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222. Healing from co-dependency, people pleasing, and perfectionism in your dating life with Victoria Albina
Manage episode 450912220 series 3373823
Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life.
Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as “emotional outsourcing,” helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions.
We get into:
- How emotional outsourcing holds you back from being your authentic self
- The three essential emotional needs: safety, belonging, and worth
- An in-depth look at the nervous system and its role in fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses
- Grounding techniques to help you reconnect with self-love and intention
- How to expand your capacity for feeling good, seen, and safe
Links:
✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season
Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-from-codependency-with-victoria-albina
253 episodes
Manage episode 450912220 series 3373823
Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life.
Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as “emotional outsourcing,” helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions.
We get into:
- How emotional outsourcing holds you back from being your authentic self
- The three essential emotional needs: safety, belonging, and worth
- An in-depth look at the nervous system and its role in fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses
- Grounding techniques to help you reconnect with self-love and intention
- How to expand your capacity for feeling good, seen, and safe
Links:
✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season
Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily
Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-from-codependency-with-victoria-albina
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