The Hardcore Therapist 75.5- The Self-Imporvement Trap

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20 days ago 12:45

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On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, we’re diving into something a lot of people don’t talk about: when self-help actually does more harm than good."\

We live in a world that tells us we should always be improving, leveling up, and becoming our ‘best selves.’ But what happens when the pursuit of growth turns into a never-ending cycle of self-criticism, anxiety, and burnout? Are we really improving, or are we just running from ourselves? That’s what we’re unpacking today.

If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much personal development you do, it’s never enough.

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The Hardcore Therapist 75.5- The Self-Imporvement Trap

The Hardcore Therapist

published 20 days ago

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On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, we’re diving into something a lot of people don’t talk about: when self-help actually does more harm than good."\

If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much personal development you do, it’s never enough.

142 episodes

#Society #Relationship #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Sarah

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The Hardcore Therapist 77.5- Living with Spouse After They Told You They Don't Want To Be Married Anymore 14:34

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First, I just want to acknowledge how incredibly painful and confusing this must feel. To be in a marriage where one person has emotionally stepped away, while you’re still physically sharing a home and parenting together, is a deeply complicated experience. It makes sense that you’re struggling with what to do next.…

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The Hardcore Therapist 77- Monica Sklar (Punk Fashion Historian) 1:04:47

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The Hardcore Therapist 76.5- Can Changing My Morning Routine Improve My Mental Health? 13:04

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Mornings can feel hard—scrambling to get out the door, rushing through tasks, and starting the day already overwhelmed. That chaotic energy doesn’t just disappear; it lingers, affecting mood, focus, and stress levels. But what if small, intentional changes to your morning routine could set a completely different tone for the day? On the podcast, we’ll explore science-backed strategies to improve your routine in ways that boost mood, reduce anxiety, and increase productivity—so you can start your day feeling more in control and less like you’re playing catch-up.…

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The Hardcore Therapist 76- SOMA Kirtan with Kulpa and Vasudeva 1:10:17

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I'm beyond excited about this episode with Kulpa and Vasudeva from SOMA—Sacred Order of Mystic Apogees. This New Jersey-based ecstatic kirtan band brings a powerful fusion of their hardcore and metal roots into the world of devotional music. Blending traditional Indian kirtan with amplified instruments, folk influences, and raw energy, SOMA creates a sound that's as transcendent as it is intense. I can't wait to dive into their journey and explore how their music bridges the sacred and the hardcore. @soma_kirtan https://open.spotify.com/artist/4O5YtIxvnil55Ql8O5m0SJ https://tylerchildersmusic.com/pages/tour-dates?srsltid=AfmBOoonyAKvWGiMxWNNPAmChAKnQzKCG0vFi5vrcSticsjxNGGWlFWj…

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The Hardcore Therapist 75.5- The Self-Imporvement Trap 12:45

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On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, we’re diving into something a lot of people don’t talk about: when self-help actually does more harm than good."\ We live in a world that tells us we should always be improving, leveling up, and becoming our ‘best selves.’ But what happens when the pursuit of growth turns into a never-ending cycle of self-criticism, anxiety, and burnout? Are we really improving, or are we just running from ourselves? That’s what we’re unpacking today. If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much personal development you do, it’s never enough.…

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The Hardcore Therapist 75- Walter Schreifels 1:13:00

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The Hardcore Therapist 74.5- The Most Misused Mental Health Terms (And Why It Matters) 16:57

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The Hardcore Therapist 74- J. Curtis Strickland 1:29:21

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The Hardcore Therapist 73.5- How to Co-Parent with someone who has Narcissistic Traits 16:40

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The Hardcore Therapist 73- Paulo Segadaes 1:07:42

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On today’s episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I have the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Paulo Segadaes—better known as Sega. Sega is a powerhouse of creativity, blending his talents as a musician, cinematographer, and photographer into a truly inspiring career. Sega’s musical journey began as the drummer for Human Beans , but his hardcore roots were firmly planted when he joined the straight-edge band X-Acto from 1994 to 1999. After that, he explored new sounds with Sanyasse from 1999 to 2002, before becoming the drummer for The Vicious Five from 2003 to 2009. He later picked up the guitar as a member of Men Eater from 2009 to 2011, and from 2016 to 2019, he brought his rhythmic energy to The Legendary Tiger Man as their drummer. But Sega isn’t just a musician—he’s also a gifted cinematographer and photographer. His latest project is a stunning photography book capturing the vibrant spirit of Vrindavan, India. instagram handle @segadaes book - https://goodluckproducts.bigcartel.com/product/vrindavan-book…

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The Hardcore Therapist 72.5- Am I triggered or am I upset? 14:32

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Today in this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, we’re diving into a crucial topic: the difference between being triggered and just being upset. Ever had a moment where your reaction felt way bigger than the situation? Or found yourself spiraling over something that shouldn't have hit that hard? We’ll explore why that happens, how trauma plays a role, and how to tell whether you’re responding to the present—or reliving the past. We’ll be pulling insights from experts like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Brené Brown, and Pete Walker .…

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The Hardcore Therapist 72- Brian McTernan (Battery, Ashes, Be Well) 1:29:30

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The Hardcore Therapist 71.5- Love Mapping and Connecting on Intimacy 13:31

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The Hardcore Therapist 71- Gabe Ochoa 1:04:32

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