Best Heidi Benjaminsen Podcasts (2024)

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Ep. 190 Graciously Giving and Receiving 16:03

9h ago16:03

16:03

Key Message: How we give and receive energy are deeply connected - our ability to do one affects our ability to do the other effectively Key Points: • If you have trouble receiving help or gifts, you may unconsciously be: - Limiting abundance in your life - Blocking positive connections with others - Judging others when you give help - Teaching you…

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Ep. 189 Quiet Wins 19:03

19d ago19:03

19:03

Key Points: Host Heidi Benjaminsen discusses the importance of "quiet wins" - personal victories in emotional life and relationships that often go unnoticed These wins build confidence and strengthen family relationships, even when others don't explicitly acknowledge them Notable Quiet Wins Discussed: Staying calm and curious during difficult conve…

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Ep. 188 When Life Feels Uncertain 12:36

2M ago12:36

12:36

Uncertainty is the breeding ground for stress and anxiety. But it is always about a future possible event, it isn't about the present. When our body feels uncertain, our nervous system works up into a tizzy to try to protect us from any future possible danger. Listen to episode 188 to hear Heidi teach you how to calm your nervous system so you can …

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Ep. 187 A Few Oppositional Kid Tips 13:03

4M ago13:03

13:03

Have you ever felt like you're butting heads with your strong-willed kid? Well, you're not alone! Episode 187 shares some fantastic tips for dealing with those headstrong, independent-minded teens we all know and love. First off, let's celebrate these traits! Heidi reminds us that having a strong sense of self and the ability to think independently…

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Ep. 186 Understanding Your Nervous System 27:18

4M ago27:18

27:18

Hey there, moms! If you're getting ready to send your kid off to college, this episode of Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen is definitely for you. Heidi dives into understanding our nervous system and how it affects our emotions and reactions, especially during big life changes like your child leaving for college. She explains that our ner…

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Ep. 185 How To Live Drama Free 18:56

4M ago18:56

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Episode 185 of Confidence Coaching focuses on achieving freedom from drama in life. The host, Heidi Benjaminsen, starts by defining drama as exaggerated behavior or reactions, often performed for others. She then outlines six key strategies to reduce drama in our lives. The first strategy is to create space for thinking and curiosity about situatio…

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Ep. 184 Feeling Sad 10:03

5M ago10:03

10:03

A friend told me she was sad and asked if she could call me. Episode 184 is step by step how I validated, witnessed and helped her process her sadness. We will all feel sad, it is a normal human emotion. The skill of zooming in and seeing the sad is what helps all of us get to the other side of the sadness. Listen to hear what color her sadness was…

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Ep. 183 Three Layers of an Experience 17:26

5M ago17:26

17:26

Our life made up for billions of moments/experiences and each experience has three layers: The actual experience. Our awareness of the experience. The story or meaning we create about the experience. Listen to episode 183 as Heidi Benjaminsen shares and breaks down several experiences of her life into these three layers. You'll learn that actual ex…

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Ep. 182 (Best of) Wanting Others To Be Happy 18:43

6M ago18:43

18:43

It sounds like a kind desire to have towards others - wanting them to be happy and feel good. This desire works... until it doesn't and this thought becomes toxic and creates stress (in us and them). And disconnects us from the people we love most who experience human and negative experiences. When others are sad, grieving, disappointed and more, t…

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Ep. 181 (Best Of) Our Vibe Attracts Our Tribe 15:13

6M ago15:13

15:13

Humans are like magnets. Something in our make-up attracts or repels certain people. I believe OUR VIBE or our energy attracts certain people, certain successes, and certain failures in our life. And our VIBE repels others. Our vibe includes our nervous system - how we hold our body, the words we use, our mannerisms, how we dress, act, don't act, h…

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Ep 180 (Best of) How To Feel More Joy 24:26

6M ago24:26

24:26

Because our brains are "wired" on default to look for the negative, feeling more joy in life isn't an automatic process. It requires focus and intention and practice. First, we have to recognize what is STEALING our joy. And neutralize these "joy thieves". Listen to a replay of episode 11 to hear the many human ways we all let joy be stolen from us…

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Ep. 179 (Best of) Being a Good Mom 35:52

6M ago35:52

35:52

All moms worry if they are "good enough"; we are biologically wired to care about this. This "worry" becomes a problem when we look to our children or external factors to determine if we are good enough. It's an even bigger problem if we think we need to be "perfect". Listen to episode 179 to hear advanced certified life coach Heidi Benjaminsen dis…

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Ep. 178 (Best Of) Wishing People Were Different 23:48

7M ago23:48

23:48

Summary In this episode, I discuss the tendency common to everying - wishing others were different from who they are. It's something I've noticed in the people I coach, and it's a struggle I've faced in my own relationships with family and friends. Throughout the episode, I explore how these wishes create barriers between us and the people we care …

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Ep. 177 (Best of) When Someone Doesn't Like Me 25:36

8M ago25:36

25:36

We all want to be liked. It's a human survival desire. It feels good when people like us. BUT we all encounter people who don't like us. Our brain thinks this is a problem. This isn't a problem! If someone likes us, this represents their brain and their lane - not us! Listen to this "best of" episode to learn how to manage what you think, feel and …

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Ep. 176 (Best Of) How To Say No 25:11

8M ago25:11

25:11

Learning how to say no when someone requests something of us is a critical skill. This skill anchors and steadies us as we stay in our lane and take more control of our life. Listen to episode 176 (a replay of episode 9) to learn: Importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing time Reasons why people struggle to say no Awareness of the consequen…

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Ep. 175 (Best of) Grace-Filled Relationships 25:06

8M ago25:06

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The episode delves into the idea of grace, drawing inspiration from a talk by Brad Wilcox titled "His Grace is Sufficient." Grace, as Heidi explains, is a gift given out of love, not fear or judgment, and it assumes worthiness without the need for earning it. She explores how grace applies to human relationships, emphasizing the importance of shift…

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Ep. 174 Building Core Confidence 20:33

9M ago20:33

20:33

Heidi Benjaminsen hosts "Confidence Coaching," a podcast aimed at supporting mothers in maintaining calmness and stability regardless of their surroundings. In Episode 174, titled "Building Core Confidence," Heidi shares a personal experience from a skiing trip in Austria to illustrate the importance of developing emotional resilience and stability…

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Ep. 173 Slowing down 21:02

10M ago21:02

21:02

The fastest way to changing our life is SLOWING DOWN and examining situations we want to change. When we pause and reflect on what we are thinking, we're able to change emotional patterns. Our frustration, stress, and insecurity suddenly isn't needed because we see the situation from a different perspective. In episode 173 of Confidence Coaching, H…

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Ep. 172 Changing Your Mind 19:06

10M ago19:06

19:06

When we gain life experience, learn new information and see the perspective of how other people experience life, our opinions, our beliefs, our biases change. Confident people WANT to change their minds over their lifetime. To do so requires a lot of self-acceptance, integrity, discomfort, humility and emotional maturity. Our lower brains will resi…

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Ep. 171 My Favorite Thoughts - 2023 13:15

11M ago13:15

13:15

As I end each year, I share with you important "thoughts" and beliefs that carried me through the year. This year has been incredibly busy, and yet I've moved through the year without swirling chaos. I've stayed anchored to what is most important and I've chosen how I want to feel and experience everything. Listen to hear how I've managed my though…

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Ep. 170 Declining Invitations 15:57

11M ago15:57

15:57

Tis the season to be invited to a lot of events, parties, gatherings, recitals, and more. It feels great when we have the time and energy to say YES to as many things as we want. There will come a time, though, when the best way to take care of our life, our lane, is to decline an invitation. This may be uncomfortable - you and they may be disappoi…

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Ep. 169 Zooming In and Out 15:14

11M ago15:14

15:14

Overwhelm, stress, anxiety and worry are created when we're looking at a situation or person with the wrong perspective. We may be too "zoomed out" and not seeing how to get anchored and calm, or we may be too "zoomed in" and not seeing the bigger picture with peace. Listen to episode 169 to hear an important anchoring tool. Learn questions to ask …

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Ep. 168 How Gratitude Heals 16:41

12M ago16:41

16:41

Gratitude does more than increase our dopamine and increase our mood, being grateful and expressing appreciation can heal our body and nervous system. Gratitude is a super emotion that connects us to people, regulates our body and attracts more goodness into our life. Yet... expressing gratitude is a skill and muscle we can all build. Listen to Hei…

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Ep. 167 Confident Body Language 14:41

1y ago14:41

14:41

We've all heard that the way we hold out body sends messages to other people about our confidence or insecurities, if we are open to conversation or want to be left alone. Did you know our nervous system ALSO knows how WE are holding our body and ALSO sends signals of confidence or insecurity, of safety or danger? Listen to episode 167 of Confidenc…

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Ep. 166 Staying Off The Emotional Rollercoaster 15:58

1y ago15:58

15:58

A teenager's body has wildly fluctuating hormones and moods that seem to hit the highs and lows like the world's best rollercoasters. They can be angry, excited, anxious, nervous and happy all in a few minutes. Just because THEY are on this ride does not mean WE need to be on the ride with them. In episode 166 of Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benj…

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Ep. 165 Grieving Teens 16:44

1y ago16:44

16:44

Life incudes loss and our teens need us to show them how to feel, process and manage deep sorry and grief. Helping them learn to process this human emotion (and not avoid it), sets them up in life to know how to process, feel and handle the inevitable grief that that will encounter. Listen as Heidi shares five tips and tools to use as our teens exp…

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Ep. 164 Chapters of our Lives 12:37

1y ago12:37

12:37

Recently I attended a funeral where I learned about early "chapters" in the life of a dear family member, whom I've only know in the last chapters of their life. These remarks profoundly moved me and I wished I had known this person as a mother of teenagers, like I am now. I wish I had seen us as more alike than I did. Our lives are all a compilati…

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Ep. 163 How Teens "Map" Our Minds with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife 38:50

1y ago38:50

38:50

For good and bad, our teens know what we are thinking, what makes us happy and sad, what stresses and overwhelmed us, our beliefs and values and much more. They "track" our body language, facial expressions, all of our non-verbal communication and they create mental "maps" that predict how we will act and react. These survival skills are what human…

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Ep. 162 17 Ways Coaching Has Changed Me 29:48

1+ y ago29:48

29:48

In a casual conversation recently, a friend and I were discussing how principles of thought work, emotional regulation and all things coaching have changed us. My list continued to grow and I realized the changes are quite profound and touch every area of my life. I'm sharing with you in this episode the 17 ways coaching principles have changed my …

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Ep. 161 What Is Your Intention? 12:56

1+ y ago12:56

12:56

Confident people set their internal GPS and know what they "intend" to do in small and large daily tasks. Confident people bring to their consciousness the purpose and desired result of time with their children, at work, relaxing, conversations. Intensions can be to connect, to relax, anything. Without know what we WANT, we're living on default and…

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Ep. 160 Enjoying The Present 16:13

1+ y ago16:13

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Our minds can easily spend time in the past and the future, two places where we have NO control. By contrast, the present moment happening right NOW, is the only moment we can control and really experience life. Listen as Heidi explains how she was present in her body and mind for a once-in-a-lifetime event last week with her family. She shares how…

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Ep. 159 Taking Things Personally 22:10

1+ y ago22:10

22:10

We take things personally (or are easily offended) when our brain thinks we are constantly being attacked. We think there is danger in the words, actions and inactions of everyone around us. Regardless of why we may take things too personally, it IS possible to become more confident, stronger emotionally. Listen to episode 159 of Confidence Coachin…

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Ep. 158 Getting What We Want 30:39

1+ y ago30:39

30:39

We are responsible to express and take care of our own needs and wants - this is one of the core responsibilities we have in OUR lane. Our confidence and personal power grows when we stop, ask ourselves what we need, are able to identify this need and then can fill the need - even if it requires asking for help. We are always insecure, disempowered…

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Ep. 157 Relationships 20:13

1+ y ago20:13

20:13

Our relationships with other people are actually much simpler to define than we are led to believe. Because we cannot control the thoughts and feelings of another person, our relationship with them is based on these three aspects: What we think about the other person The stories we tell and imagine about what this person thinks about us What we thi…

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Ep. 156 Attracting and Repelling Emotions 28:12

1+ y ago28:12

28:12

The energy and emotions we carry with us are either repelling or attracting people. Positive emotions like love, kindness, acceptance, peace, curiosity all send energy to the people we interact with that we value and like them. Positive emotions send energy that the other person is doing okay. Negative emotions and energy such as worry, judgment, s…

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Ep. 155 How We See The World (SIL Series) 19:50

1+ y ago19:50

19:50

We all see the world through different and unique "lenses" formed by our life experiences, biases, strengths, weaknesses, race, and much more. We see the world through our literal eyes and with our brain. This lens is formed by basic beliefs we have about the world - such as that the world is safe place or is a dangerous place. These beliefs can be…

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Ep. 154 Confidence, Self-Worth and Influencing Our Teens with Corinne Crabtree 40:34

1+ y ago40:34

40:34

Corinne Crabtree is a phenomenal example of changing her confidence, her identity and pursuing her dreams. She lost over 100 pounds and has kept it off for 15+ years and has built an 8-figure business helping other women break generational curses of health and wealth. Listen as Corinne shares with Heidi her courageous story, where her belief was wh…

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Ep. 153 Our Channel of Influence (Stay In Your Lane Series) 26:29

1+ y ago26:29

26:29

In the third episode in this special Stay In Our Lane series, listen as Heidi explains what happens between our lanes, between people as we communicate, behave and show up in the world. There is more than just one person being totally responsible for their emotions and not taking accountability for their influence on others. Heidi explains the Chan…

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Ep. 152 Stay In Your Lane: Other Peoples Lanes 26:03

1+ y ago26:03

26:03

In this special Stay In Your Lane series, Heidi explains foundational concepts that help us stay anchored and calm in our "own lane". This happens when we understand what everyone else is responsible for in "their lane". Listen in episode 152 as Heidi discusses what everyone else in our life is responsible for and hear examples of how to get out of…

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Ep. 151 Stay In Your Lane: Our Lane 27:44

1+ y ago27:44

27:44

Confidence is rooted in taking full responsibility for our life, or "our lane". We are responsible to understand and manage our own thinking, feeling, doing and what we are creating. These all create a "wheel" that is constantly directing and moving us in whatever direction WE move it. Listen as Heidi begins a "Stay In Your Lane" series that explai…

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Ep. 150 Sarcasm 15:34

1+ y ago15:34

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Sarcasm may seem harmless, and possibly is it aimed at yourself. But there is a reason sarcasm is rarely received well. That is because sarcasm means "to tear flesh". Sarcasm hurts. Sarcasm is the least mature way to communicate and often we use sarcasm to passive-aggressively communicate we want someone to change. Listen as Heidi explains what sar…

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Ep. 149 What We Forget To Think 21:07

1+ y ago21:07

21:07

It's so easy to live life on auto-pilot, day in - day out, have our schedules, priorities, focuses and forget a few important facts. Its easy to forget the mundane tasks, the daily mess, the kids hitting balls on the house is all evidence of the abundance in our life. It's easy to forget to put our challenges in perspective, realizing someone else …

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Ep. 148 Emotional Independence 18:02

1+ y ago18:02

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Confidence begins with controlling our emotions and understanding what we experience is NOT dependent on other people. This is emotional independence. This is the freedom to feel whatever we want to feel, regardless of the people and the world around us. Emotional independence is what allows us to stay calm while others are angry, to feel peace as …

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Ep. 147 Missing Our College Kids 13:20

1+ y ago13:20

13:20

We "miss" our children when they leave home for college, work, military, etc. It's a big adjustment period. Its important to know how to handle our own emotions of sadness and "missing" them WITHOUT adding emotional burden to our children. Listen as Heidi shares her experiences of taking two children to college and how she processed these bitterswe…

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Ep. 146 Trailing Invisible Thoughts 16:22

1+ y ago16:22

16:22

Trailing after many of our thoughts are the REAL opinions, biases, judgments and thoughts which are creating what we experience. We are less impacted by what others do and MORE impacted by thinking they SHOULD be different. We are less impacted by the world and MORE impacted by our opinions if we can handle life or if it is too much. This is what w…

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Ep. 145 What Others Think About Us 11:51

2y ago11:51

11:51

We get hurt when people criticize or say mean things about us. And we feel loved and valued when people compliment us and love us. In reality... what other people think about us reveals everything about them and very little about us. Because people see us the way THEY are, not the way WE are. Listen as Heidi explains how she has handled hurtful com…

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Ep. 144 Desires, Likes, Wants 12:30

2y ago12:30

12:30

Emotionally healthy families include a mother who knows what she likes, who knows her own desires, dreams, wants - separate from those of her family. Children feel safer and more secure when they see their mother able to express and meet her desires. Its easy while parenting to silence or ignore our own desires and wants. Listen as Heidi shares how…

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Ep. 143 Feeling Left Out 23:39

2y ago23:39

23:39

We all know the feeling in the pit of our stomach - we hear about a fun party and realize we weren't invited. Or we go to a luncheon and everyone is already sitting with a friend. We feel "left out". Where does this feeling come from and why does it leave us acting in ways that perpetuate us being "left out"? Listen as Heidi shares examples and too…

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Ep. 142 Defining Our Values 14:22

2y ago14:22

14:22

Our values are what is most important, above all else, in our lives. Our values are the principles and beliefs driving our actions. Often, though, we don't stop to identify exactly what we value. Listen as Heidi explains why we need to identify and name our values before we set new year's goals and resolutions. Heidi walks you through the questions…

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Ep. 141 How I Use Coaching Tools 20:54

2y ago20:54

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In the last several months, Heidi has experienced a lot of changes - selling a home and moving her family, sending children to college, and more. Listen as she shares specific experiences of using the tools she teaches in this podcast to confidently stay anchored and to lessen the anxiety of her children and their new changes. Hear the incredible b…

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