The Codependent Perfectionist is a series on the dynamics of codependency and perfectionism. Alana self identifies as the Codependent Perfectionist, giving you a mix of psychoeducation and anecdotes from her own work as a therapist to understand how these issues play out in everyday life. Contact Alana: alana@alanacarvalho.com, alanacarvalho.com or following on Instagram thecodependentperfectionist for any questions or comments!
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Body Image, Perfectionism and Joy with Alana VanDerSluys
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In this episode, we have special guest, Alana VanDerSluys, talking about body image, eating disorder recovery and the connection with perfectionism. Alana shares about her own recovery journey and talks about her book Freedom with Food and Fitness.By alana vandersluys, alana carvalho
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Understanding Narcissistic Abuse with Sheri Heller LCSW, RSW
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In this episode, Alana and Sheri are exploring narcissistic abuse and how to support someone who may be in a narcissistic relationship.By sheri heller, alana carvalho
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Supporting a Loved One with Mental Illness
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In this episode, we discuss the difference between support and enabling when it comes to a loved one struggling with a mental health issue.By alana carvalho
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Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents & Coping with Mother's/Father's Day
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In this episode, we have special guest Taylor Damiani. We're talking about how to cope with the holidays if you're an adult child of a narcissistic parents.By taylor damiani, alana carvalho
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Working on Anxiety and Making Changes with Sabrina Zohar
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In today's episode, we have dating coach Sabrina Zohar from Do The Work Podcast discussing her own journey working through anxiety, learning how to depersonalize and make changes to support herself.By sabrina zohar, alana carvalho
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Repeated Patterns in Codependency Recovery
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In this episode, we're talking all about how we tend to get repeated people and situations in our life and there's an important reason why!By Alana Carvalho
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Thoughtful Communication in Codependency Recovery
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In today's episode, we're talking about the importance of being thoughtful in how we communicate. Alana also shares on the difference of thinking through what we want to share versus walking on eggshells in relationships.By alana carvalho
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Talking About Relationships, Recovery, and Intimacy with Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick
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In this episode, Alana and Dr. Liz chat about codependency recovery and how early child dynamics impact our adult relationships.By elizabeth fedrick, alana carvalho
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Understanding How Childhood with a Narcissistic Parent Impacts Codependency
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In this solo episode, Alana speaks to how improper mirroring in childhood can impact our identity formation in our adulthood.By Alana Carvalho
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Talking All About "The Work" with Jacqueline Hurst
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In today's episode, we're talking all about doing "the work" with Jacqueline Hurst and the willingness needed to go through the ups and downs of the therapeutic process. We chat about the difficulty of taking risks, putting up boundaries, and the benefits of getting to a place of peace.By Jacqueline Hurst, alana carvalho
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Codependency Recovery, Self Love and the Importance of Presence with Candy Washington
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In this episode, we're chatting with Candy Washington on all things codependency recovery. Candy shares how she moved from a place of codependency to self love, presence and peace.By candy washington, Alana Carvalho
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Perfectionism & Mental Health with Young Adults & Teens with Megan Gallagher
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In today's episode we're talking about mental health issues with young adults & teens. Megan shares her journey from discovering her own mental health issues to working on her recovery.By megan gallagher, alana carvalho
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In this episode, we’re exploring the Jungian concept of the Shadow and how to relate it to recovery.By Alana Carvalho
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Parenting Spicy Children with Heidi Rogers
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In this episode, we’re talking with Heidi Rogers about parenting “spicy” children and how this differs from parenting neurotypical kids. We talk about what it’s like to be a codependent perfectionist parents of these kids and offer parenting strategies to help you navigate it more effectively.By Heidi rogers, Alana Carvalho
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Talking all about the True Self & Our Inner Voices with a Podcast Listener
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In today's discussion, we are talking all about inner voices. Specifically, we're explaining the difference between negative self talk and the inner self, how we distinguish between the 2 and how to show love to ourselves in recovery. *Please excuse the technical issues*By alana carvalho
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A Candid Chat on Parenting with a Podcast Listener
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In today's episode, I chat with a listener named Susan all about parenting. We discuss topics including making space for ourselves as mothers, how to navigate issues around codependency and perfectionism and much more!By alana carvalho
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Understanding Love Addiction with Sherry Gaba, LCSW
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In today's episode, we're talking all about love addiction and codependency with Sherry Gaba, author of Love Smacked! We explore what love addiction looks like, trauma bonding, boundaries and more. You can find out more about Sherry and her online e-book & quiz here: https://sherrygaba.com/npquiz.By sherry gaba, alana carvalho
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Clearing Up Misconceptions in Codependency
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Today we're talking about some common questions people have when they're working on recovering from codependency. We'll clear up what codependency is not and consider where the line is between caring and codependency.By alana carvalho
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In this episode, we explore the use or Oracle Cards and how to use them in the healing process. We also discuss the concept of Truth and the different ways this relates to the recovery process.By alana carvalho
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In this episode, we explore how the mindset of victim can impact our recovery and ability to heal. We discuss what victim mindset means and how to go from disempowered to empowered!By alana carvalho
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Trauma Bonding & Recreating Relationship Patterns
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In today's episode, we discuss trauma bonding and why it's important for us to recreate relationship patterns in order to heal.By Alana Carvalho
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Parenting & Self-Care with Heather Chauvin
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In today's episode, we chat with Heather Chauvin, author of Dying to Be A Good Mother. We discuss issues around balance as a parent, codependency, perfectionism and Heather's journey through cancer recovery that helped her learn to take care of herself.By heather chauvin, alana carvalho
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In this episode we'll explore how language is an essential piece to improving relationships in the recovery process.By Alana Carvalho
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In this episode we discuss how spirituality can play an important role in recovery from codependency and perfectionism.By alanacarvalhotherapy
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In today's episode we explore what the concept of gaslighting looks like in our interactions with children. We'll identify terminology that could lead children to feel less trust in themselves and how to change it.By alana carvalho
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In this episode, we’re talking depersonalizing and learning how to separate out what’s about us vs. what’s about someone else.By Alana carvalho
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In this episode, I explain what oracle cards are, how they came about and how they can be used to strengthen one's healing journey and relationship to Spirit!By alana carvalho
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Codependency & Coping with Food with Dani Bryant
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In this episode, Dani Bryant and I take a look at the connection between food as a coping mechanism and codependency. We tackle the Karpman's drama triangle, what it really means to binge eat, and having compassion for ourselves in how we deal with our emotional struggles.By alana carvalho, dani bryant
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Prevention Parenting Strategies for Young Children with Polina Shkadron
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In today's episode, Polina Shkadron and I explore the importance of prevention with children and what it looks like. Polina gives some practical tools that parents can implement to help their children learn coping skills.By polina shkadron, alana carvalho
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In this episode, I explore how the daughter can go about healing a codependent relationship with their parent. We're talking taking risks and learning to stand in our power!By alana carvalho
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In todays episode I explore the mother-daughter dynamic. Specifically, I tackle how codependency and perfectionism can easily creep into the relationship and what we can do to begin to move out of the dysfunction.By alana carvalho
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In this episode, we're chatting with Christie Kim, LMHC on how healing can happen in a codependent relationship especially through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy.By christie kim, alana carvalho
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Moving from Enmeshment to Empathy through Nuance Thinking
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Today we’re talking about how changing how we think can influence our ability to experience empathy rather than enmeshment.By Alana carvalho
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Codependency & Perfectionism in the Black Community with Ariel Emmanuel & Camille Lester
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In this episode, we explore the cultural context of codependency and perfectionism in the Black community with mental health therapists Ariel Emmanuel & Camille Lester.By alana carvalho, ariel emmanuel, camille lester
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Codependency, Women & the Holidays with Johannah Bogart
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Today we're talking codependency and perfectionism in women, especially people pleasing with Johannah Bogart! We also dive into the holidays and gives some thoughts on how we can work on people pleasing over the holiday time.By alana carvalho, johannah bogart
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Codependency & Relationships with Robert Sullivan
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Today Robert and I are discussing relationships based on codependency, how we can make changes to support ourselves and our sense of self-worth.By alana carvalho, robert sullivan
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Perfectionism & Body Image with Dani Bryant
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Today we're talking all about body image with Dani Bryant! Especially it's connection with perfectionism, where this comes from and how we can work on healing it.By alana carvalho, dani bryant
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Codependency & Alcohol with the Discerning Drinker
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In this episode, Alana chats with Lindsey Pratt, the Discerning Drinker, discussing out of balance alcohol usage and it's connection with codependency.By lindsey pratt, alana carvalho
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Spirituality, Codependency, & Perfectionism
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Today we're talking about spirituality and it's connection to codependency & perfectionism. Codependency can be thought of as a lack of faith and perfectionism as a lack of trust. Listen to find out more about how to work through these spiritual issues!By alana carvalho
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Parenting Advice with Dr. Sarah Bren - Episode 17
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In this episode, Dr. Sarah Bren and I discuss attachment, the good enough parent, attending to your child's emotions, postpartum anxiety and more!By alana carvalho, sarah bren
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Your Relationship with Your Codependent Parent - Episode 16
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In this episode, we're discussing the issues with your codependent parent. What it looks like, emotions that are often present, and why it's often dysfunctional.By alana carvalho
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In this episode we have 2 special guests: Alana Barlia and Lindsey Pratt! Together, we talk about narcissism, personality disorders and codependency, especially common narcissistic traits, relationship patterns, and what to do if you're in one!By Alana Carvalho, Lindsey Pratt, Alana Barlia
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Today I'm talking about parenting during the COVID-19 epidemic. Giving some support and tips on how to manage!By alana carvalho
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