Replay - 103 Threesome City

Dear Jessamyn

As we take some time to rest, enjoy this very popular episode from season 1. Our Deary Queery is: How can I possibly be okay with my boyfriend wanting a threesome when I'm not interested and I wish he wasn't too?

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"How can I possibly be okay with my boyfriend wanting a threesome when I'm not interested and I wish he wasn't too?" Should our question-asker:
A) try the threesome again, see what she thinks and then decide
B) trust her gut, tell him to kick rocks, encourage him to just go for it with his co-worker Amber, spend some time alone thinking about what she wants, and masturbate
C) Stick it out, stay with him and come up with a compromise that will work for everyone
D) Break up with him and ask Amber out on a date without him
E) Decide nothing and dream of a day when her self-worth is not tied up in her partner's sexual attraction
F) prioritize herself, smoke some weed, chill out, take a bath, think about the things she needs in life to feel well, read a book, journal, communicate with her partner, try some new things, reconnect with herself, do yoga on The Underbelly, and engage with her pleasure in small ways all the time.
Tell us what you think after the show! 🤔🤔🤔
Jessamyn thinks that there is no way to meet someone that you might want to spend the rest of your monogamous life with by age 30, and Ashe tends to agree. Jessamyn also is really good at White People Mad Libs, defines "Diet Desire" as wanting something but not being direct and settling for less than the thing you really wanted, and admits to thinking that threesomes are generally more trouble than they are worth. Substitute Ashe's name for Jessamyn's back there and we would be knee-deep in a game of Two Truths and A Lie. 🍎🍎🍊
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