218: What children learn from video games

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Last week, parent Nicole and I talked with @TheGamerEducator Ash Brandin about the challenges we can have when our kids love video games. [insert link to previous episode]

I had also hoped to ask Ash a lot of questions about what children learn from video games but we completely ran out of time, so I spent a fun day reading 10 books on the topic at the University of New Mexico library (non-students can’t check out books!).

I wanted to know a lot more about:

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• Why do children find video games so attractive? And can we use that information to make the transitions away from screen time easier - as well as support their off-screen learning?
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• Even if video games don’t lead children to violence, are they picking up ideas that aren’t aligned with our values?
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• What useful skills are our children learning from video games, and how is this different from school-based learning?
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Jump to Highlights

00:45Introduction to today’s episode04:13Children are drawn to video games because they fulfill their needs for independence, skill-building, and connection. 13:00Children learn about gender roles and social behaviors from video games, which reflect societal misogyny and violence.28:55Video games foster active learning through problem-solving and experimentation. By connecting gaming identities to real-world learning, children can enhance their educational experiences.40:00Children learn best when they are engaged in activities they care about, and the You Are Your Child’s Best Teacher workshop will help parents recognize and support this learning.50:01Wrapping up

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