SWM029 – Fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low drives

Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective

Episode 29 of the podcast. Here are the questions I’m answering today:

Question 1

194 – My question is about lust. Here’s my problem. I absolutely adore my wife and I think she has a ton of sex appeal. Problem is a lot of men do also. I know this because I hear it regularly from men about how lucky I am. So hearing this from other men does make me thankful for having a wife of that sort it also makes me want to share her sex appeal with others to appease me. But here’s the bigger problem, that lusting has turned into even more over the years. Now I lust over her being with another guy. … Now I want to see her please another man orally. And I truthfully don’t think it’s for me to watch him in pleasure but more so to watch her perform the act and lust over her. So my question is. Is this a sin since I’m lusting over my own wife? And also if it is how can stop it?

Question 2

191 – When it’s between a husband and wife is anal sex a sin?

Question 3

189 – I have been searching your blog for something on “golden showers” but I cannot find anything. Like rimming, this is something few Christians talk about and those who do paint it in a negative light. I have the desire to be the recipient of it. My wife has refused to pee on me, at least for now, but I am still dealing with the desire. Many Christians would have me believe it is a wrong desire, but I am not convinced. I am curious as to your thoughts on this.

Question 4

184 – How much of the work of sex should the wife be doing? My husband has much more energy and stamina for thrusting but I know he would appreciate me doing more

Question 5

182 – Hi, I have been married 18 years and my wife’s drive is way low . Once a month or every other month is good for her. I have tried to talk about it and it is always a fight. I love her very much but this is getting harder and harder as the years go on.

Links mentioned in the episode

DietBet.com game – http://uncoveringintimacy.com/dietbet

What Do Wives Want – http://uncoveringintimacy.com/wdww

Uncovering Intimacy Champions & the secret Facebook page – http://uncoveringintimacy.com/champion

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