Parenting After Growing Up Needing To Heal Trauma & Crisis with Teresa Walkerley- S7 E17

Becoming Parents Parenting Entrepreneurs, and Birthwork

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First time I ever did a drug I was 5 years old. My father tried to rape me when I was 11 yrs old. My mother tried to beat me when I was 12yo. My brother and I were on meth when I was 14 yo and he tried to have a weird romantic relationship with me. I left home at 16 yo.

I say all that so you know where I came from with how I grew up and the parenting skills I started with. I waited until I was 30 to have children because I wasn't sure if I was going to fuck up my kids if I had them. I had gone through so much growing up and I was still relying on pot and alcohol to cope and escape stress in my life. I also had an abortion at 18 and I wasn't sure if I'd ever be ready to parent nor did I feel I deserved to have children after being careless.

But my hormones kicked in when I was 29 and I turned into an animal about having kids, lol. Literally, I could only think about having kids and how I must become a mom, lol. I'm laughing to myself about how quick I changed my mind and how determined I became.

Fast forward, I became determined to be a great mom. I would be different then my parents, I thought. I'd do everything right and my children would listen to everything I told them because I would pour my love into them. ...yeah, that didn't happen. After we had our 2nd child, our 3 year old became uncontrollable. So I took parenting classes, saw a child psychologist to get advice on how to parent him, read um-teen parenting books, watched videos and trained myself to become a better parent. It was so hard. My husband traveled, I had no family to help but to be totally honest, I was a control freak. So even if I had help from him or family, I would have wanted everything done my way, when I wanted it, how I wanted it. Ha! I'm so glad I'm different now...how I've learned and grown, thank God.

Fast forward to 2024, my children are 15 and 12. I've gone through another challenging time with parenting. My husband has been ill. We weren't sure if it was terminal. He started to show signs of his illness (Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating Polyneuropathy) November 2023. It hit hard March of 2023.

I have been married for 20 years. We were separated for a year and a half before we decided to give our marriage another try. His behavior towards us wasn't new as most people would say once I told them what was happening behind the scenes. It was amplified understandably so since he lost his ability to walk, he has been in constant pain and we hadn't been able to get his treatments for months. Doesn't mean the behavior was ok, just means it makes sense about it being amplified.

We have had the most tremendous support. I started to drown in all of the chaos. But in the summer of 2023, more help poured in. We're in a much better emotional place in our family. I realized my partnership as husband and wife with Sean is over. But I have been determined to nurture our friendship while we work on him getting better.

Our son is still riding the line at the deep end. Our daughter has finally asked for help. We're all in counseling. And with the help of professionals and the willingness to do the work, we're taking this crazy journey on the path to success.

I am an Intuitive Life Coach. I use Astrology, Mind/Energy work, and Myers Briggs Type Assessment Indicator in my coaching practice. I also use feng shui with clients (coaching or stand alone)

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