A Psychology and Schema Therapy Podcast by Drs Gemma Gladstone and Justine Corry, two schema therapists from Sydney, Australia. In this podcast we take an in-depth look at the common issues their clients bring to therapy and offer listeners new ways to think about their own lives and the people around them. With a mixture of conversations, meditations, case studies and interviews, these two experienced psychotherapists & coaches bring you plenty to think about and loads of valuable ideas and ...
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Welcome to The Red Flag Project – a podcast for navigating the world of dating & relationships, schemas and attachment patterns and of course red flags. We’ll be looking more deeply into why we choose the partners we do and why we often get stuck in what we call love-traps. This podcast is for you if you’ve ever wanted to break unhealthy relationship patterns but didn’t quite know how. We’re your hosts Dr Gemma Gladstone and Dr Justine Corry (Clinical Psychologists, Schema Therapists and Dat ...
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97. This Hidden Schema Sabotages Success: Unmasking the Failure Schema
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Hi, send us a text message. Episode Summary: Dr Gemma Gladstone and Justine Corry dive into the Failure Schema, a schema that is often overlooked but can be profound impactful in many areas of life, particularly in achievement and work-related contexts. They explore how this schema manifests, its origins, and how it often intertwines with other sch…
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96. Break-up Recovery: Can we really ever get 'Closure'?
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Hi, send us a text message. Episode Summary: In this episode, Gemma Gladstone tackles a listener's question about break-up recovery and the elusive concept of closure. Drawing from her extensive experience as a therapist over the last 25 years, she provides practical advice on healing after a painful breakup, what to do and what not to do as well a…
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95. A Schema Therapy Take on Defensiveness & How to Reduce it.
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Hi, send us a text message. Schema Circle Membership - Join Now! Information about private therapy/coaching with Gemma or Justine email us: justineandgemma@goodmood.com.au In today's episode, Gemma explores the impact of Defensiveness on relationships, its root causes, and practical steps to overcome it. Key Points: Defensive Phrases: Common exampl…
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Schema Circle Membership - Join Now! Reparenting is at the heart of schema therapy and you can learn how to do it yourself. In this episode Gemma and Justine discuss how to start reparenting yourself and provide several practical suggestions for how to get start…
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Hi, send us a text message. Get the Free Guide on Breaking the toxic ties of Narcissistic parents Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Schema Circle Membership - Join Now! In this episode Gemma discusses what puts people at risk of having narcissistic friends. What are some of the schemas that play a role in this? What can yo…
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Schema Circle Membership - Join Now! In this episode Gemma and Justine go back to basics and take a deep-dive into what is a schema or an Early Maladaptive Schema to be precise. This episode will provide you with the basics of what you need to know if you're wan…
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91. Understanding the Mistrust/Abuse Schema
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Today we share a clip from our "Schema In Focus" series in our Schema Circle Membership. Gemma and Justine discuss this schema in-depth, including its origins, what it feels like, how it is typically triggered and other things to look out for with this schema. C…
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12. The Mailbox: My Partner Had An Affair, What Now?
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Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this episode we discuss a question from a listener in our mailbox series. We love getting your emails and questions! The Mailbox: My Partner Had An Affair, What Now? When you find out your partner (who you thought was wonderful) has been unfaithful, this is pretty devastating news to say the least. It's confu…
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13: Three Signs You Need Better Boundaries
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Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this episode we discuss 3 signs that you may want to firm up your psychological boundaries. The first one is Resentment. Having high levels of long standing resentment is a sign that you have been suppressing your true thoughts and feelings for way too long, perhaps you have been "yes" when you really wanted …
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11. Understanding Narcissistic Modes in Schema Therapy
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Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In schema therapy, 'Modes' are a key part of the model. Schema Modes have been defined as moment-to-moment emotional states and coping responses that we all experience. But also, Modes can be understood as 'parts' of self. So modes can be observable to others and/or also a way to conceptualise the idea of multi-…
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10. The Heart of the Matter: Understanding Our Core Emotional Needs
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Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this episode we discuss core emotional needs and why they are so important for humans throughout our life. We are born into the world with needs and our emotional, social, physical and psychological well-being depends upon them. Our early care-givers are responsible for meeting our needs and as we grow and de…
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8. Talking to a Narcissist? Avoid these 6 Common Pitfalls
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Welcome back to the Red Flag Project Very often, if you were raised by a narcissist, in adulthood you will more or less fall into the trap of seeking the approval of people who are narcissistic. A narcissists acceptance of you is often conditional – as long as you are the version of you they want to see, then they treat you well, or at least in an …
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Welcome back to the Red Flag Project Don't you hate this! You've had a first great date with someone and then it's all down hill from there. What went wrong? In this episode Justine and Gemma put this issue under the microscope and dissect the anatomy of this all too common and disappointing scenario. CONNECT WITH US The Red Flag Project: a place f…
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Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this episode, Gemma and Justine answer a question from one of their Schema Circle members. The question asks how can we know if our reaction to a break-up is fuelled by an abandonment schema or not? Before getting into this question, Gemma provides a review of the abandonment schema, it's origin and how it te…
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6. Understanding the Abandonment Schema and where it comes from
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Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In today's episode we play an excerpt from a deep dive discussion on the abandonment schema from our monthly membership program, The Schema Circle. We discuss the abandonment schema and fine tune it's origins, what it actually feels like and the many triggers for this schema. CONNECT WITH US The Red Flag Project…
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7. What is a disorganized attachment style and why we prefer schemas
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Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the concept of disorganized attachment style and challenge the inclination to worry excessively about labels. Join us as we delve into the complexities of disorganized attachment and shed light on why understanding it shouldn't be a source of distress. We'll discuss …
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4. Invisible Barriers: Why women stay with emotionally unavailable partners
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Interested in finding out more about our new coaching program for women - Her Secure Path. Email us your expression of interest at justineandgemma@goodmood.com.au Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In today's episode Gemma discusses the invisible reasons why so many women find it hard to leave an unhealthy relationship EARLY. Based on her experie…
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90. Invisible Barriers: Why Women Stay with Unavailable Partners
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In today's episode Gemma discusses the invisible reasons why so many women find it hard to leave an unhealthy relationship EARLY. Based on her experience and knowledge gained from hearing the stories of hundred's of women, Gemma outlines her top 3 schema-related…
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89. Understanding the abandonment wound and where it comes from
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In today's episode we play an excerpt from a deep dive discussion on the abandonment schema from our monthly membership program, The Schema Circle. We discuss the abandonment schema and fine tune it's origins, what it actually feels like and the many triggers fo…
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3. Blinded by Love: Why you might ignore Red Flags when dating
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Interested in finding out more about our new coaching program for women - Her Secure Path. Email us your expression of interest at justineandgemma@goodmood.com.au Welcome back to the Red Flag Project We talk about this so much with our clients. Sometimes spotting red flags isn't the problem, its acting on them for your own best interests. In today'…
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88. Blinded by Love: Why you might ignore Red Flags when dating
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We talk about this so much with our clients. Sometimes spotting red flags isn't the problem, its acting on them for your own best interests. In today's episode we discuss the main reasons why you might ignore red flags when dating. We look at the role of core sc…
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87. BITESIZE QUESTION. Are you an Over-Compensator?
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Hi, send us a text message. When a schema is triggered, we typically have an urge to respond in 1 of 3 (unhelpful) ways. In this episode Gemma talks about 'over-compensation' as one of those coping style. Over-compensation (also referred to a counter-attack) is one of 3 maladaptive coping styles discussed in schema therapy. Gemma reviews examples o…
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BONUS: Compassionate Responding Meditation for Therapists & Other Carers
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Hi, send us a text message. Dear Therapist, Carer or anyone witnessing the emotional pain & suffering of a client or another person or friend. You are invited to take a breath, stop and notice how you are feeling. Spend 20 minutes doing this compassion-based exercise with Dr Gemma Gladstone as she guides you through a journey of loving-kindness tow…
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86. How to Stay Cool When Your Teenager Isn't!!
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Parenting Teenagers You'll love this episode if you're looking for tips and clues for parenting your teen or tween. In this episode we discuss a question asked by a member of our Schema Circle. The questions asks how to manage and deal with teenagers when they a…
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2. The Earliest Warning Signs of Intimate Partner Abuse: A Qualitative Study by Leanne Nunn
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CONNECT WITH US The Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships. Instagram Facebook Click the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from love-traps and our online membership The Schema Circle. Linktree: …
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85: The Abandonment Schema: Relationships & Break-ups
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, Gemma and Justine answer a question from one of their Schema Circle members. The question asks how can we know if our reaction to a break-up is fuelled by an abandonment schema or not? Before getting into this question, Gemma provides a review o…
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84. Three Long-Term Consequences of Narcissistic Parenting
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83. BITESIZE QUESTION: How can I start to heal my emotional deprivation schema?
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, we discuss the emotional deprivation schema and how to start to heal this schema from the inside out. This is probably the most common schema - about 50% of people have this schema. It's the one that can be the hardest to recognise because we ar…
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82. BITESIZE QUESTION: What's the difference between self-sacrifice and subjugation schemas?
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Are you unsure about the difference between these 2 common schemas. In this bitesize episode we discuss the difference and similarities between these schemas. These schemas are often considered to be 'conditional' schemas in that they develop as a way to cope wi…
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81. The Mailbox: What is a disorganized attachment style and why we prefer schemas!?
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the concept of disorganized attachment style and challenge the inclination to worry excessively about labels. Join us as we delve into the complexities of disorganized attachment and shed light on why understanding i…
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1. Introducing The Red Flag Project Podcast
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Welcome to our new podcast - you might know us from The Good Mod Clinic Podcast, but now we also have a show dedicated to relationships and red flags! Join us, Gemma Gladstone and Justine Corry for this first episode of our new podcast. Welcome to our first episode of The Red Flag Project! CONNECT WITH US The Red Flag Project: a place for women to …
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80. Talking to a Narcissist? Avoid These 6 Common Pitfalls
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Talking to a Narcissist? Avoid These 6 Common Pitfalls Very often, if you were raised by a narcissist, in adulthood you will more or less fall into the trap of seeking the approval of people who are narcissistic. A narcissists acceptance of you is often conditio…
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79. From Sizzle to Fizzle: When a Great First Date Doesn't Lead Anywhere
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Don't you hate this! You'v e had a first great date with someone and then it's all down hill from there. What went wrong? In this episode Justine and Gemma put this issue under the microscope and dissect the anatomy of this all too common and disappointing scena…
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78. Don't Second Guess: Trusting Your Intuition to Identify Early Indicators of Intimate Partner Abuse
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! TRIGGER WARNING - Intimate partner abuse discussed and some sobering statistics of violence/sexual violence against woman are stated. In today's episode we speak with Psychologist Leanne Nunn who has recently completed her PhD research on The Earliest Warning Si…
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77. The Heart of the Matter: Understanding Our Core Emotional Needs
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76. Emotional Landmines: Understanding and Coping with Schema Triggers
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, Gemma does a solo show talking all about schema triggers and schema activation. Gemma described the trigger chain and how we can break down the components of schema activation - feelings, thoughts, memories, sensations. She describes what action…
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75: The Lasting Impact of a Close Friend's Death
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! TRIGGER WARNING - This episode talks about death, dying, grief and breast cancer. In Loving Memory of Astrid von Lojewski-Wilson 16/11/76 - 11/12/19, a beautiful human being, greatly missed every day. In this podcast, Gemma talks about the profound impact of los…
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74: Understanding Narcissistic Modes in Schema Therapy
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In schema therapy, 'Modes' are a key part of the model. Schema Modes have been defined as moment-to-moment emotional states and coping responses that we all experience. But also, Modes can be understood as 'parts' of self. So modes can be observable to others an…
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73: Six strategies for dealing with difficult relatives over the holidays
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode Gemma and Justine discuss 6 strategies for dealing with difficult family relatives over the Christmas and holiday period. Getting together with family for many, can be a stressful and challenging time. There are usually lots of unspoken expectati…
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72: Four things you can work on if you think you are Narcissistic
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode Justine & Gemma discuss 4 things you can start working on if you think that you might have narcissistic traits or modes. Typically, if someone tells us they think they are narcissistic, they often are not at all. Most clients who are narcissistic…
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71: Understanding Your Emotions With Mindfulness & Without Judgement
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Dr Gemma Gladstone discusses mindfulness to emotions in this extended podcast lesson. Gemma describes what emotions are and the difference between the 5 basic emotions (anger, fear, sadness, disgust and joy) and more complex emotions such as shame. She discusses…
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70. The Mailbox: My Partner Had An Affair, What Now?
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss a question from a listener in our mailbox series. We love getting your emails and questions! The Mailbox: My Partner Had An Affair, What Now? When you find out your partner (who you thought was wonderful) has been unfaithful, this is p…
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69: Three Signs You Need Better Boundaries
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss 3 signs that you may want to firm up your psychological boundaries. The first one is Resentment. Having high levels of long standing resentment is a sign that you have been suppressing your true thoughts and feelings for way too long, …
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss 5 things that difficult parents do. We get so many requests to talk about relationships including the adult parent-child relationship. No matter what age you are, you can still find yourself caught up in the emotional forcefield of you…
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Encore Episode: 22: Coming to terms with narcissistic parents
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! This episode is a popular one from a while back. Encore Episode: 22: Coming to terms with narcissistic parents. CONNECT WITH US The Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships. Instagram Fac…
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67. Schemas and Parenting: How schemas influence our attitudes & responses
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss the role that schemas play when try to Emotion Coach our kids. We believe that the parenting style of Emotion Coaching (J Gottman), is the gold standard when it comes to emotional attunement and meeting children's emotional needs. BUT,…
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66. Emotion Coaching our Kids for Schema Prevention
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss the parenting style of Emotion Coaching (J Gottman). We cover the 5 steps of emotion coaching and discuss how emotion coaching is akin to emotional attunement and helps us to actively meet our children's emotional needs. Book mentioned…
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65: What Is The Healthy Adult Mode In Schema Therapy?
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we are talking about the healthy adult mode in schema therapy. In schema therapy, one of the main aims is to develop and foster this mode. We all have this mode within us to use as a resource - to varying degrees. There are many things we can do …
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64. Am I a 'Rescuer' in my relationships?
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss a really interesting pattern that many people find themselves in when we're in this role. It can be really torturous and painful and we don't think clearly at all. It's a pattern that's played out mostly in romantic relationships and i…
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63: The Mailbox: My Inner Critic Is Called Dick
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Hi, send us a text message. Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Join us as we discuss a listener's email about her inner critic to whom she has given the name 'Dick'. A listener, whom we refer to as 'Mia' has sent us a detailed email about her inner critic. 'Dick' the critic, says all sorts of nasty and punitive things to Mi…
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