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Relationships matter. Do you want to know the nitty gritty of what makes a relationship work? Get your answers to relationship questions. Learn how to keep respect alive & well, because lack of respect is why people get divorced. Learn what builds trust & how to recover from infidelity, drama or codependency. Advice from psychotherapist Rhoda Sommer based on over 35 years of working with couples. www.therapyideas.net
 
This podcast explores the inner workings, struggles, challenges, and beauty of being in a relationship. It goes deep in uncovering how people have overcome challenges to become engaged and then married. It intentionally focuses on getting perspective from married men of color, especially married Black men, while providing a platform where people can learn from their stories. This podcast also highlights the mental burdens that stem from societal pressures, generational curses, gender related ...
 
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Trauma deeply challenges our sense of safety and security in the world, which often has an impact on relationships. It’s natural for those who have suffered trauma to feel that building close relationships is frightening because they don’t want to experience more hurt. Someone who is coping with trauma may feel disconnected from themselves as well …
 
Erectile Dysfunction impacts relationships & couples don’t know how to talk about it & don’t have enough information about it, so this episode is all about correcting this problem. The Cleveland Clinic reports 1 in 10 men will experience ED in their lifetime & only 25% of men with ED receive treatment.…
 
Money & sex are the two things couples argue most about. Most couples don't want to talk about it because they fight. Budgets are like diets, they don't work. Learn here how to think about a spending plan. Instead of beating yourselves up for your past attempts at trying to talk about money, try acknowledging where each of you come from in terms of…
 
Everybody buries themselves in piles of doubt & insecurities that clutter up our lives & our relationships. Some of us cover things up better than others, but no one escapes obsessing about their fears & doubts. Facing your anxieties & insecurities by decontaminating your brain is achievable. Listen & learn how to do it!…
 
In this episode (Marriage is extremely dynamic), I wrap up my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the importance of making space and time for yourself, especially in a relationship. We discuss finances and allocating money for yo…
 
In this episode (Stick to your guns), I continue my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the male ego and when we need to check it. We discuss the attractiveness of women who can take charge and the importance of seeing your partn…
 
Relationships thrive when the 4 pillars of successful relationships are nurtured. The 4 pillars are Honesty, Respect, Generosity & Negotiating. Relationships are one of the most important parts of life & there are no classes in high school to help you learn how. Make no mistake about it, relationships are a lot of work because everybody is wired di…
 
In this episode (It’s about opportunity and access), I start my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas, while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the adaptability required in a relationship, especially with long distance. We discuss women being risk averse and how expectati…
 
In this episode (It wasn’t a full court press), I continue my conversation with a guy I’ve known for 20+ years, who’s been remarried, and examine his journey towards finding love with the right person. We talk about the mixed messages that “courting” can send a woman in certain situations and how it can look like a full court press when it’s not re…
 
In this episode (I was definitely on her B-Team), I start my conversation with a guy I’ve known for 20+ years, who’s been remarried, and examine his journey towards finding love with the right person. We talk about the desire to hedge even though we have something good right in front of us. We discuss how some people get married and not know the re…
 
Self-sacrifice has been misinterpreted by too many, as the way to be the "best" partner you can be. For this episode I have Alicia Munoz joining me to discuss how you can use your own experience of pleasure and joy as a compass to guide you to being more fulfilled as a person, and therefore, a "better" partner. When I heard this topic, I immediatel…
 
In this episode (She taught me how to love), I continue my conversation with the father of a friend, who's been married for almost 30 years, and examine his journey towards getting married at a young age and his personal growth over time. We discuss the importance of developing a solid relationship with the in-laws. We talk about the perspective of…
 
In this episode (Marriage is a job), I start a conversation with the father of a friend, who's been married for almost 30 years, and examine his journey towards getting married at a young age and his personal growth over time. We share thoughts on how your perspective on relationships can change when a child is on the way. We talk about dating vers…
 
In this episode (It’s a constant recalibration), I wrap my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 17 years, and examine his journey towards marriage with his high school “crush” and the obstacles and challenges they have faced while dating and in marriage. We talk about the role money plays in their relationship and how they do finances…
 
In this episode (Men are mad emotional), I continue my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 17 years, and examine his journey towards marriage with his high school “crush” and the obstacles and challenges they have faced while dating and in marriage. We talk about dating versus courting and recognizing red flags. We discuss navigating…
 
Emotionally unavailable men are something many partners experience. I think the greatest pain about this problem is that it leaves both people in a relationship feeling even lonelier. Today’s episode is to help us understand this dynamic & move towards solutions instead of giving up. Relationships can survive difficulties when there is a more balan…
 
In this episode (I’m a friend zone survivor), I start a conversation with a friend, who's been married for 17 years, and examine his journey towards marriage with his high school "crush” and the obstacles and challenges they have faced while dating and in marriage. We talk about falling in love with your best friend and the importance of having a p…
 
In this episode (Putting my feelings aside), I wrap up my conversation exploring love and relationship as I talk to a friend, who's been married for 7 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have handled various challenges and adventures. We talk about the role money can have in a relationship. We discuss what the vo…
 
In this episode (Casting unnecessary blame), I continue my conversation exploring love and relationship as I talk to a friend, who's been married for 7 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have handled various challenges and adventures. We talk about contemplating divorce and the things that led to that like commu…
 
In this episode (We tend to proceed before acknowledging), I explore navigating a relationship through marriage, tough career decisions, and intentions to grow a family. I talk to a friend, who's been married for 7 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have handled various challenges and adventures. We discuss the …
 
Self-confrontation is a rare commodity in human beings. It’s really hard to look honestly at yourself. Digesting hard truths about yourself is no easy task. We are all so good at telling ourselves it’s ok when it’s not. We justify why we did something, we make it ok, we make excuses for ourselves. Facing a harsh truth about yourself, makes you feel…
 
In this episode (How do I out serve her), I wrap my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 5 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have navigated challenging times. We discuss service leadership in a relationship and the mentality to out serve your partner. We talk about the roles and responsibilities i…
 
In this episode (The little things add up), I continue my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 5 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have navigated challenging times. We discuss evaluating someone as a wife versus a girlfriend and the difference between dating and courting. We talk about how he made…
 
In this episode (You wasted her time), I explore the feelings that stem from trying to be strong amidst a pandemic and after the #GeorgeFloyd murder. I talk to a friend, who's been married for 5 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have navigated challenging times. We discuss the pressure that men feel to be stron…
 
Gay couples have insights to offer all couples. Interview with Michael Dale Kimmel author of The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage. He offers important ideas like what is the intention of your marriage? to have fun, share great sex or deepen an emotional connection to stay together for life? He also invites you to consider emotional m…
 
When you've been in a relationship with a disturbed manipulative person, regardless of where they are on the spectrum, you get into a real habit of looking outward far too much. All of your attention and energy is focused on what are they going to do next? How are they going to react if I say, or do this? You train yourself to look outside of yours…
 
Divorce is letting the obstacles pile up to create a grand canyon of distance. Nobody lives in a paradise of love & agreement. If they do it’s still the beginnings or it’s a false reality where one person is swallowing too much or withholding who they really are. Loving enjoyment of each other combined with disagreement or conflict are both natural…
 
In this episode (They trade in height for honesty), I wrap up this bonus 10-part mini series and my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We discuss the trade-offs people make as they get older. We talk about dating people with children and the factors you must consider. I also highlight some of the maj…
 
In this episode (Do you not trust me), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We discuss some of the important tough conversations that people should have in a relationship. We dive deep into how certain specific actions can be misinterpreted. We talk about having grace for the unknown. We …
 
In this episode (Guy always want sex), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We talk about sex and celibacy - being adjusting to your partner’s preferences and how it might be weighted differently for different people. We discuss dating multiple people until you’re in an official relations…
 
In this episode (I have courting potential), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We discuss situationships, how it can be defined as well as how people view them. We talk about what progress looks like in the dating stage before a relationship becomes official. We dissect how some men ar…
 
In this episode (Sometimes you just have to listen), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We discuss vulnerability and the importance of listening. We examine the psyche of a black man and how compartmentalizing is a survival tool. We talk about the pressure men feel to solve and fix, whi…
 
In this episode (So ready to be washed), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We spend some time on the need to have trust in a relationship and discuss the value of companionship. We talk about the struggles of dating especially as it pertains to using the dating apps. We go deep on why …
 
In this episode (You’re going to take some Ls), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We talk about daddy issues versus abandonment issues. We discuss knowing to pick your battles and the importance of valuing the process as much as the results. We take a look at the phrase “happy wife, ha…
 
In this episode (Let’s just learn each other), I continue my conversation with Brittney Gwynn, the host of a podcast called Girl Talk with Pops. We talk about the boundaries and bets that people make in order to secure a relationship. We discuss the data points that men and women acquire as indicators. We highlight the ways that men and women think…
 
Attachment theory is important because it's going to help you to understand your own relationships. Information is power and recognizing yourself in one of these attachment styles could really improve your future. If your parenting was unpredictable in childhood you might develop into an anxious attacher or also called angry & ambivalent; a clutchi…
 
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