What if I told you that you aren't where you want to be in life because of the perspective you have? Our life is going to be a reflection of our attitude, behaviors and perspective. If you're focused on the negative of a situation you are going to get negative results and the same is true for the opposite. If you struggle with keeping a positive at…

If we don't have strong boundaries in sobriety, we end up putting ourselves in vulnerable positions that are extremely unhealthy. Not to mention we eventually end up being resentful, manipulated, unfulfilled and discontent with our life. One of the most important things you can do is stay true to who you are and your own personal goals and ambition…

Sometimes we become used to living a certain way and we think that change is impossible or not in the cards for us. The fear of change can paralyze you even if it represents something positive. In active addiction, we become accustomed to suffering and we start to believe that "this is just how life is". Even in sobriety, we might settle into a lif…

There are a lot of practical tools we can go to when it comes to staying sober and improving our lives on a daily basis; working out, journaling, meditation, therapy, self-development etc. But there is one thing that trumps all which hardly ever gets talked about. Tune into this episode to understand what can take your sobriety to the next level. I…

Whether we realize it or not, drugs and alcohol fill some type of void within ourselves which is what leads to an addiction. It solves some type of problem and gives us "peace" internally, even if your external circumstances can be in complete chaos. Using drugs and alcohol isn't a true path to joy though, nor is it sustainable. It's important to u…

One of the most important things in sobriety is making sure you're spending your time with healthy people. In early recovery, a lot of people try to hold onto old friendships/ relationships that are clearly toxic, and it only ends in a few ways (none of them are good). If we want a new life, we have to be willing to shed our old one. The people who…

When we aren't living up to our own standards and we conduct ourselves in a way that doesn't reflect who we truly are at heart, guilt and shame is typically the end result. The reason why addiction leads to guilt and shame is because we know that we are living well below our own standards and the longer we are struggling, the more guilt and shame b…

Do you feel like you have trouble finding purpose in life? Or that you struggle with finding joy, contentment or fulfillment? In this episode Connor talks about the main driving force behind a life of fulfillment and the path you can take to make sure you get there yourself. If you're struggling with addiction, you can reach Connor directly at 203-…

Many people regret the past, not realizing that the lessons we learn from the mistakes we make are some of the most crucial times in our lives. Instead of focusing on the negative side of our past, we can flip things and take advantage of it if we look at it the right way. As long as we become a better person by learning from our mistakes, regret s…

As our addiction progresses, we become accustomed to living a certain way that doesn't align with who we truly are. We change for the worse over a long enough timeline in many different areas of life. In order to break the cycle of addiction, we need to embrace discomfort and accept change as a necessary step to getting better. If you struggle with…

Everybody wants to know the magic trick to getting sober. Everybody wants the quick fix. In this episode Connor talks about the one thing that helped him get sober the most above everything else. If you're struggling with addiction, you can reach Connor directly at 203-917-8862By Connor Duffy

Sobriety isn't just about abstinence from drugs or alcohol but it's really about working on our character defects, flaws and desire for immediate gratification. We need to change from within and a big part of that is learning how to control our emotions. There are many things in our lives that we can't control but we do get to control our attitude,…

There is no such thing as being too dumb to get sober, but there is such a thing as being "too smart". People tend to stay sober after some form of guidance and mentorship whether that be rehab, 12 step meetings, coaching or other support groups. In most cases it takes humility and acceptance to get sober because this is when we are the most willin…

There comes a time when you realize that you need to change certain behaviors that are clearly holding you back from progressing in life, yet we remain hesitant on following through to make a change. One of the reasons is because we tend to overwhelm ourselves with the mountain that we have to climb. We look at the big picture and all the work that…

There comes a time in our lives where we know we aren't living to our potential, we know we're making choices that are contributing to our pain and we know that there's more to life than what we're currently experiencing. Pain is a strong motivator and when we're struggling in life, we tend to start asking important questions that we ignore for a l…

It's easy to get caught up in worrying about the future or living with regret from our actions in the past. But at the end of the day, the only thing we have is the present moment. If we move forward and do the next right thing each and every day, we will be able to appreciate the gift of the present moment more and more. However, continuing to mak…

One of the biggest misconceptions about getting sober is that you magically become ready to do it. The truth is sobriety can be uncomfortable because it represents change, and it's a significant one at that. But oftentimes we can never be fully prepared for what's to come when we are making a big change in our life. Being "ready" is a delusional th…

People fear change. Human beings are creatures of habit, and we find comfort in our routines even if they're unhealthy ones. The key is to change your mindset about change and fear itself. In this episode Connor gives 3 tips to overcome any fears you have in your life right this moment. If you're struggling with addiction, you can reach Connor dire…

It's normal to feel overwhelmed in early sobriety. A lot of change is happening, and we're not accustomed to handling life's problems or our emotions in a sober state of mind. In this episode, Connor gives 2 important tips when you're feeling overwhelmed with the stress that comes with recovery.By Connor Duffy

By Connor Duffy

By Connor Duffy

We're going to have tough days in sobriety and that's okay as long as we respond instead of react. A big part of recovery is gaining control over your emotions, not letting your emotions control you. If you struggle with that, these 3 tips can help you. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach Connor directly at 203-917-8862…

Many people fear getting sober and a lot of times they don't understand why. What you don't realize is that the fear of getting sober is what keeps you sick and suffering. There are essentially 2 reasons that people fear getting sober and once you know how to address those fears, recovery becomes much more obtainable. If you're struggling with addi…

Growth and comfort do not live on the same block. If you want things in life you're going to have to work for them; physically, mentally, emotionally, Spiritually, financially, sobriety etc. It takes discipline in order to be the person we aspire to be. If you want to have a fulfilling life, you have to be willing to do the ugly work that isn't app…

There are a lot of misconceptions about sobriety that aren't really true but generally believed. A lot of people get sober and they believe abstinence by itself is going to be enough to have a good life. I disagree. Getting sober doesn't guarantee a good life, it just gives us the opportunity to have the type of life we want... If we're willing to …

Sometimes we forget what the point of sobriety is, and we need reminders that the process of sobriety is actually worth it. If you feel like you lose hope or Faith that recovery is worth the effort, these 3 reasons will be a big reminder of why. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach out to Connor directly at 203-917-8862…

Rock bottom doesn't need to come in the form of homelessness, loss of family, getting arrested or an overdose. A lot of times it happens from within. We suffer when we drift away from who we know we're supposed to be. We suffer when we fail to reach our potential. And when we're struggling with addiction we tend to suffer in all areas of our life, …

A lot of people complain about the fact that life isn't fair and they develop a victim mentality which makes excuses for where they are in life. It is true, life isn't fair.. and it's one of the things we should be most grateful for. In this episode Connor explains exactly why. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach out to Connor directl…

Ever wondered what it took to get sober? Have you ever thought that it wasn't possible for you to get clean because you had failed attempts in the past and you feel like you're "too far gone"? If that describes you, this podcast will help you break through those self limiting beliefs. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach Connor directl…

Addiction goes deeper than the physical reliance on a substance. We are mentally and emotionally conditioned to make decisions that put us in bad positions and unhealthy situations. The scary part is a lot of times this is happening subconsciously and we don't even recognize it until it's too late and we are on a path towards relapse. If you want t…

Addiction turns us into people that we were never meant to be. The longer we drink or use the more we tend to drift away from our true selves. Eventually we live a life of quiet desperation and we become all too familiar with emotions of regret, remorse shame and guilt. If you struggle with that this episode is for you. If you're struggling with ad…

When people are first getting sober, it seems like a daunting task to begin with. Not only is it difficult to do, but many people don't even know if a good life is possible for them without drinking or using drugs, never mind a fulfilling or successful life. It seems like a completely foreign concept. In this episode Connor talks about what success…

By Connor Duffy

Your addiction will lie to you but have you convinced it's the truth despite all the evidence to the contrary. Addicts and alcoholics are masters of manipulation, justification and rationalizing because it's the only way we can continue doing the wrong thing for so long. But there comes a time when we can't lie to ourselves any longer and we are fo…

When you have cravings and urges do you feel like you aren't sure what to do? Do you feel overwhelmed by thoughts of relapse? These thoughts are going to come and you need to be prepared when they do because they don't just disappear over night. But in this episode Connor will remind you of one powerful tool to keep in mind when cravings come your …

Addiction isn't just a pill problem or an alcohol problem. It is a problem of the mind. The way an alcoholic thinks is the real issue because they repeat the same behavior over and over while expecting a different result. If you want to get sober you must realize that lies are being fed to you and you need to get honest with yourself. In this episo…

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Life places significant challenges in our path no matter who you are. It's not something we can avoid. The key is understanding that challenges aren't in our way, they ARE the way. We should be viewing obstacles as opportunities for growth and they are imperative for us to become our best self. If you struggle seeing things this way, this episode i…

A relapse rarely happens overnight. A lot of times we allow poor behaviors, attitudes and emotions into our lives that derail us from our progress in sobriety. If you struggle with relapsing, you may be impacted by one of these 3 things. Tune in to figure out what might be hindering your sobriety and what you need to do to fix it. If you're struggl…

Addiction leads to 3 places; jails, institutions and death. When we are in active addiction we are not always thinking about the repercussions and consequences that we are headed for. And the truth is most of the people around us are the ones who suffer the most. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach out to Connor directly at 203-917-88…

One of the hardest things in early recovery is having emotional control. One minute things might be going great and the next you're having cravings of relapse. We can't necessarily escape the "lows" we feel but we can change our response to people, places and things that don't go our way. In this episode Connor gives multiple strategies on how to d…

Have you ever felt like you didn't have a purpose? Or felt like your problems were so challenging it made you doubt there was light at the end of the tunnel? Sometimes life gets really hard and we tend to see things through a pessimistic lens which only leads to more negative results. But when you're on the verge of having a breakdown, you're reall…

People tend to complicate the process of getting sober way more than what's necessary. Complication leads to confusion and confusion leads to discouragement. If we want to have a real chance at staying sober, the process of doing so needs to be simplified. Simplification leads to understanding and that leads to success. If you feel overwhelmed with…

A lot of people misunderstand what "rock bottom" is and what it actually represents. Everybody's "bottom" is different but the one common denominator is that it represents pain. The pain might look different from person to person, but it's present nonetheless and this is the gift needed to get sober. If you're unsure whether you have experienced ro…

Cravings to drink/use are a normal part of recovery, especially when new to sobriety. But when these scenarios take place, do you know how to handle them correctly? Do you know how to think them through from a logical place instead of reacting from an emotional place? In this episode Connor talks about implementing this helpful tool when the inevit…

Do you feel overwhelmed by the obstacles and challenges life has placed in your path? What if I told you there was a simple solution that can help with any problem that comes your way..? In this episode Connor talks about a simple, yet powerful, perspective shift to deal with life's challenges. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach Conn…

Do you find yourself justifying continuing to drink and use even though you know that it's time for change? Addiction is powerful and the truth is most people aren't "excited" to get sober, but we choose more so out of desperation. Addiction leads to pain and it ends in pain. If you find yourself wondering when it's the right time to get sober, thi…

Do you get motivated to do better, be better and become more during the New Year but find that you struggle with following through once the motivation wears off? In this episode Connor talks about 3 key traits that will ensure you will accomplish your goals and follow through with the goals you have for 2024. If you're struggling with addiction you…

In this episode Connor shares his personal experience with opioids and talks about the suffering that came with using prescription painkillers and eventually, heroin. Connor talks about his first experience, last use and everything in between. If you're struggling with addiction you can reach out to Connor directly at 203-917-8862…

There are times when a relapse seems like a good idea. We convince ourselves that using or drinking will provide us with some sort of solution to whatever problem is going on at the moment. It's easy to feed into these ideas and if we don't keep them in check properly, we start to believe them. In this episode Connor lays out 3 questions that can h…