We all like habits! We are more comfortable in predictive environments - and our brains seek this certainty. We are actually "wired" this way, which is why it is sometimes so hard to create and sustain new habits. It is, however, possible to pull off if you know the science behind teh idea nd how to use it in your favor. --- Support this podcast: h…

Have you ever heard this phrase? Or maybe even used it... once or twice? So often I hear this phrase from people that recognize a gap between where they are and where they want to be in a particular area. They know they want to make a change but typically haven't been able to make it so. When I question what's holding them back their answer invaria…

Yeah I know, you're "goal oriented". And maybe you are! But until you have a specific process to create CLARITY & CERTAINTY about what you want, why you want it, what you get by getting what you want, and how you're going to get it all you have are "hopes and prayers". Fine for politicians, but worthless for a committed, action taking professional …

Simply put, you don't know what you don't know. And the sooner you can get around your Ego and admit you don't "know it all" the sooner you can begin to expand the possibilities in your life. Listen in as I explain how you can get started in shifting to gain real confidence and shed the weakness of an Ego driven lifestyle. --- Support this podcast:…

If you are living a life without any fear you are not "fearless", you're actually paralyzed by fear and living too safely! Until you recognize fear and discomfort as a signal for you to act you are allowing fear to steer you in the wrong direction! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support…

Yeah, I know. There's no chance you're afraid of your wife, right? Well I don't mean in terms of physically afraid ( I hope) I mean in terms of having real conversations and your fear of the consequences. If you've said, "I don't even want to hear it", "Let's not get started down that road" or "Every time we talk you ______ " then YOU ARE AFRAID OF…

It's that simple - WORDS MATTER! The words you read, the words you hear, you words you think AND the words you say! Moreover, the more we communicate electronically rather than face to face our words become even more important and the physical ques aren't available. Listen in as I explain why they are so important to you. --- Support this podcast: …

Perfection is unattainable, and working toward such a goal is deflating and useless. I explain this concept, and the difference between "goals" and "targets" in this episode. Enjoy! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

Is it a good thing or a bad thing? Is it the right thing or the wrong thing? Is it the truth or a lie? All of these ideas or merely opinions of the situations and circumstances in your life. And none of them really matters! What really matters is one question you should always ask, "Does it serve my mission?". --- Support this podcast: https://podc…

Have you eve wanted to be in the mind of a UFC fighter? You might be surprised what you'd learn! In this episode I spend a few minutes with Father, Husband, coach and former UFC fighter Clifford Starks. Inside we talk about what it takes to win in the ring and why he transitioned out of that world. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spoti…

Anger CAN be your ally rather than your enemy. In this first episode of this series I explain the "primary appraisal" and how you allow "triggers" to keep you angry. Stay tuned for the next pieces of this anger puzzle --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support…

Is your life a series of decisions based on necessity and need or are the events of your life driven by desire and design. It's too late when you NEED a particular skill or mindset, you must hone those BEFORE external events force your hand if you want to be the creator and source in your life. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.c…

These famous words of Winston Churchill are poignant today. Not because you should be using the Covid-19 crisis to manipulate others, but because you have the opportunity to use this crisis for YOU to have more, do more and be more. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support…

As an adult you've embodied lots of different versions of you. As you've aged you've grown and changed through the years. Some of those may have come be design - others driven by external forces. In today's episode I talk about the necessity of allowing a new version of you to emerge in order to expand the possibilities in your life. In other words…

Here's some hard truth for ya. YOU'RE A LIAR - AND ME TOO! That's just the truth. We all are, and the lies we tell create disconnection from our integrity and true selves. It's the Ego that drives us to lie, and a life built with Ego as the foundation can never manifest long lasting strength and honor. When you can't be "found out", you can't be ex…

Andy Chapman is an educator, Father, Husband and athletic enthusiast - and has a great story. He is the Assistant Principle of Glasgow Middle School in Baton Rouge, LA and founder of "Strong Men", a podcast and curriculum for his young male students. His focus in on providing these young men a platform for successful men to interact with them and s…

Frame control, how you guide the internal conversation you have around a particular issue/problem, is a critical first step in getting what you want. Of course, changing how you think about a thing won't actually change your results, but it WILL create a whole new set of possibilities INCLUDING getting what you want and more. How you "see" a thing,…

I hear this frequently and it triggers the hell out of me. You know why? Because I used to say it all the time. It's not true of course, this is just your Ego talking. Yes the Ego, the curse of consciousnesses. This phrase is just a way of your Ego explaining the truth that you are actually conveying which is, "I'm feel weak and vulnerable, and I b…

You WILL occasionally drift away from your path! It's not a matter of IF but only a matter of when! Typically most of you will go through some level of shame, guilt and self-loathing for a period of time before determining it's time to "try again" but that's not necessary! Once you accept that it's not always going to be perfect and that you will "…

We have been conditioned to seek comfort and ease. We have been taught to avoid difficulty, collision and tough challenge. For some this “survival mentality” is okay – you’ve given in to the idea that you like it the way it is and want it this way until you die. For the rest of you – that’s not good enough. You want to be more, you want to do more,…

Stop fucking waiting - It doesn't get easier later, it only gets later. In fact, sometimes it gets tougher later, not easier. There is a thing in your life that you've been waiting to do for along time. It's been nagging you for days, weeks or even years. You've been repeatedly signaled by God/Universe to make this leap and yet you're still standin…

In this episode I share my experience with alcohol use, how my relationship to it has changed and how it works on our bodies, mind and spirit. There is some harsh truth and tough verbiage in this episode, so if you're sensitive and prefer some sugar coated message I suggest you tune out! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/…

There's a version of you that is capable and willing to do more, be more and have more but there's someone in the way. That someone is YOU! You are in the way of allowing that new version of you to manifest. So stop hiding and let him out! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support…

LEAD is the third step in the LEARN-LIVE-LEAD paradigm. This is where the big change happens. This is where, after proving to yourself time and time again through repetition, you've created a habit and done so for so long that it becomes a part of who you are. Your new behavior is no longer a thing your doing - you're no longer a person ACTING in a…

LIVE is the second step in the LEARN-LIVE-LEAD paradigm. This is where the work happens - the "action" phase. This is where, through repetition, you begin to cultivate the courage the get past your old habits and patterns and develop new ones. New habits that SERVE YOU to deliver what you seek. This is the level that most will quit, because quittin…

LEARN is the first step in the LEARN-LIVE-LEAD paradigm. Once described as the "first creation", you must learn how to change your mind and re-train your brain to think in a way that supports your desired shift and ignore the patterns and neural pathways you've created around your old habit. This step, while incomplete, is critical as the first ste…

Understanding how to move from LEARN (the thinking/intellectual level), to LIVE (the action/habit level) to LEAD (the integration/being level) is the key to making real, long lasting, sustainable change in your life. Making the journey from simply thinking about making a change, do actually taking some action, to full integration into who you are i…

Most of us have the experience of having had parents, teachers, coaches and others use the tactics of guilt, shame and isolation to teach us life lessons. When we deploy such tactics we may solve the problem at hand, but we teach our children other lessons about who they are and how they should feel about themselves. Typically these tactics solve O…

Warning: Explicit We all face challenges, obstacle and roadblocks. Many of them manifest as excuses and reasons why we CAN'T do something. The truth is it matters not whether these reasons are real or fabricated in your mind. It is up to you to choose to conquer them or be at their mercy. It shows up as soon as you think "I can do this" which is of…

If you've followed my story on Facebook this week you'll love this conversation. There is a path for men and women to connect and build to a new level in their relationship but it takes HARD WORK, SWEAT & TEARS! BTW, it aint nice and aint easy to hear - you've been warned! LOL --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/streng…

The world on infinite possibilities wants to deliver what you want. We usually have to prove it to ourselves through action, but it all starts with being clear about what we want, why we want it, aligning our thoughts away from "the problem" and into the possibility. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/s…

If you're plugged in to social media, 24 hour news and other media outlets it's probable you live in a state of panic, fear and dread. In fact, that's exactly where they want you because they can sell you what they're selling if they can keep you in that survival state. The problem is that living in a constant state of "fight or flight" is literall…

Anxiety can be a vicious loop that feeds on itself and grows into a larger and larger problem. It can be stopped and YOU have the power to change it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

When you are focused on being THE SOURCE, the creator of your environment and the circumstances in it, you are living "extra-terrestrial. This can be seen as simply NOT being at the effect of the external forces in your life. When you cross over from blaming the external forces to being in charge of the results in your life you are in position A to…

Living a life of "need" and having our happiness tied to, and predicated on, certain outcomes can leave us in a constant state of emptiness and never feeling satisfaction in our lives. "Wanting" certain things, having desire, is a reasonable state. You can desire certain situations, circumstances and tangible objects and still be fulfilled without …

There are REAL storms that strike at times, and often our ability to handle them is based on how often we've faced them down before! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

Warning: Explicit! Most of us are running around unhappy, complaining that the world won't serve us and entertain us and it's because we're spoiled. Life is just too damned easy! Creating challenges designed to create joy in our lives is your solution! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support…

We DO CARE !. We want to accepted. We want to be "a part of". We want to be wanted. We want to be loved. When we tell ourselves these little lies we create a shield around us that limits our experiences and cuts us off from others. Not that we should be driven by our desire to be accepted, but to recognize that there is a difference between being d…

When you can choose to have fear, to feel fear, to acknowledge fear, and STILL act, you can begin to expand the possibilities in your life at a rapid rate! The idea that some are "fearless", or that they "have no fear" is a fallacy. The people creating and manifesting their dreams are those that have faced fear and decided to act anyway! --- Suppor…

Choosing challenge is your path to increasing your capacity to do more, have more and be more. real challenges will show up in your life, and the only way to be prepared to handle those challenges is if you "practice" by choosing a Challenge by Choice lifestyle. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/suppor…

Choosing a life of "Challenge by Choice" is your pathway to expansion and a life full of new possibilities and experiences. The other choice, comfort and avoidance of all challenging situations, leads to contraction and a life limited in possibility. Choosing to surround yourself with people, places and experiences that don't challenge you and your…

Fear is the greatest motivating factor in your life - nothing moves a person like fear! It is also the greatest limiting factor in your life. Listen in to how fear works, what we are mostly afraid of how it is keeping you from acheiving more. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support…

Anger doesn't have to be bad. It can be deployed as the fuel to create change. It has long been used as the fuel for social change around the globe. The only problem with that idea is that it is literally deadly for you to remain in a state of anger long term --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support…

With consciousness, you have been granted the agency, the response-ability, to regulate how you react to the triggers in your life. Knowing this is what separates us from the animal instinct of our "Croc brain". When you recognize that certain events, people, words, nor any other thing, has the power to "make" you angry you get to choose your respo…

The reality of every event, every trigger, is that you've created a story, a framework, surrounding this issue. And it's that story, not the actual facts, that are driving your anger. One you've recognized that you are triggered by a particular event or set of circumstances, and you've taken notice of your reaction, you can strip away the story and…

How we frame the "triggers" in our lives, the way we've chosen to make our "primary appraisal" of every situation, is critical to how we react. It is these predetermined frames through which we view each event and circumstance and why we believe they drive our emotions rather than the other way around. When we begin to see that we have predetermine…

When we think triggers, the events and circumstances we face, "make us mad" we are subjugating our human ability to DECIDE how to react. If we can admit that nothing is "inherently angry", that no event is full of anger nor is there random anger floating about trying to latch on to us, then we can recognize the triggers that cause us to be angry, t…

Getting angry is a natural emotion and potentially powerful force for us humans. You should consider the idea that anger, used in the right way, can be beneficial to you, and, properly deployed, can serve you rather than be a problem in your life. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support…

Welcome to the re-boot of Living with Strength and Honor. I am your host, Jason L. Ambeau (called by most, "J'beau") - a Businessman, Father, Husband and Author, sharing my constant search for expanding the possibilities in life by a "Challenge by Choice" lifestyle. It is my intention to share the tactics, strategies, stories and trials of living a…