Best Michele Lisenbury Christensen Podcasts (2024)

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Four Stages of Love 21:56

2M ago21:56

21:56

“The day that you wake up, and you realize that you have been had, and the person you’re sleeping with is not the person you fell in love with, that’s the first day of your real marriage.” - James Framo. In this episode, my husband and I walk you through our journey through the four stages of relationship. From the initial spark of love without kno…

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Embracing Pain and Beauty with Special Guest Myra Sack 1:02:41

2M ago1:02:41

1:02:41

Today, I'm so grateful to share with you a profoundly moving conversation with Myra Sack, a woman who embodies the essence of resilience and intimacy with life. In her newly released book, 57 Fridays: Losing Our Daughter, Finding Our Way, Myra brings us into the intimate journey through the immense grief of losing her daughter, Havi, to Tay-Sachs…

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From People Pleaser to Truly Generous 30:08

3M ago30:08

30:08

I want to go deep with you today about something that's been coming up a lot in my life and work: what it means to embrace our power and pleasure as women. For the longest time, I used to feel guilty for wanting more, for desiring abundance and joy in my life. But, after many years of being stifled under my feelings of shame, I realized that by pri…

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Relationship Help That Works for Men 33:32

3M ago33:32

33:32

So often, we find ourselves stuck in the same old patterns, grappling with conflicts or feeling disconnected. We try workshops, therapy, self-help books, but somehow, things just don't stick. After today's episode, you'll understand why and what steps to take next. Through working in this way, I've seen couples completely turn things around in as l…

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How I Cultivate Inner Growth 55:33

4M ago55:33

55:33

I was so grateful to sit down and record with my teacher, Eric Klein, the founder of Wisdom Heart along with his wife, Devi. I wanted you to hear from him what he's teaching me about my body, mind, spirit, and the way that those interact with the experiences I have in my marriage, my earning, my business -- pretty much in every area of my life. I…

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11 Surprising Libido Killers 39:16

1y ago39:16

39:16

So many women come to me wanting to turn up their libidos and experience more and better orgasms. I start by asking them 11 questions that, on the surface, don’t seem directly related to erotic desire. But the answers that women give me tell me a ton about their relationships with themselves, their turn-on, their bodies, their sensations, and with …

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Gaslighting "Lite" in Otherwise Good Marriages 22:05

1y ago22:05

22:05

The term “gaslighting” has become a buzzword in recent years and, because of its widespread use, the meaning of this term has become a bit murky. In a nutshell, gaslighting is when you are experiencing something and endeavoring to talk to the other person about it, but they flip it around on you so that you wind up questioning yourself, your own ch…

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Psychological Patriarchy 25:42

1+ y ago25:42

25:42

You may have heard the term “patriarchy” used to describe a social and political construct, but, as my mentor, Terry Real, explains, it is also a psychological notion. The way that patriarchy defines rigid gender roles becomes subconsciously embedded in the way we think and behave, which has deep implications for both partners inside a relationship…

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100-Year Marriage 32:29

1+ y ago32:29

32:29

Kurt and I have been married for almost 23 years and we're planning on another 50 to 75 together. We think, in terms of taking care of our bodies, minds and spirits and given the way technology is going, we could each live to be well over a hundred which gives us an amazingly long time to grow in love together and to contribute in so many other par…

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Hotter Sex in Older Bodies 10:11

1+ y ago10:11

10:11

At 50 or 60 years old, you don’t have the same career, health, finances, or family life that you did when you were 30. Why should your sex life be the same as it was 20 years ago? As we age, our bodies go through natural changes that can affect our sexual experiences and desires. This leads people to believe that they are no longer able to have the…

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10 Best Dates for Deeper Love 15:03

1+ y ago15:03

15:03

Kurt and I just enjoyed celebrating our 25th Valentine's Day together, but, truthfully, we try to live like every day is V-Day. We know that love is a habit and a skill set that requires effort and practice 365 days a year. If you want a love that gets better over time, you need to intentionally date your partner all year long, not just on holidays…

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Legacy Love 16:55

1+ y ago16:55

16:55

Whenever I say that I help couples create Legacy Love, the people I’m talking to light up because they're the kind of people who have a vision for their whole life. They want to leave a legacy in this lifetime and creating a love worth kind of handing down, something that goes far beyond just the couple to bless others, appeals to them. But, as gre…

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Relationship Visioning for the New Year and Beyond 25:16

1+ y ago25:16

25:16

In this episode, I'll walk you through a couple of the ways that I've been helping clients for more than 20 years to review their old year and vision their new year. Visioning together is one of the foundations of Legacy Love; creating a relationship that's not just good, not just great, but builds your impact in the world, the legacy you want to l…

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Strategies for Great Sex 23:55

1+ y ago23:55

23:55

How far are you willing to go to create the passionate marriage you want? Are you ready to try anything? If you’re like many of my clients, you’re willing to do whatever it takes to create a connected, turned-on relationship. And I believe you can do it. Unfortunately, there’s no silver bullet that will resolve your conflicts and create closeness. …

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Resentment 43:41

2y ago43:41

43:41

If you feel like you are wasting your time and energy being upset about the same things month after month, year after year, the good news is that there’s a way out. You can break the cycle of hurt and resentment that keeps you from living the life you want. Sound good? Today's episode will equip you to free yourself from any grudge, irritation, fru…

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Intentional Family Planning 25:40

2y ago25:40

25:40

In my coaching practice and in my life, I hear so many questions about family planning; how to decide, when to start, and how many kids to have. The list goes on. There are strong societal expectations around becoming parents that can keep us from realizing what we really want and what’s best for us and our relationships. In this episode, I decided…

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Relationship Stuff That Might Be ADD 22:32

2y ago22:32

22:32

While I’m not a clinical psychology professional, I often work with couples who have discovered that their brains are wired in completely different ways. This realization often arises when one partner (or both) consistently behaves in a way that creates friction between them, totally baffling the other. As humans, our brains are wonderfully diverse…

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Sex In An Instant 15:58

2y ago15:58

15:58

If it feels like you're in a dry spell- your desires don’t match up, you’re not that interested, or it’s hard to transition from your everyday life to a really fulfilling sexual encounter, this episode is for you. Today I want to talk with you about what I think of as "nano sex." It's those little microscopic, erotic connections that create a lubri…

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Bringing Up a Charged Topic 20:17

2y ago20:17

20:17

Something your partner did cause you pain and frustration. You want to tell them what hurt you, but you seem to always end up in a fight when you bring it up. Sound familiar? In this episode, I get into the specifics of how you can deliver feedback about something your partner did and what you'd like them to do differently in a way that actually ge…

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Self-Regulation Toolkit for Painful Times 32:34

2y ago32:34

32:34

These past few weeks have been tough on our nervous systems. Many people are hurting and bewildered. I wondered how I could best help through the podcast, and what came to me was that this popular episode, recorded with my friend Jessica Pullins, PhD, is the best set of tools I can give you to help you pull yourself and others through when your hea…

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Time Alone Together Ambivalence 20:58

2y ago20:58

20:58

Do you find yourself saying, "We're so busy, I feel like roommates?” Or maybe you say, "We know we need to go on dates, but we never seem to get around to it. And then if we do go, a lot of times we get into a fight." Today on Sex. Love. Power., we're talking about spending more time together. Whether that's talking, having fun, or getting naked to…

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Dominance and Submission 16:45

2y ago16:45

16:45

Do you feel like you're always in charge, like you're always handling all the heavy lifting in your shared life? Or do you ever feel your partner can be so controlling or perfectionistic that you tend to hang back? Both of these situations are issues of what I call polarity - the interaction between dominance and submission (and, no, I’m not just t…

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Defensiveness 36:50

2y ago36:50

36:50

I want to devote a whole episode to the topic of defensiveness: how we engender it in each other, and why we get defensive ourselves. This is one of the biggest things I see stopping couples from communicating effectively, from connecting more deeply, and from experiencing more turn-on and erotic charge in their relationships. So if you've had defe…

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Elements of Power in Relationship [Rebroadcast] 22:28

2y ago22:28

22:28

This week, I'm bringing back the most popular episode of the podcast for your listening pleasure. The 12 Elements of Power framework is more relevant now than ever for for us as feminists who don't want to think about power in an essentialist sense, don't want to think that there are particular qualities that we don't have access to because that ha…

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The Heart of Intimacy, The Root of Conflict 22:47

2+ y ago22:47

22:47

This is a different kind of episode. Often, I record podcast episodes about things that have come up with clients recently or I initiate out of conversations that I feel like we need to have in the culture that we haven't been having. Today's episode is about a topic that is blowing my mind right now, because I didn't think of it this way until I w…

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Why Therapy Didn’t Get You There 20:59

2+ y ago20:59

20:59

You've tried therapy before, and it didn't get you where you wanted to go. Maybe it helped. Many people report to me that it got them on the right path, but not really to their goals. My goal is to help couples not just reduce the “itching, burning and swelling”- the immediate pains that they're facing when they come to me- but truly create a great…

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Help Yourself Draw a Line 31:53

2+ y ago31:53

31:53

There are some serious ways that our partners can be stuck. Many clients and members of my audience have approached me with concerns like, "I just need him to get a job and nothing I've tried has worked" or "Her drinking is really concerning to me, but it's not concerning to her so she's not about to get into recovery.” It's very reasonable that yo…

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Unmet Needs 28:39

2+ y ago28:39

28:39

Think for a moment about what conditions you thrive under, what sets you up to be your happiest, your healthiest, most balanced, joyful self. When that thing is missing it functions like a rock in your shoe. You're not unable to keep walking is just a little bit more painful. That’s how an unmet need can feel and how it can create tension and unhap…

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Turn on Your Marriage 21:35

2+ y ago21:35

21:35

This topic is very close to my heart and it is one of the central beliefs that informs all the work I do with my clients. Today, I'm here to tell you that you deserve and are capable of experiencing pleasure no matter where you are in life. In my latest episode, we talk about how you can bring more of that pleasure and aliveness into your marriage.…

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You Want Someone Else 11:37

2+ y ago11:37

11:37

Let me ask you a personal question (or a few). Do you have fantasies about sex with other people? Do you have sometimes active desires to consummate those fantasies? Do you wonder what that means about you or about your partner? I’m going to guess you answered “yes” to at least one of these questions. And you know what? That is all totally okay. To…

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My Money, Our Money 32:28

2+ y ago32:28

32:28

Money is a hot topic, especially in relationship to love and sex in long-term relationships. Money is energy, and it's power. How you handle money together shapes so much of the rest of your experience of your partnership and how you feel about yourself. So, today, I thought I'd dive into it in an episode about my money, our money, your money, and …

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Reviewing Your Year in Love and Sex 18:54

2+ y ago18:54

18:54

I am a nerd for planning. I love to envision the future. I love to review the past. And New Year's time is totally a time when I want to look over the past year and see the themes and then set intentions for the new year with my husband. But pretty early in our relationship, I got the picture that Kurt was not a planner in the same way that I was. …

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Are You the Visionary in Your Relationship? 21:47

2+ y ago21:47

21:47

"If I'm such a visionary about relationship, and my partner doesn't think that way, isn't that a problem?" This is a question I have heard many times and one I asked myself in my relationship, too. It’s a big responsibility and can feel like a burden. But what I have come to see is that I am someone who has been gifted with the opportunity to hold …

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Hotter, More Loving Holidays 24:08

2+ y ago24:08

24:08

Every year for the holidays, you make it a priority to spend time with your extended family or focus on making magic for your kids, but your relationship becomes an afterthought. Over the last 24 years together, Kurt and I have really focused on this and learned a lot about how to make sure that our holidays are a magical time for us as a couple as…

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Where Sex Gets Stuck 22:57

2+ y ago22:57

22:57

In today's episode, we're gonna follow up our last conversation which was all about the core qualities that make a great lover in a long-term relationship with the other side of that same coin. There are four categories of obstacles to great passionate sex that just gets better for a lifetime. And the results I get with clients all trace back to my…

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Qualities of a Great Lover 25:39

2+ y ago25:39

25:39

Would you like to have the kind of sex that surprises you and makes your partner surprised by the emergence of that facet of you? The sort of lovemaking that keeps you both coming back for more? Sex that allows you to call up the energy at the end of the day when you're both tired, but you cannot resist the adventure because you have no idea where …

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Creating Turn On 16:28

2+ y ago16:28

16:28

When we own our turn on, it lets us really own the truth of our erotic nature that it is ours and ours alone. If you've been looking for that formula on creating turn on and what we should and shouldn't do, tune in to this week's episode! This week, we're going to talk about creating turn on. Often, couples come to me wanting to feel more turned on…

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Getting Out of Your Head in Bed 14:25

3y ago14:25

14:25

We need to talk. One of the conversations I think we need to have is about how to get out of your head during sex. If this applies to you, you’re not alone: so many of my clients get stuck in their heads in bed. And there's a number of reasons for this. In this episode, I will talk you through the traps that many people get stuck in that take the e…

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Intimate Getaways Part II: How-To 37:19

3y ago37:19

37:19

Do you crave an intimate getaway with your partner? You can make your desire a reality. Many people always feel like having a trip with their partners is impossible, especially if children are involved. In this episode, I will be sharing how Kurt and I planned and actualized our intimate getaway. I will teach you the three core stages of creating a…

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Intimate Getaways Part I: Risks & Rewards 25:39

3y ago25:39

25:39

My husband, Kurt, and I just got home from our latest adventure to Croatia. It sparked so many thoughts I can’t wait to share with you about why I think it's so important that couples carve out the time to be together, to get a completely different environment, and to have some novelty and adventure. I'm going to share with you over two episodes wh…

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Why I'm Not a Therapist 21:49

3y ago21:49

21:49

Today, we're going to talk about why I think couples counseling and therapy didn't really do the trick for me and Kurt, and why it may not for you either. To be clear: I’m not here to talk trash about couples counseling at all. I want to explain why I'm evolving a way of working with couples that is very different from anything that we were ever gi…

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The 5 Winning Relationship Strategies 27:32

3y ago27:32

27:32

If you listened to my last episode you know I went through the 5 losing communication strategies people often resort to in their relationships. I promised then to detail the antidotes - the 5 winning relationship strategies that really help us overcome our learned dysfunctional patterns of relating and create healthy, adult connections with our par…

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The 5 Losing Relationship Strategies 18:57

3y ago18:57

18:57

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you, please leave a rating and ideally a review on your favorite podcast platform. Ready to bring about a transformation in your relationship to yourself, your body, and your partner? CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.By Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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How to Stay. When to Go 30:46

3y ago30:46

30:46

If you’re realizing your partner isn’t showing up with the capacity for the love or sex or vibrancy you want, deserve, and need If you have been asking for what you need and they maybe make some moves toward it and then take steps backward and you find yourself asking, “Am I an idiot for staying when I’ve made it clear what I need and my partner do…

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Lost Libido? Find the 3 Yeses 24:03

3+ y ago24:03

24:03

If you’ve found yourself feeling not-so-into sex - like you yourself never have the urge, and like even when your partner initiates, you’re not interested… but you wish you were, this episode is for you. And if you’re the partner who does want to have sex, whether you try to initiate or you’ve heard “huh-uh” so many times you’re too discouraged to …

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Superiority And Shame 13:14

3+ y ago13:14

13:14

If you’ve found yourself feeling not-so-into sex - like you yourself never have the urge, and like even when your partner initiates, you’re noooootttt interested… but you wish you were, this episode is for you. And if you’re the partner who does want to have sex, whether you try to initiate or you’ve heard “huh-uh” so many times you’re too discoura…

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Men's Sexual Trauma 30:05

3+ y ago30:05

30:05

If you have a male partner who avoids sex or gets stuck in his head sometimes during sex or about sex, this episode is for you. If you or your partner struggle with what the industry tends to call “sexual dysfunction” - which is so pejorative - I do not like any of the medical terms at all - from erections that don’t start or that don’t stay, to ej…

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Pro-Man, Anti-Patriarchy 23:55

3+ y ago23:55

23:55

We’re diving deep into how patriarchy gets into our relationships and messes with both partners, regardless of what gender everyone is. This episode is a response to a beautiful letter from a listener. I look forward to hearing your experiences. What is the role of male privilege in your relationship? How does psychological patriarchy affect the in…

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Strong Women Crave Handling 23:49

3+ y ago23:49

23:49

If you’re a woman and you feel like you’re always “on”, always have to be handling projects, tasks, and other people’s feelings and needs…. And you just crave to let down, lay back, and have someone else handle it all for YOU now and then… and handle you really well in bed, to boot… This episode is for you. Or if you love a woman who seems demandin…

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Behind The Scenes of Six Months of The Podcast 19:40

3+ y ago19:40

19:40

This episode is your peek behind the scenes of the first six months of Sex. Love. Power. My last episode was Episode 26. I didn't realize until after I had recorded it that that means I've been doing this for half a year. And I was talking with a friend about it and she said, "I want to hear all about that. I want to hear about your process. I want…

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