When you really think about it, we commit to things all the time, so what is it that we’re really afraid of when it comes to relationships? Listen in each week as Intimacy Coach and recovered “commitment phobe,” Tanai Milgram, shares the journey that led her to discover what really lay beneath her “commitment phobia” that made her run away from intimacy and vulnerability in relationships and how you, too, can start overcoming the fears that keep you from intimacy, help you foster self-love, ...
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The Art Of Receiving in All of Our Relationships
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Cultivating Connection in Relationships by Nourishing Your Nervous System with Oren Shai
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Ever think about how authentic is the way you breathe, walk, or sit? What if some of those patterns or postures are ways you've learned to be to protect yourself or be accepted, but it's not actually what's true in the moment? And what if you could then change your life by simply changing your physical patterns and nourishing your nervous system? M…
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Amplifying Love Between Men and Women with Matt Bockenstette
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This summer I took an incredible 5 day training called 'Fierce Love' led by John Wineland, a speaker and teacher I've been following for years that leads men and women in the practices of embodied masculine leadership, spiritual intimacy and sexual polarity. IT WAS AMAZING! I truly feel changed on a cellular level. This immersion taught me the powe…
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What I've Done About The Fear of "Losing Myself" in Intimacy & What That Taught Me About My Needs
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In this solo episode, I talk about how in the past, the fear of losing myself made opening my heart and leaning into intimacy seem impossible. Join me as I explore the delicate balance between being there for another and self-preservation, and how prioritizing our own needs is essential to feel safe when we're opening ourself to connection or to be…
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Breaking Free & Finding Love and Chaos On The Path Of Authenticity with Rachel Butts
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Holy shh!! What a powerful episode! This week I interviewed Rachel Butts, a powerhouse, beautiful, radiant woman who has been a client of mine the past 3 years. Rachel, a former pastor's wife, bravely transformed her life from one of unhappiness and suppression to one of empowerment and authenticity. She opens up about her journey to reclaim her vo…
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Vivir El "Matrimonio Interno" Atraves Del Tarot con Clara Maria Abad
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Hoy en dia se habla mucho de las energias masculina y femenina que llevamos adentro, y como crear polaridad sexual con el otro atravez de la encarnacion de estas energias. Pero la verdad es que dentro de cada uno de nosotros estas energias no viven separadas, interactuan y son una pareja en si, un matrimonio. Hoy hablo con mi profe de Tarot Clara M…
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From Hitting Rock Bottom to Living With Faith And An Open Heart with Luis Molinar
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In this deeply moving episode, join us on an intimate journey with the resilient and inspiring Luis Molinar as he shares his story from being depressed and suicidal to finding his purpose and living a heart-led life. Luis found himself getting seperated from a long-time partner, burned out, struggling emotionally until he hit a rock bottom that for…
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Instantly Feel Seen in Relationships Through Authentic Relating with Ryel Kestano
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Ever feel like even when you're surrounded by people, you feel alone, or like your conversations are so shallow they end up draining you? My guest Ryel Kestano is the co-founder of an organization I have been involved with in the past two years and DEEPLY impacted by called ART-Authentic Relating Training. At its simplest, authentic relating is a g…
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Setting Loving Boundaries When You Like Them But Not What They Want
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An update episode on recent breakthroughs in my dating and how I navigated a situation where I really liked the guy but we weren't looking for the same things. We've all been there...you like this person but you're not looking for the same things. Sometimes you disregard that and enjoy connecting with them. Sometimes you hope things will change...s…
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Conscious Kink 101 with Sex and Magick Educator Yossef Sagi
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Most people think of kink and they imagine scary, extreme, torture-filled, sexual interactions. I wanted to bring someone on to talk about the love and medicine that can actually be present in kink and how it's way less intimidating than most people imagine...because it's actually be a really playful, transformative journey with the right people, s…
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Radical Honesty, Playing On The Same Team, and Long Distance Intimacy with Geraldine Zamora and Mike Alicea
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Geraldine and Mike met only for a few days before Mike went off to live in a monastery for 6 months acorss the country. It was like the universe was playing a game on them as they had a deep connection right before being apart for half of a year, and they decided to play. I brought these wonderful humans on to talk about what helped them thrive thr…
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Healing The Battle of The Sexes with Men's Coach Mikaal Bates
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"Masculinity is not toxic, masculinity is medicine." Behind many of the challenges men and women have in relating, is the judgment and rejection they have towards the opposite gender. My guest Mikaal Bates is a men's coach who's dedicated to accelerating the conscious evolution of men and masculiity across the planet in our lifetime, and to heal th…
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Stop Resenting Men and Open Up to Love with Relationship Coach Caitlin Lili
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My guest today Caitlin Lili helps women & couples communicate vulnerably so they can experience deeper connection and hotter sex. Today we talk about: -Oftenttimes what gets in the way for a woman to be available for love with a man, is her hatred towards men. -Caitlin's journey transforming her disruptive communication style in relationships and h…
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How To Actually Deepen The Level of Intimacy in Your Relationships with Spencer Jacobson
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Welcome back to Commitment Phobe! This year I am continuing to level up the game with episodes that will provide you with rich content, incredible guests and stories on how to deepen and heal the intimacy and connection in all of your relationships in your life. With that in mind I had to bring on an old friend Spencer Jacobson, who's currently lea…
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The podcast is undergoing some revamping as I'm getting it ready for next year but I wanted to end the year off sharing some of the lessons I've learned in love and relationships this year and how it's been deeply transforming who I am!
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What are you dying to hear more about? From who? What's going on in your life? I want to hear!!! My e-mail: tanai.milgram@gmail.com
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What Our Relationship Patterns Can Teach Us About Love with Mary Haberski
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We accept the love we think we deserve. A statement like that is powerful, AND it's important to keep in mind that we don't have to beat ourselves up for what we accept, experience, tolerate and live in our relationships. Mary Haberski, a tarot reader and spiritual guide, comes on to talk about how we can view relationships as tools and mirrors for…
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The Part About My Avoidant Attachment Journey I Have Never Shared
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For years now, I have been telling the story of how over the past decade, I've chipped away at my intimacy fears and have become more and more available for deep connection, commitment and vulnerability. I always tell the same story: I start liking someone, they start liking me back, I freak out, I leave. But the truth is that I don't have avoidant…
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Shedding The Pressure To Fit In Through Public Speaking with Story Doula Eduardo Placer
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Public speaking is among the most common phobias people have. What if I choke? Will people find me interesting? Will I look stupid? How can I hide my anxiety? My guest today, Eduardo Placer, dedicates his life to helping people transform and claim their power through speaking their truth in front of an audience through his public speaking coaching …
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How To Own Your Sense of Belonging- An Episode on Friendships with Nasya Miller
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On today's episode I bring on a friend and inspiration, Nasya Miller to talk about friendships. Nasya comes on to ring the alarm on why we should be focusing a lot more on the health and thrivingness of our friendships in a world full of romance and dating advice, coaches, therapists, tv shows and books. The same challenges show up in our friendshi…
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Bringing Depth to Dating with Roni Makatu
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A couple of months ago I had the pleasure of connecting with a beautiful soul Roni Makatu and we got to share less than a week together, but in that short time we created a deep, intimate connection that was lovely and through it, I got to learn a lot about myself. SO, I felt like sharing him with all my listeners! Makatu is the Cofounder and CEO o…
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How A Recovering Asshole Changed His Life Through Commitment with Alex Terranova
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What does it take to really change your life? What does it take to make it extraordinary? For Alex Terranova, changing your life not only takes knowing what you want, but also committing to it FULLY and BEING the person that's aligned with that new life. Today, Alex comes on to talk about what commitment really means, and how it's different from am…
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Your Body is a Road Map of Your Life with Taoist Doctor Karim Yussif
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On today's episode I invited Karim Yussif, my Taosit doctor whom I've been working for the past 5 months through acupunture, energy work and massage. After 7 years of working with practinioners on healing me heal from chronic back back, pelvic and stomach pain and seeing no resolution, I've been in shock with the progress I've had in our work. Kari…
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From Toxic Masculinity to Conscious Partnership with Jonathan Hermida
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I love having guests come on and share the powerful ways of being and practices that help create authentic and loving connection in a relationship. This is why I invited Jonathan Hermida to come share about his conscious partnership! If you met Jonathan Hermida as a bachelor, you would've never imagined that he'd eventually create a beautiful, thri…
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From People Pleasing to Truth-Telling with Chloe Besson
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Today my guest is a past client and incredibly talented tattoo artist and entrepreneur Chloe Besson who joins me today to tell her story on the breakthroughs she's had around people pleasing and why telling the truth has been such an integral part of it. Chloe and I started working together just as she was leaving a 4 year relationship where she lo…
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How To Stop Looking for The One When You Can't Stop Looking For The One
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On today's episode I share my own experience on breaking my pattern of always thinking about where I'll meet the one and how upsetting it was that I was single. How was it possible that I was so happy with my life yet my thoughts always went back to-"why am I single?" and "I'm never going to meet someone" or, "I don't deserve to meet someone." I go…
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This is an episode I recorded in December where I talk about one of the nemesis of intimacy: pride. Sometimes the only thing keeping us from saying the vulnerable thing is being too prideful to admit something or share something that may make us look bad (according to our egos of course.) In this episode I share a short personal experience of how I…
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We Accept The Love We Think We Deserve with Janira Martinez
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On today's episode, Janira Martinez comes on to tell us the story of her life through the lense of intimacy and relationships. Growing up, Janira wasn't the relationship type, she was the “cool girl” that just wanted to keep it casual and acted like wasn’t phased by endings. Having been raised without a father present and a mom that told her to be …
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Managing Your Relationship Requirements with Maxine Cher
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Co-Creating What it Means to Be a Couple with Ana and Ken
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On this very juicy epiosde my guests are Ana Del Castillo and Ken Blackman, two beautiful humans and coaches come on the podcast today to share truths and golden nuggets of wisdom from their own relationship and how they help couples return to a place of love and connection when they're in the muck. Some themes we cover: -How to deal with dissapoin…
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When Men Don't Want to Talk with Mark Guay
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This week I had a really eye-opening conversation with transformational coach and full-time dad Mark Guay about all the questions I've personally had and my clients have had about men and their relationship to their emotions. Because of societal conditioning, childhood trauma and expectations, men in particular don't feel safe emoting and viscerall…
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Pole Dancing Is A Spiritual Practice with Shelli Aka Sunshine
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Back in May 2022, I led a retreat for women about unleashing their sensuality and connecting womanhood and these women were TRANSFORMED in the sensual dancing class led by Sunshine. I HAD to get her on the podcast and talk to her about body positivity, sensuality, femininity and how she views pole dancing as a metaphor for life. As a woman who was …
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Processing Emotions in Conflict With My Client Casey Rothberg
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Casey has been a client of mine for 2 years and I've been so blown away from her growth that I had to have her on the podcast! Casey has such a unique love and hunger for life that is so contagious! She was always a free spirit, but she often felt guilt for thinking about herself and expressing her joy instead of taking care of other people's feeli…
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Putting Yourself First as A Mom with Claudia Whitney
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Claudia believes women can have it all. As a go-getter, free-spirited woman who got married at 37, Claudia was never going to have the cookie-cutter conventional wife and mother life. She sees unhappy women sacrifice their joy and pleasure for the sake of their family and knew there was a different way. As a mother, Claudia puts herself first. She …
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Releasing Anger & Resentment in Relationships and Healing Afterwards
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Sometimes I hear what people say to each other in conflict and think, there are so many layers between what they're saying to each other, and the REAL, vulnerable, raw, tender, thing those words are covering. I think if we shared with each other our feelings, our truth, our vulnerability, the things we're scared to share because they might cause th…
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Many of you have asked me lately how is it that I show up on social media every day and share so openly and vulnerably about myself and my life. As you've heard me talk about on this podcast, vulnerability did NOT always come easy to me, and posting my story on Instagram has actually been one of the biggest tools I have used to step deeper and deep…
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How Jealousy Can Be Healing in Relationships with Rishi Bond and Vanessa Viglietta
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Are you a jealous person? If so, how do you work with jealousy in your relationships? Jealousy is SUCH a touchy subject for some people, so I wanted to have a conversation about it with some fresh perspectives. My guests today, Rishi Bond and Vanessa Viglietta, are two friends from different corners of the world whom I brought together to talk abou…
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Questioning our Stories and Conditioning with Reva Wild
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Being bullied for being the "fat girl" at school, Reva Wild grew up thinking her body was a problem, and wasn't worthy of loving. It wasn't until she took an unconventional college dance class that she started questioning the voice in her head that said she was broken, and the stories in her environment that told her she "should" be and look differ…
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Nothing's Wrong, It's Your Human Design with Bri Rubin
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"So it's not Commitment Phobia, I just like breaking and making bonds?" "So it's not Commitment Phobia, I just don't really do anything between a one-night stand and a soulmate connection?" These were my reactions the first time I learned about my specific human design! Human Design combines astrology, the I Ching, Kabbalah and Vedic philosophy, ce…
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Practicing Surrender with Money and Relationships
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On today's episode I talk about my experience practicing detachment and surrender with money lately and how it also applies to relationships. My relationship with money (like everyone else's) has had it's kinks and I've taken it more seriously than ever this year to really heal the limiting beliefs and blocks I had around creating financial abundan…
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Being Your Own Best Lover with Rinsha Ballani
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How do we give ourselves what we hope others give us? What does it look like to fill up our own cup? This is an important question to ask ourselves, because if we can't give the love we want to ourselves we won't be able to see it or receive it from others. My guest Rinsha Ballani has for years, worked on putting herself first in her life and being…
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What Happens When We Fall in Love with Araminta Barbour
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"It's a joy to watch people relax into who they are." Araminta is passionate about helping people come back to their authentic truth and expression by learning how to be with their emotions and their full range of human experience. How do we learn from our emotions and our body? It was a pleasure to get Araminta's perspective on how to live in alig…
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Finding the "Want for Us" in Relationship with Kyle Mercer
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My conversation today is with my good friend Kyle Mercer who talks to me about the power of what he calls the "want for us." As opposed to asking ourselves in a relationship what I want or what you want, there's a lot more harmony and connection possible when together, we think about what's the want for us, and what kind of decisions we would be ma…
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The Art of Being Yourself with Chris Rodriguez
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"Just be yourself" isn't such a simple task to take on. As a Jamaican Puerto Rican man from Jersey, Chris Rodriguez struggled with that as he experienced many situations where we muted or changed his personality to fit into the proffesional industry, from softening himself so he wasn't perceived as a threat, to the way we dressed. Eventually, he lo…
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Embracing The Truth in Open Relating with Briana Cribeyer and Blake Zealear
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Briana Cribeyer and Blake Zealar used to have cookie cutter relationships, often monogamous ones, even though their true desire was to be in open relationships and be free in their sexual expression and connection. To them, open relating can be a spiritual practice that challenges you to take your integrity and healing to the next level in relation…
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Healing Our Mother & Father Wounds With Intuitive Therapist Mikey Brackett
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You know when you can tell someone is an old soul? That's my perception of Mikey, an intuitive therapist who's passionate about helping people get to know what's going on inside them. Today we talked about some specific ways that our wounds in our relationships with our parents impact our present reality. Tune in to learn what's the difference betw…
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Walking Towards The Dark With Zachary Goodson
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Being vulnerable and looking inwards can be scary huh? How do we really build the courage to walk through what seems like a dark path and reveal our truths when we are so scared? My guest today, Zach didn't grow up having an easy time being vulnerable. Like most of us, he wanted to hide everything that was wrong and show everyone that he was okay. …
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In the fall of 2020 I decided to commit to only tell the truth for a month, inspired by a practice called "integrity cleanse" which was made popular by Martha Beck who explains that our very health depends on us telling the truth. “The second you leave your truth, your immune system function goes down, your heart rate goes up, adrenaline spikes, an…
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Feeling is The Body's Way of Being with Shadi Henau
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Today we talk about the importance of clearning emotions in our bodies in order to clear beliefs that don't serve us with Shadi Henau. Shadi started journeying with cacao in 2014 in Guatemala and it was such a powerful experience that led him back to his heart. If you're curious to learn about cacao check out this episode to hear about how cacao ca…
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Getting To Know Our Body with Shely Esses
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My guest today, Shely Esses, is such a refreshing human! I was taken back by her level of comfort talking about all things sex. Shely believes in the importance of getting to know our body parts as a way of creating a deeper connection with ourselves. She's very passionate about dissolving all of the shame that's intrinsically associated with sex a…
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