had his anger issues under control, but in the end anger cost him everything. Colin's story highlights a crucial point: ignoring anger issues can lead to serious consequences in relationships. In this episode of the Anger Management podcast, Colin shares the cost of uncontrolled anger. He also shares how he realised that his anger was a learned behavior, passed down through generations. By facing this truth, Colin took powerful steps to change for himself and his children. This episode emphasises the importance of recognising anger early and taking action before it’s too late. Key Takeaways: Realising anger can cost you more than you think is crucial for change. Colin's journey shows that recognizing anger as a learned behavior is key. Awareness of your anger triggers helps in managing responses to difficult conversations. It's never too late to seek help and start making positive changes for yourself. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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19 - Building Self-Awareness: Three Tips for Anger Management 16:26

11 weeks ago16:26

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Self-awareness is the key to controlling anger. Many people don’t realise they’re getting angry until it’s too late, leading to regret and damaged relationships. In this episode of the Anger Management podcast, host Alastair Duhs shares three powerful tips to help listeners recognise their anger early, stay in control, and respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively. By identifying your personal anger triggers, using a pause before reacting, and paying attention to your early warning signs of anger, you can build a personalised toolkit for managing anger effectively. Key Takeaways: Self-awareness is crucial; recognising anger early helps in managing it effectively. Anger builds gradually, often shown through subtle physical and emotional signs. Taking a moment to pause before reacting can prevent regretful actions later on. Identifying personal anger triggers can help in navigating challenging situations safely. Cultivating a personalised toolkit for anger management empowers individuals to respond thoughtfully. Practicing assertive communication fosters healthier relationships and reduces conflict. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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18 - The Truth About Anger 16:50

12 weeks ago16:50

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Anger can sneak up on you, even if you think they don’t have an anger issue. In this podcast episode, we explore the truth about anger, revealing that it doesn’t always include shouting or aggression. Instead, anger can simmer quietly, causing issues in relationships and overall well-being. Listeners will learn practical steps to identify if anger is a problem in their lives and how to address it constructively. This episode is packed with insights on harnessing anger in a positive way, so it's definitely worth a listen. Key Takeaways: Anger is a feeling, not an action, and how you respond matters most. Your thoughts create your anger, not the actions of others or events around you. Anger can be a powerful motivator for positive change when managed correctly. Recognising your anger can help you separate it from harmful actions you might take. If your anger is causing problems in life, it's time to seek help and address it. Managing anger effectively involves learning techniques to respond calmly and constructively. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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17 - The Secret to Never Taking Things Personally Again 16:06

13 weeks ago16:06

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Taking things personally can really mess with your emotions. When someone criticises or snaps at you, it might feel like a personal attack, but it's usually more about their own stress. This episode dives deep into how to stop letting others' words control your feelings. Listeners will learn practical strategies for handling criticism, staying calm, and asking questions to connect instead of react. By shifting your mindset, you can reduce stress and improve your relationships, all while taking back control over your emotions. Key Takeaways: Most criticism directed at you is often a reflection of the other person's issues. When faced with criticism, pause and ask if there's something to learn from it. Your emotional reactions can take away your power; control how you respond instead. Asking questions can turn potential conflicts into opportunities for better understanding. Taking things personally leads to unnecessary stress; shift your mindset to improve relationships. It's an ongoing journey to not take things personally; practice is essential for growth. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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16 - The Secret to a Happier, More Loving Relationship 18:32

14 weeks ago18:32

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . The Magic Six Hours is a game-changing concept that can seriously boost connection in relationships. Just six hours a week can turn things around, making partners feel closer, appreciated, and more connected. This episode breaks down seven easy habits, like daily check-ins and stress-reducing conversations, showing how small, consistent actions pack a big punch compared to grand gestures. Couples who embrace these simple strategies often fight less and enjoy each other's company more. Relationships need regular maintenance, and committing to this framework can lead to lasting love and intimacy. Key Takeaways: Small, consistent efforts in a relationship can create profound changes over time. Dr. John Gottman's Magic Six Hours focuses on seven actionable steps for couples. Daily check-ins and appreciation can enhance intimacy and improve communication significantly. Investing just six hours a week can help partners feel closer and more understood. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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15 - How To Stop Arguments Before They Start 18:54

15 weeks ago18:54

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Feeling stuck in the same argument over and over with your partner? The real issue might not be the disagreement itself, but how you communicate. This episode dives into the power of active listening, a technique that can break the cycle of frustration and blame in relationships. Join us as we explore how active listening helps couples truly understand each other's feelings and perspectives. By learning to ask open questions, summarise thoughts, and provide positive feedback, listeners can transform their conversations and build stronger, more loving connections. Key Takeaways: Active listening can help couples stop repeating the same arguments and misunderstandings. The key to resolving conflicts lies in how couples communicate, not just what they argue about. Practicing active listening creates emotional connections and prevents defensiveness during discussions. Asking open-ended questions invites partners to express their feelings and thoughts more deeply. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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14 - Three Steps To Create Better Relationships 18:12

16 weeks ago18:12

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Do you find want to create a better relationship? Join Alastair Duhs as he introduces three essential strategies for managing anger and improving communication with your partner. Through insightful discussions with AI hosts Jake and Sarah, you'll learn practical techniques to recognise anger triggers, practice active listening and dedicate meaningful time to your relationship. By implementing these steps, you'll not only enhance your emotional awareness but also foster a more respectful and loving environment with your loved ones. Key Takeaways: Understanding your own anger is crucial before addressing relationship issues with your partner. Recognising triggers and journaling about emotions can help manage anger effectively. Effective communication relies on active listening, ensuring your partner feels understood and valued. Practicing the 'Magic Six Hours' can significantly strengthen your relationship. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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12 - Five Warning Signs Of Anger You Shouldn't Ignore 14:07

18 weeks ago14:07

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Are you struggling with controlling your anger and find that small triggers set you off? This episode dives into five warning signs of anger that you shouldn't ignore, along with practical strategies to help you manage anger effectively. Host Alastair Duhs shares his extensive experience in anger management, guiding listeners through the nuances of recognising when anger is impacting their relationships. AI assistants Jake and Sarah engage in a conversational exploration of these signs, discussing how easily frustration can build up and the importance of acknowledging emotions rather than bottling them up. By the end of the episode, you’ll feel empowered with actionable tools to foster calmer, happier interactions and improve your emotional well-being. Key Takeaways: Small triggers can indicate deeper unresolved anger issues; assess their importance thoughtfully. Always needing to be right can escalate conflicts and damage relationships significantly. Bottling up anger leads to unhealthy outbursts; find healthy ways to express it. Lashing out at loved ones is a clear sign of needing to manage anger better. If multiple people point out your anger issues, it's time to reflect seriously. Recognising and addressing your anger is the first step towards meaningful change. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/ . For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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11 - The ABC Model Of Anger Management 16:01

19 weeks ago16:01

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . The ABC model of anger management is a powerful tool that can help individuals take control of their emotions and transform their responses to anger. By focusing on three key components—awareness, beliefs, and communication—listeners can learn to identify their anger triggers and understand the thoughts fuelling their emotional reactions. This episode delves into recognising early warning signs of rising anger, challenging the beliefs that exacerbate frustration, and employing effective communication strategies to navigate conflicts constructively. With insights from Alastair Duhs, along with discussions between AI assistants Jake and Sarah, this episode provides practical tips for fostering healthier relationships and achieving emotional mastery. Join us to discover how you can turn anger into understanding and frustration into clarity for a calmer, happier life. Key Takeaways: Recognising early warning signs of anger can help you manage it before it escalates. Your beliefs about a situation create your emotional response, not the situation itself. Effective communication involves expressing your feelings without blaming or attacking the other person. Taking a break during heated conversations can prevent saying things you might regret later. Challenging rigid beliefs and replacing them with flexible thoughts can transform your anger response. Practicing deep breathing can help signal your body to calm down when anger rises. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training /. For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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10 - 3 Secrets to Effective Communication 14:17

20 weeks ago14:17

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Effective communication is the cornerstone of building healthier relationships and resolving conflict. This episode delves into three essential secrets that can transform how you interact with your partner and others, ultimately leading to calmer and more productive conversations. First, we explore the power of active listening, which allows you to fully engage with the speaker, fostering understanding and reducing misunderstandings. Next, you’ll learn how to communicate clearly and assertively using the DESC model, which helps express your feelings without escalating tensions. Finally, the importance of negotiation skills is emphasised, encouraging you to find common ground and solutions that benefit both parties. Join us as we uncover these transformative communication strategies to help you navigate conflicts with ease and build stronger connections. Key Takeaways: Effective communication is about connection, not just the act of talking with your partner. Active listening involves truly absorbing the message, emotions and intentions of others. Using the DESC model can help express needs and feelings without triggering defensiveness. Negotiation skills are essential for finding common ground and mutually beneficial solutions in conflicts. Small changes in communication strategies can lead to significant improvements in relationships over time. Practicing active listening for just one week can transform your conversations with loved ones. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training /. For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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9 - Mastering Anger In Relationships 19:49

21 weeks ago19:49

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Anger can disrupt even the strongest relationships, but it doesn't have to. This episode delves into the importance of recognising your anger triggers and developing effective communication strategies to manage anger before it escalates. By establishing regular check-ins with your partner, you can foster a safe space for open dialogue and address concerns before they turn into conflicts. Additionally, managing stress through simple techniques like exercise and mindfulness can help maintain a calmer atmosphere. Ultimately, you and your partner are on the same team, and by working together, you can build a more loving and peaceful relationship. Key Takeaways: Identifying your anger triggers is the first step to managing your emotional responses. Create a safe space for open communication by scheduling regular relationship check-ins. Managing stress through exercise, mindfulness and social connections can prevent angry outbursts. Practice empathy and understanding when your partner is angry to help de-escalate conflict. Use 'I' statements instead of 'you' statements to express feelings without blame. Forgiveness is a process that helps release resentment and fosters healing in relationships. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training /. For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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8 - Take Responsibility For Your Anger Today! 13:46

22 weeks ago13:46

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Taking responsibility for your anger is essential for controlling anger and transforming your relationships. Blaming others for your emotional responses only perpetuates a cycle of negativity and disempowerment. Throughout this episode, we explore the challenges individuals face when it comes to owning their anger, including fear of consequences, feelings of entitlement and the weight of shame. We discuss practical steps to help listeners acknowledge their actions, accept the consequences and make proactive plans for change. By embracing these strategies, you can reclaim your power, foster healthier emotional responses, and ultimately lead a calmer, happier life. Key Takeaways: Recognising that you hold the steering wheel of your emotions is crucial for taking responsibility. Shifting from blaming others to owning your anger can empower you to change positively. Admitting your actions and their consequences allows you to make better choices in the future. Facing the fear of judgment can help you embrace responsibility for your emotional responses. Understanding the impact of your anger on others is essential for healthy relationships. Developing a personalised anger management toolkit can significantly aid in handling triggers effectively. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training /. For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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7 - 6 Steps To Control Your Anger 18:36

23 weeks ago18:36

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed by anger and its impact on your relationships? This episode of the Anger Management Podcast offers six actionable tips designed to help you gain control over your emotions and foster a calmer, happier life. By recognizing that your thoughts, rather than external events, trigger your anger, you can begin to change your responses in challenging situations. Discover the importance of monitoring your tension levels and employing relaxation techniques to manage stress effectively. Additionally, learn how empathy and assertive communication can transform your interactions, paving the way for healthier relationships. Join us as we explore these essential strategies for mastering anger and nurturing a more peaceful existence. Key Takeaways: Your thoughts, not external events, are what trigger your anger and emotional responses. Recognising your tension level early can help you apply de-escalation techniques effectively. Practicing relaxation methods like deep breathing can significantly calm your nervous system. Using positive self-talk can shift your perspective and reduce the intensity of anger. Empathy is crucial; understanding others' viewpoints can help diffuse anger in conflicts. Establishing a timeout strategy with your partner can prevent escalation during heated moments. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training /. For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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6 - The Truth About Abuse and Violence 13:40

24 weeks ago13:40

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For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Understanding anger, abuse and violence is crucial for fostering healthy relationships. This episode delves into how these feelings and behaviors are often intertwined and reveals the truth about anger, abuse and violence. Abuse and violence are defined as any attempt to control, manipulate or intimidate another person. Recognising that emotional and psychological abuse can have just as profound an impact as physical harm is another key takeaway. This episode highlights the importance of acknowledging abusive patterns, taking responsibility for one's actions and seeking help to break the cycle of unhealthy behavior. By exploring structured programs and therapy, individuals can learn to unlearn these harmful patterns and cultivate more respectful and loving connections with others. Key Takeaways: Abuse and violence are the same, as both aim to control, intimidate or harm others. Recognising non-physical forms of abuse, like emotional manipulation, is crucial for learning to control anger. Taking responsibility for abusive actions is the first step towards creating healthier relationships. Therapy and structured programs can help individuals unlearn abusive behaviors and foster respect. Understanding the origins of abusive patterns can empower individuals to break the cycle. There is always hope for change, as even learned behaviors can be unlearned. Links referenced in this episode: For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training /. For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course .…

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5 - Five Common Anger Myths That Are Holding You Back 13:03

25 weeks ago13:03

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Many people unknowingly hold onto common myths about anger that can prevent them from living calmer and more fulfilling lives. This episode of the Anger Management podcast reveals five pervasive myths around anger, such as the belief that anger is simply a part of who we are or that we can't control it. By understanding and correcting these misconceptions, listeners will learn how to take charge of their emotions and manage their anger effectively. The conversation highlights practical strategies for recognising early signs of anger and challenging unhelpful thoughts that fuel it. Tune in to discover how you can rewrite your narrative around anger and regain control over your anger. Key Takeaways: Many people downplay their anger, mistaking it for passion, which can have harmful consequences. Anger is a natural emotion, but we have more control over it than we realise. Controlling anger doesn't require years of therapy; significant progress can be made in just weeks. Realising that anger comes from within can empower you to change your thoughts. Instead of blaming others for your anger, it's crucial to recognise your role in it. Learning to address anger early can prevent emotional outbursts and improve overall well-being. Links referenced in this episode: For free resources on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com To control your anger now, visit angersecrets.com/course/…

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4 - Discover Your Anger Triggers! 16:55

26 weeks ago16:55

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Recognising your anger triggers is key to maintaining control of your anger and fostering healthier relationships. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs, alongside his AI assistants Jake and Sarah, delves into practical strategies to identify what sets off anger and how to navigate these reactions effectively. Learn about the importance of self-awareness, checking with your emotional states regularly and recognising your early warning signs of anger. This episode also highlights the role of thoughts in the anger process, suggesting ways to challenge negative thinking patterns that exacerbate feelings of frustration. By understanding your personal anger triggers and employing calming techniques, you can take proactive steps towards a calmer, more fulfilling life. Key Takeaways: Recognising your early warning signs of anger can help you manage your emotions effectively. Identifying your specific anger triggers is crucial for developing coping strategies. Regular self-check-ins throughout the day can prepare you to handle anger better. Challenging negative thought patterns can help you maintain control over your anger. Taking time outs during intense anger can provide necessary space to cool down. Professional help can offer personalised strategies to manage anger and improve well-being. Links referenced in this episode: For free resources on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com To control your anger now, visit angersecrets.com/course/…

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3 - Master Your Anger: The 3 Keys To Anger Management 13:02

27 weeks ago13:02

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Have you ever lost your temper at a loved one and immediately regretted it? Do you sometimes feel like anger is controlling your life, no matter how hard you try to keep it in check? If so, you are not alone. Controlling your anger is essential for creating healthier relationships and achieving personal peace. This episode of the Anger Management podcast dives into three powerful keys to anger management that can help you take charge of your emotions and respond more calmly in challenging situations. Tune in to discover practical strategies that empower you to manage your anger effectively and live a more fulfilling life. Key Takeaways: Being aware of your body’s signals when anger arises is crucial for managing it effectively. Anger rarely resolves problems; it often escalates conflicts and creates more issues. You have the power to change your thoughts, which can transform your emotional responses. Recognising that anger is a choice allows you to take control of your reactions. Cognitive reframing can help you shift your perspective and reduce anger triggers. Practicing awareness and reframing thoughts leads to healthier emotional responses over time. Links referenced in this episode: For free resources on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com To control your anger now, visit angersecrets.com/course/…

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2 - Understanding Anger: What It Is And How To Manage It 13:51

27 weeks ago13:51

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Understanding anger is a key to managing it effectively. In this episode of The Anger Management Podcast, we delve into the intricacies of anger, exploring how it manifests differently for everyone and the importance of recognising our triggers. We discuss that anger is not an action or behavior, but a powerful emotion driven by our perceptions of events. Understanding this distinction is crucial for learning how to manage anger effectively. We also share practical strategies such as deep breathing and cognitive restructuring to help reshape your thoughts and reactions. Join us as we equip you with the tools to take control of your anger and foster healthier relationships, paving the way for a calmer and more peaceful life. Key Takeaways: Anger is a powerful emotion driven by perceptions, not just actions or events. Understanding that anger is a feeling, not a behavior, is vital for management. Your thoughts shape your anger; and changing your perceptions can alter your emotional responses significantly. Recognising personal triggers and patterns can help in developing effective anger management strategies. Deep breathing can act as a fire extinguisher for overwhelming feelings of anger. Engaging in cognitive restructuring allows you to challenge negative thoughts fueling your anger. Links referenced in this episode: For free resources on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com To control your anger now, visit angersecrets.com/course/…

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1 - Welcome to the Anger Management Podcast! 9:14

28 weeks ago9:14