Friendship Manager: Leora Kaye on How the Trauma of Middle School Bullying Led Her to Become a Community Building Rabbi

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It’s no overstatement to say that middle school bullying changed Rabbi Leora Kaye's life.
When she was halfway through 5th grade, her parents decided to move. Her new home, in the Chicago suburb of Willamette, was only a short drive from her old home in Evanston, but the move meant changing schools at a really tough time in the school cycle. A social kid with a thriving circle of friends from her synagogue’s youth group and Jewish summer camp, Leora had never experienced the kind of ridicule and shaming that soon rained down upon her. The bullies were relentless.
Leora’s decision to pursue rabbinical studies was 100% motivated by a desire to create safe spaces for others to come together and find community.
Leora found refuge in the Jewish spaces where she was made to feel confident and grounded. She says that her youth group and Jewish summer camp gave her a foundation beneath her feet. Today, Leora is the Director of Partnerships and Collaboration at Union for Reform Judaism in Brooklyn, NY. Her daughter once asked her what she does at work each day. After explaining a bit more about how she spends her days bringing people together, Leora’s daughter responded, “Oh, so you’re a friendship manager!”

Episode Links and Resources:
Rabbi Leora Kaye: https://urj.org/author/rabbi-leora-kaye
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