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Welcome to the TriggerProof podcast. This is the first season of the Podcast which are audio renditions of Facebook Live Video Transmissions done for the “TriggerProof” Facebook Community. These were set up by request of our community members who wanted an opportunity to listen to insights, tools, and strategies to help heal relationship dynamics, deepen intimacy, and master the fine art of Autonomic Nervous System Regulation so that we can build resilience, heal from the past, and become ac ...
 
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"Dr. Nima, is it possible to heal a trauma bond within a relationship -- and the relationship ends up working out? Does it always have to end? Don't both parties have to do their healing work?" On today's transmission I reveal the 5 pillars necessary to heal trauma bonds and create secure relationships, and how to determine if you should stay or go…
 
If you're tired of having the same arguments in your relationship dynamics, or you're single and noticing a pattern in the type of people you're attracting and you end up staying waaaay longer than you know is good for you, there's likely a blind spot you can't see. Today's transmission helps you identify 2 core excuses we make that are unhealthy t…
 
(And 2 Excuses I made that kept me in an unhealthy dynamic) Even though we SAY we want healthy and secure relationships, the truth is part of us doesn't. If healing is going to happen and a change is going to take place, then we have to be willing to get uncomfortable, starting with a conversation. In Todays' transmission I share the path to breaki…
 
(And the Excuses we make that keeps us in these unhealthy dynamics) There's a blind spot in relationship dynamics that's seldom talked about: Trauma Bonds. When we are unconsciously at the effect of our Trauma Bonds, we choose partners that reflect something incomplete we are trying to resolve. If we don't heal the root cause, we'll find ourselves …
 
hink of your current conflict in a relationship you're in. Could be an ex or it could be anything going on in your life RIGHT NOW. If you've got the courage to even look, you'll be playing one of these roles. Let's face it, we just want to blame others. When we take our participants through this exercise, it's astounding how much resistance people …
 
This controversial discussion shares how we can create an identity from victimhood which paralyzes us from healing and creating secure relationships, and why it can be so difficult to overcome. __________________________________________________________ Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in…
 
This recording of a Clubhouse Chat with Dr. Russell Kennedy helps bridge the gap between unresolved emotions like anger and Anxiety, and what we can do about it. ___________________________________________ Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same argumen…
 
When you understand the language of the Nervous System, you will do away with the notion that there's something wrong with you OR you're broken. You were born into a system that has been pathologizing your feelings and emotions (or lack of them). This experience, most commonly described as hopelessness, stuckness, even clinical depression, is NOT a…
 
WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING YOU FEEL SAFE? Many of us create vision boards and set goals but very few put in a "healthy & regulated nervous system" on our list of goals. It's too bad because what good are achieving all those goals and intentions without a healthy & regulated nervous system? In order for us to feel fulfilled, present, calm, and co…
 
TRIGGER WARNING. If you're stuck in a Narcissistic/Co-dependent Cycle and you identify with one (or both) of these "roles" And you are tired of playing the victim And you're ready to finally heal To take Responsibility To own your part in the dance To transform your relationship and to FINALLY GET the relationship that is your BIRTHRIGHT... Secure …
 
SELF ABANDONMENT 101 Co-dependency, Toxic Relationships, and Trauma bonds... This is all unconscious patterning. We've been conditioned from a very young age to feel that our being-ness only is worthy of love so long as we fulfill certain criteria and achievement. While on one hand, this is done with all the right intentions, and helps drive us to …
 
If we're not careful, we will unconsciously fall into one or more of these 5 Roles in our relationships. When we don't do our Inner Healing, relationships fall into old patterns, with volatile push/pull dynamics that are a repetition of childhood dynamics that cause life to turn into hell. When you finally figure this out, own your role, and then c…
 
"Hi Nima, I'm at 56:00, and I'm absolutely floored so far! (I'm yellow/orange)... you've said more that made perfect sense, and is of more use to me than all of my different therapies combined! I've made a ton of notes, and look forward to watching the rest of the call tomorrow I'm so greatful to be here! lol, thanks... I'm seriously exhausted, bee…
 
DANCING WITH YOUR DARK PASSENGER As a fan of the series “Dexter,” I was intrigued by how the protagonist was also the villain. As I delve deeper in understanding human behavior, I realize how much we are all very similar. We crave confidence, feeling safe and secure in our bodies, and in our relationships, but there is this “Dark Passenger” we seem…
 
WHAT'S HIDING UNDERNEATH IT ALL Imagine what it would be like to be a child, who every time he/she has big emotions, or challenges in life— and in response, their mother/father gets triggered, upset, and reactive, covering up loads of mom/dad guilt they are unable to regulate, and then as a result, suppress, judge, shame, or invalidate that child… …
 
In case you’ve noticed, we’ve become at the effect of a cultural war. Families have been torn apart. Relationships are struggling. The term we can use with the current state of our society is called “Atomized”. That means we are separated into little cubicles and have been distancing from each other, locked behind our devices. Since the pandemic ou…
 
In the Baha’i Faith, marriage is described as a “Fortress for Well-Being.” Unfortunately, this is far from what we see in reality today. Most relationships are based on repeating unconscious patterns from childhood, and MOST people who haven’t looked or studied their role in relationship dynamics feel betrayed, abandoned, unseen, unheard, and quite…
 
WHICH ONE OF THESE ARE YOU CHOOSING If you’ve ever found yourself lost in a maze, looking for outside approval, you’re in good company. I noticed a common thread in everyone’s story who has ever reached out looking for help with their challenging relationship patterns. Listening to their stories of relationship distress, the “upstream” root cause w…
 
YOUR MESS IS YOUR MESSAGE It wasn’t until my first year practicing Chiropractic that I realized that I had a problem with anxiety. The littlest things would set it off. Not only did I not feel safe in my body, but it spilled over into my relationships as well. I would show up rushed with my patients in practice. I would show up easily distracted in…
 
DON'T AIM AT SUCCESS I used to be obsessed with “Success.” Then I realized that chasing success is like chasing the Horizon. Whatever goal you try to achieve, once the "Dopamine hit” wears off, you’re back into the next chase. It never ends. When I read this quote by Viktor Frankl in the book “Man’s Search for Meaning” It deeply resonated with me. …
 
I love my parents. And they had no clue about what it means to be “trauma informed”. Without having an education on the insidious nature of trauma, and the way the Nervous System responds to - time outs - the “Cry it out” method - having your preferences, ideas, and reality invalidated - physical violence - verbal abuse, insults, and devaluation pa…
 
In case you haven’t noticed, there are a lot of keyboard warriors out there criticizing how things are being run. Throughout the pandemic, I found myself in that same boat for a hot minute. And lo and behold: It got me nowhere. I wasn’t any happier complaining endlessly— and nothing was changing. I realized there was only one place I could go to ma…
 
FIGHTING THE TEARS Your relationship with your tears is very telling. Do you stuff them down? Do you have problems even accessing them? Or perhaps you feel that you’re “too much” with them. If we want to get to the root of this riddle with our emotions— there are some deeper questions to ponder. From my observation, this block of emotions is most c…
 
Do you know why your parents had you? Sounds like a weird question, but the answer to that question actually makes a profound difference in how your life plays out. Most parents who haven’t resolved their traumas will have children to suit THEIR needs. Without getting clarity on this foundational intention, children often experience the trauma of “…
 
THE PRICE OF CHANGE I’m going to risk sounding rude here and come out and say it: NO ONE IS COMING TO RESCUE YOU. No one is going to push you to wake up and claim what you deserve: A healthy mind, a healthy body, and relationships that work. Yes, you deserve all of that. But unfortunately, not everyone will achieve it. Many of us are finding oursel…
 
When I learned about the word “enmeshment” everything began to make sense. Why my relationships never worked out. Why I had fear and anxiety around so many people. Why we are so afraid of what people think of us. Why we have “the disease to please”. without understanding this fundamental concept, we endlessly go around searching for love and approv…
 
WILL THIS WORK FOR ME I wish I could have a nickel for everyone who has reached out wondering if our events and programs will “work” for them. Some of them request a guarantee from me that it will, and don’t feel safe in proceeding unless there is one. It’s almost as if they feel so duped by all the things they’ve tried to break the deeply conditio…
 
Common Question: “Dr. Nima, help. I know I’ve been triggered lately in a relationship. It keeps coming up, and it feels like we’re going nowhere. I know I want to change, but I don’t know where to begin. Where do I begin to heal this?” If you’ve ever been in that situation 👆🏽 you’re not alone. I was in the same boat. I was re-living the same relati…
 
The Co-Dependency Dilemma Losing touch with your own reality and getting emotionally enmeshed with another is the main dilemma in co-dependent relationships. It's almost an "out of body" experience. Without awareness we give up our "agency," our choice, our power, our well being and we unknowingly place it in the other person's hands... and emotion…
 
GOING FROM TRAUMA BONDED RELATIONSHIPS TO SECURE ATTACHMENTS-- IS IT POSSIBLE?? If you've been following the Johnny Depp / Amber Heard case, you can see the Impact of a Trauma Bond. When we're used to relating to others in the lens of our trauma, having secure relationships can feel weird AF-- downright gross. So we keep attracting the same types o…
 
CAN CODEPENDENCY BE HEALED There’s an epidemic going on behind the scenes in many relationships… and experts say that it’s literally impossible to overcome. Without awareness, this phenomenon runs in the background of the way we relate to one another, causing problems like stress, anxiety— digestive and hormonal issues— all the way to attachmentiss…
 
If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering “is this all there is to life?” then I want you to know that I get it. Even though since I was 13 I always dreamed of being a Chiropractor (despite my parents initial reaction of discouragement), after 10 years in practice I found myself feeling uninspired in treating physical symptoms of stress and trauma r…
 
Now that all the ‘Rona talk has died down, It’s time to expose a silent epidemic/pandemic that destroys health, relationships, and self worth. That’s Childhood Attachment Traumas. Without getting to the root cause of them, we fall into the same toxic relationship patterns, tolerate abusive behavior, still wounded by affairs and betrayal running in …
 
I bet you hadn’t considered this blind spot in your relationships before. Try this on: If you notice the same arguments in relationships or you’re single and finding yourself in the same relationship dynamics over and over again, you might have had the same problem: A LACK OF INDIVIDUATION. Let me explain: Growing up, in order to emerge as a fully …
 
Nobody wants to feel like a Shitty Parent. When our children struggle with anxiety and depression, we want to help them so bad, that sometimes we forget to look in the most obvious places. On todays fb live/clubhouse chat we will discuss 3 uncommon solutions parents in our #CycleBreakers community have adopted to get results that aren’t available b…
 
I used to hate setting goals. I couldn’t figure out if I was being realistic or not with them. I mean, who doesn’t want to have the best relationship connection while cruising on private jets together to exotic resorts and adventure destinations? I wouldn’t say no to a life where those experiences are possible. But how do I know if it’s a legit goa…
 
If you feel frustrated in a relationship that's not working, you're not alone. Everyone wants to feel safe in a container of a healthy functional relationship where you both grow and evolve together. Without working on meeting these requirements I share in this training, we are bound to keep going around the hamster wheel, weeping, wailing and gnas…
 
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BECOME "TRIGGER PROOF?" Trigger proof does NOT mean Trigger LESS. (read that again). We teach what we most needed to learn. And you can't learn how to regulate your nervous system in a therapist's office. The work of expanding the space between stimulus and response is NOT easy, and no one ELSE can do it for you. It's the work …
 
WHY MEN "HATE" DOING THE WORK | CLIENT TESTIMONIAL I used to think that “men don’t do work” on healing their emotions. This is the messaging many of us unconsciously receive growing up. Ask yourself this: Did you experience your father expressing HIS emotions in a healthy way? Did you experience your father validating YOUR emotions in a healthy way…
 
If you’re frustrated with the progress of your healing journey, you’re not alone. If you’ve struggled with anxiety, addictions, relationship disconnection, chronic health issues, and fatigue, you’ve likely tried the psycho-pharmaceutical route, based on receiving a diagnosis for a condition that is likely routed in Childhood Trauma. And if you’re p…
 
There’s a lie they don’t tell you about in the “positive psychology” “Good vibes only” “feel good" circles. It’s not because they’re deliberately lying to you. I don’t even think it’s conscious. Please understand, I’m not bagging on happiness. It’s a blind spot. I’m saying that if you put an expectation on yourself to feel a certain way (happy/posi…
 
THE HIDDEN REASON BEHIND WHY YOU DON’T HAVE A SECURE RELATIONSHIP Are your relationships volatile, frustrating and causing you anxiety? Let’s just say, I can relate. If you there to witness the ridiculous toxic mess that was my last relationship, you would have watched it all unfold and then asked me why the heck I chose to be in a dynamic like tha…
 
RESOLVING THE "TOXIC" RELATIONSHIP PATTERN I often hear in our facebook community from people who have been in toxic relationships wanting to diagnose and label their partners as jerks, narcissists, stone-waller… you name it. We get to hear it all. “What if you’ve been married to a Narcissist for 20 years?” “What if you’re partner is a jerk?” I kno…
 
Just had this question come in my DM’s: “What do healthy boundaries look like and how do I let go of guilt while setting boundaries?” This is a tough one. Most of us grew up in environments where boundaries didn’t exist. I definitely know the feeling. Saying “no,” or having a request or preference was often met with anger, resentment, or shame. The…
 
Let’s face it. Social Media is mostly used to numb or sedate ourselves from our emotions. It’s an addiction like any other, used to avoid pain. Even though that might be true, I still think if you are following the right people, it can be used to help you wake up. To wake up to the fact that we are facing a global crisis To wake up to the fact that…
 
Question in my DM: “When I get told to shut up, I LOSE MY SHIT. I can’t seem to control my emotions and I become highly reactive. No matter how much I tell myself too cool down, and not take it personally, when I hear those words, I’m not able to cope. HELP!” Whenever there is reactivity, there is a wound. Talking about it with a Therapist might be…
 
OUTCOMES OF DOING "HEALING WORK" If ONLY watching Facebook and YouTube videos and reading books were bough to help us heal, Our planet wouldn’t be in the mess it’s in right now. We are seeing mental health declines and relationships blowing up more than ever before. What’s the common denominator that will determine how we do on the other side of th…
 
Healing is about LEARNING. It’s time to stop pretending that a doctor will solve your problems for you. The best doctor is the doctor within. In my 25 years in the field of health and mind/body healing, I’ve discovered the exact steps that in all the years I’ve seen patients, clients, and now students, the ones that heal and get great results for c…
 
INTERPERSONAL TRAUMA IS THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE ROOT CAUSE I’ve been in the process of re-inventing myself. If you’ve ever considered making a big change in your life, or you have ACTUALLY already had the courage and have taken the leap and gone through the terrifying and exhilarating experience of re-inventing who you are being in the world, let me …
 
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