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Legendary actor and mental health advocate Glenn Close is on a quest to change how we think about mental health, starting with her decision to speak out about her own family's struggles — a brave choice considering the stigma that pervades the topic. This week, we're revisiting this sweeping conversation with TEDWomen curator Pat Mitchell, where Close shares the inspiration behind the advocacy group she founded to combat the crisis, underscoring the transformative power of community and the critical need for comprehensive mental health care systems. Want to help shape TED’s shows going forward? Fill out our survey ! Become a TED Member today at ted.com/join Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…
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Sometime around age 40 (+/-) you might start feeling like some part of your life no longer fits and you don't know what to do about it. It could be at work or at home - or simply inside of you. You might be asking questions like, "How did I get here?" Or, "Is this all there is?" "Is this what I've been working so hard for?" Or, "Why aren't I happier?" Growing out of her own experience turning 40, Stephanie McLaughlin became captivated by the big “four oh,” and how people handle the milestone birthday. On The Big Four Oh Podcast, Stephanie has conversations with people about their life experience around turning 40. This birthday often comes wrapped in larger life changes, whether it’s a newfound search for meaning, accepting your mortality, or shedding all those things you did because some external authority said you “should.” Her mission is to make it common cultural knowledge that there IS a transition most of us face around age 40, and then showcase so many versions of that transition that every single person approaching, or recently turned, 40 with dread in their heart, knows that they are not alone. I know you don't want to call it a midlife crisis, so I won't, but "if the glove fits, you must acquit." 😉
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Sometime around age 40 (+/-) you might start feeling like some part of your life no longer fits and you don't know what to do about it. It could be at work or at home - or simply inside of you. You might be asking questions like, "How did I get here?" Or, "Is this all there is?" "Is this what I've been working so hard for?" Or, "Why aren't I happier?" Growing out of her own experience turning 40, Stephanie McLaughlin became captivated by the big “four oh,” and how people handle the milestone birthday. On The Big Four Oh Podcast, Stephanie has conversations with people about their life experience around turning 40. This birthday often comes wrapped in larger life changes, whether it’s a newfound search for meaning, accepting your mortality, or shedding all those things you did because some external authority said you “should.” Her mission is to make it common cultural knowledge that there IS a transition most of us face around age 40, and then showcase so many versions of that transition that every single person approaching, or recently turned, 40 with dread in their heart, knows that they are not alone. I know you don't want to call it a midlife crisis, so I won't, but "if the glove fits, you must acquit." 😉
Burnout is more than just being tired—it’s about finding out the limits of a life that no longer fits. In this solo bonus episode, Stephanie pulls together stories from past guests who pushed themselves to the edge by doing everything “right”—only to discover that success built on someone else’s terms can quietly unravel your sense of self. From panic attacks to identity crises, she explores the hidden patterns of burnout and the radical clarity that can emerge when you finally start listening to your own voice. If you've ever wondered, “Is this really it?”—this one’s for you. Reflections: What Burnout Is Really Trying to Tell You What happens when the success you’ve worked so hard to achieve starts to break you down? In this special solo episode, Stephanie takes us on a deep and thoughtful journey into burnout—not just as exhaustion, but as a wake-up call. Inspired by her recent conversation with Angela Hwang, and supported by clips from past guests including Jennifer Arthurton, Tara McFarland, AdaPia D’Errico, Julie Hutsell-Starling, and Mindy Amita Aisling, Stephanie unpacks how burnout intersects with the invisible cost of “doing everything right” and the powerful, often uncomfortable process of learning to trust your own voice. Episode Highlights Why burnout isn't a failure—it's a signal that something deeper needs your attention How following someone else’s script can lead to an identity crisis around age 40 The three patterns of burnout that show up most often (and how to recognize them) What happens when the external validation you've relied on starts to falter Real stories of women who lost themselves in their roles—and how they found their way back How tuning into your body, voice and intuition can lead to radical transformation The truth about hearing your own voice: it’s not loud, but it is honest Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
What happens when you reach the top—and realize it’s not what you wanted? Angela Hwang had the résumé, the accolades, and the paycheck, but behind the scenes, her health was deteriorating and her happiness was nowhere to be found. In this honest and eye-opening episode, Angela shares how a health scare, motherhood, and burnout collided to spark a total life reset. If you’ve ever wondered whether there’s more to life than climbing the next rung, this conversation is for you. Guest Bio Angela Hwang has more than 18 years of experience in marketing and business development. Angela has helped to raise more than $150M in direct investments for real estate fund managers since 2020 and contributed to significant revenue growth for various tech startups since 2016. She has a wide array of experience across multiple industries including financial services, real estate, legal and technology. In 2021, Angela was selected as one of 40 under 40 by Silicon Valley Business Journal for her marketing leadership. Angela graduated from University of California, Berkeley with a B.A. in Mass Communications and a B.A. in Sociology and earned her M.B.A. from Pepperdine University. Turning 40 and unlearning the American Dream Angela Hwang checked every box on the “successful life” checklist her parents handed her, and then realized none of it was making her happy. Born in South Korea and raised in the U.S., Angela spent decades chasing stability, prestige, and approval—especially from her parents, who had sacrificed everything for the American Dream. She climbed through the corporate ranks, earned accolades like Silicon Valley’s 40 Under 40, and reached the coveted C-suite. But behind the scenes, she was unraveling. It wasn’t until a terrifying health scare and the sobering clarity of new motherhood that Angela finally began to question the life she had built—and discovered the strength to redefine it. Episode Highlights: Angela’s upbringing as a first-generation Korean-American and internalizing a success script rooted in her parents’ fear, thus the immense pressure to achieve “safe” success. Climbing the corporate ladder—and the personal cost of doing so while hiding burnout and physical symptoms. The turning point: how becoming a mother and experiencing a health crisis forced Angela to reevaluate her priorities. Breaking generational narratives around work, safety, and entrepreneurship. The shift from external validation (titles, salaries, luxury goods) to internal fulfillment and presence. Selling off her designer wardrobe, trading Silicon Valley hustle for quiet comfort—and finding her true self in the process. How sleep, stillness, and finally listening to her own voice laid the foundation for shedding her parents’ fears and starting her own business. In this deeply honest conversation, Angela Hwang shares what it’s like to reach the top of the ladder your parents built for you—and realize it’s leaning against the wrong wall. Her story is an invitation to question the narratives we inherit, especially when they’re rooted in fear, sacrifice, and survival. If you’ve ever wondered whose life you’re really living, this episode will leave you thinking—and maybe even reimagining what your next chapter could be. If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate, follow, and share The Big Four Oh with a friend who might need a little inspiration of their own. Guest Resources Angela is offering TBFO listeners a FREE Complementary Strategy Session Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communication…
Among the many strange and funny things that can happen as you reach midlife is this: just when everything feels like it’s falling apart, something creative starts to stir. In this bonus episode, Stephanie explores the idea of a midlife creative awakening —inspired by past guests who picked up paint brushes, pens, instruments, and more in the messy middle of their lives. Creativity often shows up when we need it most. Because sometimes, when you think you need less on your plate, what you really need is something that’s just *yours*. You’ll hear reflections, real talk, and a few stories that might just remind you of yourself. If you’ve got a creative itch—or a long-lost hobby whispering in your ear—this one’s for you. Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
When Jenn Kacmar and Rose Planer met at an engagement party, they had no idea their friendship would become the anchor that carried them through midlife chaos. With a decade between them, different careers, and wildly different life stages, their bond became a lifeline—especially during the isolating early days of the pandemic. In this heartfelt and humorous episode, they share how they supported each other through burnout, motherhood, and identity shifts—and how they turned all of it into art. If you've ever felt alone in your midlife unraveling, this conversation will remind you that the right friendship can change everything. Guest Bio Fifteen years ago, Jenn Kacmar was balancing working as an ob/gyn at the county health department, parenting two elementary-aged boys, and surviving the culture shock of life in a small Southern town after a decade living in New England. More than ten years younger, Rose Planer was newly engaged and preparing to move to her soon-to-be husband’s hometown where she would hold a few different jobs, including palliative care coordinator and trauma therapist, before starting her own family. In many ways, we owe our friendship to women a generation ahead of us who brought us together at, of all things, an engagement party. While we couldn’t predict the depths our friendship would reach, we both felt the “zing” of recognizing a kindred spirit at that initial meeting. Over the years, we have supported each other, learned from each other, bickered with each other. We “bubbled” together during Covid. And, yes, we have even survived traveling together! But one of the best things to come out of our friendship was creative collaboration. Writing a novel together propelled our friendship to a new level. This life-changing experience offered a tremendous opportunity to learn more about ourselves and each other. Working together to frame a story, to bring it and its characters to life, was both challenging and exhilarating. Having a teammate to share in the process proved invaluable—when one of us had an off day, the other picked up the slack and vice versa. We bring complementary strengths to our partnership and believe we have both become better writers from working together. More importantly, however, we feel compelled to share the secret power this friendship revealed: the power of connection and creative collaboration to extinguish the mid-life "Ick." Turning 40 and making art out of the mess What if your midlife transformation didn’t happen alone—but in lockstep with your best friend? In this episode, we meet Jenn Kacmar and Rose Planer, who navigated the complexities of motherhood, identity, and burnout during the pandemic—and found a lifeline in each other. Their friendship began at an engagement party and blossomed into a life-saving connection that not only saw them through the icky, isolating parts of midlife, but also gave birth to something beautiful: a novel they co-wrote during lockdown. These women didn’t just survive; they created. In this episode, you'll hear: How Jenn and Rose’s unlikely friendship began across a 12-year age gap—and why it became their greatest midlife survival tool Jenn’s journey from high-achieving OB-GYN to burnout and reinvention Rose’s pivot from aspiring journalist to therapist after the loss of her sister The crushing loneliness of motherhood during COVID—and how they turned it into creative fuel Honest reflections on alcohol as a culturally “acceptable” coping mechanism for overwhelmed moms The transformative power of collaboration, and how their friendship turned into a creative partnership Why their novel Snowflakes in the South became both a lifeline and a legacy One last thing… Jenn and Rose are proof that friendship can be a transformative force—not just a comfort, but a catalyst. Their story is a reminder that we don’t always have to navigate the messy middle alone. Sometimes the most healing thing we can do is find a friend, make some art, and redefine what fulfillment looks like in this season of life. If this episode resonated with you, don’t forget to rate, follow, and leave a review for The Big Four Oh. It helps new listeners find the show—and might just connect them with the lifeline they didn’t know they needed. Guest Resources Get their book: Snowflakes in the South by Jenn Kacmar and Rose Planer Connect with Rose and Jenn on Facebook Connect with Rose and Jenn on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this short bonus episode, Steph unpacks the deeper themes from her conversation with Elizabeth Makepeace—no listening homework required. Through Elizabeth’s story, Steph explores how unconscious patterns from childhood shape our adult relationships, often without us realizing it. She dives into what it means to break the caretaker cycle, how to recognize when care turns into codependency, and why midlife is the perfect time to stop over-functioning and start listening to your own needs. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why does this keep happening?”—this episode is for you. It's a thoughtful, eye-opening reflection on moving from survival mode to self-honoring in the season of Second Adulthood. Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
When Elizabeth Makepeace fell for a younger, free-spirited musician, she thought she’d found the love foretold in a dream. But what began as a spiritual connection turned into a controlling, emotionally draining marriage that forced her to confront an old pattern she thought she’d outgrown: the compulsion to care for others at the cost of herself. In this deeply honest conversation, Elizabeth shares how she broke the cycle, rebuilt trust with her children, and finally found peace—not just in a partner, but within herself. If you’ve ever wondered why certain roles keep showing up in your relationships, this episode offers insight, healing, and hope. Guest Bio If you're curious about energy/magic then you need to meet Elizabeth Elenor. Her journey through her 40s was the progression of taking back her power as she left her narcissistic marriage and he started dating a 21 year old. A deep dive into personal power led her to discover the secrets of alchemy; she merged this knowledge with 25 years of being a healer to create The Ascendance Code and energetically align with her Higher Self Wisdom. Turning 40 and resigning as the family fixer Elizabeth Makepeace was living a vibrant life in the tropics of Far North Queensland—raising her kids, running a successful healing practice, and feeling aligned in mind, body, and spirit. But when she met a charming, younger musician who swept her off her feet, her well-calibrated world began to shift. What started as a dream romance quickly turned into a rigid, emotionally complex marriage that echoed a painful pattern from her past: the need to care for and fix others, often at her own expense. In this candid and deeply personal episode, Elizabeth shares how a midlife unraveling—marked by loss, anxiety, and the crumbling of family trust—pushed her to finally recognize a generational caretaking pattern she’d been unconsciously replaying. Her story is one of heartbreak, healing, and ultimately, liberation. And yes—her real-life love story ends with a twist that feels straight out of a fairy tale (complete with a symbolic last name!). Episode Highlights Elizabeth’s early life as a caretaker for her ill father shaped her subconscious belief that love means caregiving How a “dream come true” romance slowly morphed into an emotionally taxing marriage marked by control and rigidity The moment she realized she couldn’t heal her partner—and the empowerment of walking away Rebuilding trust with her children and healing her own trauma through bodywork and reflection The emotional and spiritual reckoning that came with turning 40—and the clarity it brought Her advice for listeners: examine the “movie” of your life and ask why certain characters keep showing up in the same roles The joyful discovery of a new, healthy relationship built on peace and mutual care Elizabeth’s story is a wonderful reminder that no matter how much personal work we’ve done, there are always deeper layers waiting to be revealed. Her midlife unraveling wasn’t a failure—it was the doorway to true healing. By identifying the patterns that kept her stuck and tracing them back to their origins, she was able to finally break the cycle. And in doing so, she made peace—with her past, her pain, and eventually, with a man whose name poetically symbolized that transformation. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow and review the podcast. Your support helps more listeners discover these transformative stories. Guest Resources Get Elizabeth’s Love Code Connect with Elizabeth on Facebook Connect with Elizabeth on Instagram Connect with Elizabeth on TikTok Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
At age 39, Francesca Montillo had a thriving healthcare career at a prestigious Boston hospital—but her heart was in Italy, dreaming of pasta, wine, and sun-soaked adventures. In this episode, she shares how she slowly and strategically built a food and travel business on the side, eventually trading her secure 9-to-5 for a life she once thought was too good to be true. From pandemic pivots to cultural expectations and midlife realizations, Francesca’s story is a masterclass in following your gut, even when it takes 20 years to listen. If you’ve ever wondered what might be waiting on the other side of “what if,” this conversation is for you. Guest Bio Francesca Montillo grew up in Italy until the age of 11, upon which time she moved to Boston with her family. She spent every summer after the move back in Calabria, enjoying time at the beach, local markets and spending time with childhood friends. It was during her trips back that her love for Italy grew even more intensely. Her initial career ambitions were to work in law enforcement and she holds a Bachelor's degree in Criminology and Law. After a short stint in the field, she went on to earn a Masters in Healthcare Management instead. After a successful 22+ year career in healthcare management for both private and governmental sectors, Francesca reinvented herself again and took the leap and started her own business, combining her love of Italian travels and cooking. Via her business, Lazy Italian Culinary Adventures, Francesca is able to showcase her native land and its cuisine. Francesca has also written three Amazon bestselling cooking books focusing on Italian dishes. Turning 40 and turning pasta into a paycheck Francesca Montillo was living the dream—on paper. With a master’s degree in healthcare administration and a thriving job at a Harvard-affiliated hospital, she had what many would call a “great job.” But deep down, Francesca knew it wasn’t her dream. At 39, just shy of her milestone 40th birthday, she quietly began building a very different life—one steeped in Italian cuisine, rolling Tuscan hills, and the freedom of self-employment. Today, she leads delicious culinary adventures in Italy and has turned her side hustle into a full-blown business and lifestyle. In this episode, Francesca shares how she slowly and strategically transitioned from a traditional career to creating Lazy Italian Culinary Adventures, proving that it's never too late to design a life you love. Episode Highlights: How Francesca’s childhood in Calabria and Boston shaped her love for Italian food and culture. The early whispers of entrepreneurship—and why it took nearly 20 years to act on them. The delicate balance of building a business while holding down a demanding 9-to-5. How COVID nearly derailed her dream—and how she pivoted to Zoom cooking classes and writing cookbooks. What finally pushed her to walk away from a safe, successful career in healthcare. The cultural tug-of-war between traditional expectations and personal fulfillment. Why midlife was the perfect time for Francesca to bet on herself—and what she’d tell others standing at the same crossroads. This conversation is a reminder that the path to your dream life might not be a straight line—and that’s okay. Francesca’s story shows us the power of patience, planning, and trusting your gut—even if it takes two decades to do something about it. If you’ve ever thought “someday” could be “today,” this is the inspiration you’ve been waiting for. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, and review The Big Four Oh Podcast. It helps more people find us—and find the courage to make their own big midlife moves. Guest Resources Connect with Francesca on Facebook Connect with Francesca on Instagram Get Francesca’s Guide, What to Pack for Italy, on her website! Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
What if your “successful” life started to feel like a slow, quiet heartbreak? In this episode, Steve Vincent shares how he went from burned-out high school vice principal to thriving freelance copywriter—by finally listening to the voice he’d been pushing down for years. He opens up about the emotional weight of staying in a life that looks good on paper but feels wrong in your soul—and how a couple of chance encounters cracked his world wide open. If you’re feeling stuck, restless, or wondering—‘is this all there is?’—this conversation will show you what becomes possible when you take the first brave step toward change. Guest Bio As a professional writer, teacher, spiritual coach, poet and author, Steve Vincent brings more than 33 years of experience to the table to help others overcome their challenges and live their dharma. A lover of sunsets, his search for the truth of our human existence has stretched from the sands of the Sunshine Coast to the hot springs of New Zealand, to the Peruvian Amazon for ayahuasca ceremonies, and has included many an energetic healing online and in person, and long hours alone pondering the meaning of life. Originally a high school teacher, faculty head and vice principal then freelance journalist, copywriter, writing coach and marketing consultant, his journey inwards via his popular book “Finding You” has unlocked the pain of the human experience, which emerges in his words that are said to move women to tears and make men squirm. Steve has spoken to audiences as large as 1500 and has coached groups of all ages and sizes. He appears on a weekly international spiritual broadcast and contributes to several weekly self-improvement movements. A father of 4 now adult children, he lives on the sub-tropical Sunshine Coast in Queensland, Australia and when not writing and mentoring others, can be found at one of the beautiful local beaches communing with Mother Earth or gazing out to sea. Turning 40 and trading safety for soulful What if the life you built—stable, successful, and safe—started to feel like a cage? This week’s guest, Steve Vincent, opens up about his courageous midlife transformation from high school vice principal to successful freelance copywriter. From the outside, Steve had it all: a leadership role in education, a loving family with four kids, a nice home by the water. But internally, he was wrestling with the quiet sadness of a life that felt too small for his spirit. In this conversation, Steve shares how he stopped ignoring that still, small voice and instead let it guide him toward a radically different—and much more fulfilling—path. Episode Highlights 🌏 Growing up in Brisbane, Australia, with Catholic roots, and how early conditioning shaped his beliefs about success and security 🧠 The subtle but persistent feeling that “this isn’t working anymore”—and the deep sadness that came with pretending it was ✨ The power of seemingly small moments—like a passing comment at a seminar—that can flip the switch and open up new possibilities 💼 How Steve used long service leave to “test drive” his dream of being a full-time copywriter 🔄 The importance of motion: why getting unstuck often starts with simply doing something new 🧘♂️ Emotional wisdom: learning to accept all of life’s seasons—and finding peace even in discomfort 📋 A practical technique from Abraham Hicks—the “Placemat Process”—that helped Steve manage overwhelm and shift energy (and that Stephanie plans to try herself!) Steve’s story is a beautiful reminder that courage doesn’t always look like a dramatic leap—it often starts with a whisper in your soul and a single, intentional step forward. If you’re feeling stuck, take a cue from Steve: get into motion. Go to the seminar. Read the book. Take the quiet time. And trust that the next piece of your path will appear. If this episode spoke to you, please rate, follow, and leave a review—we love hearing how these conversations are landing with you. Guest Resources Connect with Steve on Instagram Find Steve online Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcast Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
When Amita Sharma hit her 40s, her body started betraying her—crippling fatigue, brain fog, and relentless hot flashes—but doctors told her she was "fine." Frustrated and desperate for answers, she turned to holistic medicine, unknowingly setting herself on a path to revolutionize women's health. Amita shares her eye-opening journey through perimenopause, the shocking gaps in medical knowledge, and how she’s building a platform to give women affordable access to holistic care. If you’ve ever felt dismissed by doctors or struggled to make sense of your changing body, this episode is a must-listen. Guest Bio Amita is co-founder of NourishDoc, a global holistic wellness platform for women to manage their hormone transition from PMS to Postmenopause. Inspired by her perimenopausal journey and working in the high tech world, she felt unsupported and a need to bring the taboo topic of perimenopause at the workplace for an open discussion. In her experience of going through perimenopause, keeping it a secret added more stress to the perimenopause state. She is on a mission to make this taboo topic be part of DEI, health equity at work for women in their 40's who feel that they cannot discuss this with HR or their colleagues. Turning 40 and getting dismissed by doctors For years, Amita Sharma was a high-achieving professional balancing a demanding career in the tech industry with the responsibilities of motherhood. But as she entered her 40s, her body started sending distress signals—chronic fatigue, brain fog, erratic cycles, and mood swings—yet every doctor she saw insisted she was "normal." Frustrated and exhausted, Amita took matters into her own hands, diving deep into holistic medicine, Ayurveda, and functional health. What started as a personal journey to reclaim her vitality soon transformed into a mission to educate and empower other women. Now, through her platform, NourishDoc , Amita is revolutionizing access to credible, affordable, holistic health solutions for perimenopause and beyond. In This Episode, We Cover: 🌿 The wake-up call: Amita’s debilitating fatigue and how doctors dismissed her symptoms 🔥 The boardroom battle: Experiencing severe hot flashes in high-pressure corporate meetings 🎓 From architecture to tech to holistic health: Amita’s unconventional career path 🧠 Why brain fog and exhaustion aren’t "just stress"—and what your doctor might not tell you 🔍 The shocking lack of research and education around women’s health post-reproduction 🤝 How Amita’s interviews with 3,000+ holistic health experts led to the creation of NourishDoc Amita’s story is a powerful reminder that, at midlife, you can turn your breakdown into a breakthrough. By questioning the status quo and seeking out alternative solutions, she found a path to healing that mainstream medicine had overlooked. If you’ve ever felt dismissed or unheard when it comes to your health, this episode is for you. Tune in, take notes, and most importantly, know that you’re not alone. ✨ Enjoyed this episode? Don’t forget to rate, follow, and review The Big Four Oh Podcast ! Your support helps us bring more important conversations like this to the world. 💙 Guest Resources NourishDoc platform Connect with Amita on Facebook Connect with Amita on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Naomi Kreske thought she had built the perfect life—marriage, kids, and the white picket fence dream. But when her marriage crumbled, she found herself stuck in survival mode, barely holding it all together. For years, she unknowingly repeated the same patterns—ignoring her needs, attracting unhealthy relationships, and staying in a job that drained her. Everything changed when she realized the problem wasn’t just external—it was who she was being. In this episode, Naomi shares how she finally broke free, rebuilt her life on her own terms, and found love again—this time, the right kind. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a life that doesn’t quite fit, this conversation is for you. Guest Bio I’m Naomi Kreske, a certified life coach, founder of Keep Finding You life coaching, wife, and mother of four. I'm passionate about helping women transform their lives: finding out who they are, what they want and how to get there. After facing one of life’s toughest challenges—divorce—and rebuilding my life from the ground up, I’ve learned how to move from survival mode to truly thriving. It was an aha moment that changed everything for me, and now I have a career I love, a fulfilling marriage, and a life of purpose and happiness. My mission is to help other women find their own aha moment—empowering those who feel stuck, frustrated, and unfulfilled to take charge of their lives. Through my coaching, I help them keep finding themselves. Turning 40 and Breaking Free from Survival Mode Naomi Kreske thought she was living the dream—married young, staying home to raise raising three kids, and following the storybook life she always envisioned. But when her marriage unraveled, she found herself unexpectedly lost, navigating single motherhood, financial hardship, and an emotional tailspin that lasted years. Stuck in survival mode, Naomi unknowingly built walls around herself, attracting the wrong relationships and feeling disconnected from her own happiness. It wasn’t until she had a major wake-up call—thanks to a book that hit her like a lightning bolt—that she realized the problem wasn’t just external. It was time to rebuild, redefine, and create Naomi 2.0 . This is the story of how she did it. In This Episode, We Discuss: How Naomi’s picture-perfect life began to crumble and why she felt like a failure. The slow slide into survival mode and how it shaped her relationships, career, and sense of self. The pivotal moment that made her realize she had to change who she was being in order to attract the life she wanted. The boundaries she set to stop accepting less than she deserved. Her journey out of the restaurant business she co-owned with her ex-husband and into a career she loves. How she found love— for real this time —after years of dating the wrong people. What happiness looks like now and why she’s more fulfilled than ever. Naomi’s story is a powerful reminder that transformation doesn’t happen overnight, and sometimes, the hardest part is realizing that you have to change before your life can. It took years of struggle, self-discovery, and bold decisions, but Naomi came out the other side happier, more fulfilled, and aligned with her true self. Her story proves that even after years of surviving, you can still learn to thrive. ✨ If you loved this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, and review The Big Four Oh Podcast ! It helps more people find stories like Naomi’s that might just be the push they need. 💛 Guest Resources & Mentions Naomi’s Midweek Find Newsletter Connect with Naomi on Facebook Connect with Naomi on Instagram 📖 I'm Done by Lucy Shahjahan – The book that changed everything for Naomi 📖 Two Weeks Notice by Amy Porterfield – The book that gave her the courage to leave her job Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this bonus episode of the Big Four Oh Podcast, Steph delves deeper into themes discussed with Shā Sparks, focusing on the concepts of releasing the need for understanding to heal, and the importance of positive self-talk. Steph shares additional stories from previous guests, Julie Hutsell Starling (episode 99) and Jeff Glauser (episode 96), to illustrate these powerful transformation tools. Explore the concept of letting go of seeking closure and instead take actionable steps towards a better future, while also transforming internal dialogue to foster personal growth and healing. Steph encourages listeners to consider how they can apply these insights in their own lives. Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Shā Sparks’ midlife transformation was about breaking free—from toxic relationships, self-doubt, and the need for closure. After years in an abusive relationship, she realized she didn’t need answers or closure to heal—she just needed to walk away. Letting go of the “why” allowed her to move forward and build a life rooted in self-worth rather than past wounds. A big part of that journey was changing her self-talk—shifting from harsh self-judgment to a more compassionate view. Now, in her 40s, she’s thriving. Her story is a reminder that healing isn’t about understanding the past—it’s about reclaiming your future. Guest Bio As the CEO (Chief Excitement Officer) of Sparks of Fire International, Shā hosts her signature podcast, The Shā Sparks Show and is co-host of UnderWired podcast. She is also a Master Practitioner of NLP, Hypnosis, Reiki, Mental and Emotional Release, a Certified Fearless Living Coach and Trainer, the author of How to Get Your Voice Back, and the Co-Founder of the FIRESTARTERS Project. Turning 40 and Finding Peace Without Answers At 16, Shā Sparks found herself at rock bottom—arrested for a DUI and facing the reality of a life shaped by addiction, abuse, and deep emotional wounds. But that moment of humiliation was also the spark that ignited her journey toward healing. In this episode, she shares her incredible story of resilience, the power of breaking cycles, and how she found real love—not just in others, but within herself. Episode Highlights: The defining moment at 16 that changed the trajectory of Sha’s life. How childhood trauma shaped her early years and led to self-destructive habits. The pivotal decision to quit drinking at 25—and the surprising catalyst behind it. What kept her stuck in an abusive relationship for 12 years, and what finally set her free. How journaling and gratitude helped her regain control over her life. The profound realization that changed her understanding of love and relationships. Why she believes healing starts with the way we speak to ourselves. Shā’s story reminds us that healing isn’t about understanding why bad things happened—it’s about learning to let go and move forward. If you’re struggling to break free from patterns that no longer serve you, this conversation may be the push you need to start rewriting your story. If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, and review The Big Four Oh Podcast! Your support helps us continue bringing you inspiring conversations like this one. 🎙✨ Guest Resources Shā’s Gift To TBFO Listeners: Complimentary Release Your Addiction Meditation Connect with Shā on Facebook Connect with Shā on Instagram Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend – A must-read for anyone struggling to set healthy limits in relationships. Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood – A book that sheds light on how childhood experiences influence our adult relationships. Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this episode, Stephanie talks to Marcy Langlois, who shares her extraordinary story of resilience and recovery. Born with a cleft lip and palate requiring multiple surgeries, Marcy grew up in a chaotic household and struggled with addiction following a life-altering car accident. Her story explores the impact of trauma on physical health, including her struggles with mast cell activation syndrome and chronic infections. Marcy explains how she transformed her life through neuroplasticity and nervous system work, ultimately achieving a state of health and vitality. Her journey highlights the intertwining of mental, emotional, and physical healing and the continuous effort required to maintain wellness. Guest Bio Marcy Langlois is a trauma survivor and chronic illness warrior, 20+ years into her sobriety journey. She shares tips and tools accumulated from a lifetime of work to help others live beyond their limits through her coaching practice, social media posts and some freebies on her website. Online classes are coming soon! Turning 40 and Rewiring the Mind In this episode, Stephanie sits down with Marcy Langlois to explore her story of survival, transformation, and healing. After a childhood marked by medical challenges, family instability, and a battle with addiction, she found sobriety—only to face a new and terrifying crisis in her mid-40s when her body began to shut down. Diagnosed with mast cell activation syndrome and histamine intolerance, Marcy was bedridden for 40 days, grappling with allergic reactions to everything in her environment—including her own thoughts. But through deep inner work, rewiring her brain, and healing her nervous system, she emerged healthier and stronger than ever. Episode Highlights: A childhood shaped by medical challenges – Born with a cleft lip and palate, Marcy endured 20 surgeries between birth and age 18, and a difficult upbringing in a home affected by addiction and instability. The impact of unprocessed trauma – How childhood survival mechanisms carried into adulthood, leading to addiction and self-destructive patterns. The breaking point – At 45, Marcy’s body rebelled, leaving her unable to function and suffering from life-threatening reactions to food, stress, and even her own thoughts. Rewiring the brain for healing – Marcy shares how she used neuroplasticity and what she calls the "cancel method" to retrain her mind and shift her body's response to stress. The power of nervous system regulation – Understanding the difference between fight-flight-freeze and rest-digest-heal, and how true healing can’t happen until the body feels safe. Energy and frequency in healing – Why raising the body's energetic vibration was a crucial final step in Marcy’s recovery. Life after transformation – How Marcy is now thriving, free of chronic illness, and living with vitality and purpose. Marcy’s story is a testament to the incredible resilience of the human body and spirit. Her journey from a lifetime of trauma and illness to vibrant health is inspiring proof that healing is possible, even when all seems lost. Tune in to hear how she transformed her life—and take away powerful lessons on the mind-body connection. If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, and review the podcast—it helps us reach more listeners on their own journeys of transformation! Guest Resources Connect with Marcy on Facebook Connect with Marcy on Instagram Connect with Marcy on TikTok Check out Marcy’s free consultation scheduling link Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect with Steph TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Steph delves into Emily Hall's emotional story, where she reveals how she tied her self-worth to societal milestones like marriage and having kids, leading to an identity crisis fueled by low self-esteem. Through self-reflection and a pivotal conversation with a friend, Emily began to reshape her internal dialogue, shifting her belief system to value her resilience and inner strength. Steph elaborates on the concept of self-worth, offering practical steps to cultivate a more compassionate and empowering self-identity while warning against harsh inner critics and social comparisons. The transformation Emily underwent highlights the importance of building self-worth from within, ultimately leading to a life aligned with your true values and passions. Reflections: Self Worth Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this episode of The Big Four Oh Podcast, Stephanie talks to Emily Hall, who shares her remarkable journey through tumultuous life experiences, including a toxic childhood, substance abuse, near-death experiences, and codependent relationships. Emily opens up about her emotional breakdown on her 40th birthday and the pivotal moment she realized she needed to change her life. Through intense self-work, therapy, and a transformational shift in mindset, she managed to build a fulfilling life, focusing on her passions and helping others with binge eating disorders. Her candid recounting of her struggle and triumphs offers invaluable insights into the power of self-love and resilience. Guest Bio Would you choose chocolate over your eyesight? It’s a hard no, right? So, why was Emily Hall’s answer a ‘Yes’? After losing the sight permanently in her left eye as a result of her binge eating (yes, chocolate came first) and several other significant events including surviving a suicide attempt, Emily decided that enough was enough and went on a quest for happiness and self-acceptance. Ditching the traditional ways of self-healing Emily began to realise that only she could change the self-sabotaging patterns that were holding her back. Now an award-winning hypnotherapist and coach, Emily works with women around the world to help stop them binge eating, overeating and emotional eating just by changing how they think. She has unrivalled success in her field, getting her clients food freedom for good and loving themselves naked (!) in just a matter of weeks. Emily has been featured on the BBC, GB News, The Sun, The Daily Mail, The Mirror, The Express, Yahoo and MSN to name a few, talking about this subject. Her aim is to eliminate the stigma of overeating, emotional eating and weight issues and help educate people that diets are not the answer, and that it’s not even about food. Turning 40 and Unraveling Codependency Emily Hall's 40th birthday wasn’t the celebration she imagined—it was a breaking point. Years of trauma, toxic relationships, and personal struggles finally brought her to tears. But instead of staying broken, Emily embarked on a journey of self-discovery, confronting her deepest fears and limiting beliefs. From near-death experiences and a crushing heartbreak to a triumphant reinvention, Emily now helps others heal from disordered eating and internal battles. Join us as she shares the raw and emotional story behind her incredible transformation. Episode Highlights Emily's traumatic childhood led to years of self-destructive behavior. A toxic relationship and unmet life expectations triggered her 40th birthday breakdown. She endured near-death experiences, which shaped but didn't define her transformation. Codependency and low self-worth influenced many of her relationships. When her life imploded, Emily reached a crossroads with only three options—one of which saved her life. Her healing process included retraining her internal dialogue, engaging with forward-thinking coaches, and cutting out toxic influences. Emily has since built a successful business helping women overcome disordered eating by addressing deep-seated self-beliefs. Emily’s story is a powerful reminder that life’s toughest challenges can be the catalyst for incredible growth. Through deep inner work and self-compassion, she has found peace, success, and a new purpose. If you’ve ever felt stuck in negative patterns, Emily’s experience might offer the insight and inspiration you need to move forward. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and review the podcast! It helps us reach more listeners on their paths of transformation. Guest Resources Join Emily’s Beat the Binge Online Course Connect with Emily on Facebook Connect with Emily on Instagram Connect with Emily on TikTok Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. It’s one of the first signs of a midlife transition. www.thebigfouroh/ick Connect TheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Today, Stephanie sits down with Shana Francesca, who shares her harrowing journey through a traumatic childhood raised inside an evangelical Christian cult. Shana's talks about growing up in an environment where curiosity was punished, intuition was stifled, and survival required constant self-protection. She discusses her path to breaking free at 26, learning to trust herself, and discovering what a healthy relationship looks like. The conversation also explores Shana's transition into adulthood, her professional evolution, and the poignant realization that she needed to give language to her personal values and align them with her business aspirations. As Stephanie and Shana uncover the parallels in their respective transformative journeys, they highlight the importance of autonomy, self-trust, and finding one’s voice. Guest Bio Shana Francesca is a speaker and consultant. Her work centers around the fact that we become infinitely more impactful as leaders when we understand our organization as an ecosystem we are meant to foster as a bubble of life. Turning 40 and Getting Healthy after Being Raised in a Cult In this deeply moving episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie sits down with Shana Francesca, a survivor of an evangelical Christian cult, who shares her harrowing journey from a controlled and abusive childhood to finding her voice and establishing her values in midlife. Shana's story is not just about survival; it's a testament to the power of self-discovery, the importance of nurturing one's intuition, and the transformative impact of defining personal and professional values. Join us as Shana opens up about the challenges she faced and how they shaped her into the advocate for ethical leadership and community she is today. Key Highlights: Surviving a Cult: Shana discusses her upbringing in an abusive household within a cult, highlighting the lack of personal freedom and the severe consequences of curiosity. Early Signs of Resistance: From as young as three, Shana exhibited signs of resistance, including running away from home, signaling her deep-rooted awareness of the dangers in her environment. Journey to Self-Trust: Shana shares her path to trusting her intuition, which was crucial in her escape and subsequent independence from the cult at the age of 26. Redefining Faith and Identity: A significant part of Shana's transformation involved reevaluating her religious beliefs and ultimately stepping away from organized religion to embrace a more personal and inclusive spirituality. Establishing Core Values: Shana talks about the importance of defining clear personal and business values, which guide her current work as a consultant focusing on ethical leadership and community building. Empowerment through Language: The power of language in shaping and expressing one's identity and values is a central theme, as Shana emphasizes how articulating her values has empowered her and others. Today's episode with Shana not only explores the depths of overcoming a controlled and abusive upbringing but also celebrates the heights one can reach through self-awareness, resilience, and ethical leadership. Shana's journey is a powerful reminder of the strength found in reclaiming one's story and the importance of community in personal and professional realms. Her insights into the significance of nurturing intuition and establishing clear values offer valuable lessons for anyone navigating their own midlife transformations. If you found inspiration in Shana's story and our discussion, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the Forty Drinks Podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more compelling stories and transformative insights to light. Guest Resources Connect with Shana on Facebook Connect with Shana on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this moving episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, host Stephanie McLaughlin talks with Rita Bliven about her tumultuous early life, marked by a messy parental divorce, being kidnapped by her father, and reunion with her mother. This early instability led to deep attachment issues that shaped Rita's relationships and personal growth. Rita shares how therapeutic counseling in her teens, reconnecting with her Mexican family in her twenties, and her spiritual experiences contributed to her ongoing healing journey. Through perseverance and self-awareness, Rita found love and built a family, emphasizing the importance of connection and attachment in parenting her stepdaughter. Despite late fulfillment in love and career, Rita contemplates the 'what-ifs' of her life's timeline, ultimately expressing gratitude for her transformative journey. Guest Bio Rita Bliven suffered from a debilitating avoidant attachment style or disorder due to an international parental kidnapping. Much of her adult life has been spent learning about attachment theory, the different attachment styles, the traumas that cause attachment issues, and attachment healing. Rita chronicles her healing journey in her upcoming book, Canyons & Fireworks. In sharing her story, Rita hopes to inspire others to explore their own attachment styles so that true identity, purpose, and intimacy can flourish. Turning 40 and Healing From Parental Kidnapping as a Baby In this episode, Stephanie sits down with Rita Bilven, a woman who navigates the complexities of attachment issues stemming from a tumultuous childhood. By the time she was three, Rita had been kidnapped twice by her parents. The first time, her father abducted her and brought her to Mexico. Two years later, her mother lured her father back to California, kidnapped Rita back and moved cross country. Rita shares her journey of healing and self-discovery, which led her to reconnect with her estranged father and embrace her Mexican heritage. Her story is a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of understanding and addressing one's past. Episode Highlights: Early Childhood Trauma: Rita discusses her early experiences of being kidnapped by her father and the subsequent legal and emotional battles that shaped her childhood. Attachment Theory: Rita explains how attachment theory played a crucial role in understanding her struggles with relationships and self-identity. Reconnecting with Her Roots: The emotional recount of Rita's journey to reconnect with her father and her Mexican family, which brought significant healing and understanding. Personal and Spiritual Growth: Insights into how personal development and spirituality have guided Rita through her healing process. Marriage and Family Life: Rita opens up about meeting her husband later in life and how they've built a strong, loving relationship, including the importance of connection and attachment in parenting her stepdaughter. Writing as Healing: Rita shares how writing helped her process her experiences and aided her healing journey. Rita's story is a reminder of the importance of confronting our past to shape a happier, healthier future and the enduring strength of love. Her experiences with attachment issues, cultural identity, and personal growth are interwoven with practical insights into overcoming adversity. Whether you're dealing with similar issues or just looking for an inspiring story of transformation, this episode offers valuable lessons on resilience, love, and healing. If you enjoyed this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, please be sure to rate, follow, and review. Your feedback helps us bring more inspiring stories like Rita's to light! Guest Resources Connect with Rita on Facebook Connect with Rita on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In the 100th episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie welcomes her longtime friend Adrian Walker for a heartfelt and reflective conversation. They reminisce about their first meeting at Fenway Park in 1991, tracing the evolution of their enduring friendship and the significant life transitions they've experienced. Adrian shares insights into his career as a journalist, including impactful projects and his journey into sobriety, which reshaped his personal and professional life. They also delve into Adrian's recent venture into podcasting with the successful "Murder in Boston" series. Throughout the episode, they explore themes of aging, transformation, and the sustaining power of friendship. Join Stephanie and Adrian as they celebrate this milestone episode with stories of past adventures and the lessons they've learned along the way. Guest Bio Adrian Walker writes a twice-weekly column, focusing on politics and local news. A native of Miami, he joined the Globe in 1989 as a general assignment reporter, after three years at the Miami News. Walker was a member of the Globe Spotlight Team that was a finalist for the Pulitzer Prize for local reporting in 2018 for the series “Boston. Race. Image.Reality.” He is a frequent commentator on political and social justice issues - including the Netflix documentary “Trial 4” - and was the host of the Globe’s award-winning nine-part podcast “Murder in Boston” on the Stuart murder case. He was the Globe’s City Hall bureau chief, State House reporter and deputy political editor before becoming a Metro columnist in 1998. He was named an Associate Editor of the Globe in 2021. From Fenway to Forever: Celebrating 30 Years of Friendship Episode 100: A Journey Through the Decades: Friendship and Transformation with Adrian Walker In this milestone 100th episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie sits down with her long-time friend and esteemed journalist, Adrian Walker. They dive deep into their shared past, exploring the pivotal moments that have defined their friendship since 1991. Adrian opens up about his transformative journey through his 40s, discussing his career highlights, personal growth, and the profound impact of sobriety on his life. Episode Highlights: Memorable Meeting: Adrian and Stephanie reminisce about their first encounter at Fenway Park in 1991, marking the beginning of a decades-long friendship. Career Milestones: Adrian shares his experiences of landing his dream job at 36 and the significant projects he has worked on, including a Pulitzer Prize-nominated series on racism in Boston. Sobriety and Self-Discovery: Adrian discusses his decision to become sober and how it has reshaped his perspective and lifestyle. Podcasting Venture: Adrian talks about his role as the host of the successful podcast "Murder in Boston," detailing the challenges and rewards of this new medium. Reflections on Aging and Friendship: Both Stephanie and Adrian reflect on the nature of aging, the impact of milestone birthdays, and the reasons their friendship has endured over three decades. Today’s episode is a heartfelt reflection on friendship, change, and the milestones that come with aging. Stephanie and Adrian’s conversation provides an intimate look at the dynamics of a long-lasting friendship and the personal transformations that often accompany life’s second act. Their stories remind us of the importance of connection, resilience, and embracing change at any stage of life. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the Forty Drinks Podcast. Your feedback helps us grow and continue bringing you engaging content each week! Guest Resources Connect with Adrian on X Read Adrian’s column in The Boston Globe Murder in Boston podcast on Apple Murder in Boston podcast on Spotify Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Julie Hutsell-Starling was in her mid 30s and in the middle of a toxic relationship she couldn’t extract herself from when she heard a song that changed everything. It was the catalyst to finally leave this relationship and start the healing process. When she started dating again, she was so clear on what she wanted that the dates were actually interviews. After roughly 50 first dates she met the man she would eventually marry. Now that she had found a wonderful, loving relationship, it ignited the spark inside her to find something that was as good a fit in the professional realm as her relationship was in the personal realm. Guest Bio Since 2000, Dr. Julie Hutsell-Starling, DACM, L.Ac has been discovering, studying, and experiencing the mind/body connection and multiple energetic modalities that allow you to tap into your body’s innate sense of balance, health, and well-being. Her personal journey started when she was just 27 and diagnosed with chronic pain. While healing herself, she discovered acupuncture and Chinese Medicine, which she found helpful with the pain and more importantly, helped her get to the root cause of the pain, which has kept it from returning all these years. Importantly, her career has also been her greatest teacher. She struggled with burnout off and on for years in private acupuncture practice no matter how much self-care she did, and it wasn’t until she understood the real root cause of the burnout, that the symptoms finally went away and have stayed away. Dr. Julie loves to guide her clients to get to the root cause of their challenges. When you address the root cause instead of chasing the symptoms, that is how you find true healing, and how you re-find the creativity, joy, inspiration, ease, and flow in your work, your relationships, and in your life. Dr. Julie teaches her clients self-healing techniques they can use daily or anytime they need, because she is passionate about putting the power and control back in their hands, and guiding them to connect with their intuition and inner knowing that has been there all along to reclaim their highest healing. Dr. Julie is a Doctor of Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine, a Certified Health Coach, a Soul Realignment Akashic Records Practitioner, and a Kundalini Yoga Teacher. She has been working with patients/clients since 2005 and has worked with thousands of patients and coaching clients in private practice. Dr. Julie lives in Beaufort, NC on the beautiful Crystal Coast, with her husband and three kitties. Turning 40 and Going on 50 First Dates In this week’s episode, Stephanie sits down with Julie Hutsell-Starling, who learned to love herself and then redefined her romantic life and career in midlife. Julie shares her raw and touching story of growing up with an alcoholic mother, battling through toxic relationships, and ultimately finding her true self and love. Her journey is not just about overcoming, but about thriving and rediscovering her passion in a way that aligns with her true self. Episode Highlights Julie discusses her challenging childhood with an alcoholic and abusive mother, which shaped her early years and self-perception. She opens up about her journey through toxic relationships, including a pivotal moment that led her to end a particularly damaging relationship. Julie's transformative experience in Italy as a foreign exchange student that opened her eyes to different ways of living and loving. Julie's inspiring story of meeting her husband, how online dating played a role, and the intuitive moment she knew she had found her true companion. The significant impact of a career in acupuncture, how burnout led her to reevaluate her life, and the eventual shift towards a practice that aligns more closely with her soul’s purpose. The evolution of her professional life, from a traditional acupuncture practice to a more holistic and fulfilling approach that incorporates Kundalini yoga and energy work. In this episode, Julie shares her powerful narrative of personal growth, self-love, and professional fulfillment. Her story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the beauty of finding one's path at midlife. Julie's journey from a tumultuous childhood and challenging relationships to finding true love and reshaping her career is not only inspiring but also a reminder of the possibilities that await when we listen to our inner voice and honor our true selves. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the Forty Drinks Podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more inspiring stories like Julie's to you! Guest Resources Connect with Julie on Facebook Connect with Julie on Instagram Connect with Julie on TikTok Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Corey Stulce from the Family Twist podcast hosts a special "pod swap" episode of the Forty Drinks podcast with guest Jordan Elizabeth Braxton. In this engaging conversation, Jordan shares the intimate and powerful story of her transition journey. From her early realizations and the challenges faced within a religious family to the life-changing moment of discovering she was intersex, Jordan opens up about her struggles and triumphs. She discusses the pivotal decision to transition, the impact on her personal and professional life, and the overwhelming support she received from her family. Through laughter and tears, Corey and Jordan highlight the importance of authenticity, resilience, and the unconditional love that makes such journeys possible. Guest Bio Jordan Elizabeth Braxton is a drag performer, advocate for HIV prevention and sexual health, Director of Diversity and Inclusion for Pride St. Louis, LGBTQ+ Advisory Committee Chairwoman for the City of St. Louis, activist, volunteer, transgender advocate and pageant queen. Pod Swap with Family Twist Summary Jordan shares her journey of transitioning and coming out as transgender. She discusses how she always knew she was a girl and the challenges she faced growing up in a religious African-American family. Jordan talks about her medical discovery of being intersex and going through hormone replacement therapy. She also shares her experience of coming out to her family, who were accepting and supportive. Jordan highlights the importance of sharing her story to educate others about the transgender experience and dispel misconceptions. Corey Stulce and Jordan discuss her career as a drag queen, her activism in the LGBTQ+ community, and her experiences with gender affirmation surgery. Corey talks about her early days as a drag queen, where she entertained audiences with her quick wit and ability to read people. She also discusses her involvement in activism, particularly during the HIV epidemic, and her advocacy for the rights of the LGBTQ+ community. Jordan shares her experiences competing in trans pageants and her excitement for the Miss America film division. She also reflects on her gender affirmation surgery and the happiness it has brought her. The conversation concludes with a discussion about their time working together on a production of Steel Magnolias and the joy they found in the theater community. Highlights of the episode: Transitioning is a personal journey that involves coming out socially, medically, and professionally. Acceptance and support from family and friends can make a significant difference in a transgender person's experience. Misconceptions and misinformation about transgender individuals and gender-affirming care are prevalent and harmful. Drag queens have played a significant role in the LGBTQ+ community, providing support and paving the way for LGBTQ+ rights. Sharing personal stories and experiences can help educate others and promote understanding and acceptance. Jordan's career as a drag queen was built on her quick wit and ability to entertain audiences with her reading skills. She has been an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, particularly during the HIV epidemic, and has been involved in activism to raise awareness and fight for the rights of the community. Jordan is excited to compete in trans pageants and the Miss America film division, as it allows her to showcase her activism and positive representation of trans women. Her gender affirmation surgery has brought her immense happiness, and she encourages others to never take no for an answer and to pursue their dreams. Working together on a production of Steel Magnolias was a memorable and joyful experience for Corey and Jordan, highlighting the importance of community and the theater arts. Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this week’s episode of Forty Drinks, Stephanie talks with Erik DeRosa about his profound midlife transition and struggle with mental health. Erik grew up with severe anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder, masking it under a facade for 25 years while pursuing a high-pressure career on Wall Street. At age 33, a dissociative episode forced him to confront his mental health issues and seek therapy. His life took a transformative turn when he discovered skiing, a passion that ultimately led him to leave his finance career and become a ski instructor in Colorado. Eric's story emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing mental health struggles, and how following one's passion can lead to a fulfilling and happier life. Guest Bio Erik DaRosa, known by friends as “Yoda,” is the Founder and CEO of From Survivor to Thriver, a mental health advocate, speaker, author and Co-host of the popular From Survivor to Thriver podcast. Through his work and his own lived experience, Erik is upending the front-end of the mental health space and building a bridge between those who seek resources and those who provide both help and hope. Each week on his podcast, he tackles different mental health topics through honest and relatable "kitchen table" conversations with real people who are helping to shatter mental health stigmas and find their voices. He aims to normalize discussions around mental health topics and remind his audience they are not alone, there is strength in community and "it's perfectly ok to not always be ok." In 2011, Erik traded in a successful career as a NYC finance executive when he moved to Colorado with his wife and two cats. Erik spent twelve winters as a ski instructor for the Aspen Skiing Company before retiring in the Spring of 2023. Born and raised in New England, Erik earned his MBA from the NYU Stern School of Business and his BA in Economics from Brandeis University. He lives in Colorado with his wife Amy and two cats, Lincoln and Taylor. Turning 40 and Changing the Things that Muck with Your Mental Health This week, Stephanie sits down with Erik DaRosa, a former Wall Street banker who found solace and a new beginning in the snowy mountains of Colorado. Erik shares his compelling story of battling severe anxiety and OCD from a young age, and how a midlife pivot at 40 led him to a transformative journey in skiing and mental health advocacy. Join us as Erik opens up about the challenges he faced, the revelations in therapy, and how skiing became not just a hobby but a lifeline. Highlights of the Episode: Erik’s early struggles with severe anxiety and OCD, and how these challenges were masked during his youth and early professional life. The pivotal moment at age 33 when a dissociative episode during a drive forced Erik to seek help and begin confronting his mental health issues. How a therapist’s unusual suggestion to try skiing led Erik to discover a passion that was transformative, both mentally and physically. Erik’s transition from a high-pressure finance career in New York to becoming a ski instructor in Snowmass, Colorado, embracing a healthier lifestyle and community. The launch of Erik’s mental health podcast, "From Survivor to Thriver," and his upcoming program, U-MOST (Unlocking Minds on Snow Together), which combines skiing with mental health healing practices. Today’s episode is a profound look at how midlife can be a turning point for profound personal transformation. Erik’s journey from the trading floors of Wall Street to the ski slopes of Colorado is not just about changing careers; it’s about discovering and embracing a new way of life that prioritizes mental health, passion, and community. His upcoming U-MOST program is set to offer others the therapeutic benefits of skiing, showing that it’s never too late to find your true calling and heal. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more inspiring stories like Erik’s to light! Guest Resources Connect with Erik on Instagram Changing the Face of Mental Health - From Survivor to Thriver Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In today’s episode, Jeff Glauser shares his transformative journey from feeling stuck and unfulfilled in his mid-thirties to finding purpose and stability in his forties. Coming from a background in sports journalism, Jeff struggled with imposter syndrome and missed opportunities. Faced with financial hardships and personal setbacks, including a bankruptcy and his marriage ending, Jeff sought a path to reinvention. Through establishing ten daily habits centered on self-improvement and simplicity—such as exercise, meditation, and financial organization—Jeff slowly rebuilt his life. His story unfolds into a tale of self-discovery, resilience, and the power of incremental change, ultimately culminating in a meaningful new career and a fulfilling relationship. Guest Bio After waking up to a panic attack on his 42nd birthday broke, unemployed, and soon to be divorced, Jeff Glauser finally figured out a system to unstick himself. The former journalist, professor, and sales manager committed to a series of simple daily habits that changed his entire trajectory. Now the founder of Brandscribed, he helps other high performers change their brand narrative and create the next chapter of their lives. Turning 40 and Embracing the Bare Minimum In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie sits down with Jeff Glauser, who navigated through a profound midlife transformation. From battling the depths of career dissatisfaction and personal turmoil, including a challenging marriage and financial woes, Jeff shares his journey of rediscovery and how he reshaped his life into one of fulfillment and success. His story is not just about overcoming, but about the strategic and mindful steps he took to rebuild his life from the ground up. Episode Highlights: Jeff discusses his early career aspirations and the repeated setbacks that led to a loss of confidence and the onset of imposter syndrome. He shares the pivotal moment on his 42nd birthday that acted as a wake-up call, leading him to develop a set of daily habits that fundamentally changed his life. Jeff talks about the end of his marriage and how hitting rock bottom was both a challenge and a catalyst for change. The transformational power of simple daily habits that helped Jeff regain control of his life, including meditation, exercise, gratitude and managing finances. Jeff’s journey to finding love again, where a simple first date after his separation turned into a life-changing relationship. His career shift into leveraging his storytelling skills to help others in their professional branding, inspired by his own experiences and challenges. Jeff’s story is a testament to the fact that it’s never too late to change your life and find fulfillment. His methodical approach to establishing daily habits that foster personal and professional growth is not only inspiring but also actionable for anyone feeling stuck in their own life. This episode is a must-listen for anyone facing midlife challenges or seeking to reinvent themselves. It’s a reminder that with the right mindset and tools, transformation is within reach. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more inspiring stories like Jeff’s to listeners who are navigating their own midlife transformations. Guest Resources Jeff’s Offer for Forty Drinks Listeners: Become An Expert Brand Master Class Connect with Jeff on Facebook Building a StoryBrand, by Donald Miller Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Gregory Halpen discusses his transformative journey from a tumultuous youth to finding stability and purpose in midlife. Gregory shares his struggles with substance misuse, the allure and challenges of life in New York City, and a life-altering battle with cancer at age 46, which led him to reevaluate his life, ultimately grounding himself and pursuing his passion for the arts more seriously. Gregory's story is a vivid example of resilience and the power of personal rebirth, offering hope and inspiration to those navigating their own midlife transitions. Join Stephanie and Gregory as they explore the profound impact of life’s trials and the beauty of emerging with a renewed sense of direction and fulfillment. Guest Bio Gregory has 30+ years’ experience as a gay men’s leadership coach, solo theater artist, stage & TV actor, and singer. Gregory teaches solo-theater artists how to get out of their head so they can openly create from the heart. Turning 40, Conquering Cancer and Planting Roots In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie McLaughlin sits down with Gregory Halpen, who shares his transformative midlife journey from a tumultuous youth and early adulthood marked by instability, trauma, and an ungrounded lifestyle. Gregory talks about the internal conflicts he faced, battling imposter syndrome and past traumas, and how these issues hindered his professional and personal growth. He also recounts a life-altering battle with Hodgkin's lymphoma at age 46, which spurred a dramatic shift in his perspective and lifestyle. From battling substance misuse and anxiety to overcoming a cancer diagnosis, Gregory’s narrative is a compelling tale of resilience, renewal, and the power of staying true to one’s passions despite life’s upheavals. He takes us from his time as a tumbleweed to a grounded performer. Episode Highlights: Early Struggles: Gregory discusses his challenging upbringing in a family grappling with addiction and how it shaped his early years. New York, New York: The allure of NYC and how it played a pivotal role in both the challenges and opportunities in his life, including his repeated moves to and from the city. Facing Cancer: Gregory opens up about his diagnosis of Hodgkin's lymphoma at 46, describing it as a major turning point that pushed him to truly confront his life’s direction. Artistic Pursuits: Insights into Gregory’s evolving career in theater and music, highlighting his current projects and how he channels his experiences into his creative work. Personal Growth: How therapy and personal development have helped him navigate through anxiety, build healthier relationships, and foster a more grounded existence. Gregory's story is a testament to resilience, illustrating how therapy, self-discovery, and a grounded approach led to personal and professional fulfillment. It is a vivid reminder that personal rebirth is possible, and sometimes, the most profound growth happens when we find ourselves rooted in our true passions. This episode offers insights and inspiration for those facing their own midlife transitions and seeking a path to a more intentional, grounded life. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the podcast. Your feedback not only helps us grow but also inspires us to bring more inspiring stories like Gregory’s to you. Guest Resources Connect with Gregory on Facebook Connect with Gregory on Instagram Connect with Gregory on TikTok Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
When she was 31, Laura Ballet met a man 11 years her junior that she would spend the next decade with. He acted mature for his age and she acted a little young, so they met in the middle on many things. The relationship was mostly wonderful, but she put blinders on to avoid the things she felt were missing. However, once she started asking herself the hard questions, she couldn’t deny that something important was missing for her. She chose to take a leap of faith and listen to the little voices calling to her, that she could feel nudging her toward a different future. Guest Bio As a Global Ambassador for Life Transformational Empowerment and Human Awareness, Laura’s skill set, gathered wisdom, and personal discipline to advance human potential is evident in her creative work. The care, consideration, and genuine thoughtfulness of supporting and exploring an empowered life with both personal and professional individuals, is an impactful and life-advancing experience for her clients, attendees, and listeners around the globe. Co-Creating with individuals who are willing to grow past their present Mindset, repeated negative patterns, and outdated habits, are in for a 360 view on how to create and sustain happiness and well-being. Laura is a sought- after Coaching expert in the field of Neuro-Energy. A self-aware environment that allows us to move into the “Power Seat of Choice.” This awareness positions us into the realm of Empowerment, and here is where unlimited potential gains accountability to enact change. You will discover how we choose to think about thought, and the energetic frequency attached to that thought, sets up the way we experience life. The J3=E Formula activates your ability and potential to dissolve past challenges, and to Reframe your mindset, becoming skilled at hacking doubt, and in partnership with expanding creativity. There are empowering and inspirational thought leaders around the world consistently interviewing Laura for magazine articles, Podcasts, speaking engagements and creative collaboration. If you are willing to advance your present condition, state of mind, biology/cellular well-being, and your spiritual starting point, Laura’s revolutionary book, The Science of Empowerment, based on Mindset advancement, will fundamentally change everything. Do not stay connected to the past and unnecessary ways of moving through your days. We are here to evolve in every way possible! Do not let this life pass through you with your potential un-awakened. Do not glance at the Power…Become the Power… Turning 40 and Waking From the Fairy Tale In this heartwarming episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie sits down with Laura Ballet, who shares her poignant journey through the complexities of love, self-discovery, and personal evolution that unfolded in her 30s and 40s. After spending a decade with a man 11 years her junior, Laura felt a calling from within that this relationship wasn’t enough for her. She clearly remembers the day she saw him and thought, “I now realize that you are here to teach me what it is I don’t want.” This led to a leap of faith and a period of time where she focused on her relationship with herself. Ultimately, she found that everything she dreamed of was on the other side of that decision. Laura's story is a testament to the power of listening to one’s inner voice and the beautiful possibilities that arise when we dare to follow it. Highlights: Laura's early life and the impact of her family’s generational patterns on her personal growth. Her transformative relationship in her 30s with a younger man, which while fulfilling on many levels, ultimately taught her more about what she didn't want than what she did. The pivotal moments of self-realization and the decision to prioritize her own happiness and growth, leading to the end of her long-term relationship. Laura’s period of self-discovery where she focused on personal passions and self-love, setting the stage for attracting a more aligned partnership. The serendipitous meeting with her now-husband, a French restaurateur, and how their relationship blossomed into a deep, meaningful connection. Laura's role as a stepmother and the emotional decisions surrounding family and motherhood. Laura’s story is a powerful reminder of the beauty and strength found in choosing oneself and the magic that unfolds when we align with our true desires. Her story is not just about the relationships with the men in her life but also her relationship with herself, which she nurtured and honored through periods of significant change. This episode is a must-listen for anyone standing at the crossroads of a major life decision, offering both inspiration and courage to choose the path that truly feels right. Don't forget to rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast if you enjoyed this episode and found Laura's story as uplifting as we did. Guest Resources Get Laura’s Book: The Science of Empowerment Connect with Laura on Facebook Connect with Laura on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
As a former "fat kid," Lauren Herskovic had deep seated insecurities that led her to choose professional roles that didn’t give her what she needed because she didn’t think she deserved it. She spent seven years as the COO of a startup where the founders made her feel like she was good at her job and dangled the carrot of the “big payoff,” but it came with severely compromised boundaries. Ultimately, she found her way from soul-sucking burnout to success and authenticity in the real estate industry. Lauren’s story is a powerful testament to personal and professional growth that can inspire anyone facing their own transitions around the age of forty. Guest Bio What do you get when you combine a teacher, a comedian and a COO? Either the start of a really bad joke or an attentive, knowledgeable, detail-oriented, and entertaining real estate agent. In this case, we’ve got the latter. Lauren Herskovic, founding member of Moda Group at Compass specializes in helping first time homebuyers find their place in Chicago. Lauren grew up in suburban Detroit and now lives in Chicago. She got a BA in English and Secondary Education from the University of Michigan (Go Blue!). She then served as Editor in Chief for an online women’s magazine in NYC before working as COO for a consulting company based in Chicago, taking the company from a 3-person operation to a team of 100+ with offices in the US and China. If you think that sounds like something that would burn someone out, you'd be right! So, burnt to a crisp in the latter half of her 30's, Lauren decided to follow her heart and make the leap into Real Estate. And she hasn't looked back since. In her free time (which is limited these days, with this active market!) she eats her way through Chicago, binge-watches Bravo with her Toy Poodle, Harvey, and takes an obscene amount of pictures of said food and said poodle. Turning 40 and Kicking the Soul Sucking Job to the Curb In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie McLaughlin sits down with Lauren Herskovic, who navigated through significant life changes before her 40th birthday. Lauren shares her journey from grappling with self-doubt rooted in childhood to transforming into a confident real estate agent and finding love in a healthy relationship. Lauren paints a vivid picture of the ups and downs of personal growth, the importance of vulnerability, and the ongoing quest for self-acceptance. Her story is a testament to the power of self-discovery and resilience through the midlife transition, offering listeners a candid look into the personal and professional growth that can occur during this pivotal time. Episode Highlights: Career Shifts : Lauren discusses her transition from feeling undervalued as a Chief Operating Officer in a startup to thriving as a real estate agent where she built her brand around her authentic self. Self-Discovery: She reflects on her struggles with body image and how overcoming these helped her gain confidence in her personal and professional life. Relationship Evolution: Lauren opens up about her past relationships and how meeting her current partner at the right time in her life made a significant difference. Setting Boundaries : Learn how Lauren learned to prioritize her needs and set boundaries, especially concerning her time and personal space. The Impact of Therapy : Lauren credits therapy with helping her understand herself better, which was crucial in her journey towards self-acceptance and improvement. Family Dynamics and Personal Growth :She discusses the influence of her family's communication style on her personality and how external perspectives helped her gain insight into herself. With a blend of vulnerability and humor, Lauren's journey through her midlife transition illustrates the challenges and triumphs of redefining oneself in adulthood. Her experiences with career changes, relationship dynamics, and personal growth underscore the universal quest for happiness and fulfillment that resonates with many in their forties. If you found this episode enlightening and inspiring, don't forget to rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more stories like Lauren's to light! Guest Resources Connect with Lauren on Instagram Connect with Lauren on TikTok Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
As Ginny Priem approached 40, she was focused on her career and enjoying the life she had built for herself. Then she met “Chad,” who worked his way into her heart and home with his two kids. A year later she met a friend who presented her with evidence that “Chad” had been seeing someone else the whole time. One of the alleged instances occurred when Ginny knew she was overriding a sense that something was wrong. It was only after getting out of that relationship that she started to ask the hard questions like, how did this happen? Why did I welcome this into my life? That led to uncovering toxic patterns she could trace back to her childhood in a narcissistic family. Guest Bio Ginny Priem is a keynote speaker, #1 bestselling author, host of the popular podcast "Drinking With Gin" and a life coach at the mastery level. Turning 40 and Ditching the Lying, Cheating Narcissist Motivated, successful and career-focused in her mid-thirties, Ginny Priem's life took a dramatic turn when she fell for “Chad” and his two children. Despite her initial reluctance, she embraced the relationship until a shocking revelation from a friend brought her world crashing down. This betrayal forced Ginny to confront not only the immediate pain but also deeper issues stemming from her past, including dealing with a narcissistic family background. Ginny's discovery of Chad's betrayal leads to a painful but empowering journey toward self-discovery, healing, and eventually using her experience to help others as a life coach, author, and motivational speaker. Throughout the interview, Ginny emphasizes learning from one's intuition, the importance of self-love, and reclaiming one's life from narcissistic abuse. Through her story, Ginny delves into the complexities of narcissistic relationships, the importance of listening to our intuition, and the transformative power of facing the truth. Key Takeaways: Self-Discovery is Key : Ginny's journey underscores the importance of self-discovery in healing. Understanding your past and how it influences your present can be a powerful catalyst for growth. Letting Go of Toxicity : Sometimes, you gotta Marie Kondo your relationships. Letting go of toxic connections creates space for healthier, more fulfilling ones to thrive. Embracing Your Purpose : Ginny found her purpose in helping others navigate tough times. Embracing your story and using it to uplift others can be incredibly empowering. Meditation for the Win : Who knew a meditation retreat could be so life-changing? Sometimes, all it takes is a little mindfulness to shift your perspective and set you on a path to healing. Turning Pain into Power : Ginny's journey shows that pain can be a powerful fuel for transformation. Instead of letting it break you, use it to propel yourself forward and create a life you love. Guest Resources Sign up for Ginny’s Free Newsletter Ginny’s books: You're My Favorite I'm My Favorite Connect with Ginny on Facebook Connect with Ginny on Instagram Connect with Ginny on TikTok YouTube www.ginnypriem.com Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Sara Letorneau is a writer, editor, poet and writing coach who will turn 40 later this year. She grew up in a “normal” happy family in a working class suburb in Massachusetts where she was taught that the traditional life milestones would make her “happy:” go to college, get a job, find a boyfriend, get married and have kids. But we all know that it’s not that easy. Sara has made her way through some elements of the midlife Ick, in her job, her friendships and in her romantic relationships. And, while there are some aspects of the Ick she’s still making her way through, she’s got a wildly positive outlook about turning 40 this year. Guest Bio Sara Letourneau is a poet, book editor, and writing coach who lives in Massachusetts. She's the founder and managing editor at Heart of the Story Editorial & Coaching Services, where she works with fiction and nonfiction writers as well as poets to help them develop the skills, knowledge, and confidence they need so they can finish their manuscripts, polish them for publication, and stay focused and motivated as they reach for their writing goals and embrace their creativity. Her debut poetry collection, Wild Gardens, will be published by Kelsay Books in late summer 2024; and her award-winning poetry has been published widely in literary journals, magazines, and anthologies online and in print. Apart from work and writing, Sara believes in caring for one's mental health, practicing gratitude, doing what makes you happy, and taking responsibility for your actions and reactions and no one else's. You can visit her online and read more of her work at her website (heartofthestoryeditorial.com) or on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. Turning 40 and Peeling Back the Layers of the Onion This week, Stephanie delves deep into Sara Letourneau’s journey as she navigates through multiple personal and professional transformations approaching her 40th birthday. Facing the 'Icks' of life, including career shifts, personal growth, and family dynamics, Sara shares her path to discovering and embracing her true self, overcoming challenges through a consistent gratitude practice, spirituality, and resilience. From embarking on a spiritual awakening and embracing a poetry career to understanding complex family relationships and redefining personal milestones, Sara's story offers insights into the universal quest for fulfillment and happiness. Guest Resources Connect with Sara on Facebook Connect with Sara on Instagram Heart of the Story Website Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
David Hankins spent 20 years in the Army working in logistics. He retired at 42 and had to figure out what his next act was going to be. There would be stability to support his family, but he would also chase his dream of becoming a professional writer. Despite David’s midlife transition looking pretty smooth, there has been a lot of uncertainty. In both his search for a civilian job and his efforts to break into publishing, he’s heard a lot of no’s, or gotten no response at all. His approach to that was to provide himself with as many options as possible so that at least a few would work out. Guest Bio David Hankins is the award-winning author of Death and the Taxman and writes from the thriving cornfields of Iowa where he lives with his wife, daughter, and two dragons disguised as cats. David joined the US Army after college and, through some glitch in the bureaucracy, convinced Uncle Sam to fund his wanderlust for twenty years. He has lived in and traveled through much of Europe, central Asia, and the United States. Now that he’s retired from the Army, David devotes his time to his passions of writing, traveling, and finding new ways to pay his mortgage. You can find him at https://davidhankins.com Turning 40 and Leaving the Bureaucracy for Science Fiction In this episode, David Hankins shares his journey from serving in the Army for 20 years, through his transition back to civilian life, to becoming a published author. He talks about his military career, starting with his initial intention to join the military police, leading to his eventual role in logistics and ammunition management. David touches upon his travels, including deployments to Afghanistan and Iraq, and his life-changing decision to retire after 20 years of service. David discusses the challenges and uncertainties he faced while transitioning to civilian life, including his pursuit of a writing career. Inspired by storytelling sessions with his daughter, David began writing short stories, leading to winning the Writers of the Future contest. He also shares insights into his writing process, motivations, and his upcoming self-published novel 'Death and the Taxman'. Throughout the episode, David emphasizes the importance that networking, planning, and maintaining a positive outlook had during his midlife transition. Guest Resources Order Death and the Taxman here! Connect with David on Facebook Connect with David on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Allison Doss has a multi-faceted midlife transition that took her through several harrowing phases. She moved to the “big city” after high school and was quickly recruited to become a stripper. She went from stripper to high-priced escort to homeless and drug addicted, prostituting to pay for her fix. At 40 she got into recovery but quickly replaced her pursuit of drugs with the pursuit of a man, who she ultimately married. That should be enough lessons for one person, but her husband came out to her as trans, which sent Allison into a relapse before she recommitted to recovery and to healing. Guest Bio For Allison Doss, what started as the life of a party girl in her 20s, ended as a drug addicted alcoholic prostitute at the age of 40. God‘s gift of desperation came in the form of another drug addict, who jumped her and cut her face and instilled fear that she knew existed. She began the journey to recovery at 40. She met a man, fell in love and got married. And just when she thought that she had created a life that was predictable and stable, her husband confessed to her that he thought he may be transgender. Nothing rocked Allison to her core like the love of her life not meeting the expectations for the marriage she had planned for them. Her story is that of transformation of surrender and self discovery. She found freedom in letting go of control of others and allowing them to walk their own path without her interference. Turning 40 and Going from the Streets to Safety to Shock and Awe In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie talks to Allison Doss, who moved from a farm in Louisiana to Washington DC when she was 17. She was recruited to be a stripper, which she thought was quite glamorous and made her a lot of money. That career introduced her to a party lifestyle and she eventually evolved into a high-priced escort, flying around the world on private jets. But the party didn’t last forever. She didn’t realize that she had slipped into addiction and, by the time she was 35, she was homeless, into heavy drugs, and prostituting herself to pay for them. Nobody knew where she was and she didn’t want to be found. Allison is honest about the turning points in her life, including losing custody of her children, living on the streets, and a violent encounter that eventually led her to seek recovery at the age of 40. When she entered recovery she met her “new drug of choice” - a man she would pursue vigorously and who would ultimately become her husband. She reflects on the process of making amends, reconnecting with her children, and the challenges she faced when her husband came out as transgender. This revelation sent Allison into a relapse, which she would blame on her husband. Recovery and healing led her to a deeper understanding of herself and the concept of control. This is the story of how she found her way back and healed her relationships, most importantly the ones with herself and her children and the lessons learned about life, expectations, and the release of control. “I thought there was something wrong with me,” Allison said. “So I went on this journey to dissect the fabric of my own cloth to discover what's wrong with me. And, of course, there was nothing wrong with me.” Guest Resources Connect with Allison on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Karl Beckstrand was exposed to gay sex at age 8 by a male peer. Because of that experience at such a tender age, Karl developed a dysfunctional relationship with sex. He became hypersexual from that first encounter at age 8 until he was about 40, at which point he went to the other extreme and became a recluse for a decade. Here, he tells the story of how he learned to get his emotional needs met in a healthy way. Guest Bio College media instructor Karl W. Beckstrand is the best-selling author/illustrator of twenty-seven multicultural/multilingual books (60 e-books—reviews by Publisher’s Weekly, Kirkus, The Horn Book, and School Library Journal). Raised in San Jose, California, he has lived abroad, earned a B.A. in journalism, an M.A. in international relations and conflict resolution, and a broadcast & film certificate. His western novel, To Swallow the Earth, won a 2016 International Book Award. Beckstrand loves volleyball and singing (in rock bands or choirs). His Y.A. stories, e-book mysteries, immigrant biographies, self-help, Spanish/bilingual books, and STEM books feature diverse characters—and usually end with a twist. See: Amazon, Apple/iBooks, Baker & Taylor, Barnes & Noble, Follett, Ingram, Walmart, Target, and PremioBooks.com Turning 40 and Embracing Intimacy Over Sex In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, host Stephanie McLaughlin talks to Karl Beckstrand, who reflects on his early experiences with hypersexuality and his attempts to suppress his attraction to men. He discusses the negative impact this had on his relationships and his decision to become a recluse for 10 years. Karl eventually realized that he needs emotional connection rather than sexual encounters to fulfill his needs. He opens up about his deep and lasting friendships with men, which he describes as "bromances." Karl challenges some of the societal norms in the gay community and emphasizes the importance of meeting emotional needs in relationships. This episode offers a unique perspective on relationships and personal growth in midlife. Highlights: Karl shares his early exposure to sex by a male peer and how it led him to act hypersexually along with his attempts to suppress his attraction to men. He discusses the negative impact of his out-of-control behavior on his relationships and his decision to become a recluse for 10 years. Karl realizes that he needs emotional connection rather than sexual encounters to fulfill his needs. He opens up about his deep and lasting friendships with men, which he describes as "bromances." Karl challenges societal norms and emphasizes the importance of meeting emotional needs in relationships. If you enjoyed this episode, I’d be honored if you would rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast. Guest Resources Connect with Karl on Facebook Connect with Karl on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Google Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Today, Philip Blackett reflects on his upbringing in the South, growing up with a single mother, and the pivotal roles his grandparents played in shaping his values. As he navigates midlife, Philip reveals how his faith has become his core anchor following the deaths of his grandparents. He shares the challenges of running a business that closed during the pandemic and how this impacted his identity. The conversation explores the complexities of being a recovering people-pleaser, the lessons learned from his failures, and the quest for deeper connections. Philip emphasizes the role of faith, perseverance, and perspective in overcoming obstacles and building a meaningful life. Guest Bio Philip Blackett is an author, consultant and entrepreneur who previously has worked with FedEx, Goldman Sachs, Bank of America and Chick-Fil-A. He got his Masters of Divinity degree from The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, his MBA from Harvard Business School and his Bachelor’s Degree majoring in Political Science and Economics from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. Turning 40 and Weathering the Storms of Loss In this episode, Philip Blackett joins Stephanie to share his journey through midlife transformation as he approaches his 40th birthday. With candor and vulnerability, Philip reflects on how his upbringing, faith, and personal losses have shaped his values and priorities. From grappling with the identity challenges of closing a business to finding strength in his faith and family, Philip's story is a reminder of the resilience and courage it takes to embrace life’s transitions. Episode Highlights: The Power of Legacy: Philip's reflections on wanting to be a present and protective father and husband, drawing inspiration from his grandfather's example. Faith as a Lifelong Anchor: How losing loved ones led Philip to shift his sense of self-worth from external validation to a deep reliance on faith. Navigating Major Transitions: The emotional and practical challenges of closing a business during the pandemic and relocating his family to start anew. Embracing Vulnerability: How sharing failures and struggles can create deeper, more meaningful connections with others. Lessons in Resilience: Understanding that life’s detours, setbacks, and endings are part of a greater process leading to growth and renewal. The Middle Space: Stephanie and Philip discuss the "gray area" of transitions—navigating life between endings and new beginnings. Bravery in Connection: Why building trust and relationships requires courage and perseverance, even after setbacks. Resources Mentioned: Books: Transitions by William Bridges Today, Philip Blackett opens up about the highs and lows of navigating midlife. From the emotional toll of business closure to finding a renewed sense of purpose through his faith, Philip’s reflections are both grounding and inspiring. His story encourages listeners to embrace life’s transitions, lean on their inner strength, and focus on the legacy they want to leave behind. Whether you’re in the middle of your own “gray space” or simply seeking motivation, this episode is full of wisdom and hope. Guest Resources Connect with Philip on Facebook Connect with Philip on Instagram Connect with Philip on TikTok Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
After 115 episodes, Forty Drinks is relaunching as The Big Four Oh: The Podcast About Turning 40. The podcast maintains the same mission and focus, but will move forward under a new name with the goal of reaching a wider audience with the message of transition at midlife. This podcast is about transitions, and specifically the ones that we go through sometime around age 40, those internal shifts that we make, where we start to see and interact with the world differently. I will continue to bring you stories of transition, of transformation, of stepping into power and wisdom and purpose and fulfillment. I will continue to discern the commonalities among these individual transitions. I will continue to develop a framework for identifying when you've entered your transitional phase and how to make your way through it without making as much of a mess of it as I did. And I will work to uncover the keys to doing just that. Welcome to The Big Four Oh. Guest Bio Stephanie McLaughlin is a marketer and podcaster who is captivated about the transition many of us go through around age 40. Stephanie celebrated her 40th birthday by having 40 drinks with 40 people in 40 different places. Each drink had some thematic connection to her friend or their relationship. What began as a ridiculous way to celebrate the milestone birthday ultimately revealed itself as a powerful, soul-searching journey that changed her life profoundly. This was the dawn of her interest in the shift so Announcement: Forty Drinks is now The Big Four Oh Guest Resources The Big Four Oh website The Big Four Oh on Instagram The Big Four Oh on Facebook Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this episode, Stephanie talks to Marc Scheff about the midlife transitions experienced around the age of 40. They discuss Mark’s journey, including incidents that led him to take up jiu jitsu, his shifting dreams, and his struggles with toxic work environments. The conversation highlights the importance of introspection, updating old dreams, listening to inner voices, and having the courage to start anew. They also explore the challenges of people-pleasing, resistance to change, and the process of finding joy and fulfillment in midlife. Guest Bio Marc Scheff is a visionary coach dedicated to guiding mid-life professionals on a profound inner journey. With his expertise, individuals break through barriers, transcending self-limiting beliefs to unlock the full spectrum of their capabilities. Marc's transformative coaching goes beyond the visual arts, resonating with a diverse array of creative minds, empowering them to architect their own narrative and flourish in their professional endeavors. He has won awards for his painting, photography, and coaching and can be found at https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcscheff/ Turning 40 and Realizing I Am the Boss of Me Marc Scheff joins Stephanie to share his midlife transformation, a journey that includes personal growth, family grounding, and unexpected turns like picking up Jiu-Jitsu at age 41. Marc’s story dives deep into the cyclical nature of life, the power of self-awareness, and the unexpected ways our paths reveal themselves when we’re open to change. At 35, Marc noticed small shifts—hangovers with just one drink, a desire for deeper meaning, and growing roots in New York with his wife and child. By midlife, he faced challenges that forced him to reimagine his career, joy, and purpose. From running an arts retreat to coaching others through transformation, Marc’s journey highlights the importance of listening to intuition, trying new things, and honoring evolving dreams. Highlights: Marc’s insight into life as a series of 7-year cycles of growth and change. The pivotal shift at 35: the emergence of roots, responsibility, and self-reflection. His journey from professional art to founding an arts retreat center—and how it unexpectedly fell apart. How Jiu-Jitsu at 41 taught Marc to leave his ego at the door and embrace starting as a beginner. The “formula for change”: dissatisfaction, vision, and small first steps. The realization that evolving dreams are just as valid as old ones. Marc’s transition to a career in coaching, helping others design and activate their next chapter. Marc’s transformation demonstrates the power of midlife reflection. From his days as an artist to embracing coaching, Marc learned that evolving goals and dreams are not failures—they’re part of the journey. His story shows that midlife offers a chance to reorient, reflect, and reignite our purpose. Tune in for a conversation about resilience, self-discovery, and the courage to start anew, whether it’s a new hobby, career, or way of thinking. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and review the podcast to support us and hear more inspiring midlife transformations! Guest Resources Marc’s Unleash Creativity Club Connect with Marc on Facebook Connect with Marc on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Gabby Gilliam shares her experience of navigating through multiple losses, career transitions, moves, and personal growth from her early 30s to her early 40s. She talks about her late start in becoming a parent, the numerous moves her family made, and the struggles she encountered in finding a job after relocating. Gabby delves into the profound impact of her father's rapid decline and passing, followed by the subsequent losses of other close family members within a short span. Despite these challenges, Gabby finds solace in her writing, support from her sisters, and the drive to show her son resilience. She also discusses the perspective shifts that these experiences brought into her life, emphasizing the importance of focusing on joy over adhering to societal 'shoulds.' Guest Bio Gabby Gilliam is a writer, a teacher, and a mom. She lives in the DC metro area with her husband and son. She is a founding member of the Old Scratch Short Form Collective. Her first chapbook, No Ocean Spit Me Out, was released in June 2024 from Old Scratch Press. Her novella duology, Drumming for the Dead: Trouble in Tomsk and Drumming for the Dead: Chasing a Cure were released from Black Hare Press. Her poetry and fiction has appeared online and in multiple anthologies. Turning 40 and Finding Purpose in Poetry After Loss Gabby Gilliam talks about how she navigated a whirlwind of grief, including the loss of her father and several other loved ones in a short time, and rediscovering her identity through writing and teaching. Gabby’s story reminds us of the strength we can find amidst profound challenges. She opens up about her 40s arriving with unexpected hardships but also with clarity and purpose, reshaping how she approaches life, work, and joy. Episode Highlights: Gabby's early 30s were shaped by frequent moves, career shifts, and adjusting to motherhood. The profound impact of losing her father and how it marked her 40th birthday. Coping with compounded losses in a short time, including family members and close friends. Writing as a lifeline: Gabby’s use of poetry and storytelling to process grief and find healing. How loss shifted Gabby’s perspective on rules, priorities, and the “shoulds” in life. Her commitment to focusing on joy and meaningful experiences over perfection. In this candid conversation, Gabby reflects on the transformative period of her 30s and early 40s, shaped by loss, creativity, and resilience. Her story is a testament to the power of finding clarity through adversity, redefining personal priorities, and embracing joy amidst life's unpredictability. Gabby's journey is sure to inspire anyone navigating their own transitions and challenges. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and review the podcast to support more inspiring conversations like this one! Guest Resources Gabby’s Author Website Connect with Gabby on Facebook Connect with Gabby on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie interviews Meredith and Craig Bennett, her first dual interview guests, about their shared midlife transition. The couple discusses their background, how perfectionism and societal expectations shaped their early lives, and how a pivotal moment led them to make significant life changes during the pandemic. They delve into their journey of personal growth, self-discovery, and the deep work they've done to redefine their identities and values, both as individuals and as a couple. Their story highlights the power of intuition, vulnerability, and the importance of working on oneself as well as one's relationship. Now, as marriage coaches, they help others navigate similar transitions, focusing on relationships and personal fulfillment. Guest Bio We are Meredith & Craig. We left the 9-to-5 corporate grind right around our 40th birthdays, to become full time entrepreneurs...and had no idea what we were doing. We knew we were unhappy and unfulfilled in our corporate careers and that life is just too short for that. So we made a massive change, left our corporate careers without a plan. And promptly fell on our faces. We picked ourselves up, found our purpose and along the way created a rock solid marriage... that we believe is the cheat code for leveling up all areas of life. We love helping others get that part of their lives exactly where they’ve always wanted it, so they can go out and crush the rest of their lives too. Turning 40 and Ejecting From the Default Life - Together Meredith and Craig Bennett’s journey is one of transformation, courage, and deep connection. Facing a midlife turning point together, they left behind stable corporate careers, ventured into personal growth, and emerged as partners in life and business. Their story is about finding themselves, rebuilding their identities, and embracing vulnerability—all while strengthening their marriage. Episode Highlights: Breaking free from the “default life”: Meredith and Craig shared how they challenged societal expectations, left secure corporate jobs, and explored paths more aligned with their values and dreams. Facing fears head-on: Both admitted to grappling with perfectionism, fear of failure, and external validation, but they worked to unlearn limiting beliefs. Reinvention through personal growth: A six-month journey of self-discovery led to insights about their identities, strengths, and life aspirations, helping them transition into marriage coaching. Navigating transitions as a team: They highlighted the power of shared growth, common language, and accountability in creating a strong, resilient partnership. Lessons in vulnerability and connection: From journaling practices to unlearning negative self-talk, they shared tools and insights that strengthened both their individual selves and their relationship. Becoming coaches: Inspired by their transformative journey and feedback from peers, they now help others build stronger relationships and navigate personal growth. Embracing their next big chapter: Writing a book and continuing their growth journey is their focus, showcasing the importance of lifelong learning and entrepreneurship. Meredith and Craig Bennett share how midlife transitions reshaped their lives and marriage. Their journey reveals the power of self-discovery, the importance of shared growth, and the courage it takes to rewrite your story. From breaking free of societal norms to navigating challenges together, they model what’s possible when you trust your intuition and prioritize what truly matters. Meredith and Craig’s honesty and insights offer listeners valuable lessons for their own transformations. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and review the podcast. Your support helps us share more stories of midlife transformations! Guest Resources Craig & Meredith’s website, Road of Life Coaching Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Today, Laurie-Ann Murabito shares her midlife transition journey, beginning in her early 30s working in healthcare; meeting and losing her husband Bob to cancer after being married less than a year; and the profound personal growth that followed. She tells us about her experience as a leadership speaker, the challenges she faced, and how a crucial text message redirected her professional path towards helping others craft impactful speeches. Laurie Ann acknowledges the importance of optimism, resilience, and the pivotal moments that led to finding love again with her current husband, Mike. Guest Bio Laurie-Ann Murabito, Speaking & Visibility Coach is a reformed painfully shy gal who works with motivated business owners to leverage speaking opportunities to get credibility, sell out their high-end programs and monetize their authority. She combines her years as an award winning professional speaker, executive leadership coach and having started three successful businesses from the ground up. Besides helping her clients get positioned as the expert in their industry and building a profitable business that aligns with their purpose; she’s the best selling author of Rethink Leadership and Rethink Your Leadership. A few of her clients are Johnson & Johnson, American Cancer Society, Baystate Wealth and Bali Mastermind by Sabrina Philipp. To learn more, visit her website at SpeakAndStandOut.com. Turning 40 and Making it Through the Messy, Muddy Middle Laurie-Ann Murabito shares her journey of love, loss, and reinvention in this episode. Once a healthcare professional, Laurie-Ann faced one of life’s greatest challenges when she became a widow at just 36. Her story doesn’t stop there—as she transformed her life into one filled with purpose and empowerment. From navigating grief to finding love again, and ultimately discovering her true calling as a speaking coach, Laurie-Ann reminds us that life’s toughest chapters can lead to its most fulfilling rewards. Episode Highlights Laurie-Ann’s early career in healthcare and her realization that she wasn’t meant for a traditional corporate structure. The whirlwind romance with her first husband, Bob, and the profound lessons she learned during his illness and passing. How Laurie-Ann channeled optimism and resilience to guide herself and others through one of the hardest periods of her life. Her journey into the world of public speaking and the challenges of navigating this new career path. The moment a serendipitous text message changed her life, leading her to her true passion as a speaking coach for small business owners. Finding love again with her husband, Mike, and the lessons she learned about partnership and self-sufficiency. The metaphor of “going through the mud” and embracing life’s messiness as a path to greater self-discovery and fulfillment. In this heartfelt conversation, Laurie-Ann Murabito opens up about the pivotal moments that shaped her midlife transformation. From navigating loss to discovering her voice and purpose, she shares wisdom on resilience, following life’s breadcrumbs, and learning to embrace the messy middle. Laurie-Ann’s story is a testament to the beauty of reinvention and finding fulfillment on the other side of life’s challenges. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and review the podcast—it helps others find the show and share in these transformative conversations! Guest Resources Free Resource for Forty Drinks Listeners: The Directory of Places to Speak Connect with Laurie-Ann on Facebook Connect with Laurie-Ann on Instagram Find Laurie-Ann on YouTube Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Dr. Mort Orman discusses his personal journey with anger management. Despite being a successful physician, Mort struggled with deep-seated anger issues that began in his college years. Through personal development and significant breakthroughs, Mort discovered the internal filters driving his anger and devised methods to control it. He emphasizes the importance of understanding our unconscious habits and philosophies to achieve better emotional health. Mort's insights provide actionable steps for anyone grappling with anger. Guest Bio Dr. Mort Orman, M.D. is an internal medicine physician and a 40-year anger elimination and stress elimination expert. He has written 23 books on how to eliminate anger and stress without using drugs, relaxation exercises or other traditional management techniques. He is creator of the 10-session Angry No More anger elimination program, the Anger Internal Causes Framework, and The Ultimate Anger Elimination System. Dr. Orman has led more than 100 anger and stress elimination workshops for doctors, nurses, lawyers, business owners, entrepreneurs, other professionals, the clergy, and even the F.B.I. He has also been the official sponsor of National Stress Awareness Month in the U.S. every April since 1992. His newest book is “Dr. Orman’s Life-Changing Anger Cure: Eliminate Unwanted Anger, Without Anger Management, So You Can Be Happier, Healthier, and Don’t End Up Alone.” Turning 40 and Cracking the Code on Anger In this episode, Dr. Mort Orman, a physician with over 50 years of experience, dives into the nuances of anger—how it forms, why it persists, and how we can finally let go of it. Dr. Mort shares his journey from being a hot-headed young adult who had difficulty in relationships to discovering how deeply ingrained habits and unchallenged beliefs fueled his anger. Through his midlife transformation, he unveils the three "filters" that distort our perceptions and lead us into anger, showing how uncovering and questioning these can profoundly change our lives. Episode Highlights: Dr. Mort’s early struggles with anger and how it developed into a habitual response in his relationships and professional life. The transformative conversation with a college professor that shifted his career path and opened his mind to new possibilities. How anger negatively impacts health, relationships, and overall well-being. The three filters that create anger: (1) judging someone’s actions as “bad or wrong,” (2) feeling personally harmed, and (3) blaming the other party as solely responsible. The importance of recognizing that anger comes from within and is often based on distorted perceptions rather than external events. Dr. Mort’s unique “experiment” with marathon running to explore personal development principles and his eventual breakthroughs in overcoming anger and other limiting beliefs. Practical advice on how to cultivate patience and awareness to rewire our responses to anger triggers. Dr. Mort Orman reveals his personal and professional journey in understanding and ultimately conquering anger. Through exploring internal triggers and debunking the common belief that external events are the sole cause of anger, he offers a clear path to lasting change. His practical and thought-provoking insights are a must-listen for anyone seeking to create healthier relationships and improve their mental well-being. Don’t forget to rate, follow, and review if you enjoyed the episode! Guest Resources Dr. Orman's Life-Changing Anger Cure on Amazon Connect with Dr. Orman on Facebook The Best Anger Elimination Method You Can Find Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Fran Caudron opens up about her upbringing in a strict Catholic family, her early marriage to an addict, and the subsequent emotional turmoil. She discusses how her deep dive into different spiritual paths, including evangelical Christianity and a transformative retreat, helped her rediscover hope and strength. Fran also highlights the importance of community, the powerful impact of somatic experiences, and the lifelong process of self-improvement through programs like the 12-step initiative. Fran’s story illustrates the ongoing journey towards inner peace and happiness. Guest Bio Fran Caudron spent a 34 year career as a highly skilled, creative, and motivated master elementary educator in Northern Alberta, Canada; from which she recently retired and continues to work as an adult educator and healer through hypnotherapy. She is humbled and fortunate to have had a wealth of collaborative opportunities working alongside Indigenous elders and community leaders. Open minded and responsive to the impact and influence of culture, experiences and family on student learners, she has a proven success rate at supporting and teaching diverse learners and Indigenous students. Her leadership is based on collegiality, creativity and awareness. With a strong background in teaching Indigenous students and diverse students from high risk environments, her pedagogy aligns with the holism of mind-body-spirit, and how students, parents and the community can teach educators, and together, heal the education system. Fran experienced intense internal spiritual growth through surrendering to the 12 step program of recovery, and furthered her growth with a masters in Religious Education. She is a trained hypnotherapist and in her weekly vlog called “Hopenning” she interviews authors and healers who promote hope and inner spirit healing. Today, Fran thrives by creating an attitude and environment of gratitude, resilience, and forgiveness. She teaches pre-service teachers from Indigenous and other backgrounds through the University of Alberta on-line and next September, in-person and she continues to promote recovery through her work with the 12 steps and by healing the inner child. Turning Forty and 12-Stepping My Way to Happiness Fran Caudron joins Stephanie to share her story of resilience and transformation after leaving a controlling marriage marred by addiction and betrayal. Raised in a traditional Catholic family and influenced by evangelical beliefs, Fran initially felt trapped in a life that didn’t align with her true self. Her story unfolds as she learns to break free from deeply ingrained beliefs, rebuild her identity, and find healing through a weeklong retreat, spiritual exploration, and the strength of community. This episode dives deep into themes of accountability, self-love, and the power of somatic experiences in processing buried emotions. Episode Highlights: Roots of Restriction: Fran’s upbringing in a strict Catholic family and subsequent involvement in evangelical Christianity added layers of control and suppression, especially around the roles of women and the stigma of divorce. Marriage as a “Fix”: In her early twenties, Fran believed marriage and children could “fix” existing relationship issues, a notion that only led to deeper despair. The Breaking Point: At 38, Fran’s discovery of her husband’s infidelity was the final push she needed to seek a new life for herself and her daughters. Healing Through Retreat: A transformative retreat on Vancouver Island introduced Fran to somatic healing, where she learned to process and release her pent-up anger and pain, finding solidarity with others who shared similar emotional struggles. Building a New Life: With the support of a 12-step program, Fran redefined her values and set boundaries that allowed her to grow spiritually and emotionally, despite her husband’s attempts to regain control. Integrating Spirituality: Fran found solace in her Catholic roots while exploring a broader, more personal spirituality that didn’t rely solely on religious dogma, adopting a "take what resonates, leave the rest" approach to her faith. Puzzle Pieces of Self: Fran shares how life’s lessons and experiences are pieces of a puzzle, each adding depth to the picture of our best selves, a theme that resonates with the mission of the Forty Drinks Podcast. Today's episode with Fran is a powerful exploration of how personal crises can lead to profound growth and transformation. Fran’s journey went from a life of restrictive beliefs and a toxic marriage to self-liberation and spiritual growth. Through somatic experiences, supportive communities, and a redefined relationship with her faith, Fran reclaims her life. Her continued commitment to her faith, while also embracing new methods of healing, offers a unique perspective on navigating life's toughest challenges. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, and review "The Forty Drinks Podcast"! Guest Resources Fran’s Hypnotherapy Website Fran’s podcast, the Hopenning Find Fran on Instagram Find Fran on Facebook Name/Title: Fran Caudron - Inspired Healing Hypnotherapy URL: https://inhealtherapy.com/ Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie welcomes Anjel Hartwell to explore her profound spiritual awakening and transformation that began at the age of 38. The conversation explores Anjel's tumultuous upbringing in New Hampshire, her successful career in real estate, and the series of life-altering events that led to her awakening. Anjel shares vivid accounts of supernatural experiences, her journey into creative and healing arts, and the courage it took to leave behind her conditioned life. The episode also delves into the importance of listening to one's inner voice, manifesting positivity, and embracing one's gifts. Anjel's inspiring story demonstrates the power of following your intuition, even when it demands radical life changes. Guest Bio Anjel B Hartwell is an internationally known author, artist & evolutionary alchemist. Honored as a Be The Change “Movement To Watch” Award Winner and one of America’s Premier Experts, she’s appeared multiple times in major media. Creator, Executive Producer & Host of 13X Award Winning & Apple #1 Internationally ranked Wickedly Smart Women Podcast and Top 50 Internationally ranked Leading Visionaries Podcast, author of Be Heard By Millions & Live Your Destiny a #1 New Release in 3 Categories, she's hired to consult with high achieving visionary leaders who are called to be the Vanguard of the Creative Age. Turning 40 and Awakening to Hidden Gifts Welcome to another inspiring episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, where Stephanie sits down with Anjel B. Hartwell, who shares her incredible journey through a midlife transformation that began with a spiritual awakening and led her to leave a successful real estate career to cultivate her intuitive gifts. Diving deep into the challenges and revelations that reshaped Anjel’s midlife, you will hear the profound effect of embracing change and following your inner voice, no matter how outlandish it may seem. Episode Highlights: Anjel discusses her tumultuous childhood and early career in real estate, setting the stage for her dramatic life changes. The pivotal moments that led to her spiritual awakening, including personal crises and a transformative yoga practice. Anjel's experiences with seeing visions and her decision to embrace these new spiritual insights rather than fear them. The impact of her awakening on her personal and professional life, including leaving her real estate career and marriages ("wasbands"). Insights into how Anjel navigated fears and societal expectations to pursue a life aligned with her newfound gifts. The creation of her art gallery and healing center, and how these ventures served as stepping stones in her journey. Anjel's venture into podcasting with "Wickedly Smart Women" and "Leading Visionaries," and her innovative approach to integrating her life's work with her spiritual mission. In this episode, Anjel B. Hartwell teaches us what it means to listen deeply to our inner voice and the courage it takes to follow it, even when it leads away from conventional success towards uncharted territories of personal fulfillment and service. If Anjel's journey resonates with you, don't forget to rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more inspiring stories like this one to you! Guest Resources Anjel’s free gift for Forty Drinks Listeners: : 8 Days of Prosperity Activation Series Wickedly Smart Women Podcast Leading Visionaries Podcast Connect with Anjel on Facebook Connect with Anjel on Instagram Work with Anjel Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Marina Theron-Monnery opens up about her journey from growing up during apartheid in South Africa, through challenging romantic relationships that reflected the toxicity of her childhood home, to the eventual embrace of self-love after an aha moment in the bath. Marina details her escape from an abusive family, the struggles of adjusting to a new country with young children after divorce, and her battles with poverty and depression. A pivotal moment in her early forties led her to introspection, culminating in a deep understanding and acceptance of herself. This journey included journaling, meditation, and adopting new self-expectations, which ultimately guided her to a fulfilling marriage and a strong blended family. Guest Bio Marina Theron-Monnery, is a RTT practitioner, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Coach guiding people to overcome the pains of childhood trauma, abuse, poverty, weight issues, cancer and many more. Her professional expertise through years and many clients is complemented and enhanced by her personal experience with many forms of the same pain, abuse and disease, and overcoming them. Using Rapid Transformational Therapy and coaching, Marina has a tremendously positive energy and an approach with all her clients of “if I could do it, so can you”. She feels called to do this work and thrives on helping people live their full potential every day. With the gift of intuition, Marina helps people see who they want to be, and then she guides them to rehearse that role, until it feels natural. After a life that felt to her as if she was living in a bubble of perpetual failure and not being worthy and good enough, Marina battled with depression and the burning desire to find out why she is here, living this life. Slowly life unraveled and when she hit rock bottom after a cancer diagnosis, the right teachers showed up in her life. Through training from Natalie Ledwell to Mary Morrissey and finally Marisa Peer, Marina found her purpose. Today Marina truly knows success. In love, business, singing, parenting and life. She is in love with life and it radiates to her clients. As an author, speaker and podcast host, Marina’s mess became her message. She lives in gratitude today, as everything she had to overcome, also makes her relatable to a variety of clients. She is a living example of the success of the work she does. Marina believes that every person has the potential to live the life of their dreams. She knows first hand that our mind dictates to our body, and if we can harness our thoughts, we can change our reality. The best part is that she does not just say that, she lives it. Turning 40 and Breaking Free from Childhood Narratives In this episode of the Forty Drinks podcast, Stephanie is joined by Marina Theron-Monnery, a woman with a powerful story of resilience and transformation. Growing up in apartheid-era South Africa, Marina faced challenges early on, including a difficult family dynamic. She moved to Canada, started over as a single mother, and navigated the heartbreak of difficult relationships in addition to poverty and depression. But it wasn’t until she reached her 40s, after a particularly abusive relationship, that she had a life-changing “aha” moment—realizing that she had never learned to love herself. This realization set her on a path of self-discovery, which eventually led her to finding the kind of love she had always wanted. Episode Highlights: Marina’s early life in South Africa : Growing up in a strict religious household during apartheid shaped her sense of justice and personal struggles. Moving to Canada : At 32, Marina left her home country, bringing her two young children to a new life, but soon faced divorce, poverty, and depression. Career transformation : From being an opera singer in South Africa to starting over with no work experience in Canada, Marina rebuilt her career and found strength as a single mother. Love and loss : Her tumultuous romantic life included the sudden death of a partner and later escaping an abusive relationship in her early 40s. The turning point : A profound moment of clarity came when Marina realized she hadn’t been standing up for herself like she did for her children, leading to her journey of self-love. Two years of self-discovery : Marina isolated herself from dating and focused on understanding and appreciating who she really was, which led her to the loving relationship she enjoys today. Finding true love : Marina ultimately found her “movie-like” marriage after doing the inner work necessary to love herself first. In this episode, Marina’s story highlights the importance of self-love, resilience, and the journey to finding peace and fulfillment in midlife. Her transformation from a life of hardship to one of love and contentment is an inspiring reminder that it’s never too late to rewrite your story. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks podcast! Guest Resources Marina’s website Connect with Marina on Facebook Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In the first episode of season six of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie McLaughlin delves into the concept of the 'Ick,' a common feeling of discomfort experienced around the age of 40. Unlike the stereotypical midlife crisis, the Ick is characterized by a low-grade unease and a desire for change. Stephanie shares insights from her guests, highlighting seven recurring themes: self-discovery and authenticity, purpose and meaning, personal growth, relationships, health and well-being, career changes, and intuition. This episode explores how these themes mark the transformative journeys individuals undergo during midlife, encouraging listeners to recognize this phase as an opportunity for growth, self-reinvention, and a more fulfilling life. The Difference Between a Midlife Crisis and The Ick In the season six opener, Stephanie dives deep into the midlife transition, or the "Ick" as she affectionately calls it. She shares insights from her own journey and the collective wisdom of over a hundred interviews, aiming to help listeners navigate this transformative period with grace and understanding. She illuminates how to know whether what you’re feeling is an isolated issue or part of the larger midlife transition. She leaves listeners with three takeaways about this period of transition. Whether you're approaching 40, just past it, or curious about this significant life phase, this episode offers valuable perspectives on embracing change and finding fulfillment. Episode Highlights: Understanding the Ick: Stephanie defines the "Ick" as a subtle, often vague feeling of discomfort that signals a misalignment in one’s life, typically occurring around midlife. Themes from Interviews: The episode outlines seven major themes from past guest interviews, including self-discovery, purpose, personal growth, relationships, health, career changes, and intuition. How to diagnose whether what you’re feeling is an isolated issue or part of the larger transition at midlife. Three takeaways for listeners facing their own Ick: This midlife transition is a normal and natural phase of life. These transitions can be triggered by significant life events or realizations. Midlife is an opportunity for growth, reinvention, and creating a more authentic and fulfilling life. Stephanie unpacks the complexities of the midlife transition, offering a beacon of understanding and support for anyone experiencing the "Ick." Through engaging stories she provides a roadmap for personal growth and fulfillment during this pivotal life stage. Remember, if you found value in this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone navigating their own midlife journey. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue producing impactful content. 01:07 Understanding the Midlife Ick 01:29 Defining the Ick 04:40 Common Themes of the Midlife Ick 04:56 Self Discovery and Authenticity 06:08 Purpose and Meaning 07:03 Personal Growth and Self Discovery 08:45 Impact on Relationships 09:50 Health and Well-being 10:18 Lifestyle Changes for Wellbeing 10:49 Career Changes in Midlife 11:40 Trusting Your Intuition 13:14 Identifying Midlife Transition Signs 16:47 Navigating Midlife Transitions 18:16 Embracing Midlife Opportunities 18:47 Conclusion and Next Steps Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts YouTube Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this compelling episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie sits down with Karen McMahon to delve into the challenges she faced in her marriage and how they transformed her into a stronger, more self-aware individual. Karen discusses her turbulent childhood in an emotionally volatile household, her string of unfulfilling relationships, and the tumultuous marriage that mirrored her parents' dysfunctions. Despite her incredible external successes, Karen's personal relationships were fraught with difficulties, culminating in a rocky marriage characterized by rage and financial instability. She candidly shares her journey through therapy, the decision to divorce, and the harrowing three-and-a-half-year process living with her abusive ex-husband. Guest Bio Karen McMahon is a High Conflict Divorce Strategist, Certified Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into a powerful and unexpected new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, and co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility” and creator of JBD’s exclusive Divorce 101: Strategic Blueprint for High Conflict Divorce Program. Turning 40 and Surviving a High-Conflict Divorce In this episode, Stephanie sits down with Karen McMahon, a divorce coach who transformed her high-conflict divorce experience into a beacon of hope for others navigating similar challenges. Karen shares her journey from a high achieving professional with a troubled personal life to finding her true calling helping others through their darkest times. Her story is not just about overcoming, but about using her past to fuel a future filled with purpose and service. Key Highlights: Early Struggles and Realizations: Karen discusses her early success in her professional life contrasted with repeated failures in intimate relationships, stemming from the challenging dynamics in her family of origin. Marriage and Its Challenges: She opens up about her marriage, which seemed promising at first but was riddled with financial troubles and emotional disconnect thanks to a spouse on the narcissism spectrum, leading to her realization of needing change. Therapy and Self Discovery: Karen's turning point came through therapy, where she began to understand the source and depth of her issues and started the hard work of healing and self improvement. Divorce and Its Aftermath: The process of her divorce was long and fraught with conflict, but it was also a period of intense personal growth and transformation. Building a New Life: Post-divorce, Karen found her calling as a divorce coach, helping others navigate their paths through and beyond divorce. Karen’s journey through personal turmoil and professional success is a wonderful example of making lemonade with lemons. Her story is not just one of survival, but of thriving by turning her deepest pain into a profound purpose. This episode is a must listen for anyone facing personal challenges or interested in how personal adversity can lead to a fulfilling and impactful career. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more inspiring stories like Karen’s to you! Guest Resources Karen’s gracious offer for Forty Drinks Listeners Reclaim Your Mind: Evict Your Spouse from Your Mental Space Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast 5 Day Boundary Bootcamp Divorce 101 Connect with Karen on Facebook Connect with Karen on TikTok Free Consultation with a Divorce Coach Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
In this episode, Dhruv Sethi shares his experiences of immigrating from India to Sweden at age six and then moving to London in his 20s. He talks about the cultural and familial expectations of the life path he was supposed to follow, which led to his tumultuous first marriage, the subsequent challenging divorce, and its profound effect on his trust of women and in relationships. As a result, Dhruv embarked on a journey of introspection in his late 30s, eventually turning to meditation, yoga, and self-healing to open his heart and embrace a new chapter in his life. Guest Bio Dhruv Sethi: Midlife has profoundly reshaped me. After my turbulent first marriage, I approach London's dating scene with newfound understanding and resilience. Previously swayed by Redpill ideologies, a pivotal breakup transformed my outlook. Now, I cherish and celebrate feminine energy. My spirituality has deepened too. Viewing life as a battleground between good and evil, I'm driven to share insights through my podcast, "Midlife Masculine." Through it all, I've learned to value love, understanding, and empathy more than ever. Let's journey together through life's twists and turns, liberated from the ordinary. Turning 40 and Overcoming Cultural Expectations In this enlightening episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, host Stephanie sits down with Dhruv Sethi, the voice behind the Midlife Masculine Podcast. Dhruv shares his transformative journey through the trials of a tumultuous marriage and messy divorce, the personal growth and self-discovery that reshaped his approach to life and how it changed his relationships in his forties. From the bustling streets of London, Dhruv delves into the cultural pressures and expectations of his early life, the pivotal moments that led to his midlife awakening, and how he's using his experiences to guide other men through similar transitions. Key Highlights: Dhruv's early life transition from India to Sweden and eventually to London, highlighting the cultural and personal shifts that shaped his early decisions. The breakdown of his first marriage and the profound impact it had on his views towards women, relationships and personal growth. Dhruv's journey into self-awareness, which began with meditation and expanded into a broader exploration of spirituality and personal development. The creation of the Midlife Masculine Podcast, a platform for men navigating midlife transitions, emphasizing growth, understanding, and community. Dhruv's insights on the importance of listening, the power of meditation, and embracing a non-judgmental approach towards oneself and others. His current outlook on relationships and his hopes for the future, including his desire to form a family grounded in the lessons he has learned. Dhruv Sethi’s journey through cultural expectations, personal upheavals, and profound self-discovery highlights the universal themes of resilience and renewal. Dhruv's commitment to helping others navigate their midlife challenges through his podcast adds a layer of community and support that enriches his message. This episode is a must-listen for anyone facing their own transitions or interested in the deeper shifts that often come with midlife. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the Forty Drinks Podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more inspiring stories like Dhruv's to light. Guest Resources Connect with Dhruv on Instagram Midlife Masculine Podcast "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe YouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Socialize: Instagram Facebook Subscribe to the email digest Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Today, Stephanie chats with Yvonne Marchese, host of the Late Bloomer Living podcast, about her journey of self-discovery and transition at midlife. Yvonne shares her story, from pursuing her early dreams of a theater career in New York until she realized at 35 that it just didn’t feel as fun as it used to. She talks about her struggles, including an identity crisis, career shifts, and bouts of depression. By adopting small habits, like waking up an hour earlier, Yvonne managed to transform her life, leading to her successful career in photography and the creation of her podcast. The conversation highlights the importance of playfulness and trusting oneself during midlife transitions. Guest Bio Yvonne Marchese is the host of the Late Bloomer Living Podcast, and author of In Full Bloom: A Guide to Aging Playfully. She is a roller skating, paddle boarding “Age Agitator” who believes that midlife is filled with possibility, that it’s never too late to pursue a dream and that the stories we tell ourselves have tremendous power in our lives. She is on a mission to help people rethink and redefine what’s possible as we age. She is also the President of the Age Agitators Club for women. Turning Forty and Rediscovering JOY Through Play Today, Stephanie sits down with Yvonne Marchese, a vibrant storyteller who shares her journey through the tumultuous waves of midlife. Yvonne pursued a stage career in the theater in New York City for many years, but around age 35 she realized it just wasn't as much fun anymore. Her journey to find another fulfilling career, and her path to motherhood, took her from her mid-30s into her 40s. By the time she was in her mid-40s, she was a frazzled mom, at least a little depressed, and working to get a small business off the ground. But changing just one thing – strangely, getting up an hour earlier each day – shifted many other things in her life for the better. Her compelling narrative navigates through identity crises, career changes, and the quest for personal fulfillment. Episode Highlights: Yvonne's early dreams of acting and how a childhood trip to New York set the stage for her future. The challenges of maintaining a marriage with differing lifestyles and the eventual pursuit of her true passion in New York. The pivotal moment of realizing her marriage was a misstep and her brave decision to move to New York to chase her acting dreams. Transitioning from acting to photography as Yvonne sought a more stable and fulfilling lifestyle while starting a family. The profound impact of hitting the "snooze button" on life and how a simple change in morning routine catalyzed a significant transformation in her personal and professional life. Yvonne's venture into podcasting, driven by a desire to share stories and inspire others navigating midlife transitions. Yvonne illustrates the unpredictable yet rewarding journey of reinvention that many of us encounter around our 40s. Her story is not just about changing careers but also about rediscovering oneself and finding joy in new beginnings. Whether it's acting, photography, or podcasting, Yvonne embraces each phase of her life with enthusiasm and learns to prioritize her happiness and wellbeing. This episode is a powerful reminder that midlife is not a crisis but an opportunity for growth and new adventures. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating, following, and reviewing the Forty Drinks Podcast. Your feedback helps us grow and continue bringing inspiring stories like Yvonne's to light! Guest Resources Late Bloomer Living Yvonne Marchese Photography Yvonne’s book: In Full Bloom: A Guide to Aging Playfully Special Offer for Forty Drinks Listeners: 5 Steps to your Midlife Reboot Connect with Yvonne on LinkedIn Connect with Yvonne on YouTube Connect with Yvonne on Facebook Connect with Yvonne on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
Today, Lauren Schenck shares her brave journey from being trapped in a toxic, narcissistic marriage to rebuilding her life and discovering self-love in her 40s. Lauren recounts the challenges she faced as a solo parent, navigating through divorce while 3,000 miles away from family and friends. Her story takes us through the hurdles of identifying narcissistic abuse, reclaiming passions like yoga and nutrition, and finding herself again after enduring years of emotional turmoil. This episode is a powerful reminder of the importance of self-care, inner strength, and the transformative power of making conscious, healing choices. Guest Bio Lauren Schenck is a Holistic Wellness Coach, Yoga Teacher, Crystal Healer, Sound Healer, and Meditation enthusiast. She believes in a holistic approach to life and health and strives to help others find their ideal balance for mind, body, and spirit. After her divorce in 2014 and with 2 small children to raise on her own, she turned to crystals, nutrition, yoga, and mindfulness practices to not only rebuild her life but also rebuild herself into the whole, happy, and healthy woman, mom, NEW WIFE, and teacher that she is today. Nothing makes her happier than helping others do the same. Turning 40 and Burning It All to the Ground In this episode, Stephanie sits down with Lauren Schenck, who transformed her life after leaving a toxic and abusive marriage. Lauren shares her journey of reclaiming her identity, her struggles as a solo parent, and the steps she took towards personal healing and empowerment. This episode is a profound exploration of resilience, self-love, and the power of making bold life choices. Episode Highlights Leaving a Toxic Relationship: Lauren discusses the pivotal moment she decided to leave her narcissistic and abusive ex-husband, taking her two young children with her. Solo Parenting Challenges: She opens up about the difficulties and triumphs of being a solo parent, moving across the country, and starting anew. Healing and Self-Discovery: Lauren shares how therapy, yoga, and nutrition played crucial roles in her healing process and helped her rediscover her passions. Finding Love Again: The heartwarming story of how Lauren met her current husband, Justin, and how they built a healthy relationship together. Empowerment through Education: Lauren talks about going back to school for nutrition and yoga teacher training, emphasizing the importance of personal growth and self-care. The Power of Self-Love: A deep dive into how learning to love herself changed Lauren's life and relationships for the better. Today's episode is a powerful testament to the strength of the human spirit and the transformative power of self-love and determination. Lauren's story is not just about escaping a harmful situation but about thriving beyond it, creating a fulfilling life for herself and her children, and finding true love. Her journey reminds us that it's never too late to change your life's path and that healing is possible with the right tools and support. If you found inspiration in Lauren's story, please consider rating, following, and reviewing our podcast. Your feedback helps us bring more empowering stories like this to you! Guest Resources Connect with Lauren on Facebook Connect with Lauren on Instagram Visit Lauren's website for wellness, nutrition, yoga and more. Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.fortydrinks.com/ick Listen, Rate & Subscribe Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts Sponsor The Forty Drinks Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications…
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